Cultivating Neutrality and Creating Your Reality

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Narrated by Marie T. Russell.

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I think the edict that Americans are entitled to “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness” creates a problem that goes largely unexamined in our culture. There is a significant difference between pursuing happiness and simply being happy, and many people get caught up in the pursuit without ever really “catching” happiness. The staggering number of people who are on antidepressants is evidence alone that something is not working.

Often, if people suffer from depression, they feel a lot of pressure to be happy, but the distance between the low of depression and the high of happiness can seem like such a long way to go. Unable to get to happiness or to hold it once they may fleetingly experience it, they slip back down into depression.

People try to think positively, only to find themselves completely overrun with negative feelings and self-reproach. They are gripped by the fear that something is going to come along to take away their happiness, and so they have a hard time even letting themselves feel it for fear of losing it.

Cultivating Neutrality

Cultivating neutrality is how I describe the process of acquiring equanimity. What I mean by this is a state where you are neither happy nor sad, neither elevated nor depressed, but simply neutral.

When we cultivate neutrality, we don’t have to worry about any of this. We understand that life is full of ups and downs; good things happen and bad things happen, and that is the nature of life. We allow ourselves to feel all of our emotions as they arise, labeling none of them as “good” or “bad,” but simply seeing that they are part of the human experience. We allow them to play out as they need to with a good laugh or a good cry or maybe a brisk walk or some deep housecleaning if we are angry.

When we allow our emotions to run their course, without judging them or repressing them or thinking we shouldn’t be feeling them, they move on. It’s only when we resist them, repress them, or judge them that they tend to stick around and create problems.

Neutrality is the place that we return to once the highs or lows have passed. And in neutrality, there is a certain peace—nowhere to go, nothing to do, nothing to fix, no agenda to push, no ax to grind, nothing to be except simply being present. This is a lovely space, a state of mind where you can enjoy true rest, where there is no charge of happiness to maintain, no charge of sadness to wallow in or seek to escape from, and the place from where we can create our reality.

Creating Your Reality, or the Law of Attraction

My people can have what they say,
but my people keep saying what they have.
-- Charles Capps, The Tongue: A Creative Force

This quote, from the book The Tongue: A Creative Force, by Charles Capps, a retired farmer, land developer, and ordained minister, sums up the essence of reality creation, or the power of the word to create one’s reality. What it is saying is that the word is creative, and when we repeatedly say things like “I am broke” or “I am stuck” or “I am sick and tired,” that is what we are creating. It’s not just in what we say, but also in what we feel.

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Most people have reality creation backward. They are waiting for outside circumstances to change before they will say “I am rich,” “My life is moving along nicely,” or “I feel great,” and then experience all the associated feelings that go along with that.

Our life situation is an “exploded view” of our bodies and our fields. The body and its field is primary, is creative, and the life situation reflects that, not the other way around. When we keep saying what we have, we are creating more of that.

What You Resist, Persists

Anything we resist tends to stick around because we are giving it energy. It is only by being willing to cultivate different words and feelings first, and then not giving any attention or resistance to what shows up in opposition of that—because those things will continue to show up for a little while until the new pattern kicks in—that the new pattern begins to show up in the life situation.

Imagine what it feels like to be rich, to be successful, to own your own home, to have a new car; now allow yourself to feel those feelings. I recently heard a story about someone who decided to start treating his old car the way he would treat a new car—keeping it clean and clutter-free, inside and out, feeling the feelings he imagined he would feel in a better car—and in a very short time, a nicer, newer car appeared suddenly in this person’s life. Your feelings will truly magnetize to you the outer circumstances that reflect those feelings, but there is a time gap in which faith is necessary, and this is where many people give up.

Here is a very simple exercise you can do anytime. Ask yourself,

* How am I feeling?

* How do I want to feel?

* What needs to happen, in order for me to feel that way, that I can control or affect right now?

We can’t simply flush or eliminate feelings from our bodies without first listening to what they are trying to tell us. They are there as guideposts to keep you on keel, so if you are feeling a strong emotion, there is a message there for you, an indication that you must change course in some way, take some sort of action, communicate something to someone. Not heeding your emotions can lead you into the rough, and not learning to cultivate emotional discipline can keep you in the rough.

© 2014, 2021 Healing Arts Press.
Printed with permission from the publisher:
Inner Traditions International.

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Tuning the Human Biofield: Healing with Vibrational Sound Therapy
by Eileen Day McKusick, MA 

book cover of Tuning the Human Biofield: Healing with Vibrational Sound Therapy by Eileen Day McKusick, MA In this book, McKusick explains the basics of Biofield Tuning practice and provides illustrations of her Biofield Anatomy Map. She details how to use tuning forks to find and clear pain and trauma stored in the biofield and reveals how the traditional principles and locations of the chakras correspond directly with her biofield discoveries. Exploring the science behind Biofield Tuning, she examines scientific research on the nature of sound and energy and explains how experiences of trauma produce “pathological oscillations” in the biofield, causing a breakdown of order, structure, and function in the body.

Offering a revolutionary perspective on mind, energy, memory, and trauma, McKusick’s guide to Biofield Tuning provides new avenues of healing for energy workers, massage therapists, sound healers, and those looking to overcome chronic illness and release the traumas of their past.

For more info and/or to order this book, click here.  Also available as a Kindle edition.

About the Author

photo of Eileen Day McKusickEileen Day McKusick has researched the effects of audible sound on the human body and its biofield since 1996. The creator of the sound therapy method Biofield Tuning, she has a master’s degree in integrative education and is the founder of the Biofield Tuning Institute, which conducts grant-funded and peer-reviewed studies on the human biofield. She is the inventor of the Sonic Slider sound healing tool and the CEO of BioSona LLC, which provides sound therapy tools and training globally. Visit for more information.

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