Barry Vissell

Joyce & Barry VissellJoyce & Barry Vissell, a nurse/therapist and psychiatrist couple since 1964, are counselors near Santa Cruz, CA. They are widely regarded as among the world's top experts on conscious relationship and personal growth. They are the authors of The Shared Heart, Models of Love, Risk To Be Healed, The Heart’s Wisdom, Meant To Be, and A Mother’s Final Gift.

Call Toll-Free 1-800-766-0629 (locally 831-684-2299) or write to the Shared Heart Foundation, P.O. Box 2140, Aptos, CA 95001, for further information on counseling sessions by phone or in person, their books, recordings or their schedule of talks and workshops. Visit their web site at for their free monthly e-heartletter, their updated schedule, and inspiring past articles on many topics about relationship and living from the heart.

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9 Tips: Emotional-Spiritual Quarantine Survival Guide Performance
How I Almost Got Arrested Because Of Faulty Perceptions Creating Realities
Accepting Ourselves Completely, Inner Monster and All Forgiveness & Acceptance
Where Has The Spark Gone? The Real Reason For Strained Sexual Relationships Couples
The Art of Letting Go Is Active, Not Passive Life Changes
The Random Music Shuffle: Confirming the Essential Goodness of Life Self-Help
Saints and Soulmates: Francis and Clare of Assisi Couples
Give Your Gifts, Even Imperfectly Perfectionism
Working Hard or Workaholism? Are You A Work Addict? Performance
The 3 Stages of Life: Moving From Complete Dependence to Conscious Dependence Forgiveness & Acceptance
To Really Appreciate a Woman... Couples
Can We Ever Be ‘Too Much’? Forgiveness & Acceptance
The Two Important Components of a Successful Relationship Yourself
Separation as a Powerful Relationship Tool Couples
The Gifts of Helplessness and Vulnerability Perfectionism
The Divine Setup: Are You Attached to Your Perception? Forgiveness & Acceptance
4 Ways To Be More Vulnerable With A Woman Couples
My Experiment in Forced Simplicity Inspiration
Can Our Light be Totally Eclipsed? Fear and Worry
The 3 Parts of Relationship Commitment Couples
7 Primary Ingredients For A REALationship Couples
A Closer Look at Unworthiness Perfectionism
Without a Paddle: The Importance of Listening to Inner Promptings Intuitive Awareness
To Attain Wholeness, We Must Feel ALL Our Feelings Self-Help
Facing My Worst Fear and My Greatest Vulnerability Death and Dying
The Joy and The Courage to Ask for Help Performance
The Cosmic Mass: Risking to Follow Inner Promptings Intuitive Awareness
To Really Trust a Woman... Couples
Only Two Spiritual Paths: What A Great Journey It Is! Inspiration
‘I’m Not Good Enough’ Meets ‘I Have to Take Care of Everyone’ Couples
Poggio Bustone: Knowing We are Forgiven Forgiveness & Acceptance
Against All Odds … Hanging on to Hope Creating Realities
My Encounter with Darth Vader: Being God’s Fool Leisure & Creativity
Love, Gratitude, or Trust: Which Is More Important? Fear and Worry
How We Internalize Blame and Feelings of Unworthiness Yourself
My Love of Solitude and My Fear of Aging Diseases & Conditions
My Mother’s Passing: The Last Visit and Last Request Family
Are You Really Available for Relationship? Relationships
Is It Closeness … or Codependence? Couples
Making Love to a Woman: The Joy of Giving Pleasure Sexuality
Lying or Being Emotionally Unavailable? Everybody Loses Counseling
International Dependence Day: A New Holiday Yourself
Loving Your Inner Child Leads To True Happiness Yourself
Show Affection in Public Too: It's Not Taboo Couples
Dear Men: How To Understand Women Couples
Miracle on the Mountain: The Call to Service Inspiration
Two Kinds of Aloneness Relationships
The Myth of the Low Maintenance Relationship Couples
I Choose You! Choosing Your Relationship Couples
About Relationships and the Golden Rule (or better yet, the Platinum Rule) Relationships
Go With the Flow, But Keep Paddling Performance
Vulnerability: The Only Real Hope Couples
Lack or Abundance? Empowering Your Vision Prosperity & Finance

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