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Nothing ever exists entirely alone; everything is in relation to everything else.”  -- BUDDHA

As we come to a greater understanding on how the Universe works and our role in it, we begin to see patterns of how everything fits together like a puzzle and how the Universe is helping us. We come to realize that everything serves as a means to an end, and as a vehicle to show us what we have falsely believed so that we may release it and come to a greater understanding that we are not the victim of our circumstances.

We are the creators of our circumstances via our will, attitude, and our intention. Once we understand this, we can discover our true gifts and use them to help the world as well as live in full joy. The Universe will open many doors for us to do that, which will strengthen our faith.

Nothing is random in the Universe. You can’t have some things that have meaning while others do not. That would be like someone being partially pregnant. “Random” things do happen to us because we are part of a whole and we are subject to the actions of others, but whatever action the other person, group, or governing authority took was not random because they chose that action. And we choose how we want to react to their action, which is true power.

We Are Much More Than The Role We Play

Now we begin to understand that we are much more than the role we play and we are here for a greater purpose of learning, remembrance, and helping others and the world. Our identity is not what we do, nor how we are seen by others. We are not the high-powered businessman or the esteemed doctor, not the star athlete, not the well-known researcher or theologian, not the member of a prominent family or the member of a rejected or oppressed class of society, not the middle child or the forgotten grandmother. These are just roles that serve as vehicles used by the Universe to facilitate our learning and remembrance.

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Just as if we are an actor in a play, we play the role to the best of our ability, but we can do this in full awareness that it is a role. This makes it fun and makes it so that we don’t fall into fear or judgment.

Unfortunately, most people, especially if they are in careers which are highly praised by the world, get caught up in their roles and think this is their true identity. They love the adulation or notoriety, and they don’t want to give this up. This often stems from self-worth issues. But it’s the ego that loves this while our higher selves know this is false.

Our task is to allow our higher self to come more to the forefront, as the vast majority of people experience life only through an ego lens, which can be tiring and scary. A Chinese proverb says, “Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” We must take our power back from these false identities through which we have viewed ourselves.

The Universe Is Constantly Talking To Us And Giving Us Hints

The vehicles that the Universe uses to help us become more self-aware are really everything in life, not just our roles. They are our dreams, the book that happened to be left on the chair at the doctor’s office, how our heart sings when we think about our loved ones, how we feel when our supervisor yells at us without a good reason, the deep sadness when someone passes, the awe of the Grand Canyon or a beautiful cloud formation, the hawk that flies right above our windshield, and especially our direct relationships with ourselves, with others, and with the organizations and communities of which we are a part.

The Universe is constantly talking to us and giving us hints if we will just pay attention. It sets us up, but always in a loving way that’s for our highest good. It creates the perfect school for us to learn and remember.

Some vehicles serve us both individually and collectively. Depending on how it’s used, a vehicle can take us away from recognition of our unity instead of towards it.

Sports is a good example of this. Sports is huge in our culture and has a bipolar effect on society. I was a player, a coach of many recreational teams, and a too-attached parent involved with numerous travel teams. I needed my child to do well for my feelings of self-worth. As a fan of both college and pro sports teams, I hated the competing fan base.

Unity vs. Divisiveness; Oneness vs. Separation

The benefits of sports are numerous, especially the unitive aspect of bonding on a team. However, the positive effects of what sports are meant to do for us are overshadowed by what they have become. Divisiveness and an “us versus them” mentality pervade rabid fan bases, and even owners and university administrators. Some coaches cheat or abuse their athletes to win at all costs. Sports is a business where profitability and power rule, and integrity is often tossed out the door.

Sports no longer provides a proper model of competitiveness and playing just for sheer joy without regard for the results. We have become so distorted in our obsession around sports and celebrities that we pay someone who can throw a football, dribble a basketball, or act in a movie millions of dollars and put them on a pedestal, giving them our power and expecting them to have great wisdom when they are simply human like everyone else.

Being competitive served us well when we were cavemen and had to worry about where our next meal was coming from, but it doesn’t serve us well in terms of understanding who we are as one humanity. I used to be highly competitive in sports, card games, and board games. I was proud of my abilities.

Now I am happy if others win so that they can feel good about themselves, and I am grateful for this change in myself. Seeing from a unity perspective means we build each other up, not tear each other down and try to beat the hell out of the competition.

Looking At What The Universe Is Trying To Show Us

I have recognized many significant vehicles for healing in my life, especially in my close relationships and in the business world where I have had a wide amount of experience. I am a member of an entrepreneurial Jewish family that has founded and built a number of businesses from a large office supply wholesaler to a mid-sized family printing business, which I currently work for. I have also either worked for or been involved with many Fortune 100 corporations, and I have had early-stage entry and investment into two startups which failed, and a third one I cofounded, HUSO sound therapy, which has been successful.

HUSO was one of the major vehicles in my life as it made me face my belief that tied money to self-worth, which was inherited from society and from my family over many generations. It is a belief that a majority of people in the western world hold. HUSO is both a software and hardware business that required a significant amount of capital, and it was initially funded solely with personal resources. As our personal funds dwindled and we had to take out an additional mortgage to fund a line of credit, this created a lot of fear in me. The only way through the fear was to heal the false beliefs that were propping it up.

Unfortunately, many of us resist our vehicles and we are unwilling to look at what the Universe is trying to show us. We can’t move to the next learning opportunity until we pass the one we are on. Everyone knows of others who continually encounter the same difficult circumstances or who repeat the same mistakes in business or in their personal relationships.

For instance, a person might have moved from company to company and had three managers in a row that were condescending. Or they have had repeated personal relationships with someone who was emotionally shut down or condescending. Again, this is not random. This is the Universe bringing up a self-worth issue.

Many won’t take responsibility and they try to blame something outside of themselves like their job, manager, or the person they are in the relationship with, but it’s never about the other person and what they say or do. The person with whom we are angry is just giving us a mirror to help us see what we believe is lacking within us or what we don’t like about ourselves. They are giving us a gift, but often it doesn’t feel that way and resistance arises in us.

Nothing Exists On Its Own

Science has shown that the Universe is relational. Nothing exists on its own but exists only in relationship to something else. So our vehicles for growth are all relational. We are in a relationship with every individual in our life, even those we encounter only briefly.

We are in a type of relationship with our workplaces and communities. We are in relationship to Earth and nature. We are in a relationship with ourselves, and we can only be aware of this by looking inside. And we are in a relationship with whatever we define as a higher power.

Quantum physicist David Bohm said, “The essential feature in quantum interconnectedness is that the whole universe is enfolded in everything, and that each thing is enfolded in the whole.” As we are in our individual relationships, we are also in relationship to the whole. If we don’t recognize the interconnectedness of everything, fear will result.


Nothing exists on its own. Everything has meaning only in relation to something else. Because of this, everything serves as a vehicle to help us recognize we are not our roles and we are here to learn and remember.


What do you recognize as the most significant vehicle in your life and what has it taught you? What is the current vehicle in your life that is causing you the most angst, and what beliefs is it triggering that you are resisting?

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A Book on Fear

A Book On Fear: Feeling Safe In A Challenging World
by Lawrence Doochin

A Book On Fear: Feeling Safe In A Challenging World by Lawrence DoochinEven if everyone around us is in fear, this doesn't have to be our personal experience. We are meant to live in joy, not in fear. By taking us on a treetop journey through quantum physics, psychology, philosophy, spirituality, and more, A Book On Fear gives us tools and awareness to see where our fear comes from. When we see how our belief systems were created, how they limit us, and what we have become attached to that creates fear, we will come to know ourselves at a deeper level. Then we can make different choices to transform our fears. The end of each chapter includes a suggested simple exercise that can be done quickly but that will shift the reader into an immediate higher state of awareness about that chapter’s topic.

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Lawrence DoochinLawrence Doochin is an author, entrepreneur, and devoted husband and father. A survivor of harrowing childhood sexual abuse, he traveled a long journey of emotional and spiritual healing and developed an in-depth understanding of how our beliefs create our reality. In the business world, he has worked for, or been associated with, enterprises from small startups to multinational corporations. He is the cofounder of HUSO sound therapy, which delivers powerful healing benefits to individual and professionals worldwide. In everything Lawrence does, he strives to serve a higher good.

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