Why New Moms Don’t Have To Give Up On Sleep

I disagree with the hand-waving that people get, being told, ‘Yep, you are the one who wanted to be a mom or a dad. Better get used to it,'” says Katherine Sharkey. (Credit: John Mayer/Flickr)"The biological clock can get thrown off in these women because they are up so much in the middle of the night," says Katherine Sharkey.

How Reading To Your Child Makes The Difference

Mother reads with children. Diana Ramsey, CC BYIf you are a parent or a teacher, you most probably read stories to young children. Together, you laugh and point at the pictures. You engage them with a few simple questions. And they respond.

How Children Use Their Emotions To Learn

child learnin emotions 5 10Emotions play a critical role in everyday life. The ability to express, regulate, and understand one’s own and others’ emotions – known as emotional competence – is linked to good social skills and to doing better at school.

Dads Get Postnatal Depression Too

Dads Get Postnatal Depression TooIt will come as no surprise that some new fathers will be anxious or highly stressed. However, most people believe only new mums suffer postnatal depression. This is not the case.

Why Children Who Sleep More Get Better Grades

Why Children Who Sleep More Get Better GradesSleep plays a fundamental role in the way we learn. Emerging evidence makes a compelling case for the importance of sleep for language learning, memory, executive function, problem solving and behaviour during childhood.

Babies Pay Attention When Parents Do

Babies Pay Attention When Parents Do"The ability of children to sustain attention is known as a strong indicator for later success in areas such as language acquisition, problem-solving, and other key cognitive development milestones," says Chen Yu.

Musical Rhythm Helps Babies Find Patterns In Speech

Musical Rhythm Helps Babies Find Patterns In SpeechIn both the music and control groups, we gave babies experiences that were social, required their active involvement, and included body movements—these are all characteristics that we know help people learn...

The Difficulties Doctors Face In Diagnosing Autism

The Difficulties Doctors Face In Diagnosing AutismA recent survey of pediatricians found they often lacked enough information to accurately diagnose an autism spectrum disorder (ASD) in children. ASD is an important diagnosis not to miss. But it is equally important not to make the diagnosis when it is not truly present.

When Do Children Develop Their Gender Identity?

The biological sex of babies may not determine their gender later. Anthony J, CC BYGender is generally thought of as a stable trait: we are born male or female and we stay that way as we grow from small children to adults. It turns out that for young children, initial concepts about gender are quite

How Can Twins Have Different Fathers?

How Can Twins Have Different Fathers?The recent report from northern Hòa Bình province in Vietnam of twins born to two different fathers has been making headlines around the world. The father of the twins took the infants for DNA tests where it was revealed he was the biological father to just one of them - the other twin was fathered by another man.

How Do Children Learn Empathy?

How Do Children Learn Empathy?Empathy, the ability to understand others and feel compassion for them, is arguably the most defining human quality – setting us apart from smart machines and even other animals. Without it, we couldn’t function in social areas such as the schools, court rooms and office workplaces that are the cornerstones of our society.

How Do Children Decide What's Fair?

children fairness 3 20Should a teacher reward a whole class for the good deeds of one student? What about the other side of the discipline picture: should a whole class be punished for the misdeeds of just a few students?

At What Age Do Children Learn To Write?

Young children are writing even before they are reading. Steven Yeh, CC BY-NC-NDWe typically think of writing as something that is out of reach for preschool children. After all, young children can’t write recognizable letters, and they can’t spell words.

Too Much Help With Homework Can Hinder Your Child's Learning Progress

Too Much Help With Homework Can Hinder Your Child's Learning ProgressParents are often guilty of helping their child a bit too much with their homework. Sometimes the homework battle can be made that little bit easier if you just tell your child what to do, or simply do it for them. At least it’s been done, you think.

Why Your Child’s Digital Footprints In School Matter

Why Your Child’s Digital Footprints In School MatterVast amounts of personal, behavioural and academic data about children are being collected, processed and used by schools, local authorities, and the government every year.

Understanding Your Child's Appetite Is Key To Preventing Obesity In Later Life

Understanding Your Child's Appetite Is Key To Preventing Obesity In Later LifeIf you want your toddler to be a healthy weight you might control portion sizes or the frequency of their meals and snacks. Of course, you could use both of these strategies, but a study we recently published found that one strategy is likely to be much more effective than the other depending on the traits in appetites of individual children.

Understanding Your Child’s Development

Understanding Your Child’s DevelopmentChildren come in all shapes and sizes, but not with a manual. Childhood achievements such as walking and talking are often celebrated signs that things are going well in a child’s life. However, once these achievements start being compared between children (at the park, on Facebook) they can become the cause of anxiety.

Should You Tell Your Child The Truth About Santa?

Should You Tell Your Child The Truth About Santa?While most people agree that it is bad practice to lie to children, most parents will make an exception when it comes to Santa Claus, the roly-poly, white-bearded philanthropist who visits at this time of year with a sleighload of gifts.

Why Young People With Life Threatening Conditions Also Need To Talk About Sex

Why Young People With Life Threatening Conditions Also Need To Talk About SexUntil the last decade, many young people with a life-limiting or life-threatening condition were not expected to live into adulthood. Now improvements in medicine and technology have changed all that for children with conditions such as duchenne muscular or spinal muscular atrophy which cause serious degeneration of muscles and nerves, or genetic disorders, such as cystic fibrosis.

Why Binge Watching Is To Blame For Kids Not Learning

Why Binge Watching Is To Blame For Kids Not LearningThe Collins English Dictionary unveiled a thoroughly modern concept as its word of the year for 2015: binge watching. It usually refers to consuming endless hours of movies or series on Netflix, one after the other. But binge watching is about the more fundamental issue of the world’s obsession with content consumption.

How American Schools Are Making Inequality Worse

How American Schools Are Making Inequality WorseThe influence of student poverty on student learning is indisputable. International studies demonstrate that in every country, children from disadvantaged backgrounds are much less likely to excel in school than their more fortunate peers.

Limiting Screen Time For Children Is Still Valid Parenting

Limiting Screen Time For Children Is Still Valid ParentingSixteen years after they published their formal recommendations discouraging any form of screen time before age two – and 14 years after making recommendations to limit screen time for older children to no more than two hours per day – they are now recanting those recommendations, calling them “outdated.”

Why Disciplining Kids Can Be So Tricky For Parents And Teachers

Why Disciplining Kids Can Be So Tricky For Parents And TeachersDisciplining works if it is not over the top and children understand the point of it. Highlights magazine’s annual State of Kids survey found that a majority of children appreciated being disciplined and believed that it helped them behave better.

Helping Our Kids (and Ourselves) Cope with Stress

 Helping Our Kids (and Ourselves) Cope with StressIn a study titled “Stress in America,” commissioned by the American Psychological Association, it was found that 30 percent of teens reported feeling overwhelmed, depressed, or sad as a result of stress. Almost 25 percent said they skipped meals because of stress. Almost one-third of teens say that stress often brings them to the verge of tears...

Why Too Much Screen Time Is Linked To Poorer Exam Results

Why Too Much Screen Time Is Linked To Poorer Exam ResultsBy the time they are teenagers, more than two-thirds of young people are not doing enough physical activity. Teenagers spend an average of eight hours every day sitting, with 11 to 15-year-olds watching nearly three hours of television.

When School Kills (And It Does)...Where’s Education?

When School Kills (It Does)...Where’s Education?A stagnant nation, despairing over the death of education . . . by the Great Cat, why? Have we not learned that school kills? The nation ought to be raving joyful for the death of its failed system of diplomas and degrees, raving delighted at the greening of this grand new culture, the Passionate Self-Educated.

Just What Actually Does Lead To Success In School?

Just What Actually Does Lead To Success In School?Recent research suggests success is partly driven by character skills. “Grit,” for example, or perseverance and passion for long-term goals, seems to be a better predictor of success than IQ in school and beyond.

How To Reduce Prejudice Among Groups Of Children At School

People and planet benefit from ‘green’ buildings People and planet benefit from ‘green’ buildings By Paul Brown  Research worldwide shows that environmentally-friendly buildings are much better for the health of the people who live and work in them, as well as for the Earth.  LONDON, 19 July, 2015 – Buildings that are designed to cut water and energy use and make as little impact on the surrounding environment as possible make life much better for their occupants too.  Studies into 69,000 buildings − homes, offices and factories − in 150 countries show that there are fewer illnesses among residents and workers, who report they are more comfortable and happier. Employers also find they are more productive.  Companies that opt for “green” buildings gain because workers stay longer in their jobs and have fewer absences, while recruitment is easier because new employees are attracted to environmentally-friendly buildings.  Dr. Joseph Allen and fellow environmental health researchers at the Harvard TH Chan School of Public Health in the US studied reports from across the world into the effect of green buildings on the health of the occupants. Fifteen studies are incorporated into the review, published in the journal Current Environmental Health Reports. Healthier effects  There are now 3.5 billion square feet (0.325 sq metres) of certified green building space available worldwide, and researchers in many different countries have been measuring the effects to see if these buildings are also “ healthier” buildings.  “Overall, the initial scientific evidence indicates better indoor environmental quality in green buildings versus non-green buildings, with direct benefits to human health for occupants of those buildings,” Allen says.  Occupants of green buildings are in general more satisfied with the indoor air quality, their workspace, building cleanliness, and maintenance in general, he adds.      The information is important for future building design because modern humans     spend 90% of their time indoors.  The research measured internal air quality, light, noise and the presence of chemicals that might adversely affect health, as well as asking the people who live and work in them about their experience.  The information is important for future building design because, as the researchers point out, modern humans spend 90% of their time indoors.  To gauge the effect on health and well-being, the scientists looked at many studies that had taken into account factors that influence health − including radiological, chemical, biological and physical aspects of indoor environmental hazards. Air quality  They looked at air quality, ventilation, filtration, lighting and acoustics, and studied the architecture, the quality of the canteens, access to natural light, and the building’s surroundings.  In residential buildings, there were fewer asthma and other respiratory illnesses among children, and across all green buildings there fewer cases of sick building syndrome symptoms, with better physical and mental health all round.  The one area that did not score better was acoustics, with several studies reporting lower satisfaction about noise levels.  Where hospitals had been constructed as green buildings, the researchers found a better quality of care for patients. In one study, there were 70% fewer blood stream infections, improved record keeping, and overall patient mortality fell by 11% − although the scientists were unable to pinpoint what factors produced such a startling improvement. – Climate News Network“Racist and anti-immigration views held by children,” warned a recent headline in The Guardian, reporting the results of a survey of nearly 6,000 British schoolchildren conducted by the charity Show Racism the Red Card.

What Makes Siblings From The Same Family So Different?

What Makes Siblings From The Same Family So Different?A colleague related the following story: while running errands with her 11- and 7-year-old daughters, a back seat battle began to rage. My colleague’s attempts to diffuse the situation only led to a shouting match about who was to blame for the skirmish. Finally the 11-year-old proclaimed to her sister, “You started it the day you were born and took away Mom’s love!”

Without Teacher Guidance, All The Tech In The World Will Be Quite Useless

Without Teacher Guidance, All The Tech In The World Will Be Quite UselessA couple of years ago, I taught an afterschool class at a Seattle nonprofit, the Technology Access Foundation (TAF), which provides STEM education (science, technology, engineering, math) to children from less-privileged backgrounds. My students were 8-11 years old, and it was the first time that I had taught elementary school students.

Early Intervention Lasts Even Years Later For Kids With Autism

Early Intervention Lasts Even Years Later For Kids With AutismA new study is the first in more than 20 years to look at long-term outcomes after early intensive autism intervention. Therapy began when children were 18 to 30 months old and involved therapists and parents working with children at home for more than 15 hours each week for two years.

Our Children Belong To The Universe, Not To Us

Our Children Belong To The Universe, Not To UsSome parents think it’s their job to make their children happy and to think for them – but this is not true. It’s not the parents’ job to think for their children or to make them happy. It’s impossible for one human being to think for another human being or to make another human being happy.

Are Parents Morally Obligated To Forbid Their Kids From Playing Football?

Are Parents Morally Obligated To Forbid Their Kids From Playing Football?In March 2015, San Francisco 49ers linebacker Chris Borland shocked football fans when he announced his decision to retire after just one season in the NFL. He explained that he was concerned over the long-term health hazards of football-related head trauma, and journalists and media personalities covered the story extensively.

How Young Students Create New Music And Why They Should

How Young Students Create New Music And Why They ShouldOn asking six-year-olds why water flows down a mountain, one of the responses I received was, “because then we don’t have to walk up the mountain to get it”. Children of this age often conceptualise the world’s physical attributes as being divined for the service of humans, or even just for them.

Why Children Should Pick Their Summer Reading

Why Children Should Pick Their Summer ReadingAt the end of the school year, districts often send stacks of books home with their students in the hopes of combating the “summer slide” in reading skills. This type of literacy loss hits low-income students particularly hard.

Why Not Make The Classroom About Learning And Not Testing?

Why Not Make The Classroom About Learning And Not Testing?We have been hearing stories about academic cheating: from students caught cheating on homework assignments as well as college entrance exams to teachers being caught in cheating scandals, such as the ones in Atlanta, Georgia, and Columbus, Ohio.

Why Do Poor Children Perform More Poorly Than Rich Ones?

Why Do Poor Children Perform More Poorly Than Rich Ones?Research has shown that children of poorer parents display substantially worse math and reading skills by the time they start grade school. Other studies have revealed that these wide gaps in pre-school skills persist into adulthood and help explain low educational attainment and lifetime earnings.

Kids Need To Like What They're Reading To Progress

Kids Need To Like What They're Reading To ProgressWhen we think of reading for our children, we are often misled into thinking that we need to focus on one type of book, such as picture books or novels in order to practise specific, reading-related skills. However, this narrowly-focused approach to reading instruction can often have undesirable benefits, such as turning kids off reading altogether.

Why Some Children Think They're More Special Than Everyone Else

Why Some Children Think They're More Special Than Everyone ElseNarcissistic children feel superior to others, believe they are entitled to privileges and crave admiration from others. When they don’t get the admiration they want, they may lash out aggressively. Why do some children become narcissistic, whereas others develop more modest views of themselves?

Gentle Parenting: Disciplining Children Without Rewards Or Punishment

Gentle Parenting: Disciplining Children Without Rewards Or PunishmentMany parents are moving towards “gentle parenting”, where they choose not to use rewards (sticker charts, lollies, chocolates, TV time as “bribes”) and punishments (taking away “privileges”, time-out, smacking) to encourage good behaviour, but encourage good behaviour for the sake of doing the right thing.

Are Doctors Over-Prescribing Antipsychotic Meds To Kids?

prescribing antipsychotic drugs to kidsAntipsychotic medications, such as Risperdal, Seroquel and Abilify, were developed to treat adults with major mental illnesses including schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. But in recent years, their use has extended to treat conditions such as autism and attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) in children and adolescents.

Play Isn't Just For Primary School Kids – It's Got An Image Problem

Play Isn't Just For Primary School Kids – It's Got An Image ProblemWhy does a four-year-old play when a 14-year-old creates? It’s often argued that play is central to the lives of young children. Yet the play of older children and adults is often seen as leisure, escapism or even deviance. But there should not be such a binary division between what is educational and what is frivolous.

Science Says: Eat With Your Kids

Science Says: Eat With Your KidsAs a family therapist, I often have the impulse to tell families to go home and have dinner together rather than spending an hour with me. And 20 years of research in North America, Europe and Australia back up my enthusiasm for family dinners. It turns out that sitting down for a nightly meal is great for the brain, the body and the spirit.

Children’s Sleep Quality Matters for Specific School Subjects

Children’s Sleep Quality Matters for Certain School SubjectsA new study finds a link between a good night’s sleep for school-aged kids and better performance in math and languages specifically—subjects that are powerful predictors of later learning and academic success.

Indigo Children: Master Teachers and Innate Healers

Indigo Children: Master Teachers and Innate Healers

Indigos process their emotions differently than non Indigos because they have high self-esteem and strong integrity. They can read you like an open book and quickly notice and neutralize any hidden agendas or attempts to manipulate them, however subtly.

Gender Stereotypes Make Teenagers More Accepting Of Violence

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Teenagers' opinions about when violence is acceptable or not can be influenced by the way they perceive men and women and the relationships between them. Simply telling young people that violence is wrong won’t stop it happening.

Your Problems Have Their Roots In Your Family Tree

Your Problems Have Their Roots In Your Family Tree

To examine a person’s difficulties is to enter into the psychological atmosphere of his or her family. We are marked by their characteristics, but also by their insane ideas, their negative feelings, their inhibited desires, and their destructive acts. All problems have their roots in the family tree.

How to Help a Child Grieve

How to Help a Child GrieveWhen a parent dies, the surviving adults are often at a loss as to how to help the grieving child. Based on his experience helping families who are in deep mourning, Dr. Cobb offers eight guidelines that can help adults gently guide children through their difficult grieving process.

How The Human Equality Condition Can Hold Some People Back

It’s Not Fair! How The Human Equality Condition Can Hold Some People Back

When you have more than one child, the importance of fairness seems to trump all other considerations, including self-interest. Give a child £1 and she will be happy. But if she finds out that her sibling got £1.50, she will be angry. Take the money away from both and she will be satisfied. Both have lost, but...

Now We Know Why It's So Hard To Deceive Children

Now We Know Why It's So Hard To Deceive Children

Daily interactions require bargaining, be it for food, money or even making plans. These situations inevitably lead to a conflict of interest as both parties seek to maximise their gains. To deal with them, we need to understand the other person’s intentions, beliefs and desires and then use that to inform our bargaining strategy.

What Works Best To Help Stop Bullying In Schools?

What Works Best To Help Stop Bullying In Schools?

Bullying in schools has been recognized as a serious and pervasive problem now for at least two decades. There is now also evidence that traditional forms of bullying in schools have decreased modestly over the last decade or so. This is very likely due to the increase in work to prevent bullying...

Cause and Effect of Mixed Messages: Depression in Children and Teens

Cause and Effect: Depression in Children and Teens

Children diagnosed with severe behavioral problems are blamed for their bad conduct. Yet parents have taught their children to act inappropriately. Not knowing the appropriate way to get praised, a child chooses negative-attention-getting methods...

It's Not Your Job as a Parent to Make Your Children Happy

It's Not Your Job as a Parent to Make Your Children Happy

Sitting with clients every day makes me realize that so many people are confused when it comes to the parent-child relationship and what their responsibility is when it comes to being a parent. Some parents think it’s their job to make their children happy and to think for them – but this is not true.

Sex & the Pregnant Dad

Sex & the Pregnant Dad

Sexual liberation has hardly made a dent in our understanding of sexuality during pregnancy. Most of us are unclear even about the basics: Is it really all right to be sexually active? How active? For how long? What about orgasms? Is it normal to feel sexual at some times and turned off at others?

Respecting Your Indigo Children and Respecting Yourself

Respecting Your Indigo Children and Respecting Yourself

Respect yourself, respect your children as other spiritual beings, and expect respect from them in turn. While watching other children speak to their parents disrespectfully, my children said to me, "Mommy, you would never let us get away with that!"

Did Socrates Die In Vain? Rescuing Education From School

Did Socrates Die In Vain? Rescuing Education From School

Are school children educated, socialized, or indoctrinated?  If there’s any wonder remaining in a student after being swamped with established knowledge throughout the day, she or he would have to pursue critical thinking in the evenings.

10 Steps to Raising a Happy Child

10 Steps to Raising a Happy Child

The complexity of today's parenting makes it important to develop some basic principles to guide parents and emphasize the foundational concepts that can help parents raise happy, achieving children. Here are the top ten steps to summarize the essential principles to assist parents with raising a happy child.

The Unspoken Atrocity of Standardized Education

The Unspoken Atrocity of Standardized Education

It’s a crisis that’s engulfing all children in the USA, because it starves them of the skills and capacities they’re going to need to transform society in the future. Given that similar forces are at work in the UK and other countries, it’s time that we all woke up to their calamitous effects and joined the movement to reverse them.

Guilting: How We Use This Common Tool in Parenting

Guilting: Do You Use This Common Tool in Parenting?

Most “training” of children depends on a willful, specific employment of anxiety inducement. This consciously perpetrated crime is “guilting,” an activity with which we are all involved throughout our lives. Guilting is built on fear but requires some language development for its inception...

Overdiagnosis or Misdiagnosis? There Is No Proof of ADHD Disorder

Overdiagnosis or Misdiagnosis? There Is No Proof of ADHD Disorder

I’ll be the first to agree that there is something different about the people typically diagnosed with ADHD. However, if the symptoms can be better explained by something else, and if that different explanation makes better outcomes possible, we should be certain to explore that as a possibility.

Working with a Sensitive Child's Energy Triggers

Working with a Sensitive Indigo Child's Energy TriggersSuccess with indigos includes figuring out how to partner with them, motivate them internally, and guide them toward making smart choices. Embracing your indigos' energy -- the upside, and challenges (triggers) -- helps you guide them to their unique greatness. Indigo kids are actually...

Healing The Birth Energy Flow Between Mother and Child

Healing The Birth Energy Flow Between Mother and Child

I invited my son to close his eyes and feel the river of energy running between us. “Can you feel it?” I asked him. “Yes!” was his enthusiastic response. I told him to sense into this connection whenever he missed home, because it was always...

Making Marriage Work With Children

In many marriages, women grow resentful of their husbands when they are expected to work, clean, care for the children, shop, cook, do laundry, and then make love. Mothers feel the burden of expectation from their spouses to juggle too many commitments...

Being A Stay-at-Home Mom in a World That Needs 24/7 Activists

Being A Stay-at-Home Mom in a World That Needs 24/7 Activists

Why am I a stay at home mom? Because it doesn’t make economic sense to have a child and pay someone else half, or two-thirds of, my salary to rear them while I work. I learned to love my small, domestic, mommy world. I learned that it was precious and finite.

Indigo Children: Is It in the DNA?

Indigo Children: Is It in the DNA?

Perhaps the Indigo children are the continuing expression of DNA, a new generation of humans. Perhaps they are born with the understanding that there is no separation between humanity and nature, and they will help usher in the educational, political, medical, and nutritional change...

Who Are Our Children and What Do They Need From Us?

Who Are Our Children and What Do They Need From Us?

Our old ideas of parenting usually involve trying to follow some behavior standard to be a "good parent." As you learn to trust yourself and be yourself spontaneously, you may find yourself violating many of your old rules about what a good parent does...

The New Kids Have a Secret

The New Kids Know the Future...For most of my adult life I’ve been asking questions of young people, “What do you want to be when you grow up? Do you see yourself ever becoming a parent?” The usual “I want to be a fireman [or a nurse] and have four kids” abruptly changed in the eighties. From then on, the answers I received came from a decided knowingness about things future...

Avoiding Parenting Pitfalls: Punishment, Accountability and Blame

Avoiding Parenting Pitfalls: Punishment, Accountability and Blame

Don't be hard on yourself or anyone else, but see that some of these games have been handed down for centuries like family heirlooms. Every one of them can be righted, and often the first major step is to recognize them and refuse to...

Communicating With Your Children: Indigo and Otherwise

Communicating With Your Children: Indigo and Otherwise

Children have changed, and that no old model, no matter how well it used to work, is going to work now. The '50s and '60s are now gone, and with them, an old culture of innocence has passed, as well as a world with half as many people. The Indigos are a product of human evolution, and they offer hope to all of us.

ADHD and The Edison Gene: A Problem or a Gift?

ADHD and The Edison Gene: A Problem or a Gift?

As Thomas Edison once said, "The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." Often Edison kids with ADHD — an umbrella term that includes attention deficit disorder (ADD) — quit trying. Typically, these kids are weary of not fitting in or are furious at feeling forced to do so. Self-protectively, they...

The Art of Nurturing... Not Smothering or Controlling

The Art of Nurturing... Not Smothering

Nurturing is not to be confused with smothering. Nurturing helps a child blossom, while smothering leads to behavioral problems. When a parent suffocates a child, the parent's objective is to control...

Co-Sharing: An Alternative to Day Care

Co-Sharing: An Alternative to Day Care

by Francesca Cappucci Fordyce. Parents, single or not, might consider co-sharing, i.e. families helping each other out. Co-sharing works in principle like the adage "it takes a village to raise a child" giving single mothers more time...

How To Help Kids Have a Good Future

How To Help Kids Have a Good Future

The best thing we can do is offer our children a good and protected childhood that simultaneously prepares them for the future they will live in. That means we have to change how we parent...

Want Mandated Paid Maternity Leave? Not in the USA or Liberia!

Certain rights in life are taken for granted. And in most countries, that includes maternity leave. But not in the USA, apparently. There are four countries in the world that do not offer government-mandated maternity leave, and the USA is one of them. That is an honor (NOT!) that we could do without.

Teens! How To Get Them To Adulthood without Parental Trauma

Teens! How To Get Them To Adulthood without Parental Trauma

Older cultures did not have the kinds of adolescent problems we are now experiencing. However, they did have to deal with typical adolescent dynamics. Even in ancient times and primitive cultures, parents wrestled with their adolescents’ moods, desires, and rebelliousness....

Toxins Linked to Autism & ADHD?

Link to Toxins in Autism & ADHD?

What does ADHD have to do with toxins? Well, there have been a number of theories and studies done on the effects of environmental toxins influencing the increase in ADHD in individuals, most notably artificial flavoring, preservatives and coloring...

How To Explain Your Illness to Your Teenager

How To Explain Your Illness to Your Teenager

A teenager facing a parent's illness may go off in all kinds of different directions, and that's okay — that's normal. A parent's grave illness brings demands that most teens don't even begin to know how to handle. As adolescents, they're...

How to Improve Communication with Your Children

How to Improve Communication with Your ChildrenMany parents think they have to protect their children from their (the parents’) confusion or so-called negative feelings. They think that being a good parent means maintaining a certain role — always being patient, loving, wise, and strong. In fact, children need honesty — they need to...

Kids on Bikes: Building Trust and Responsibility

Kids on Bikes: Building Trust and Responsibility

For parents, cycling with their children opens up a range of possibilities. A bicycle can bring out the kid in a grown-up — and give a kid a chance to show resilience and strength. When those things happen, everybody wins...

Whole Child Approach To Successful Parenting

Whole Child Approach To Successful Parenting

by Dr. Caron Goode. If we knew that our children were our planetary and societal salvation and held the answer to the questions of how to survive and thrive into the next century, how would we treat them? Collectively, the statistics regarding our children's state of consciousness are frightening.

Attention Parents! How to Raise a Loser

Attention Parents! How to Raise a Loser

by Jerral Hicks, Ed.D. If a parent wants to raise a child who is self-centered, uncaring, unable to take care of himself, and most likely to fail as an adult, just do the following...

Once Said, Never Unsaid: How To Talk to Teenagers

Once Said, Never Unsaid: How To Talk to Teenagers

by Tom Sturges. Here’s the problem: If you ever do become unhinged for a moment and say something unkind to your adolescent child, you can never take it back. Once said, it can never be unsaid. Although I am sure that there are more, here are five phrases that should never be spoken to an adolescent or teenager...

Cannabis Is An Herb and a Flower, Not a Drug

Psychospiritual exploration, soul-searching, communing with the self — these are normal and important components of the human experience. Adolescence is a prime time for this sort of exploration, and for questioning, testing limits, and defying both death and authority. The chances that your kids aren’t going to have to...

ADHD, Edison, and Yesterday's Child

The following text, "Yesterday's Child" by Janie Bowman, was originally published in The Missing Piece (Winter 1993), the newsletter of the Learning Disabilities Association of Washington State. "After only three months of formal education, Yesterday's child walked out of his school in a fit of rage. ...Today's child would be in long-term therapy for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder..."

Becoming Parents

For almost every couple, the thought of bringing a child into this world triggers a whole range of emotions. There can be a tremendous thrill of joy, and many couples are aware of this; but all too often this joy is covered by fear, doubt, or...

Elders: The Missing Link

Traditional societies transmitted to the young not only lineage and survival information but also the beliefs and expectations of the culture. This system perpetuated the health, longevity, and survival of the community and its values. To do this, it was critical to have...

Raising An Independent Child

You can provide your child with several essential ingredients for gaining independence. You must give your child love and respect. These expressions give her the sense of security that allows her to explore and take risks. You must show confidence...

Raising a Successful and Happy Child

What do kids really need to be successful and happy people? Parents, educators, and society as a whole couldn't ask a more important question. How you answer this question will determine how you will raise your child, and, ultimately, what kind of adult he will become... 

Children and Verbal Abuse

When a parent faces a stressful situation and their child needs attention, the urgencies of the moment can invite a hasty response. For this reason, it is helpful for parents to remind themselves of the need to treat their child with goodwill and respect, even when they feel stressed...

Birth Without Violence?

For the baby, the world is a terrifying place. It is the vastness, the enormity of the whole experience of being born which so terrifies this little traveler. Blindly, madly, we assume that the newborn baby feels nothing. In fact, he feels . . . everything. Everything, totally, completely, utterly, and with a sensitivity we can't even begin to imagine.

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Why Donald Trump Could Be History's Biggest Loser
by Robert Jennings, InnerSelf.com
Updated July 2, 20020 - This whole coronavirus pandemic is costing a fortune, maybe 2 or 3 or 4 fortunes, all of unknown size. Oh yeah, and, hundreds of thousands, maybe a million, of people will die…
Blue-Eyes vs Brown Eyes: How Racism is Taught
by Marie T. Russell, InnerSelf
In this 1992 Oprah Show episode, award-winning anti-racism activist and educator Jane Elliott taught the audience a tough lesson about racism by demonstrating just how easy it is to learn prejudice.
A Change Is Gonna Come...
by Marie T. Russell, InnerSelf
(May 30, 2020) As I watch the news on the events in Philadephia and other cities in the country, my heart aches for what is transpiring. I know that this is part of the greater change that is taking…
A Song Can Uplift the Heart and Soul
by Marie T. Russell, InnerSelf
I have several ways that I use to clear the darkness from my mind when I find it has crept in. One is gardening, or spending time in nature. The other is silence. Another way is reading. And one that…
Mascot for the Pandemic and Theme Song for Social Distancing and Isolation
by Marie T. Russell, InnerSelf
I came across a song recently and as I listened to the lyrics, I thought it would be a perfect song as a "theme song" for these times of social isolation. (Lyrics below the video.)