Can Love Make You Whole? Discovering the Sacred Connection

Can Love Make You Whole? Discovering the Sacred Connection

Unfortunately, many of us get lost on our way to find wholeness and happiness — we get lost in search of the perfect Other instead of seeking our whole and true self. Searching for someone else, rather than seeking your own wholeness, can create great difficulty for you and sometimes even endanger you.

When you depend on a romantic relationship to make you feel okay or whole, you can get into trouble — sometimes big trouble. Rushing into what turns out to be a bad relationship can have painful consequences, and sometimes change the entire course of your life.

Exploring Relationships & Exploring Yourself

Although your teen years are a great time to explore relationships, they are also an important time to explore yourself. To find your missing pieces, to focus on becoming whole. Yet often in our most difficult times, instead of seeking truth and strength within ourselves, we look for a romance to rescue us.

Happily ever after can include romantic love but it always includes spirit. As Sobonfu Some reminds us,

"This world of spirit applies to absolutely everyone in the world. Because without spirit, we wouldn't even make it here. It would be really hard to know whether we were going to wake up tomorrow and be alive without spirit. It would be really hard to know we have life."

"Separation from spirit, as we see here in the West, causes a greater emphasis on romantic love. It creates a vortex of longing for another person, for another way of connecting. Yet, romantic love is only one way of finding that other connection, which is to spirit, that we are actually looking for."


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It's not that romantic love isn't wonderful — it can be. But it is really the desire to feel your place in this world, to have a sense of who you are, to be connected to spirit, that often drives you to connect with others romantically. In many traditions such as Sufism, sacred psychology, Buddhism, and mystical Christianity, the search for romantic love (for the Beloved) is recognized as our search for the sacred.

Feeling the Sacred Connection to Something Beautiful

Can Love Make You Whole? Discovering the Sacred ConnectionWe all want to feel this sacred connection to something beautiful. Romantic love can make you feel like you have everything you could ever want. But soon you find out that even when you have found your "soul mate," after a while that yearning for the connection with more, with your purpose, with spirit, comes back. So, romantic love is just part of finding wholeness and happiness. Shamans know this to be true, and that is why they teach their youth about energy and spiritual power. Only from a place of spiritual empowerment can you call to you a romantic partner with whom you can truly be happy.

Once you devote yourself to being whole, you can more easily and successfully create healthy, safe relationships with others. Most of your life happens in relationships — with family, friends, teachers, neighbors, employers, acquaintances. Many of these relationships will be a source of great pleasure and even joy. But sometimes they will be difficult, causing stress and threatening your self-esteem. When this happens, you have the tools within yourself to be safe. You have the ability to protect yourself in all your relationships and situations.

Reprinted with permission of the publisher, Bindu Books, a division of
Inner Traditions Intl. ©2003.

Teen Psychic by Julie Tallard Johnson. Article Source:

Teen Psychic: Exploring Your Intuitive Spiritual Powers
by Julie Tallard Johnson.

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Julie Tallard JohnsonA licensed psychotherapist and creative writing teacher, Julie Tallard Johnson has kept journals since the age of sixteen discovering how the writer and spiritual path are one and the same. She has spent the last thirty years working with individuals and groups to help them discover a spiritual practice that brings them a sense of purpose and happiness. The author of many books for teens including Teen Psychic, Spiritual Journaling, The Thundering Years, I Ching for Teens and Making Friends, Falling in Love, which was recognized by the New York Public Library as one of the best books for teens, she lives in Spring Green, Wisconsin. Visit the author's web site at


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