Being A Parent: The Role of a Lifetime

Being A Parent: The Role of a Lifetime
In the month of June, we celebrate Father’s Day, which provides me another opportunity to reflect on my own role as a parent. Of all my roles—daughter, sister, wife, friend, professor—the most profound for me has been parenthood. It has been my greatest gift...

How A Two Dad Family Raises Their Kids

How A Family With 2 Dads Raise Their KidsKentucky family court judge W. Mitchell Nance says he refuses to hold hearings on same-sex couples’ adoptions “as a matter of conscience.”

Does Spoon Feeding Make Babies Overweight?

Does Spoon Feeding Make Babies Overweight?Deciding when and how to introduce babies to solid foods can be overwhelming for parents. But aside from timing and amount, could how babies are introduced to solid foods also make a difference to their health?

When Our Children ‘Come Out’

 When Our Children ‘Come Out’ Of The ClosetI believe it is important for every parent to keep in their heart the possibility that their child might one day “come out” to them. Barry and I were totally surprised when our son came out to us when he was nineteen. We had no idea.

A Gift For Our Children’s Future: Maybe There's Another Way

A Gift For Our Children’s Future: Maybe There's Another WayI can remember like yesterday sitting at the dinner table as a child with my parents and siblings and feeling like the world was going to end. My parents would openly discuss current events. I thought to myself what will be in this world? How will I be safe? What can the future look like when these terrible things are happening all the time?

7 Things You Probably Don't Know About Midwives

7 Things You Probably Don't Know About MidwivesThe term “midwife” can conjure up images of a stern matron, or, in the more modern era, a back-rubbing, hand-holding, motivational cheerleader who can make or break the birthing experience. Midwives are so much more than those two stereotypes.

Why Some Dads Aren't Being The Dads They Want To Be

Why Dads Can't Be The Dads They Want To Be

In most families, mothers and fathers both work hard. Pew Research recently reported that moms and dads in the U.S. work essentially equal hours when paid work hours are combined with household chores and child care hours. The Conversation

How To Help Your Children Develop A Sense Of Humor

How To Help Your Children Develop A Sense Of HumorTry a pun or some sarcasm on a toddler and you’re likely to draw a blank stare. Babies can be even harder to impress – ignoring your best clown impressions while laughing at some completely random event.

How Parents Can Help Autistic Children Make Sense Of Their World

How Parents Can Help Autistic Children Make Sense Of Their WorldPersonal narrative is a common stumbling block for people with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Fortunately, parents of children with ASD can help them improve these skills, becoming better storytellers and helping them make sense of the world around them.

Why Kids Struggle To Safely Cross Busy Streets

Why Kids Struggle To Safely Cross Busy StreetsChildren under a certain age don’t have the perceptual judgment and motor skills to cross a busy road consistently without putting themselves in danger, report researchers.

10 Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You Knew

10 Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You KnewWe are often quick to make judgements on what we perceive to be happening when children behave in a way that draws attention – but when a young person with autism is struggling to cope with the world, the last thing they need is our criticism. The Conversation

Why Peers Motivate Us To Learn More Than Teachers

Why Peers Motivate Us To Learn More Than Teachers“Why do I have to learn this?” is a common question among young adults. New research suggests an answer from their peers has more weight than one from their teachers.

What Second Languages Should Children Be Learning?

What Second Languages Should Children Be Learning?There are 7,099 known languages in the world today. Choosing which of these to teach our children as a second language is an important decision

Separating The Edison-Gene Child from ADHD Behavior

Separating The Edison-Gene Child from ADHD BehaviorWhenever we react to a person’s behavior--particularly a child’s--we can do it in either of two primary ways. One addresses the individual’s personhood and ties it to his behavior, and the other addresses his personhood and disconnects it from his behavior. This is a critical distinction.

Children Understand Far More About Other Minds

Children Understand Far More About Other MindsUntil a few decades ago, scholars believed that young children know very little, if anything, about what others are thinking.

The Children Of The Wind: Intelligence Without Humility

The Children Of The Wind: Intelligence Without HumilityThis Greek tale is concerned with one of the great mysteries of the family: Where do our gifts and talents come from? It suggests that the misuse of inherited gifts can end in disaster, and that it is up to us to use our talents to serve rather than control life. 

How To Teach Sex Education To Young Offenders

How To Teach Sex Education To Young OffendersGiven the lack of quality sex and relationship education in British schools, and that sexual and reproductive health has traditionally been seen as the domain of females

Too Much TV May Delay Kindergarten Readiness

Too Much TV May Delay Kindergarten ReadinessWatching television for more than a couple of hours a day is linked to lower school readiness skills in kindergartners, particularly among children from low-income families.

Active Lessons Can Boost Children's Learning And Health

Active Lessons Can Boost Children's Learning And HealthThe natural order of the classroom has always been for pupils to sit. Whether this involves, talking, discussing, working in groups, or listening to the teacher, most of the time this is all done from the comfort of a chair. The Conversation

How To Make Your Baby Sleep Better

How To Make Your Baby Sleep BetterA friend of mine recently gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, but within months she was at the end of her tether with sleep deprivation.

How Teachers See Parents Can Influence Kids

How Teachers See Parents Can Influence KidsTeacher ratings of parental involvement early in a child’s academic career can accurately predict the child’s academic and social success, new research shows.

How Music Benefits Children On Many Levels

How Music Benefits Children On Many LevelsPopular ideas, such as the “Mozart effect” – the idea that listening to classical music improves intelligence – has encouraged the belief that “music makes you smarter”.

How To Be The Grown-Up In The Room While Raising Kids

How To Be The Grown-Up In The Room While Raising KidsIn my book Parenting Without Power Struggles, I described three ways that parents can engage with their children: being confidently and calmly in charge, negotiating for power, or fighting their child for control.

Why Children Find Poo So Hilarious

toliet training 2 2A boy meets a man carrying a load of cow manure and asks him what he is going to do with it all. The man tells the little boy, “I’m taking it home to put on my strawberries”.

How Stereotypes Can Hold Boys Back In School

How Stereotypes Can Hold Boys Back In SchoolBy age six, girls are less likely than boys to view their own gender as brilliant and express interest in activities described as for “really, really smart” children, according to new research published in Science.

Should Teens Sleep In On School Days?

Should Teens Sleep In On School Days?Delaying school start times could help teenagers sleep better, say experts, and could give them a better chance at success later.

Pediatricians Offer 4 Tips To Teach Kindness To Children

Pediatricians Offer 4 Tips To Teach Kindness To ChildrenChildren are listening. During the election, messages of hate, fear and intolerance were propagated across different media and into communities.

From Utopia to Materialism to Becoming Citizens of the World

From Utopia to Materialism to Becoming Citizens of the WorldOur youth, to whom we will entrust the twenty-first century, look upon neither their future nor their world with bright hope. This is why I feel compelled to discuss the problems of our youth, particularly in the advanced industrialized nations...

5 Ways To Make Your Child A Creative Genius

5 Ways To Make Your Child A Creative GeniusCongratulations! Your child is already a creative genius by virtue of being human. Humans are far more creative than any other species.

How To Calculate The Economic Impact Of Grief

How To Calculate The Economic Impact Of GriefThe death of a child is one of the most traumatic experiences that a parent can experience. Those who do experience it can struggle to recover.

Do Music Lessons Make Children Any Smarter?

Can playing the violin really make a child smarter?Music is one of the most beautiful and powerful creations of humankind, and its powers are well known – making us happy and sad or relaxed and excited.

Why Stories Matter With Children Learning

Why Stories Matter With Children LearningEver wondered why boys and girls choose particular toys, particular colors and particular stories? Why is it that girls want to dress in pink and to be princesses, or boys want to be Darth Vader, warriors and space adventurers?

Kids Can Catch Bias Through Non-verbal Cues

Kids Can Catch Bias Through Non-verbal CuesPreschool-aged children can learn bias through nonverbal signals displayed by adults, such as a condescending tone of voice or a disapproving look, new research suggests.

Are You Trying to Live Vicariously Through Your Children?

Are You Trying to Live Vicariously Through Your Children?Though we all want our children to do well, to have what they want, to achieve, we need to be aware that what they want may be different to what we want for them. Many people feel unhappy and unfulfilled partly because they've done what was expected of them to please their parents...

Are Single-sex Schools Good For Your Child?

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Gender-segregated education is making a comeback. Single-sex classrooms, long discouraged under Title IX, the federal law that prohibits gender discrimination in education, have been gaining prominence in recent years, especially in urban charter schools.

Tips for Better Communication in Families

Communication Tips for FamiliesFamily communication is possible, but love must be the lubricant. Talking about things like love, kindness, and generosity, and not "problems", might be the route to family change.

7 Cheap Moisturizers Can Prevent Eczema In Babies

7 Cheap Moisturizers Can Prevent Eczema In BabiesIt may be possible to prevent babies from getting eczema—a costly, inflammatory skin disorder—just by applying something as inexpensive as petroleum jelly every day for the first six months of life.

How Neuroparenting Is Sapping The Joy Out Of Family Life

How Neuroparenting Is Sapping The Joy Out Of Family LifeThe concept of “neuroparenting” is making great waves among parents at the moment, with claims that neuroscience and new knowledge about brain development can help us to know “once and for all” how children ought to be raised.

What Is Parental Alienation And Why It Matters

What Is Parental Alienation And Why It MattersParental alienation – defined as when one parent’s relationship with his or her child is harmed by the other parent – can have devastating consequences.

Why Toddlers With Autism Might Not Look You In The Eye

Why Toddlers With Autism Might Not Look You In The EyeNew eye-tracking measures show that young children with autism do not avoid eye contact on purpose. Instead, they miss the significance of social information that is in others’ eyes.

Why Young Children Are Terrible At Hiding

Why Young Children Are Terrible At HidingYoung children across the globe enjoy playing games of hide and seek. There’s something highly exciting for children about escaping someone else’s glance and making oneself “invisible.”

How Parents Shape The Advantages Of Being First-born

How Parents Shape The Advantages Of Being First-bornThe title of this article might trigger self-satisfied smiles among first-borns, and some concerns among the rest of us.

The Way of the Expansive Spirit for Young Athletes

The Way of the Expansive Spirit for Young AthletesI love how Eastern thought and Native American tradition emphasize the essential goodness in all children. The Tao calls this essential goodness the way of the expansive spirit. Our work is to guide our kids to discover this goodness within themselves...

Why Kids In Kindergarten Need Lessons In Self-control

Why Kids In Kindergarten Need Lessons In Self-controlAs they enter kindergarten, many children are still learning to control their behavior and may need educational support to develop that critical skill, a new study suggests.

How Should We Teach Our Kids To Use Digital Media?

How Should We Teach Our Kids To Use Digital Media?Any time a new technology is introduced, it disrupts values, routines and behaviors. This goes back well before the printing press replaced oral histories or the telephone replaced face-to-face conversations, but is evident today in our regular habits of checking our smartphones for notifications.

What Is The Proper Way To Praise Your Child?

What Is The Proper Way To Praise Your Child?How do you react when you hear expressions like “well done”, “another A grade”, “aren’t you clever” and “great work”?

Should You Let Your Gifted Child Skip A Grade?

Grade-skippers have been found to do well academically. MJGDSLibrary, CC BY-NC-NDThe American school system puts students in grades based on age. However, for a large number of students, being with same-age peers in the classroom does not work.

Why Baby Talk Is Good For Your Baby

baby talkPeople often tell new parents to avoid sing-song “baby talk” with their new addition to the family because it will slow the child’s language development.

Older Kids Know Lying Isn’t Always 100% Bad

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Forgiving Your Children in Advance

Forgiving Your Children in AdvanceIf fear of punishment is a motivation that keeps your daughter from calling you when she needs you the most, you may need to examine your emergency procedures. The chance of real harm befalling her, out there alone in the world, simply because she is afraid to tell you...

What To Ignore To Understand Your Child’s Test Scores

What To Ignore To Understand Your Child’s Test ScoresNow that the first month of school is over, parents can get ready for the next milestone of the school year – they will soon get reports of the state tests their children took last year.

What's Behind America's Insistence On Instilling Grit In Kids?

What's Behind America's Insistence On Instilling Grit In Kids?In the same way that actual grit accumulates in the cracks and crevices of the landscape, our cultural insistence on possessing grit has gradually come to the forefront of child-rearing and education reform.

How Kids Can Benefit From Boredom

How Kids Can Benefit From BoredomFrom books, arts and sports classes to iPads and television, many parents do everything in their power to entertain and educate their children. But what would happen if children were just left to be bored from time to time? How would it affect their development?

How to Raise an Environmentalist

How to Raise an EnvironmentalistWe read it in the news every day. From climate change to overfishing to deforestation, it seems that we are on the brink of a natural disaster on an epic scale. If we cannot do something to reverse these trends, we will surely make our planet uninhabitable.

Here's How To Raise A Child To Be Sympathetic

Here's How To Raise A Child To Be SympatheticParents and teachers might often wonder how to teach children caring toward others – more so when the world feels full of disagreement, conflict, and aggression.

Why Teens Need To Start School Later

Why Teens Need To Start School LaterMillions of high schoolers are having to wake up early as they start another academic year. It is not uncommon to hear comments from parents such as, “I have a battle every morning to get my teenager out of bed and off to school. It’s a hard way to start every day.”

Sports Parent Trap: The Lure of Reaching the Pros

Sports Parent Trap: The Lure of Reaching the ProsMany young athletes become mentally, emotionally, and spiritually fried by the constant competitive pressure, which includes the overwhelming obsession to win, to gain external recognition, to attain perfection, to fulfill unrealistic expectations, and to measure self-worth solely by results and out­comes.

Why Are Police Inside Public Schools?

African-American boys are arrested at school more often than other students. North Charleston, CC BY-SAChildren across the U.S. have now returned to school. Many of these children are going to schools with sworn police officers patrolling the hallways. These officers, usually called school resource officers, are placed in schools across the country to help maintain school safety.

Why Some Children Aren't Physically Ready To Start School

Why Some Children Aren't Physically Ready To Start SchoolThe age at which children start school varies across the world. In Sweden, Denmark and Finland formal education starts at age seven, while in the UK, children often start as young as four.

Why Is It So Hard To Ignore A Baby's Cry?

Why Is It So Hard To Ignore A Baby's Cry?Have you ever been sat on a flight with a crying baby in your vicinity, wondering more and more with each successive wail how much longer you can stand the sound?

Why Environment And Education Still Matter For Intelligence

Why Environment And Education Still Matter For IntelligenceRecent research has suggested that academic performance, reading ability and IQ have a genetic basis. This reinforces the popular notion that intelligence and related cognitive capacities are somehow “in our genes”.

How To Help Kids Recover From Disasters

How To Help Kids Recover From DisastersLouisiana’s historic floods have killed at least eight people. As many as 20,000 others have been rescued and thousands have been forced into shelters.

Why We Should Talk To Our Children About Race

Why We Should Talk To Our Children About RaceIt’s a situation that many parents dread. Encountering a black man in the street for the first time, a white child might loudly ask something like: “Mummy, why does that man have dirty skin?”

How Do We Teach A Child To Behave?

punishing behaviorIt’s a universal question: how do we teach a child to behave? Well-known and widely used strategies include the use of positive reward stickers or gold stars, or negative time-outs or detentions.

How Old Is Too Old For A Safe Pregnancy?

How Old Is Too Old For A Safe Pregnancy?This year (2016), an Australian woman delivered a baby at the age of 62 after having in vitro fertilisation (IVF) abroad.

Does Sex On TV Actually Impact Teens?

Does Sex On TV Actually Impact Teens?Few people would doubt that sex is ubiquitous in media – whether movies, television, music or books – and that teens today have unprecedented access to all of it. It’s often taken for granted that this easy access to “sexy media” has an influence on teenage sexuality.

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