How to Build the Life You Were Designed to Live

How to Build the Life You Were Designed to LiveFailure isn't something I enjoy -- not that anyone really does -- but some of us are very hard on ourselves when it comes to failure, while some shrug their shoulders and go on.

You Are More Than Your Story: Keeping the Ego in Its Place

You Are More Than Your Story: Keeping the Ego in Its PlaceWhat you see as your life story is only a story. It’s your experience. You are not just your story. You are more than that. You can unlearn the errors that cause you suffering and stress, and free yourself to greater life...

Why We're All In This Together

To Go From Hatred to Empathy, Ask: What Is It Like To Be You?
Normal is coming unhinged. For the last eight years it has been possible for most people (at least in the relatively privileged classes) to believe that society is sound, that the system, though creaky, basically works, and that the progressive deterioration of everything from ecology to economy is a temporary deviation from the evolutionary imperative of progress.

How About A Bit Of Existentialism For What Ails You

How About A Bit Of Existentialism For What Ails You

Forget about mindfulness and clean eating – at a time when we appear to be experiencing rising levels of anxiety, narcissism and unhappiness, existentialism may be the philosophy to adopt to improve your mental well-being. The Conversation

Understanding the Power of Healing Our Karma

Understanding the Power of Healing Our KarmaKarma is a buzzword often used to describe the idea of fate or destiny. The term has also been used to imply the pedestrian notion of payback, and for many people that’s about as deep as they give karma any thought.

Staying Grounded in the Moment: The Key to Creating Your Future

Staying Grounded in the Moment: The Key to Creating Your FutureOur ability to manifest our thoughts into matter via creative visualization is one of the most significant extrasensory capabilities we have. For this reason, it is of the utmost importance that we live mindfully. When we become aware of how our thoughts can shape our personal reality, we will appreciate the value of staying in the moment...

Let’s Be Careful What We Ask For

Let’s Be Careful What We Ask ForFor those of us interested in learning lessons about ourselves from what happens around us, there’s much to examine. For one, we might question what we were really asking for when we voted. Change, yes, but what kind of change exactly, and how?

What Would Your Sign Say?

What Would Your Sign Say?As a really good practice, sit at your dining room table with crayons or markers and paper and make a sign that holds your deepest feeling about what is going on right now in our world. Make it positive, inspiring and loving...

How To Use Your Subconscious to Create a Safe and Hospitable World

How To Use Your Subconscious to Create a Safe and Hospitable WorldAs long as the subconscious mind stays the same, the world stays the same. It sounds ridiculous because, of course, your subconscious mind doesn’t control the world. The conscious mind is the only part of the mind that can evaluate the quality of information and make decisions.

What's The Importance of Connecting to the Earth and to Ourselves?

What's The Importance of Connecting to the Earth and to Ourselves?Growing up with the cloud of “negative love” over our intrinsic, loving core, we never learned any other way to relate to the world than to take on the negative behaviors of our parents. This pain has often been passed on between generations...

Creating a Vision Board and Creating Your Future

Creating a Vision Board and Creating Your FutureVision boards are fast being recognized as more than just a bit of creative fun and credited by leaders of our time a powerful tool for transformation. Notable celebrities frequently reference the important role that creative visioning has played in the realization of their dreams.

Don't Underestimate The Force of Your Own Belief

Don't Underestimate The Force of Your Own BeliefWhen the hypnotist's hand touched his shoulder, he tilted with the pressure. Blacksmyth caught him at once, thanked the other volunteers and dismissed them. Things had gone too far. "I'm sorry," Jamie whispered, "but I can't be hypnotized"...

A Manual for the Path of Life

A Manual for the Path of LifeAt the crossroads you can stop and think what direction to follow. But don’t spend too much time thinking or you’ll never leave the spot. Once you have taken the first step, forget the crossroads forever...

How To Approach Life Through Days Full of Possibilities

How To Approach Life Through Days Full of PossibilitiesJust as we meet limits in the midst of life, we also find possibility, the undiluted freedom to create and live our lives. We do not have to approach today in the same way as we approached yesterday. Every week is a new week...

Where Are You Now? Heaven, Hell, or Limbo?

Be Ye Changed by the Renewal of Your MindsWhat is in your mind is what you are going to experience. If your mind has negative waves in it, such as anger, fear, hatred or depression, then that is what you experience. Heaven, hell or limbo are always a condition of your mind.

How to Get All of Your Needs Met this Year

How to Get All of Your Needs Met this YearA real estate agent sent me a copy of the glamorous magazine, Luxury Homes. One home in particular caught my eye—not for the house, but for its tag line: In this elegant estate, all of your needs will be met.

Are Your Thoughts Yours or Somebody Else's?

Are Your Thoughts Yours or Somebody Else's?I found that the first question I had my clients ask themselves after Says Who?—“Have I heard someone say this before?”—helped establish where the thoughts came from, which then helped determine whether they were just the opinions and beliefs of others that they took on as their own.

Why Children Do Or Don't Believe In Santa Claus

Why Children Do Or Don't Believe In Santa ClausThe holiday season is upon us, and so are its attendant myths, most prominent of which is the Santa Claus story. Given the many absurdities and contradictions in that story, it’s surprising that even young children would believe it. Yet research from my lab shows...

Finding Freedom In The Darkness

Finding Freedom In The DarknessThere once was a man who was sentenced to die. He was blindfolded and put in a pitch dark cave. The cave was 100 yards by 100 yards. He was told that there was a way out of the cave, and if he could find it, he was a free man.

What Now? An Opportunity To Take The Road Less Traveled?

What Now? An Opportunity To Take The Road Less Traveled?Underneath the dogma, we’re all pretty much the same and we want very similar things. We may differ wildly on how to achieve them, but if we start with objectives that we can agree on, like safety for our children, health care for all of us, an economy that rewards honest work, etc., then perhaps...

Headed in the Right Direction?

Headed in the Right Direction?Painful experiences are steppingstones to right direction. Rather than considering them curses or crosses to bear, regard them as wake-up calls or course corrections. While you may have gone through a difficult...

How Can We Change The Thoughts We Tend to Believe?

How Can We Change The Thoughts We Tend to Believe?Are you a person who one day asked herself (or himself): I wonder if my thoughts are accurate? I wonder if I should really believe all my thoughts without question? I wonder if my thoughts actually represent the ultimate truth about myself, about others and about life?

Are You Conforming to Other People's Beliefs?

Are You Conforming to Other People's Beliefs?What we think we know to be true, we actually borrowed from somebody else. When you were born, your subconscious mind began to record all the sensations and inputs you were exposed to. Bit by bit, you sucked up, without question, the tribal belief patterns you were exposed to...

Breaking Loose From The Chains Of Illusion

Breaking Loose From The Chains Of IllusionAs things happened, various rules and regulations began to rise along with various laws. You accumulated a long array of very specific things to juggle in order to be 'good enough', certain kinds of food, certain kinds of behavior, thoughts, actions, emotions, and on and on.

Stop Thoughtlessly Re-Posting Memes and Get in the Arena

Stop Thoughtlessly Re-Posting Memes and Get in the ArenaPosting a meme isn’t being the change. Neither is hash-tagging. No matter how relevant and important the cause, you’re not changing the world with a hashtag; you’re just making yourself feel better. If you’re unwilling to actually work toward a solution...

How To Practice The "Religion" of LivingKindness

LivingKindness: The Religion of KindnessThe Dalai Lama once said, “My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.” What a simple yet profound creed! Having adopted this same philosophy, I’ve discovered that this belief system supports not only my own spiritual journey, but more important, all of life...

The Power of Your Words – A Little Reminder

The Power of Your Words – A Little ReminderI am quite sure we would all be much more careful of what we say if we were aware of the power of the spoken word. If we understood that every word we speak or write is an affirmation. To affirm literally means to make firm....

What's Your Story? How To Learn From Your Past

What's Your Story? How To Learn From Your PastStories are like boxes we build around ourselves to give structure, identity, security and familiarity. We are attached to them even when they are traumatic and painful, because they feel so much part of us... However, stories also limit us...

This Moment on Earth: The Statements We Make With Our Choices

This Moment on Earth: The Statements We Make With Our ChoicesSo much is at stake in our times. Whether we like it or not, and whether we accept it or not, the choices we make, individually and collectively, in the coming years will make an incredible amount of difference, perhaps...

Stressed Out? How To Let Go of Fixating on What's Wrong!

It's Possible To Be Aware and Not Stressed OutWe’ve all read countless stories that stress is bad for our health and leads to weight gain, heart disease, and a host of other emotional and physical issues. We’re told to reduce our stress, which sounds like a solid idea, but how does one accomplish that in this crazy-busy world?

The Science Behind Trusting Clinton Or Trump

The Science Behind Trusting Clinton Or TrumpLarge swaths of the American public want Donald J. Trump to be their president – maybe even a majority, according to an analysis from Nate Silver’s FiveThirtyEight in late July.

It's All in Your Head?

It's All in Your Head?Just as true happiness is not simply the absence of problems but an internal life state that enables us to challenge any obstacles to happiness that come our way, health is not simply the absence of illness. The important issue is whether we defeat sickness when it comes or whether sickness defeats us...

Why Are We Here If We're All Playing Make-Believe?

 Why Are We Here If We're All Playing Make-Believe?Pretend, for a minute, that we’ve all come to Earth to learn something. Since we may not care for little boxy classrooms, instead we have a whole planet for our current lessons. Now pretend that there’s not one of us who isn’t in the test of some major challenge.

The Freeing Power of Honesty & Being True to Yourself

The Freeing Power of Honesty & Being True to YourselfEach of us longs to express who we are, what we think and how we feel. But how often do we? From my perch I see more being repressed than expressed. Considering that repression can lead to depression, illness and even violence, what is stopping us from being true to ourselves and...

Softening and Letting Be: Switching from Velcro Thinking to Teflon Thinking

Softening and Letting Be: Switching from Velcro Thinking to Teflon ThinkingMuch of our pain comes from the emotional clutter of resisting or hardening ourselves against the way things are. For example, how often do you resist what appears before you during an average day? Suppose you’re stuck at a stoplight and late for work. Do you get anxious or frustrated and blame the red light...

Planetary Healing: It's None of My Business... or Is It?

Planetary Healing: It's None of My Business... or Is It?For many years, I never watched TV. I remember my TV breaking down and as I placed it out with the garbage, deciding not to buy another one. So in those days, I was not watching the news, or anything else on TV. This went on for many years.

Finding Solitude In An Era Of Perpetual Contact

Did you notice, or were you too busy texting? nahidv/flickr, CC BYBeing alone has many benefits. It grants freedom in thought and action. It boosts creativity. It offers a terrain for the imagination to roam. Solitude also enriches our connections with others by providing perspective, which enhances intimacy and fosters empathy.

I Dare to Dream and I Deserve My Dream

I Deserve My DreamIf you feel you don’t deserve your Dream, no matter how much time and sweat you put in, how many movers and shakers you know, how many “lucky” breaks you have, or how gorgeous (or outrageous) you are, you will torpedo yourself.

A+ or B-? What’s Your Secret Rating of Your Life?

A+ or B-? What’s Your Secret Rating of Your Life? If we don’t like where we are, does that mean we’re condemned to stay there? Absolutely not. There’s no limit to the options, opportunities and actions we can take. If we really want something enough, we’ll find ways—comfortable, usual or astoundingly daring—to move toward what we really want.

Get Out Your Mental Eraser: Changing Limiting Core Beliefs!

Changing Limiting Core Beliefs: Get Out Your Mental Eraser!We were born into belief systems which have been reinforced by our culture, and now accepted as reality. These beliefs are perceptions of how life works. At first glance many perceptions appear to be true -- we can even quote statistics to support them -- but upon closer examination...

Our Choices Predict Our Future

Our Choices Predict Our FutureWe're often told to live in the present, yet then we're told to set goals and plan for the future. Which is it? "...imagine you’re driving a car. As you look through the windshield you’re looking into the future. As you’re sitting in the driver’s seat you’re in the present. If you look..."

Life 101: How to Produce a Classic Scene

Life 101: How to Produce a Classic SceneIf you want to produce a great scene in your life, whether it’s a movie, a marriage, a business, or spiritual mastery, you may have to walk through many takes to get there. But when you do, what a scene it will be!

Ending the Drama: Life Is But A Dream

Ending the Drama: Life Is But A DreamReal spiritual experiences always increase our joy. This is partly because true spiritual experiences always involve an element of greater inclusion, expansion, and connectedness. This is love in its real meaning, an ever-expanding and creative field of total inclusion...

A Call to Action: Awakening the Power of Our Social Potential

A Call to Action: Awakening the Power of Our Social PotentialThis shared planetary purpose goes beyond any existing proj­ect or organization. It is our challenge to discover how to facilitate social synergy, the coming together of separate people and projects to make a new whole greater than the sum of its parts. This is nature’s way. We can learn it, because we are nature evolving.

The New Year Lays Gifts Upon The Altar Of Your Heart

The New Year Lays Gifts Upon The Altar Of Your HeartThe beginning of a new year offers a poignant opportunity to set the priorities that will carry us through the year. We succeed or fail based on what we hold dear. Choose meaningless priorities, and you become the heir to pain. Live from what you value, and your life becomes a celebration of purpose.

Mothers That Make Time For Themselves Reduce The Chance of Postnatal Depression

postnatal depressionOne in three women will experience significant depressive symptoms in the first five years after giving birth. But new research has found if mothers regularly take time for themselves in the first six months after giving birth they’re less likely to get postnatal depression.

Whose REALITY Is It Anyway?

Whose REALITY Is It Anyway?"The weekend is over and tomorrow it's back to reality!" "You've lost touch with reality!" What exactly is reality and whose reality are we talking about? I saw a bumper sticker not too long ago that said "Question reality". I agree. I think reality should be questioned and challenged and maybe even done away with...

Seven Steps to Creating a Life of Miracles and Joy

Seven Steps to Creating a Life of Miracles and Joy
Many of us face challenging times in finances, career, relationships, or health at some point in our lives. We may feel powerless against the economic, social, and family forces around us and live our lives feeling bogged down or hampered by our circumstances, not knowing how to change our lives for the better.

Leaders and Helpers: Learning Through Our Differences and Similarities

Leaders and Helpers: Learning Through Our Differences and SimilaritiesQuite possibly, it is through our differences that we learn the true value of that which makes us one. We all have different worldviews. We all have slightly different perspectives on what we see, what we hear, and what we experience. Still, we also share something very sacred...

How Many Miracles Do You Get?

How Many Miracles Do You Get?A coaching client reported that years ago when she became pregnant, her doctors told her that the baby would not survive. She and her husband prayed fervently for the child’s well-being, and the baby was born healthy and went on to live a happy life. Since that time she had a few miscarriages, and now the couple very much wants another child. “Do you think we each get a certain allotment of miracles, and when we use it up, we get no more?” she asked.

Strategies to Help You Eliminate Your Subconscious Fear-Based Beliefs

Four Strategies to Help You Eliminate Your Subconscious Fear-Based BeliefsThis is one of the first strategies I adopted before I started meditating and understood what mindfulness was. I wanted to find a way of controlling my fear-based thoughts and behaviours to minimize my emotional reactions. I established the following mantras, which I used whenever I felt the slightest hint of irritation or upset...

How to Make Your Life Work by Changing Your Programming

How to Make Your Life Work by Changing Your ProgrammingOur childhood programming often keeps us from making our life work. How can we create happiness in our life? Making your life work means freeing yourself from your ego and rational mind that have kept you trapped in playing out the security, sensation, and power demands that you programmed into your big-computer during the first few years of your life.

Against All Odds … Hanging on to Hope

Against All Odds … Hanging on to HopeIn the 2000 movie, Where the Heart Is, seventeen year old Novalee Nation (played by Natalie Portman), while crossing the country in search of a new life, is abandoned by her loser boyfriend at a small town Walmart store. Last week, Joyce and I witnessed an eerily similar story...

Can We Talk About the Dark Side for a Minute?

Can We Talk About the Dark Side for a Minute? (artwork by Sarah Love)I tried not to write this. Really, I did. But some things just won't leave you alone and I think it's a crucial step in the Love Revolution... So here it is. I'm just gonna tell it like I see it. There's some serious sh*t going down on planet Earth right now. You feel it. I feel it. We all feel it...

What is Real? What is Reality?

Over the years, I have read many wonderful books on the subjects of spirituality, philosophy, and personal growth. These books usually paint a beautiful and inspiring picture of reality.  But often, after the inspiration of the book had faded, I found myself asking, "Wouldn't it be wonderful if reality were like that?"

Using Intentions to Reset Your Mindset in Ten Minutes a Day

Using Intentions to Reset Your Mindset in Ten Minutes a DayWhen I first started using intentions, I did so because they felt good. They were positive, uplifting, and shifted my perspective to one that was more open. It wasn’t until I started exploring neurolinguistic programing as part of my life-coaching education that I realized what I was doing was conditioning these beliefs to who I was.

I Have Eraser Power: I Can Just Say No!

Eraser Power: Just Say No!There is a magic word that can remove from existence any unhappy condition of mind, body, and affairs. This tiny word is power-packed and should be used instantly to negate any seeming evil thought, word, or appearance before it can establish a foothold in consciousness.

What is the Solution to our 84th Problem?

84th problem 3 15We all have the deep-seated belief that if we practice long and hard enough, our problems will disappear. And beneath that hidden belief lies an even deeper one: that life should be free from pain. But, we will always have difficulties. We will always have eighty-three problems.

Been Adding Stress to Your Life? It's Time to Make Some Changes

Adding Stress to Your Life?A certain amount of stress occurs in everyone's life. We are all here to grow, and because we are all growing, we will experience stress. We all have challenges. Challenges will differ depending on who and where we are on our path.

Grand Identity Theft: Who Are You Really?

grand identity theftGrand theft identity began soon after you arrived on earth. Parents, teachers, siblings, clergy, and authority figures told you that you are inept, insignificant, ugly, unworthy, and sinful, and that the world is a menacing place with threats and danger at every turn. Over time you began to believe these terrible lies...

A New Beginning: Doing Things Differently

A New Beginning: Doing Things Differently

What many people don’t realize is that in the journey of life we can head in only two directions: toward well-being and away from it. Your emotions indicate where you are going. If you are feeling bad, it means you’re thinking thoughts that are taking you away from well-being and moving you toward distress.

The Real Cause of Addiction Has Been Discovered And It's Not What You Think

The Real Cause Of Addiction Has Been Discovered And It's Not What You ThinkIt is now one hundred years since drugs were first banned – and all through this long century of waging war on drugs, we have been told a story about addiction, by our teachers, and by our governments. This story is so deeply ingrained in our minds that we take it for granted. It seems obvious. It seems manifestly true.

7 Practical Ideas for Compassionate Communities

7 Practical Ideas for Compassionate Communities, From Free College to Debt Relief

It's not hard to bring a little more equality into each others' lives. Kerry Morrison interviews homeless veteran John Watkins in the Hollywood Hills. Hollywood was one of the first communities to join the 100,000 Homes Campaign. Watkins has been provided with housing.

Examining Your Beliefs: Why Is It Vital to Question Your Beliefs?

Examining Your Beliefs

by Deborah King. Often, our most important beliefs are unconscious. Over 90 percent of those that we currently hold we took on as kids from our parents or caregivers, school, and culture. These views run the greater part of our lives and determine if we’re going to be...

Do Beliefs & Biases Rule Our Life?

Do Beliefs & Biases Rule Our Life?

by Eldon Taylor. Uncovering our biases is an important step in discovering ourselves. Evaluating the words we choose, what they mean, what they imply, and how we use them is an exercise in self-awareness. Whether we repeat a “blonde” joke, a sexist expectation, a racist definition...

Why Aren't You Getting What You Want?

Why Aren't You Getting What You Want?

We ask for health, happiness, a loving relationship, but deep down we have all these other thoughts... we don't eat a "perfect" diet, so we can't have health... we are not "perfect" so how can we deserve happiness... we have so many flaws, so how can we attract the "perfect" relationship...

Shifting Our Frequency In Order to Transform Our Reality, Together

Shifting Our Frequency In Order to Transform Our Reality, Together

Many indigenous peoples, and those comfortable with the idea of other dimensions, already have a sense of their interconnectedness with the cosmos. However, those who have a more limited belief system—in which superiority, ownership, cultural control, and unchecked growth and consumption dominate—tend to struggle with this perception.

Being Cinderella: Seizing the Chance for Change

Being Cinderella: Seizing the Chance for Change

by Wendy Paris. When the fairy godmother appeared, Cinderella had the courage to seize an opportunity to change. She didn't peer at the fairy godmother suspiciously, snarling, "You know what they say, 'If something looks too good to be true, it probably is.'"

Life's Most Powerful Things

Thought-power is creative power. It is the power that sparks action. Action, then, becomes directed behavior that produces an identifiable result. Good results come from good thoughts. Good thoughts are like a good foundation that is unshakable and permanent. Things do not appear without a thought having first given "life" to them.

What To Ask For

I know a man who prayed to receive checks in the mail. Then he did. Unfortunately, they were social security checks addressed to the previous tenants of his apartment. He would have done better to pray to recognize himself as a prosperous being living in an abundant universe that meets all his needs in wondrous ways.

The Missing Tube

A Course in Miracles asks us to keep our priorities in order. Spirit first, matter second. People before stuff. Love before fear. Leo Buscaglia noted, We were born to love people and use things, but we learn to love things and use people.

We Need Women - Now

Now is the time for women's equality in Congress and at all other government and corporate decision-making levels. With men, we get rhetoric, more problems and no answers -- but lots of excuses. I am convinced that we need women's realistic, common-sense approach to the needs of modern America.

Blissful Innocence

Blissful Innocence by Alan Cohen

by Alan Cohen. We have heard that "ignorance is bliss," and we usually judge and criticize ignorant people. Yet there is a form of ignorance that serves us well, and that is ignorance of limiting beliefs. A Calvin and Hobbes cartoon declared, "It's not denial. I'm just selective about the reality I accept."

Always & Never: The Two Most Powerful Words

Always & Never: The Two Most Powerful Words

'Always'. 'Never'. These are probably the two most powerful words in the English language. Even more powerful than yes and no, since saying yes (or no) applies to the moment or subject at hand, while saying 'always' or 'never' sets the tone for everything to come. The two words can...

You DO Take It With You

They say you can't take it with you... That is false! Not only do you take it with you, but you come in with it. I'm not talking about material possessions, but rather about personality traits, lessons to be learned...

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