How To Create A New Story Based On Respect

Creating a New Story Based On RespectThe yearning that so many of us feel for a “return to the earth” can be seen as acknowledgment that something is lacking in our daily lives, and the fact that crucial elements of life are missing from mainstream culture.

Taking Inner Inventory: Who Do I Pretend To Be? What Do I Need?

Taking Inner Inventory: Who Do I Pretend To Be? What Do I Need?Ask yourself, "Who do I pretend to be?" Sometimes we become so immersed in who we think we are -- or who others imagine us to be -- that we begin to identify with the mask that we wear as we weave our way through the world.If we come to believe that we are our mask, then...

The Bubble: A Superhero Shield With Special Powers

The Bubble: A Superhero Shield With Special PowersPerhaps you’re feeling a little chaotic in your mind — or worrying about everything and losing sight of what is important and what isn’t. Hands up then, everyone! It is a very likely state for a lot of us as we can often feel that a lot of demands are put on us.

Pursuing Happiness for Tomorrow? Find Joy in Today

Pursuing Happiness for Tomorrow? Find Joy in TodayDuring my own transformation, I came face-to-face with all my needs, wants, patterns and beliefs and I learned to see them all, to dissect them, to untangle their root causes, and to weed my garden of life. It was during this time that I also experienced the difference between Joy and Happiness.

Conflicting Desires: Can You Have Whatever You Want?

Conflicting Desires: Can You Have Whatever You Want?If you have contradictory desire streams -- desires for two opposing things at the same time -- it becomes much more difficult for Nature to fulfill your desires. For example, you might think that you desire an ideal relationship, but if part of your brain is thinking, "Hah, you don't deserve that. It's never worked before.."

Become A Master Reframer – Seeing Negative Stuff Differently

Become A Master Reframer – Seeing Negative Stuff DifferentlyYou can turn negative situations on their head. This isn’t to say that bad or negative things don’t happen; rather that, if it does, you can look at what you can do about it by viewing things differently and looking for alternative meanings.

What Your Attention Is Upon, You Become

What Your Attention Is Upon, You BecomeWhen our three children were living with us, we had a family dinner each night. As we were eating, we always asked, “Tell us something good that happened to you today.” We all took turns telling something good that had happened. We wanted our children to focus first on the good in life.

How Is Your Sense of Personal Power Limited?

Is Your Sense of Personal Power Limited?Personal Power comes from within, from a strong and healthy sense of self. Your personal power includes several components: your self-esteem, how good you feel about yourself; your independence, how well you can decide on your own what is right for you to do; and your initiative...

Taming the Tiger: How to Safely Deal with Difficult Emotions

How to Cope with Difficult EmotionsEmotions cause trouble or create feelings of discomfort, but now is the time to find ways to work with emotions constructively, especially those that cause the most trouble. Many people cope with working with difficult emotions or emotional patterns by repressing them. 

How the World Works—Three Basic Energy Principles

How the World Works—Three Basic Energy PrinciplesEverything is energy. Energy in its pure form is neutral. It’s not good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative. What gives energy a particular quality is how we engage with it and how we use it.

Do Humans Have A Need For Meaning and Life Purpose?

Existential Maturity and Our Human Need For Meaning and Life PurposeThere is no one meaning of life but rather a multitude of subjective life meanings, and there is no one purpose to life but rather a multitude of subjective life purposes. Each person must sort out her life purposes and life meanings, and proceed to make value-based meaning...

Helpful Keys To Help You Discover, Enjoy And Hold On To Happiness

Helpful Keys to Help You Discover, Enjoy & Hold On to HappinessDoes happiness arise by attaining a certain status, or by finding the love of your life? If you chase happiness in the things of this world, you will become disillusioned. No matter how much stuff you acquire, how much you are admired...

Freedom of Being: Heed the Call and Dare to Live

Freedom of Being: Heed the Call and Dare to LiveViktor E. Frankl, in his book, Man's Search for Meaning, recounts his experiences in a concentration camp during World War II. He maintains that though he remained a prisoner, his inner self would always be free. He always had the freedom to think whatever he wanted to think; a freedom no one could take from him.

Act with Kindness, Considering Everyone and Everything

Act with Kindness, Considering Everyone and EverythingKindness towards people means being considerate, friendly and generous. The opposite to kindness is intentionally causing harm. The Process rewards us for deeds of kindness, and corrects us for deeds of harm. There are always consequences for our actions.

Coming Out of the Cocoon: It's Time to Face Reality & Help Others

Coming Out of the Cocoon: It's Time to Face Reality & Help OthersShambhala training is based on developing gentleness and genuineness so that we can help ourselves and develop tenderness in our hearts. We no longer wrap ourselves in the sleeping bag of our cocoon. We feel responsible for ourselves, and we feel good taking responsibility.

How Failure Helps Build Kids' Resilience

How Failure Helps Build Kids' ResilienceBubble-wrapping children doesn’t work. They need to experience mild adversity, to know how to overcome it when they inevitably face it in life.

Do Not Give Up What You Want Most for What You Want Right Now

Do Not Give Up What You Want Most for What You Want Right NowThe most powerful influence on the human mind is our core beliefs about our identity, who we think we are. If you have a core belief that you are lazy or that the world is out to get you, no matter how much you try to be more productive or to feel safer in this world, you will sabotage your efforts to align with your core belief.

Why A Belief In Meritocracy Is False And Morally Wrong

Why A Belief In Meritocracy Is False And Morally Wrong
Meritocracy has become a leading social ideal. Politicians across the ideological spectrum continually return to the theme that the rewards of life – money, power, jobs, university admission – should be distributed according to skill and effort.

Trapped in Therapy? The Problem with Psychiatry and Psychotherapy

Trapped in Therapy? The Problem with Psychiatry and Psychotherapy
In the first year of training, which was mainly inpatient psychiatry, learning to treat patients, attending daily lectures, and having individual supervision, we also had a weekly group therapy session for all the trainees. This included residents from all the years of training, so it was a pretty big group, run by two psychiatrists.

When You Have A Critical Moment of Emotional Stress

When You Have A Critical Moment of Emotional Stress
Have any of you noticed that sometimes when you try to create something, certain obstacles will come up which question exactly what you're trying to create? I've wondered if this is some kind of test, you know, to see how bad I really want the creation.

About Self-Doubt: Whether You Think You Can or Think You Can't...

About Self-Doubt: Whether You Think You Can or Think You Can't...
Self-doubters tend to dismiss compliments and embrace criticisms. They focus — even highlight — their weaknesses, ensuring that others see their shortcomings as clearly as they do. Eleanor Roosevelt's clever one-liner "No one can make you feel inadequate without your permission" says it all.

Choosing to be Happy, Right Here, Right Now

Choosing to be Happy, Right Here, Right Now
Someone once said to me they didn't feel that being happy was a choice. They felt that no one decides to have a bad day. That everyone starts the day choosing to be happy, but that things happened along the way that were out of their control. While I agree that things do happen that are out of our control...

How Language Has Become A Tool For Social Exclusion

How Language Has Become A Tool For Social Exclusion
The soundtrack of our lives and the visual landscapes of our cities are multilingual. Languages, in their plurality, enrich our experience of the world and our creative potential.

How Nap Time For Teens Might Benefit Their Brains

How Nap Time For Teens Might Benefit Their Brains
Which is better for a teen who can’t get the recommended amount of rest: just 6.5 hours of sleep at night, or 5 hours at night plus a nap in the afternoon?

The Biggest Spiritual Challenge

The Biggest Spiritual Challenge
I always found spirituality, the disciplines of meditation and silence, very simple. My challenge was between activity and stillness. I always got off on the adrenaline trip of being active. That's why I've traveled around so much.

How Social Media Fantasies Can Demolish Your Confidence

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Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are loaded with pictures of people going to exotic places, looking like they are about to be on the cover of Vogue, and otherwise living a fairy-tale existence.

Balancing the Scales and Spending Our Allowance of Time Wisely

Balancing the Scales and Spending Our Allowance of Time Wisely
Balance in all things is the correct way to live. So how do we balance our scales to get the correct perspective of life? We must weigh up each situation that comes into our lives and balance our minds to understand what feels good and what doesn't. 

The Power of One: You Are Me and I Am You

The Power of One: You Are Me and I Am You
One of the more amazing and beautiful aspects of the internet is that it is becoming the most powerful tool ever to spread ideas instantaneously worldwide, including a growing sense of one world consciousness and our oneness with all life. Little by little, it is assisting us go beyond the old, tired dualistic vision of the world and to spread ever more widely and rapidly the non-dualist consciousness...

Four Problem Areas That Could Be Bringing You Down

 Four Problem Areas That Could Be Bringing You Down
Do you think your mood difficulties are linked to your childhood, your first romantic relationship, your choice to study one subject in college rather than another, the city you settled in, or your career path? Spending time in the past may help you to answer the question why, but it won’t give you the tools to feel better in the present.

What's Done Is Done: Be Here Now!

Be Here Now! What's Done Is Done!
Almost 50 years ago, Ram Dass published a book with the title "Be Here Now". It's still good advice. This reminder to be here now was brought to mind as I reflected on the general public's increased interest and acceptance of past-lives.

Why Air Pollution May Be Affecting How Happy You Are

Why Air Pollution May Be Affecting How Happy You Are

For decades now, GDP has been the standard measure of a nation’s well-being. But it is becoming clear that an economic boost may not be accompanied by a rise in individual happiness.

Mission Not Accomplished: Doubting Everything You Think You Know

Mission Not Accomplished: Doubting Everything You Think You Know
As a koan teaching tells us, “To touch the absolute is not yet enlightenment.” When these moments come, there is a tendency to think, “Aha, I’ve got it!” Yet, just as on one level this gratifying thought fills us with a sense of accomplishment and empowerment, on another level we can already feel it slipping away, as the moment passes...

Simple and Easy Ways to Reduce Stress

Simple and Easy Ways to Reduce Stress
You have probably seen the cartoon sketch that depicts stress as 'the overwhelming urge to choke the living #@*% out of someone who desperately deserves it'. While that depiction may be true, it certainly is not the only form of stress.

Journey Into The Unknown: Becoming Someone New On A Regular Basis

Journey Into The Unknown: Becoming Someone New On A Regular Basis
Life is a challenge. Utilizing your capabilities, pushing to become all you might be, is a relentless dare. But when you are alive, that is the homework that has been assigned to you. Regardless of the variety of "wings on your heart," the issue is the same for everyone. Push to...

A Mind-Boggling Discovery: The Mystics Were Right

A Mind-Boggling Discovery: The Mystics Were Right
We live in exciting times because Science—more specifically quantum physics—is proving what the Mystics and Metaphysicians throughout history have long proclaimed. We are bundles of information and energy, living in a swirling sea of infinite energy. We are in truth, Creatures of Light, as the Mystics long have described us.

Our Own Holy Grail Quest: Living the Choice

Living the Choice: Our Own Holy Grail Quest
We live in challenging and exciting times. Because the old gods are crumbling, and our old models are failing us, we can explore new ways of living, understanding ourselves, and growing that may result in opportunities that are more unique, personal, fulfilling, and loving than ever before.

How To Clean Your Way To Happiness

How To Clean Your Way To Happiness
Sydney’s first Muji store opened in 2015 and with it came attractive minimalism, simplicity, and functionality – a kind of consumption that was somehow about consuming less.

How To Discover Your Unhealthy Beliefs

How To Discover Your Unhealthy BeliefsVirtually every aspect of your daily life is impacted by unhealthy beliefs. Unhealthy beliefs have the power to impact your body, your emotions and your life circumstances. Therefore, by healing your unhealthy beliefs it is possible to cause positive changes within your body, your emotions and your life.

A Life Path Metaphor: Two Horses, A Carriage, A Driver, and A Passenger

A Life Path Metaphor: Two Horses, A Carriage, A Driver, and A PassengerThe Life Path is a kind of connecting thread that each human being follows during the course of his or her life. We can compare it to the script for a film or the “route map” for present-day rally enthusiasts. We move forward on this path by making use of the vehicle that is our physical body.

Life Cycles — From Nurturance to Letting Go

Life Cycles — From Nurturance to Letting GoOne day during meditation, a year after Werner moved out, I received guidance to get a temporary job in a plant nursery. That seemed unusual to me but I had learned to listen to my Guides since they always led me to something valuable.

The Road Forward: Developing The Habit of a Can Do Attitude

The Road Forward: Developing The Habit of a Can Do AttitudeWe humans are circadian creatures. Like the moon overhead and the ocean tides it governs, we live day-to-day on regular circuits of ebb and flow, departure and return. When we’re resolved to establish new habits of body and mind, the brain’s predisposition toward dailiness becomes a great ally.

Feeling Good About Ourselves No Matter What

Feeling Good About Ourselves No Matter WhatWhen we neglect ourselves in the mad rush to make a living, take care of business and raise our families, we die a little with each passing day. What have you done lately to nurture yourself, enhance your creativity and honor your soul?

Are You In A Rut? Put Your Genie in a Bigger Bottle

Snap Out Of It! Put Your Genie in a Bigger BottleHumans are creatures of habit, and sometimes we get stuck in a rut. Sometimes we're overwhelmed. We face a simple daily task and spin into panic or just plain freeze. Neither opens up our hearts or minds to the real challenges or pleasures at hand. We need to snap out of it and get back into living again. But how?

Want To Be Happier? Try Getting To Know Yourself

Want To Be Happier? Try Getting To Know YourselfThe unexamined life is not worth living, wrote the Greek philosopher Socrates. He was reflecting on the expression “Know Thyself” – an aphorism inscribed on the temple of Apollo at Delphi and one of the ultimate achievements in ancient Greece.

Creative Visualization: Taking Responsibility For Ourselves In Life

visual response abilityWe must take responsibility for ourselves in life. It is unfair to throw blame for what happens to us onto our parents, our spouse or life's circumstances. Whether or not we believe that creative visualization will work for us, the fact is, we are already using it.

Tomorrow Land: Life Changing Questions Begin With Two Words: ‘What If’

Tomorrow Land: Life Changing Questions Always Begin With Two Words: ‘What If’The future or the unknown isn’t “out there” but already alive within us – pre-existing in our bodies, our senses, our feelings, our thoughts, our spirits or our consciousness. In other words, the answers we are seeking and the amazing future we hope for is already there within us waiting for us to just “see” it.

Overcoming Reverses, Setbacks, and Obstacles

Overcoming Reverses, Setbacks, and ObstaclesAt times, we experience steady progress as we move in the direction of fulfilling our goals and thriving along the way. Then, there are those times when we approach what is before us with discernment and preparation, but lo and behold, right in the pathway of successful completion of our worthy goal stands an obstacle.

Choosing Change: “Am I Willing To Try Something New?”

Choosing Change: “Am I Willing To Try Something New?”The first step is to decide if you want to give change a try. That’s because change is a choice that requires commitment and has consequences. (Of course, not changing is also a choice, with its own set of consequences.)

Psychology’s Five Revelations For Finding Your True Calling

Psychology’s Five Revelations For Finding Your True CallingIf, like many, you are searching for your calling in life – perhaps you are still unsure which profession aligns with what you most care about – here are five recent research findings worth taking into consideration.

The 7 Kinds of Clutter Nobody Ever Talks About

The 7 Kinds of Clutter Nobody Ever Talks AboutMuch of the advice about getting rid of clutter seems to start with the cheerfully abrupt command to “Just do it!” But when you can’t identify the underlying beliefs that are causing you to become buried in clut­ter, that’s almost impossible. So I’ve listed a few tough-love strategies to initiate change...

Never the Same Trip: Boredom Is An Attitude

Never the Same Trip: Boredom Is An AttitudeBoredom is not a condition; it is an attitude. Anything can be boring if you bring a closed mind to it. Anything can be fascinating if you bring an open mind to it. You can make anything out of anything.

How To Have A Perfect New Year

How To Have A Perfect New YearI wish you, and all of us, a perfect new year. Yes, perfect! Perhaps this definition of perfection will help clarify my wish for you: "Perfection, in God's eyes, is being incapable of choosing deeds that are not based solely in love..."

The Rise Of Modern Loneliness

The Rise Of Modern LonelinessIn early December, The Wall Street Journal published a feature titled “The Loneliest Generation.” “Baby boomers,” the article notes, “are aging alone more than any generation in U.S. history, and the resulting loneliness is a looming public health threat.”

The Power of Releasing and Letting Go

The Power of Releasing and Letting GoWe're all carrying around such incredibly heavy loads of excess baggage, stuff we don't need, stuff that's weighing us down and preventing our Good from manifesting. One of the best ways to feel better is to release. When you release, you become lighter. Releasing is a good way to raise your energy.

Nothing New Under the New Year... Unless You Make It So

Nothing New Under the New Year... Unless You Make It SoAs we enter the New Year, we all hope this year will be better than the last one, and new and wonderful things will come to us. We seek to improve our worldly situations and become better people. But what if the most wonderful thing that could happen would be to realize...

How To Lie Politely When You Receive A Bad Christmas Present

How To Lie Politely When You Receive A Bad Christmas Present

Whatever you think about Christmas – wonderful, a tyranny, excessive, irrelevant – the chances are that at some point during festivities, you will have to unwrap a present in front of the person who chose it for you.

Have Faith In Yourself: If You Build It, He Will Come

Have Faith In Yourself: If You Build It, He Will Come"I have a dream!" Most of us are familiar with this now famous line of Martin Luther King as he spoke of his vision for the United States and for mankind in general. He had faith in his dream, in his vision. What was your dream, your vision of your future when you were younger?

Are You Ready to Surrender in Every Moment?

Are You Ready to Surrender in Every Moment?One of the most potent teachings is "non-attachment". No matter which way we turn in life these days, we are being asked to let go of what we know, to be able to step into the vast unknown. Surrender and non-attachment work hand in hand. To live in non-attachment is to surrender in every moment; to "let go and let God".

Why Some Teachers Don't Understand The Depth Of Dyslexia

Why Some Teachers Don't Understand The Depth Of DyslexiaIt is generally accepted that underlying neurological aspects, such as slight differences in brain structure, can change the way that dyslexic people process information, and this affects the behaviour they might display.

Are Your Thoughts Driving You Crazy?

Are Your Thoughts Driving You Crazy?Sometimes your thoughts can drive you crazy, blocking clear thinking and impeding response flexibility. Sometimes your thoughts trigger further thoughts, evaluations, judgments, and condemnations that reduce your resilience. These thought patterns are ways of filtering reality that can be counterproductive.

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