7 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Love

7 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of LoveWe all want to be loved. But if we've experienced a love loss in the past, it can be hard to get over that fear. You can spend your whole life trying to avoid being in a similar situation, so you don't have to feel vulnerable that way again. Or, you can...

Real Security Is An Inside Job: When Fear Knocks at Your Door

Real Security Is An Inside JobWe generally think of security as protecting our body and possessions from people who might violate them. Yet when we live in fear or a constant need to protect ourselves, we violate our spirit—a far greater injury than any that might occur to our possessions. Real security operates at a much deeper level than...

Why Are Women Far More Anxious Than Men?

anxiety disordersAnxiety disorders – defined by excessive fear, restlessness, and muscle tension – are debilitating, disabling, and can increase the risk for depression and suicide.

Are You Afraid of...?

Are You Afraid of...?Some of our fears are so slight, or come up so rarely, that we ignore them for the most part. Yet, all our fears are with us constantly whether or not we acknowledge their presence. They reside in our subconscious and create havoc in our life. Whether your fear is of death or of cockroaches, that fear runs your life.

The Myth of The Great Ending Is Not Really About The Future

The Myth Of The Great Ending Is Not Really About The Future"Do you really think the world is going to end?” she asked. I was stunned. She couldn’t have known that, in a recent e-mail to a friend, I confessed how strange it was that suddenly all sorts of individuals I was encountering in my everyday life were bringing up the subject of apocalypse. I’d joked that...

Are You Allowing Your Mind to Fence You In?

Looking at Life Through the Distorted Lens of the PastLife is intelligent, and it’s powerful, too. Yet, we rarely consider it as anything other than unpredictable and unknowable. What an amazing journey we’d have if we trusted life. Instead, in our fear of the unknown, we have turned life into a series of attempts to make the future as predictable as possible.

Living a Stress-Free Life Every Day

Living a Stress-Free Life Every DaySometimes in life we come to a point where we want to leave everything behind and run away from society. It feels as though we cannot take one more abusive comment from our boss, another long drive in traffic or another broken night of sleep. We feel as though our cup is so full that the next time...

Step Out of the Rush and Relax

Step Out of the Rush and RelaxThe more clearly we can see that it’s impossible to reach a place of rest by rushing to get there, the sooner we’ll arrive at the true solutions that allow us to relax, slow down, and realize the relaxed pace of an inwardly liberated life.

Emotions Leave Older Adults Open To Being Swindled

Emotions Leave Older Adults Open To Being Swindled"When emotionally aroused, either excited or frustrated, older adults may be more susceptible to being victimized by scammers than are younger individuals," says Ian H. Gotlib. "In the present study, they were more likely to want to pay for an item advertised misleadingly, regardless of how credible they believed the advertisement was."

The Tunnel of Life: Going Through Change

The Tunnel of Life: Going Through ChangeIn our travels, most of us have gone through tunnels. They take us from one place to another by going through something that the road couldn’t otherwise go around, like a mountain. Often these windy roads seem like they are leading us straight...

Pandora's Box and a Road Called Hope

Pandora's Box and a Road Called HopeSome of the most hope-filled people I have known have been those for whom favorable outcomes might be described as a long shot at best. This tendency of hope’s to show up in the bottom of our suffering is said by some to be the meaning of the Greek myth of Pandora’s...

Challenge Anxiety and Knock It Out of the Ring

Challenge Anxiety and Knock It Out of the RingThis modern world has a general approach to anxiety and fear: ignore it, avoid it, or take a drug to not feel it. These methods actually keep fear, anxiety, and panic going. These methods send ourselves the message that the fear is too great to handle, and avoidance is...

When You Can't Make Up Your Mind

When You Can't Make Up Your MindWhether you're endlessly agonizing over an issue, it's a tough place to hang out. Maybe this, maybe that. You drive yourself nuts, occupying yourself with your dilemma. You feel incapable of making up your mind and feel confused, stuck, indecisive, or ambivalent.

Healing Is Feeling: Becoming Whole and Complete

Healing Is Feeling: Becoming Whole and CompleteAll creation either evolves or devolves. You are once again in a cycle of the waking up of consciousness. Therefore it is time to move forward, in love and trust. Come out of your minds and heads into the realm of your heartfelt states of being. In other words...

Towards the Breakthrough of a New Era

Towards the Breakthrough of a New EraThese coming years will be unique within humanity’s living memory in that our history will witness the transition from the final era of a now fading world paradigm to a new, upgraded one. Many people have long suspected the coming of such an interval — a phase shift...

What To Do When Fear Has Hold of You

What To Do When Fear Has Hold of YouThe phenomenon of fear is surely one of the most impressive proofs of the mind’s power to convince us of the reality of its contents. If a person could reduce all possible episodes of fear down to those threats that are imminent, life would be very much less a scary place.

Follow Your Passion and Stop Limiting Yourself

Follow Your Passion and Stop Limiting YourselfWe all know when we are following our passion or our heart’s desire because it feels right. Everyone has experienced this feeling of ‘rightness’ at some time in his/her life. It’s called integrity. And it’s easy to recognize. It’s a sense of real comfort. A feeling that life is good and that life is moving freely in and through you.

How to Surrender Your Self-Doubts Completely

How to Surrender Your Self-Doubts CompletelyWhen circumstances in our lives are too overwhelming, chaotic, frightening, or out of our control, the best response, based on courageous wisdom, is to release the circumstances. This is not always easy, but it can be done. This exercise will help you give form to your feelings and provide you tools for surrender.

Managing and Avoiding the Overload Syndrome: Learning to Say "No"

Managing & Avoiding the Overload Syndrome: Learning to Say "No" to Obligations

This temporary anxiety and depression state results from becoming overburdened with too many work, household, volunteer, or social obligations, and subsides promptly after reducing the excessive responsibilities. It can best be likened to overloading an electrical outlet and blowing a fuse. This situation is becoming...

Surrendering to the Fires of Change in Your Life

Surrendering to the Fires of Change in Our LifeThe concept of surrender is often confused with submission. No matter how you define it, or under what conditions, surrender is a willful, not a passive act. The element of choice in surrender is an important consideration when we are discussing its expression in our lives.

What Causes & Stops Panic Attacks? Understanding Agoraphobia and PTSD

What Causes & Stops Panic Attacks? Understanding Agoraphobia, Panic Attacks, and PTSDSomeone with panic disorder does not know how to turn off the false alarm process once it gets going and must endure a terrifying experience of unknown duration, even if there is nothing apparent to fear. We all take in squintillions of units of information daily. Our brains have to filter data so that we can conduct some what rational lives without being overwhelmed.

Love, Gratitude, or Trust: Which Is More Important?

Trust Comes FirstTrust. Not trust. Trust. Not trust. The human free will tries to insert its dominion. Trust in a higher power is the most difficult thing to sustain, and the most important thing to sustain. I can’t see angels, but I trust they are there helping me every step of my journey.

Diving into Our Fears and Overcoming Them

Diving into Our Fears and Overcoming ThemMy first spiritual teacher told me a phrase that echoed in my head for months; “You don’t know what love is because you’re stuck in your fears. Face your fears and you will begin to know what love feels like.” I sat with these words, realizing how many fears controlled my life and my happiness. I had never realized how afraid I was deep inside...

How To Get Your Stress Levels In Check

How To Get Your Stress Levels In Check

Personality undoubtedly influences people’s experience of stress. Those who have perfectionistic tendencies (obsessional) and those with a tendency to put the needs of others ahead of their own or seek the approval of others (dependent) are particularly vulnerable to stress. Having these personality traits is not a bad thing...

You've Got to Believe Me

You've Got to Believe Me

Are you worrying about how something important to you will turn out? I know the answer. You’ve got to believe me. I see so many people stuck, confused, or fearful about what will come next. Eventually they somehow handle their issues, and the universe gives them a hand with the details...

Feeling Anxious Makes It Harder To Stop Feeling Anxious

Feeling Anxious Makes It Harder To Stop Feeling Anxious

Anxious people tend to perceive their world in a more threatening way. That is, the more anxious a person is, the more likely they are to notice threatening things around them. This is called the threat bias.

It Is Not A Problem Until You Think It Is

It Is Not A Problem Until You Think It Is

One person loses their job and experiences stress, fear and anxiety. Another person loses their job and is excited about the new possibilities opening up for them. What’s the difference? The external life circumstance is the same. However the internal response is different.

Using Prayer & Visualization To Destroy Your Fears

Using Prayer & Visualization To Destroy Your Fears

Dear God, we ask for guidance, love, and your healing power for all the people who are close to us. We ask for special healing to be sent to all -- to get through the next week with their trials, their tribulations, and their heartaches. We ask this...

Fear and Relationships Are Not A Good Match

Fear and Relationships Are Not A Good Match

Fear patterns begin early in life, affect every relationship we have, and waste a lot of energy. Our inner dragons of fear can make us run from love and intimacy, hide from the very things we say we most want, repeat the same mistakes over and over, and see the world in black and white terms.

What Are Yabbits? Are They Running Your Life?

What Is a Yabbit? Is It Running Your Life?

You already know the Yabbits; they are the voices inside your head, the doubts and the put-downs in your mind. Yabbits are the voices that argue against you. Our Yabbits were originally designed to keep us safe by keeping us in line. Yah that looks like fun, but...

Death: An Ongoing Community Event?

Death: An Ongoing Community Event?

In the West, we place our cemeteries away from our everyday lives, as if there were an impermeable barrier separating life and death. We pretend that death will go away if we just ignore it. We know that this isn't true, but...

I Gave Up Guilt

I Gave Up Guilt! I Am Innocent!

Guilt! It may not be a four-letter word, but its effects on the body, mind and emotions are deep. It used to be accepted as a way to keep us on the path, but upon reflection I realized that its effect is the complete opposite...

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