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Learning Self-Care—Saying No and Using Love as the Ultimate Healing Tool

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You have a great body. It is an intricate piece of technology and a sophisticated super-computer. It runs on peanuts and even regenerates itself. Your relationship with your body is one of the most important relationships you’ll ever have. And since repairs are expensive and spare parts are hard to come by, it pays to make that relationship good. ~Steve Goodier

Flip the spin is the name I give for a very simple exercise to help sensitive people deal with “bad vibes” from others or from their environment. I’ve experimented with different techniques over the years to deal with this issue, and this one seems to be the easiest and the most effective.

Turning Lead Into Gold

Flip the spin is a metaphor based on the notion that what we call negative energy spirals toward us in a direction that causes us to feel worn out, run down, or sapped when we are exposed to it. We may also become sad, angry, or frustrated or feel somehow responsible for this negative energy or a variety of other nonbeneficial feeling states.

When you find yourself in the path of this energy, whether by choice—as in being there for a friend in crisis—or by ­circumstance, instead of resisting it or trying to erect a barrier to it (very challenging to do, in my experience) you simply “catch it” with the energy of your solar plexus, allowing yourself to feel it for a moment, to empathize with it, and with a clear intent, gently flick it to get it to spin the other way, sending it back to the other person with a positive spin and the feeling of compassion. It’s that simple.

When we are really centered and grounded, we can radiate compassion continuously, which is a really nice state to maintain if you can. This is the essence of “lightworking” or spiritual alchemy—turning energetic lead into gold, or heavy, negative energies into light, positive ones. The more you practice it, the easier and more automatic it becomes. People I have shared this exercise with routinely report being amazed at how simple and effective it is.

Saying No

One of the things I have observed in this work is the tendency of so many people to say yes when what they really want or even need to say is no. I came to realize how often I did this in my own life. I had been raised by a stay-at-home mom who waited on all of us hand and foot. She fed us three meals a day and did laundry and housekeeping without ever asking for help.

Even though we had chores, she took care of most everything. She never took days off, but every once in a while, maybe once every two or three months, she would have to lie down on the couch for a whole day with a migraine, which seemed to be the only way she could justify taking some downtime.

We tend to parent the way we were parented, and I fell into very similar habits as those of my mother (minus the migraines). This worked well for a time, but when I started undergraduate school and was taking eighteen credits as well as seeing clients, it all became a bit too much. I’ll never forget the first time I realized that I was simply too exhausted to cook dinner and that I really just needed to go to bed.

My husband is a carpenter and was working long days doing physical labor. He had gotten accustomed to coming home spent and was grateful to have a meal on the table. My boys were eight and eleven at the time, and they too were quite accustomed to Mom taking care of everything. On this particular evening I announced to them that I was not cooking dinner, they could fend for themselves, and I went to bed, pulling the covers up over my head, wracked with guilt for saying no.

Since that time I have become much, much better at saying no and taking care of myself when I need to. I’ve trained my husband and my boys how to make a few different meals (or just get takeout), and I no longer feel the least bit guilty when I need to put my own needs first. Cassidy even said to me the other day, “Mom, if you don’t feel like cooking dinner, then just don’t. We’ll figure it out.”


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Love, the Ultimate Healing Tool

When I turned forty-one, my son Quinn said to me, “Next year you are going to be the answer to life, the universe, and everything!” He was referring to the fact that forty-two is the number that answers that question in the iconic book The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy. So when I turned forty-two, this was on my mind. It just so happened that at the time I was doing research on plasma and sacred geometry as an independent study for my master’s degree, and so I was actually thinking about these subjects quite a lot.

One morning I was in Burlington having my car serviced and spent some time waiting and having breakfast in a café there. It suddenly came to me that I wanted to write, but I had no paper of any kind except for my appointment book. I opened up to the block schedule planner in the back and promptly wrote the poem below, putting each line in one of the boxes.

I am not inclined to write poetry; in fact, I had quite a run-in with my sophomore English teacher in high school around poetry because I thought poems were silly and didn’t want to have to write any, but this poem just sort of happened.

I have figured out the answer to life, the universe, and everything
And it is . . .
LOVE
Love does make the world go ’round
Gravity? Love
Electricity? Love
The strong force? Love
The weak force? Love
LOVE LOVE LOVE
Could it be more simple?
Could it be more obvious?
But we don’t see it
Right in front of us
All the time
We don’t see it
We don’t get it
We are looking for something more
But there is nothing more than
LOVE
Love is all there is
Love is the driving force of the universe
Of all creation
Of physics
Of biology
Of metaphysics
Pi = Love
Phi = Love
E = mc2 = love
It is all
LOVE LOVE LOVE

Love is what heals you. Any place where you are not healed, you are not letting love happen in you, you are not loving yourself.

We have been taught that it is wrong to love ourselves, that it is selfish to love ourselves. It’s okay and appropriate to love others, to have compassion for others, but not ourselves. This is a lie. This is why so many people are sick.

We’ve been taught that it doesn’t matter what we think or what we say, because we have no power. We believe we are powerless, because we do not understand the power of the word. We do not realize how creative words are.

One of the things I always say at lectures is that as a sound healer I have learned that the most powerful thing in the universe is right under your nose . . . and it’s your mouth. By our words we create our lives.

What kinds of stories are you telling yourself and others about who you are? Healing is being willing to detach from your stories, to be willing to go into neutral and be open to other possibilities, to believe that you are worthy of those possibilities, to allow yourself to simply rest in the essence of the universe, which is, simply, love.

© 2014, 2021 Healing Arts Press.
Printed with permission from the publisher:
Inner Traditions International. www.InnerTraditions.com

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Tuning the Human Biofield: Healing with Vibrational Sound Therapy
by Eileen Day McKusick, MA 

book cover of Tuning the Human Biofield: Healing with Vibrational Sound Therapy by Eileen Day McKusick, MA In this book, McKusick explains the basics of Biofield Tuning practice and provides illustrations of her Biofield Anatomy Map. She details how to use tuning forks to find and clear pain and trauma stored in the biofield and reveals how the traditional principles and locations of the chakras correspond directly with her biofield discoveries. Exploring the science behind Biofield Tuning, she examines scientific research on the nature of sound and energy and explains how experiences of trauma produce “pathological oscillations” in the biofield, causing a breakdown of order, structure, and function in the body.

Offering a revolutionary perspective on mind, energy, memory, and trauma, McKusick’s guide to Biofield Tuning provides new avenues of healing for energy workers, massage therapists, sound healers, and those looking to overcome chronic illness and release the traumas of their past.

For more info and/or to order this book, click here.  Also available as a Kindle edition.

About the Author

photo of Eileen Day McKusickEileen Day McKusick has researched the effects of audible sound on the human body and its biofield since 1996. The creator of the sound therapy method Biofield Tuning, she has a master’s degree in integrative education and is the founder of the Biofield Tuning Institute, which conducts grant-funded and peer-reviewed studies on the human biofield. She is the inventor of the Sonic Slider sound healing tool and the CEO of BioSona LLC, which provides sound therapy tools and training globally. Visit www.biofieldtuning.com for more information.

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