InnerSelf Newsletter: September 18th, 2016

InnerSelf Newsletter: September 18th, 2016 

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The articles this week look at perfectionism both in our own selves and in our children. We ask ourselves some hard questions: "Are You Struggling for a "Perfect Life"?" and "Do You Suffer from Unrealistic Expectations of Perfectionism and Compulsive Comparison?" Jerry Lynch describes the "Sports Parent Trap" in which parents push their child to achieve (or overachieve) in sports and thus disconnect their child from the joy of simply playing the game.

A lot of these attitudes and behaviors come from thinking we're not enough, we don't have enough, and that our life is not enough. Jude Bijou shares "How To Change Your "Not Enough" Thinking" while Noelle Sterne leads the way in "Redefining Accomplishment and Discovering the True Measure of Success".

We also reflect on the energies of these times in "Wise Emotion: A Sensitive and Emotional Eclipse in Pisces" as well as in "What Would Sanity Do About The Upcoming Election?".

And of course we have numerous additional articles dealing with health, well-being, and much much more. Scroll down below for the list and links.

Wishing you enjoyable insightful reading, and of course a wonder-full, joy-full, and loving week.

Marie T. Russell
"New Attitudes...New Possibilities"

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Wise Emotion: A Sensitive and Emotional Eclipse in Pisces

Written by Sarah Varcas

Wise Emotion: A Sensitive and Emotional Eclipse in Pisces

When the Moon is eclipsed we may lose touch with our inner compass. When eclipsed in Pisces, even more so! If we find ourselves swayed by ideas, people or situations that seem out of character it’s worth taking a step back before jumping on board.

Read article here: Wise Emotion: A Sensitive and Emotional Eclipse in Pisces

What Would Sanity Do About The Upcoming Election?

Written by Steve Bhaerman

What Would Sanity Do about the Upcoming Election?

"America's two political parties spent $4 billion on the last election and it worked -- the American people were soundly defeated." (Swami Beyondananda)  We've been hearing for years the contextual question, "What would Jesus do?" So I offer my own question:  What would sanity do?

Read article here: What Would Sanity Do About The Upcoming Election?

How To Change Your "Not Enough" Thinking

Written by Jude Bijou, M.A., M.F.T. 

How To Change Your "Not Enough" Thinking

Do you feel like you're never enough? That there's never enough time? Money? Friends? Great opportunities? Recognition?  Do you believe if you had or did something else -- got married, earned more, looked more beautiful, danced better, or had more time -- you'd finally relax and feel okay? Do you believe more is better? Are you rarely satisfied?

Read article here: How To Change Your "Not Enough" Thinking

Are You Struggling for a "Perfect Life"?

Written by Roger Housden

Are You Struggling for a "Perfect Life"?

One day Ajahn Chah held up a beautiful Chinese teacup. “To me this cup is already broken. Because I know its fate, I can enjoy it fully here and now. And when it’s gone, it’s gone.” When we understand the truth of uncertainty and relax, we become free.

Read article here: Are You Struggling for a "Perfect Life"?

Do You Suffer from Unrealistic Expectations of Perfectionism and Compulsive Comparison?

Written by Jayne Morris

Do You Suffer from Unrealistic Expectations of Perfectionism and Compulsive Comparison?

Perfectionism can prevent us from acknowledging the best in ourselves because our attention becomes focused on overly obsessing with the worst in ourselves. As a result perfectionists often beat themselves up with negative self-talk and self-defeating behaviour.

Read article here: Do You Suffer from Unrealistic Expectations of Perfectionism and Compulsive Comparison?

Sports Parent Trap: The Lure of Reaching the Pros

Written by Jerry Lynch.

Sports Parent Trap: The Lure of Reaching the Pros

Many young athletes become mentally, emotionally, and spiritually fried by the constant competitive pressure, which includes the overwhelming obsession to win, to gain external recognition, to attain perfection, to fulfill unrealistic expectations, and to measure self-worth solely by results and out­comes.

Read article here: Sports Parent Trap: The Lure of Reaching the Pros

Redefining Accomplishment and Discovering the True Measure of Success

Written by Noelle Sterne, Ph.D.

Redefining Accomplisment and Discovering the True Measure of Success

Business writer and journalist Srully Blotnick wrote of a 20-year study of men who became millionaires. The single thing they all had in common was not an overriding desire to make money or gain international reputation, but an overriding love of and determination to do what they loved doing...

Read article here: Redefining Accomplishment and Discovering the True Measure of Success

Astrological Journal for the Week

Pam YounghansWritten by Pam Younghans

This weekly column (updated every Sunday afternoon) is based on planetary influences, and offers perspectives and insights to assist you in making the best use of current energies... Read more

It is also highly beneficial to reread the past week's astrological journal as it gives a hindsight view of the events that took place and may provide many "ah-ha" insights. 


* 5 Ways To Help Your Child If They Are Being Bullied At School

* 8 Easy Steps To Stop Procrastinating

* A Sober Crowd Makes Drinking Seem More Risky

* Are Black Americans More Resilient To Stress Than Whites?

* Are Most People Really Okay With Interracial Marriage?

* Can Vitamins Supplement A Poor Diet?

* DNA Sheds Light On How Humans First Reached America

* Does The Climate Crisis Call For Fewer Children?

* Driverless Uber Cars Are Coming To Disrupt The Sharing Economy

* Experts Say Energy Investment Is In A Spectacular Shift

* Growing Veggies, Not Grass, Will Cut Greenhouse Gases

* How Homeschooling Is Changing In America

* How To Win Friends And Influence People Using Robots

* Narrowing In On The Theory Of Aging

* Not Even The Poorest Person On Earth Lacks The Means To Be Generous

* Older Adults With Living Parents More Likely To Feel Blue

* Overcoming The Emotional Toll of Freelancing

* Over-cooling And Heating Buildings In US Emits As Much Carbon As Four Million Cars

* Renewable Power Is Starting To Establish An Economic Lead

* Science Achievement Gaps Start Early In Kindergarten

* The Key To Sticking With An Exercise Program

* The Rise And Fall Of Reality TV Star American Ginseng

* The Twilight Of The Mom And Pop Motel

* There Is More Than One Kind Of Alzheimer’s Disease

* This Federal Regulation Saves Millions of Lives

* Use Your Smartphone, Not A Needle, To Check For Anemia

* We, the Plutocrats vs We, the People

* We're Actually More Antisocial In A Shared Office Space

* Weaker Unions Have Also Cut Nonunion Paychecks?

* What Do The Clinton Charities Actually Do?

* What Exactly Is The Scientific Method And How Does It Work?

What Is The Quality Of Seafood From China?

* What We Have In Common With Corals

* Whose Job Is It To Protect The Arctic?

* Why A World With Inequality Everywhere Is An Economic Threat

* Why Corporate Tax Deserters Shouldn’t Get The Benefits Of Being American

* Why It's Good News That King Coal Is Dethroned In The US

* Why The Clumsiness, Food Cravings, And Moodiness When You're Pregnant?

* Why Utilities Have Little Incentive To Plug Leaking Natural Gas

* Why We Shouldn't Make Health And Well-Being A Moral Issue

* Why You Should Dispense With Antibacterial Soaps

* Why Your Body Makeover Training Program Could Be A Waste Of Time

* Why Youth Worldwide Fear A Lack Of Economic Opportunities

* Will Hispanic Voters Swing US Presidential Election?

* Will Market Forces Overcome Lower Crop Yields From Climate Change?

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