InnerSelf Newsletter: November 18th, 2018

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This week, in the US, it is Thanksgiving. While being grateful really needs to be a daily practice, having one day a year that highlights giving thanks can help us center ourselves and take note of everything we have to be grateful for. However, there are times where it may seem nearly impossible to be grateful due to circumstances we find ourselves in. One of our authors this week can help us in that situation with "How You Can Feel Gratitude During Difficult Times". 

With much more of the population either aging or being in physical pain, we can also gain insights from "Looking for the Gold in the Ashes of Pain". However, there is more than physical pain that keeps us from living in gratitude. Holding on to resentments, grudges, anger, etc. stands in the way of feeling appreciation. Jane Wyker shares her personal experience in "Reflections on Mom: From Pain to Gratitude and Forgiveness" and Jude Bijou provides us with tools in "An Attitude of Gratitude: Enjoying the Here and Now".

And of course, relationships are always our greatest challenge and provide our greatest life lessons, whether with our partner or others close to us. Joyce and Barry Vissell share in two separate articles, how "To Really Appreciate a Woman..." and how "To Really Appreciate a Man..."

And as our featured authors remind us, gratitude and appreciation are an ongoing process. We have to clear the way of obstacles so that love can shine. This applies to all of our relationships... whether at home, at work, or out in the world grocery shopping, or whatever. We need to constantly "be on the lookout" for those things we have to be grateful for.

This week, we have introduced a new feature on the website, a "push notification" in which you can be apprised as we add new material to the website throughout the week. So you don't need to wait until the newsletter arrives to be inspired, but can get notified via your online browser that a new article is online. The little bell graphic at the bottom right of any InnerSelf page is how you activate this feature. You also inactivate it the same way should you decide, after having tried it, that you'd rather not have this "push-notification" feature. When we send out a notification that a new article is online, a little box opens on your browser and if you click on it, you are taken to the new article. Simple and easy. We hope you'll like it.


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And as usual, we bring you numerous additional articles on a variety of topics. Scroll below for the titles and links to all of them.

Wishing you enjoyable insightful reading, and of course a wonder-full, joy-full, loving and thankful week. May you focus on all you have to be grateful for and thus help that expand in your life and in the world.

Marie T. Russell
editor/publisher,
InnerSelf.com
"New Attitudes...New Possibilities"


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NEW ARTICLES THIS WEEK

How You Can Feel Gratitude During Difficult Times

Written by Yvonne Tally

How You Can Feel Gratitude During Difficult Times

Gratitude is noticing the good things that are happening all around you. Feeling gratitude when life is stormy can be difficult; it’s during times of hardship that our gratitude is most tested. Seeing the silver lining during those times is easier when we focus on the power of our gratitude.

Article is continued here: How You Can Feel Gratitude During Difficult Times


Looking for the Gold in the Ashes of Pain

Written by Sarah Anne Shockley

Looking for the Gold in the Ashes of Pain

When we’re in severe or chronic pain, our normal life is not available to us in the way it used to be. Instead, living in pain feels like being taken out of life. Our normal life recedes to a distance at the same time that the feeling world of pain becomes incredibly close, imme­diate, and demanding. Pain becomes our experience of life.

Article is continued here: Looking for the Gold in the Ashes of Pain


Reflections on Mom: From Pain to Gratitude and Forgiveness

Written by Jane Wyker

Reflections on Mom: From Pain to Gratitude and Forgiveness

As I felt the benefits of forgiving my ex-husband Werner, I began to look at other grievances and judgments I was holding. Mom was at the top of my list. Could I find my way to forgive her, too? That would require me to mourn the losses of my childhood and let them go. Holding onto my resentment to Mom kept them in place.

Article is continued here: Reflections on Mom: From Pain to Gratitude and Forgiveness


An Attitude of Gratitude: Enjoying the Here and Now

Written by Jude Bijou, M.A., M.F.T.

An Attitude of Gratitude: Enjoying the Here and Now

Being unappreciative in general and focusing on the half empty is a core attitude that Attitude Reconstruction associates with the emotion of anger. These qualities block our ability to experience the emotion of love. With the holidays approaching, it’s time to reverse your old tendency.

Article is continued here: An Attitude of Gratitude: Enjoying the Here and Now


To Really Appreciate a Woman...

Written by Joyce & Barry Vissell

To Really Appreciate a Woman...

Real appreciation is a gift of love straight from the heart, an acknowledgement of another’s greatness and beauty, and a way of showing your partner that you really care. Many women need specific kinds of appreciation. And many men don’t understand this.

Article is continued here: To Really Appreciate a Woman...


To Really Appreciate a Man...

Written by Joyce & Barry Vissell

To Really Appreciate a Man...

Find out what kind of acknowledgment means most to the man in your life. How does he most need to be appreciated? You may be surprised. Please don’t get the idea that men don’t need appreciation for inner qualities of being.

Article is continued here: To Really Appreciate a Man...


How Marriage Has Changed Dramatically Throughout History

How Marriage Has Changed Dramatically Throughout History

by Michelle Brady and Belinda Hewitt

In 2017, Australians were asked “Should the law be changed to allow same-sex couples to marry?”. The answer was a…

Article is continued here: How Marriage Has Changed Dramatically Throughout History


A Low-Gluten, High-Fiber Diet Could Settle Your Stomach

A Low-Gluten, High-Fiber Diet Could Settle Your Stomach

by Kristine Snedker

Eating a low-gluten, high-fiber diet changes bacteria in the gut, decreases gastrointestinal discomfort such as…

Article is continued here: A Low-Gluten, High-Fiber Diet Could Settle Your Stomach


Why Doctors Are Starting To Prescribe Exercise

Why Doctors Are Starting To Prescribe Exercise

by Scott Lear

There is a movement afoot (pun intended) to get more people exercising by involving their family doctors.

Article is continued here: Why Doctors Are Starting To Prescribe Exercise


Why Fact Checking Fake News Doesn’t Change Minds

Why Fact Checking Fake News Doesn’t Change Minds

by Keith Brannon

Neutral fact checks may not sway voters to abandon false beliefs based on inaccurate information, a new study suggests.…

Article is continued here: Why Fact Checking Fake News Doesn’t Change Minds


Revolution 50: The Beatles’ White Album Remixed

Revolution 50: The Beatles’ White Album Remixed

by David McCooey

Last year, in 2017, the 50th anniversary remix of The Beatles’ Sgt Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band gained considerable…

Article is continued here: Revolution 50: The Beatles’ White Album Remixed


Why The Link Between Terrorism And Mental Illness Is Complicated

Why The Link Between Terrorism And Mental Illness Is Complicated

by Clarke Jones

Following another act of fatal violence in Melbourne, Australia in early November 2018, Prime Minister Scott Morrison…

Article is continued here: Why The Link Between Terrorism And Mental Illness Is Complicated


Why Education Does Not Always Equal Social Mobility

Why Education Does Not Always Equal Social Mobility

by Louis Volante and John Jerrim

Educators around the world, particularly those in secondary schools, often default to a compelling story when they are…

Article is continued here: Why Education Does Not Always Equal Social Mobility


Putting The X In Text: Warm Wishes Or A Kiss-off?

Putting The X In Text: Warm Wishes Or A Kiss-off?

by Andy Miah

Do you sign off texts and emails with an x? Have you ever thought what that x – shorthand for a kiss – means to you or…

Article is continued here: Putting The X In Text: Warm Wishes Or A Kiss-off?


Happy Birthday Mickey Mouse: Animation's Greatest Showman Is 90

Happy Birthday Mickey Mouse: Animation's Greatest Showman Is 90

by Paul Wells

Manchester United manager Jose Mourinho recently criticised his players for not having the courage to take penalty…

Article is continued here: Happy Birthday Mickey Mouse: Animation's Greatest Showman Is 90


What Is The Right Age To Have A Child?

What Is The Right Age To Have A Child?

by Charlotte Walker and Suzannah Williams

Over the past three decades, there has been a steady increase in the average age of parents. Advances in fertility…

Article is continued here: What Is The Right Age To Have A Child?


Healthy Guts Are Swarming With Bugs, So What Do They Do?

Healthy Guts Are Swarming With Bugs, So What Do They Do?

by Robert Moore

The healthy human body is swarming with microorganisms. They inhabit every nook and cranny on the surfaces of our body.…

Article is continued here: Healthy Guts Are Swarming With Bugs, So What Do They Do?


How Will History Judge Our Treatment Of Depressed Children?

How Will History Judge Our Treatment Of Depressed Children?

by Jeremy Howick

An investigative report by the BBC recently found that the number of antidepressants prescribed to children in England…

Article is continued here: How Will History Judge Our Treatment Of Depressed Children?


Demand For People Skills Is Growing Faster Than Demand For STEM Skills

Demand For People Skills Is Growing Faster Than Demand For STEM Skills

by Claire Mason, Andrew Reeson and Todd Sanderson

Advances in digital technology are changing the world of work. It has been estimated that more than 40% of human…

Article is continued here: Demand For People Skills Is Growing Faster Than Demand For STEM Skills


Why Covering The Environment Is One Of The Most Dangerous Beats In Journalism

Why Covering The Environment Is One Of The Most Dangerous Beats In Journalism

by Eric Freedmanlist

From the murder of Saudi journalist Jamal Kashoggi by Saudi agents to President Trump’s clashes with the White House…

Article is continued here: Why Covering The Environment Is One Of The Most Dangerous Beats In Journalism


6 Surprising Drug Interactions You Should Know About

6 Surprising Drug Interactions You Should Know About

by Philip Crilly

As the population grows older, more and more people are using a combination of drugs to treat multiple conditions. This…

Article is continued here: 6 Surprising Drug Interactions You Should Know About


Why Are Some Americans Changing Their Names?

Why Are Some Americans Changing Their Names?

by Kirsten Fermaglich

In 2008, Newsweek published an article on then-presidential candidate Barack Obama titled “From Barry to Barack.” The…

Article is continued here: Why Are Some Americans Changing Their Names?


How Alcohol's Calories End Up On Your Waistline

How Alcohol's Calories End Up On Your Waistline

by Veronique Chachay

Alcoholic drinks should all carry calorie counts according to a leading UK public health doctor writing in the BMJ…

Article is continued here: How Alcohol's Calories End Up On Your Waistline


The Other 2018 US Midterm Wave: A Historic 10-point Jump In Turnout Among Young People

The Other 2018 US Midterm Wave: A Historic 10-point Jump In Turnout Among Young People

by Kei Kawashima-Ginsberg

Voter turnout among 18 to 29-year-olds in the 2018 midterm elections was 31 percent, according to a preliminary…

Article is continued here: The Other 2018 US Midterm Wave: A Historic 10-point Jump In Turnout Among Young People


How Humor Can Change Your Relationship

How Humor Can Change Your Relationship

by Gil Greengross

A sense of humor is an attractive trait. There is abundant cross-cultural evidence that shows that being funny makes…

Article is continued here: How Humor Can Change Your Relationship


How Craigslist Cuts Solid Waste, One Used Sofa At A Time

How Craigslist Cuts Solid Waste, One Used Sofa At A Time

by Suvrat Dhanorkar

The average American generates about 1,500 pounds of garbage annually, and then spends lots of tax dollars disposing of…

Article is continued here: How Craigslist Cuts Solid Waste, One Used Sofa At A Time


Why Some People Overeat When They're Upset

Why Some People Overeat When They're Upset

by Laura Wilkinson, Angela Rowe and Charlotte Hardman

The idea of eating a tub of ice cream to cope with being upset has become a bit cliche. Though some might not need a…

Article is continued here: Why Some People Overeat When They're Upset


What Mass Shootings Do To Those Not Shot: Social Consequences Of Mass Gun Violence

What Mass Shootings Do To Those Not Shot: Social Consequences Of Mass Gun Violence

by Arash Javanbakht

Mass shootings seem to have become a sad new normal in the American life. They happen too often, and in very unexpected…

Article is continued here: What Mass Shootings Do To Those Not Shot: Social Consequences Of Mass Gun Violence


Neuroscientists Identify A Surprising Low-Tech Fix For Sleep-Deprived Teens

Neuroscientists Identify A Surprising Low-Tech Fix For Sleep-Deprived Teens

by Adriana Galván

Healthy sleep leads to healthy brains. Neuroscientists have gotten that message out. But parents, doctors and educators…

Article is continued here: Neuroscientists Identify A Surprising Low-Tech Fix For Sleep-Deprived Teens


How We Know There Is A Link Between Climate Change and Wildfires

How Do We Know There Is A Link Between Climate Change and Wildfires?

by Kevin Trenberth

Once again, the summer and fall of 2018 in the Northern Hemisphere has brought us an epidemic of major wildfires. These…

Article is continued here: How Do We Know There Is A Link Between Climate Change and Wildfires?


Disney’s Nutcracker Is The Latest Movie To Explore The Dark Side Of Fairy Tales

Disney’s Nutcracker Is The Latest Movie To Explore The Dark Side Of Fairy Tales

by Sylvie Magerstaedt

Disney’s latest offering, Nutcracker and the Four Realms comes with a warning for anyone who might imagine…

Article is continued here: Disney’s Nutcracker Is The Latest Movie To Explore The Dark Side Of Fairy Tales


A County In Idaho Offered Spanish-Language Ballots For The First Time and Here's What Happened

A County In Idaho Offered Spanish-Language Ballots For The First Time and Here's What Happened

by Gabe Osterhout

On the morning of Election Day, the top trending search on Google was “donde votar,” which means “where to vote” in…

Article is continued here: A County In Idaho Offered Spanish-Language Ballots For The First Time and Here's What Happened


4 Ways Children Say Their Well-Being Can Be Improved

4 Ways Children Say Their Well-Being Can Be Improved

by Charlotte Todd and Sinead Brophy

Good emotional health as a child lays the foundation for good life satisfaction in adulthood. However, in the UK…

Article is continued here: 4 Ways Children Say Their Well-Being Can Be Improved


Why The World's Plastic Problem Is Bigger Than The Ocean

Why The World's Plastic Problem Is Bigger Than The Ocean

by Christopher J. Preston

As you read this, a strange object that looks like a 2,000-foot floating pool noodle is drifting slowly through the…

Article is continued here: Why The World's Plastic Problem Is Bigger Than The Ocean


Why More American Students Are Studying Abroad

Why More American Students Are Studying Abroad

by Chad M. Gasta

Kelsey Hrubes knew she had a challenge on her hands when she visited Germany as a study abroad student back in 2015. “I…

Article is continued here: Why More American Students Are Studying Abroad


Marijuana Expands Into 3 More States, But What About Nationwide Legalization?

Marijuana Expands Into 3 More States, But What About Nationwide Legalization?

by Daniel J. Mallinson and Lee Hannah

The midterm elections have further loosened marijuana restrictions in the United States. Voters in three of four states…

Article is continued here: Marijuana Expands Into 3 More States, But What About Nationwide Legalization?


Making Time For Exercise -- But How? And When?

Making Time For Exercise -- But How? And When?

by David E. Conroy and Sherry Pagoto

It’s that time again. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services just released a new edition of the Physical…

Article is continued here: Making Time For Exercise -- But How? And When?


Political Blogs By Teenagers Promote Tolerance, Participation And Public Debate

Political Blogs By Teenagers Promote Tolerance, Participation And Public Debate

by Julianne K. Viola

When it comes to being politically active, young people typically have a bad reputation. In democracies such as the…

Article is continued here: Political Blogs By Teenagers Promote Tolerance, Participation And Public Debate


Should You Take Probiotics When You’re On Antibiotics?

Should You Take Probiotics When You’re On Antibiotics?

by Lito Papanicolas and Geraint Rogers

Antibiotics kill harmful bacteria that cause disease. But they also cause collateral damage to the microbiome, the…

Article is continued here: Should You Take Probiotics When You’re On Antibiotics?


How To Restore Trust In Governments and Institutions

How To Restore Trust In Governments and Institutions

by Grant Duncan

Trust is at a breaking point. Trust in national institutions. Trust among states. Trust in the rules-based global…

Article is continued here: How To Restore Trust In Governments and Institutions


5 Food Mistakes To Avoid If You're Trying To Lose Weight

5 Food Mistakes To Avoid If You're Trying To Lose Weight

by Yasmine Probst and Vivienne Guan

Many people wonder why they’re not losing weight when they follow a strict diet and exercise routine. One possible…

Article is continued here: 5 Food Mistakes To Avoid If You're Trying To Lose Weight


Could Consciousness All Come Down To The Way Things Vibrate?

Could Consciousness All Come Down To The Way Things Vibrate?

by Tam Hunt

Why is my awareness here, while yours is over there? Why is the universe split in two for each of us, into a subject…

Article is continued here: Could Consciousness All Come Down To The Way Things Vibrate?


Feel Younger Than You Are? Here's Why You're On To Something Good

Feel Younger Than You Are? Here's Why You're On To Something Good

by Catherine Loveday

It seems that to some extent, we really are as young as we feel. But how do we know which is the chicken and the egg?…

Article is continued here: Feel Younger Than You Are? Here's Why You're On To Something Good


How Many Women Does It Take To Change A Broken Congress?

How Many Women Does It Take To Change A Broken Congress?

by Wendy K. Smith and Terry Babcock-Lumish

The next United States Congress will have at least 123 women in the House and Senate, including two Muslim-American…

Article is continued here: How Many Women Does It Take To Change A Broken Congress?


Shadow Profiles: Facebook Knows About You, Even If You're Not On Facebook

Shadow Profiles: Facebook Knows About You, Even If You're Not On Facebook

by Andrew Quodling

Facebook’s founder and chief executive Mark Zuckerberg faced two days of grilling before US politicians, in April 2018…

Article is continued here: Shadow Profiles: Facebook Knows About You, Even If You're Not On Facebook


Now We Know Why Humans Roar

Now We Know Why Humans Roar

by Jordan Raine

Historical accounts indicate that soldiers have roared in battle throughout history, from the Roman army to the Red…

Article is continued here: Now We Know Why Humans Roar


Astrological Journal for the Week

Written by Pam Younghans

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Pam YounghansThis weekly column (updated every Sunday afternoon) is based on planetary influences, and offers perspectives and insights to assist you in making the best use of current energies... Read this week's journal here

It is also highly beneficial to reread the past week's astrological journal as it gives a hindsight view of the events that took place and may provide many "ah-ha" insights. 


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