How To Find Out What You Really, Really Want In Life

How To Find Out What You Really, Really Want In Life

What do you really, really want in your life right now? Here’s a way to find out when you’re not sure.

1. Get clear on the situation at hand

You need context before you can decide what you want. (One thing at a time, please.)

  • Is this about work?
  • A relationship?
  • Self-actualization?

2. Imagine fantastic, outrageous success

Go on, amp it up. See it clearly, brighten the picture, hear the applause you get from achieving your goal, feel how it feels to be successful ... and double that feeling.

What would total and fabulous success look like? Don’t get caught up in the “How would I get there?” dilemma. Just focus on what outrageous success looks like—for you.

This process helps you reach for the stars.

3. Clarify your minimum level of success

This allows you realistic stations along the way toward your ultimate goal. This is the bottom line, the “if nothing else, then at least this.” Make sure the bottom line really is just that. This is the very least that is acceptable to you.

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4. Close your eyes and go inside your imaginative space

Find the sweet spot of what you want, what feels good between those two end points. Sit with it for just a moment, and imagine as clearly as possible what it is you want, what it looks like, feels like, sounds like. Then in your mind and body, double the feeling or visual.

5. Lock it in—in any way that works for you

It may be a single word like “OK” or a signal like “thumbs up.”

Take a moment and stretch your arms above your head with palms facing each other. That’s right, stre-e-e-etch. Now clap your hands together up there. Give yourself a round of applause! You deserve it! Celebrate!

The Next Steps

You can now choose your next steps. Do you need help in some areas of your life? Find that help, whether it’s a coach, counselor, hypnotist, regression therapist, psychologist—whatever works for you.

Make it happen. If being a good person is your goal, how do you go about being a better person? Make a list.

  • Volunteer at a local hospital.
  • Become a dog walker at the Humane Society.
  • Take the neighborhood kids to the zoo.
  • Raise funds for a good cause.
  • Visit your grandmother more often.

It’s your life. You’re the author of the book of this life, so start manifesting the best you!

One ... remember to look up at the stars
             and not down at your feet.
Two ... never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose
            and life is empty without it.
Three ... if you are lucky enough to find love,
remember it is there and don’t throw it away.

Being Part of A Community

Change is like a house:
you can’t build it from the top down,
only from the bottom up.

Ultimately, we are creatures of community. We thrive when we are part of a healthy “whole” community, when we are fully whole and at one with our self and able to connect with others without judgment or “shoulds.”

Our happiness is developed when we are comfortable with who we are and allow others to be who they are, too. It’s the realization that when you’re an adult no one gets to judge you, and when you’re an adult you don’t have to defend yourself!

It’s not what name others call us that matters,
but what name we respond to that determines who we are.
EPICTETUS, AD 55 – 135

The structure of relationships has four corners, or rooms if you prefer.

  • Be interested – and you become interesting.
  • Be generous – There’s lots of you to go around—mind, body and spirit!
  • Be involved – Join the parade of life; don’t just watch it pass by.
  • Be aware of your impact – Every word, touch, action has impact and creates change.

Relationships aren’t about finding the right personalities but about creating the right environment in which to flourish. It’s not about how much respect and regard you have in the beginning but how much you build until the end.

What Is Working for Me Currently, and What Still Needs Attention?

I am grateful that these relationships are now working well for me.


These pieces of my life need attention.











Let your “pieces” that need attention become your goals for the forthcoming months.

Mind: What will you achieve by when?

Body: What will you have done by when?

Spirituality: How will you be behaving by when?

Relationship hiccups: What will be different by when?

You are the author of your life. Go write the book!

©2016 by Georgina Cannon. All Rights Reserved.
Reprinted with permission of the publisher,
Findhorn Press.

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The Third Circle Protocol: How to relate to yourself and others in a healthy, vibrant, evolving way, Always and All-ways
by Georgina Cannon.

The Third Circle Protocol: How to relate to yourself and others in a healthy, vibrant, evolving way, Always and All-ways by Georgina Cannon.The Third Circle Protocol  teaches the reader how to understand the often unspoken or unrecognized contracts we have with each other. And how to write new ones – when the current one isn't working. These contracts start with the relationship with yourself, your lover, your kids, your sister, or your parents.

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Georgina CannonGeorgina Cannon is an award-winning author, board-certified, master consulting hypnotist, trainer and founder of the Ontario Hypnosis Centre. Georgina is a regular guest on national and international television and radio programs. Her work gained prominence as a source for news and feature articles on hypnosis, counseling and complementary therapies and her commitment to her techniques and approach has led to international recognition. For more about Georgina go to

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