Do Not Confuse Liking and Loving: Love Overcomes Hate

Do Not Confuse Liking and Loving: Love Overcomes Hate

In our society we have confused liking with loving. We are taught when we really, really like something, we say we love it. Which means if I don’t like something, then there’s no way I can love it. This use of language distorts and limits our view, trapping us in the fallacy of love being equated to pleasure.

Mindful People Don’t Seem To Cope With Stress Better... But

Mindful People Don’t Seem To Cope With Stress Better... But

Mindfulness may not help people from “sweating the small stuff,” according to new research. The findings, which measured the cardiovascular responses of 1,001 participants during stressful performance tasks, run contrary to previous research ...

Towards An Aware, Healing, Loving, Compassionate Humanity

Towards An Aware, Healing, Loving, Compassionate Humanity

The elements of awareness encompass conscious knowing, the ability to read hearts, to be a healing, loving, compassionate presence, situated in the Now. They also encompass practical wisdom in every situation, the ability to enlarge perspective, to affirm others and promote dialogue and mutual..

If It's Broken, Fix It: Repairing the World Is Up to You and Me

Repairing the World Is Up to You and Me
In the sixteen-century, people suffered from hunger, disease, hatred, and war. "How could God allow such terrible things to happen? Perhaps," Luria suggested, "it is because God needs our help." When you see something that is broken, fix it...

The Guru in Your iPod: Spirituality Is Everywhere

The Guru in Your iPod: Spirituality Is Everywhere

While watching the documentary film Stephen Jobs, Hippy Billionaire, I was tickled to learn that as a young adult Jobs was significantly influenced by Baba Ram Dass and his book Be Here Now. I also credit Ram Dass as one of the most valued mentors in my life. He led millions of spiritual seekers to higher awareness and is considered by many to be the “Father of the New Age.”

Your Spiritual Support Team: Allies in the Spirit World

Your Spiritual Support Team: Allies in the Spirit World

Everybody on this planet has a spiritual support team. This group is our backup in the game of life. We come into the world with this team, and build on it through our spiritual practices and experiences.

Grief -- How to Hang On and How to Let Go

Grief -- How to Hang On and How to Let Go

Grief is a bittersweet emotion. Even though it hurts we subconsciously long for the grief to continue. We are willing to put up with the pain if we can still have the remnants, at least, of a loved one who now exists only in memory. We want the connection without the pain, but the two coexist.

Why So Many of Us Believe in Ghosts

Why So Many Of Us Believe In Ghosts

Halloween seems an appropriate time of year to share the story of the Chaffin family and how a ghost helped decide a dispute over an inheritance.

What Are The Benefits of Living In The Present?

What Are The Benefits of Living In The Present?

The present is what is happening when you strip away all the resentments of your past and all the worries you have about your future. To live in the present is to live as if the past never existed and as if the future were irrelevant. Living in the present is a vision for life that is achievable in any...

Dirt As A Spiritual Path: Finding Your Inner Compass

Dirt As A Spiritual Path: Finding Your Inner Compass

Once upon a time there was a Lodgekeeper who managed a mountain resort. Many people visited the area to hike and enjoy the natural splendor of the mountain. One day, a guest checked in and after getting settled, he told the Lodgekeeper he was going out hiking. The Lodgekeeper advised him to...

How Change Can Take Place in 30 Seconds

How Change Can Take Place in 30 Seconds

During an NHL hockey game, the average ice time for a player per shift is 30 seconds. When a player hits the ice, he gives all of his strength and his full focus, because in 30 seconds, multiple goals can be scored, and games can be won or lost. Then he sits for a few minutes and gets up to do it again.

Eight Guidelines for Ultimate Reality and Spiritual Practice

Traversing The Bridges on the Spiritual Journey

Although I am primarily a Christian, a Catholic contemplative, my heart and life are now totally open to wherever and whenever mystical graces take me. My inner life has been the drama of the divine mystery communicating its presence and love to me, and saturating my being.

When The Caring Leaves... and When It Comes Back

 When The Caring Leaves... When It Comes Back

It’s important to realize that everyone’s process — everyone’s sense of tragedy, loss, and grief — will be different. Some feel as if they are going crazy, or they feel absolutely lost. Some find handrails — like faith, community, a spouse — that keep them grounded. There is no one way. 

Meditation Is What Happens Naturally When...

Meditation Is What Happens Naturally When...

Exhaustive research has shown that meditation is an excellent antidote against stress, hyperactivity, and fear related themes. It has been found to increase your energy, as well as lower blood pressure and heart rate. Meditation can also be used as a successful tool to accompany many medical, psychological and alternative healing therapies...

In This World of Distraction, Choose Careful Action and Intentional Awareness

In This World of Distraction, Choosing Careful Action and Intentional Awareness

The world of distraction spins around and around, while moving continuously to keep itself amused and entertained. It transports us to a world of fantasy, or a world of controversy, or competition, or of just about anything other than the one true existence that is right before us. Distraction keeps...

Facing Pain and Grief with the Intention to Heal

Facing Pain and Grief with the Intention to Heal

Intention is the ability to decide what it is we want to achieve and then setting out to achieve that goal. We use the power of intention in business, politics, and education. Can we use it in healing our pain?

What's Your End Game?

What's Your End Game?

Movies that suck for an hour then end well are remembered as good movies. Those that are decent for an hour but suck at the end take their place in history as bad movies. So, how is your life going to end?

Turn Work Into Play and Success Will Be Yours

Turn Work Into Play and Success Will Be Yours

When purpose and pleasure are brought together work becomes play. Every bit of work done in this spirit strengthens the man who does it. It is recreative as well as creative.

Pope Francis Delivers New Teaching Aimed At Healing Divisions

Pope Francis Delivers New Teaching Aimed At Healing Divisions

Pope Francis has delivered a message to the world’s 1.2 billion Catholics and people of goodwill everywhere which aims to soothe the fear caused by the coronavirus pandemic and unite communities riven by racism, inequality and climate change.

How Hindu Rituals Teach To Let Go of Deep Grief

How Hindu Rituals Teach To Let Go of Deep Grief

Rituals can hold the core beliefs of a culture and provide a sense of control in an otherwise helpless situation. I came to understand this when I lost my mother last year and participated in the primary Hindu rituals of death and grief.

What is the Key to Happiness?

Love is the Key to Happiness and Clarifies the Mind

An unfeeling heart has even been admired by many, as evidence of a "scientific outlook". The truth is that without love no one can penetrate deeply into the heart of things. For while emotions can cloud the mind, calm pure love clarifies it, and makes possible the subtlest intuitions.

Meditating 101: Simple, Quick and Easy Do's and Dont's

Meditating 101: Simple, Quick, Easy Do's and Dont's

I am probably the last person that should be saying how, when, and where to meditate. I have set a goal of daily meditation at least a hundred times, and I haven't succeeded for more than three consecutive days. It isn't a matter of not liking to meditate. I do..

From Hollywood to Holy Woods: From "Self-Service" to Selfless Service

From Hollywood to Holy Woods: From Self-Serving to Selfless Service

'GRAAANDMAAA, BUY ME A PAIR OF JORDACHE JEANS,' my voice would sing out in a whine. Back then, every season demanded new clothes: back to school clothes, summer clothes, spring clothes, birthday clothes.... Now I live on the holy banks of the Ganges, in Rishikesh, India.

Bigger Than Hope: Hoping vs. Knowing

Bigger Than Hope: Hoping vs. Knowing

Real spirituality is beyond hope. Hope means there is a chance things may turn out as we wish, and if we are lucky we may get what we want. Inner knowing, on the other hand, proceeds from the awareness that...

Meditation Techniques: Is There A Right Way to Meditate?

Meditation Techniques: Is There A Right Way to Meditate?

If you let your mind run riot on its own, your ego will keep you in the illusory world of the future and past and this, my friend, is chaos. By meditating, creating space, becoming still in your mind, you create a natural environment where your creativity can flourish and clarity takes over your soul.

Are We Evolving? Stages of Consciousness Evolution and Awareness

Are We Evolving? Stages of Consciousness Evolution and Awareness

Each culture sees human life as a progression through a series of stages... in an attempt to understand the evolution of human beings. Those people on the outer circle are just holding onto life; for them it is a matter of survival.

An Overview of Kundalini Awakening: Moving Beyond Self-Interest

An Overview of Kundalini Awakening: Moving Beyond Self-Interest

It is hard to describe to those wholly invested in the spiritual path that at a certain point the obsessive and all-encompassing nature of the path gives way to utter simplicity. We attend to the human form and realize how precious life is, how we are meant to connect.

After the Storm: When The Mind Becomes Quiet, The Heart Can Feel

After the Storm: When The Mind Becomes Quiet, The Heart Can Feel

When faced with the death or serious illness of a loved one — whether a parent, son or daughter, spouse, or long-time friend — we are almost always shaken, often to the core. When the death is unexpected or sudden, our grief, anger, and confusion can be overwhelming...

I Didn't See It Coming! Messages from the Beyond

I Didn't See It Coming! Messages from the Beyond

Soon after we found out Anthony had died I was showering and could hear him screaming at me... I’m OK, Ma! I’m OK! The shock hit me. A glass wall separated us and he was screaming for me to hear him.

Why Masks Are A Religious Issue

Why Masks Are A Religious Issue

Seemingly everyone has an opinion on masks: when to wear them, how to wear them, which ones are best and even whether we should be wearing them at all.

Karmic Memory: Memory Triggers and Déjà Vu

Karmic Memory: Memory Triggers and Déjà Vu

I grew up in a blue-collar neighborhood on the south side of Chicago. I had nothing in common with my family, let alone with my neighbors and classmates. I always felt alienated there, as if I were in a prison biding my time until my great escape. It never felt like home. But where was home?

A Learning Curve – It’s Not Always What You Think

A Learning Curve – It’s Not Always What You Think

When someone comes to me with a particular dis-ease or ailment, that they want to eliminate, my first feeling is to cure them – to relieve them of all pain. That isn’t always the case however. Sometimes the healing that takes place, within a certain human being, is not exactly the way you perceive it to be. Let me explain what I mean by this...

Brother Rock and Sister River

Brother Rock and Sister River

Day after day, I sink deeper into peace, absorbing all the many gifts nature has to offer. I sing more than ever. I write in my journal, sometimes composing songs. I talk with God and the angels, and try my best to hear their message for my life.

Four Areas Of Spiritual Growth That Are Very Valuable

Four Steps to Spiritual Growth: Become A Clearer Expression Of Your Own Divine Self

For spiritual growth to take place in your life, you must change. You must let go of some areas in your life and personality -- especially the areas that are not working well or are out of balance -- and allow them to heal. This process is not always easy and often takes courage -- but the rewards are more than worth the effort.

Why Emily Dickinson Is The Unlikely Hero Of Our Time

Why Emily Dickinson Is The Unlikely Hero Of Our Time

She has been the precocious “little dead girl” admired by distinguished men; the white-clad, solitary spinster languishing alone in her bedroom; and, in more recent interpretations, the rebellious teenager bent on smashing structures of power with her torrential genius.

Face Your Darkness and Step Into Your True Power

Facing Your Darkness and Stepping Into Your True Power 

While I thought my biggest fear was of the unknown, of losing control, of being horrified by the darkness inside and around me, it turns out that darkness had been my friend all along. Darkness, my most cryptic ally, pointed me toward light and connection. Darkness showed me — and still shows me — the Bright Way.

The Counselor Within: The Wisest Counselor Always There For You

The Counselor Within: The Wisest Counselor Always There For You

"I am here for you. Remember, I love you always." Jackie awoke from her dream with a start. However, she could only manage to recall the last few sentences of his long message to her, but how powerful that voice felt! She wrote down as much as she could recall...

Three Common Myths About Dying

Three Common Myths About Dying

People die every day. Most will know they are at the end of their lives. Hopefully they had time to contemplate and achieve the “good death” we all seek.

On Reckoning With The Fact Of One's Death

On Reckoning With The Fact Of One's Death

And common fact it is — about 160,000 Australians die in the course of each year —though every death is a particular death and no single death can be quite like another.

Blame vs. Choice: How To Traverse The Darkness Before the Dawn

Blame vs. Choice: How To Traverse The Darkness Before the Dawn

Everything in our lives -- including all the crappy things -- is a choice that we have made for urselves. That is a difficult fact to face for most of us, since it's much easier to blame random circumstances in our lives than to accept responsibility for our own actions

Breath: The Source of Life and Transformation

Breath: The Source of Life and Transformation

Breath has the ability to take you to the place that all the words—voiced so differently but so similar in ­intention—point directly to: the source, the ground state, the wide-open dimension, the God.

You Are Not A Sheep; You Are A Shepherd

You Are Not A Sheep; You Are A Shepherd

When you justify the old— “Well, we have always done it as such, so this must be the way”— you are a follower, you are sheep. And, in fact, the Divine Self as you is not a sheep, but a shepherd.

We Have A Choice: We Can Transmute Negativity

We Have A Choice: We Can Transmute Negativity

It is hard for us to fathom the true significance of the unique events taking place on Earth, but they are unprecedented and profound. You and I have each been preparing for thousands of years for this moment.

Meditation for a Growing Sense of Inner Peace and Serenity

Meditation for a Growing Sense of Inner Peace and Serenity

Our energy level and mental programs are the major contributing factors to how we interpret what's going on in our lives. That's why the most important tool I have to offer to increase self awareness is daily meditation. Meditation keeps our energy up high enough so that we have the clarity...

The Elephant in the Room: You Can Ignore Him But He's Still There

The Elephant in the Room: You Can Ignore Him But He's Still There

Humans often spend an inordinate amount of time and energy avoiding the fact that there is an elephant in the room. This phrase refers to an important topic which everyone is aware of but which isn’t discussed due to the topic being perceived as uncomfortable to talk about.

I Listened, and Learned: Taking The Time to Talk and Listen

I Listened, and Learned: Taking The Time to Talk and Listen

My mother, my great encourager and supporter, listened patiently as I read her the last chapter of this book, and she did what every daughter prays for at such a moment. She cried and then looked at me with an expression of such admiration and pride. As my mother gave me this gift, she asked a question that would give me one more...

The Healing Funeral: A Masterful Reframe on Endings

The Healing Funeral: A Masterful Reframe on Endings

Consider a challenge you may now perceive - a financial struggle, relationship issue, or health problem. If you regard these matters as troubles or you feel smaller than them, that is what they will become. Yet with but a slight shift in perspective, they become opportunities to shine.

Meditation: Contact the Wise Being Within

Meditation: Contact the Wise Being Within

There are many ways we can learn to tap into the wisdom within us. One way is to allow yourself to make contact with an image of a very wise being who is your adviser, your spirit guide, your helper, your counselor, your guardian angel, whatever you want it to be...

Freedom Through Self Awareness: You Are A Blessing

Freedom Through Self Awareness: You Are A Blessing

The fear was so intense that he could feel his heart beating in his throat. Moments before he had been enjoying the company of his two older female cousins (16 and 18 years old). It had become a normal Sunday practice to play with them after escaping from visiting next door with the adults. They were engaged in their weekly naughty behavior of playing poker, sipping wine, and smoking his aunt's non-filtered cigarettes.

How to Maintain Mindfulness with Whatever Feelings Arise

How to Maintain Mindfulness with Whatever Feelings Arise

We need to avoid dwelling on any judgments, decisions, or internal commentary that may arise based upon the feelings we are observing. We must be careful not to identify with the feelings and consider them "ours". The following contemplations support the arising of insight into the nature of feelings and the ways in which we react to those feelings....

Question? Exclamation! The Best Meditation is No Meditation

Question? Exclamation! The Best Meditation is No Meditation

We are aware that we suffer from optical delusions, but we still suffer, nonetheless. We can see that there has been a breakdown somewhere along the way, but by what practical means are we going to heal ourselves?

Learning the Ancient Ways First-Hand: Living, Loving, and Laughing

The Peacemakers' Message: All For One and One For All

It was three days after I met with her that I realized Grandmother Twylah Hurd Nitsch is a small woman. Her fathomless eyes, her great good humor and the magnitude of the peace that effortlessly flows from her heart convey a physical presence that reaches far beyond her diminutive frame. She is warm beyond measure, mercurial and deeply connected to the Earth...

What The Buddha Saw, Felt, and Taught To His Disciples

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What does Buddhism teach? Don't worry, I won't give you a history of Buddhism. There are many dull accounts of this history and a few not-so-dull ones. For now, let's get right to the living center of Buddhism: what the Buddha saw, felt, and taught to his disciples.

Living Life To The Fullest: Why Buddha Is Always Smiling

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Next to the chair where I sit in meditation is my puja table, where I keep various items of spiritual significance to me -- including a stone-carved Buddha. Buddha is sitting in a relaxed, yet contemplative position and there is a big smile on his face.

What Is Karma? Where Does It Come From?

What Is Karma? Where Does It Come From?

What is karma? What is its purpose? How do you create it and how do you resolve it? The more you know about karma, the greater your ability to complete it and reduce its control over your life.

Aura Meditations For A Fresh Start and For Everyday Life

Aura Meditations for Everyday Life

Simply by meditating, people have been able to reduce the amount of stress they feel in their lives, alleviate physical pain, deepen awareness, relax muscle tension, improve mind-body coordination, achieve a sense of peace and joy, see more possibilities, and even reduce biological age.

How To Discover and Cultivate the Art of True Happiness

Discovering the Art of True Happiness

We can travel a long way and do many different things, but our deepest happiness is not born from accumulating new experiences. It is born from letting go of what is unnecessary, and knowing ourselves to be always at home. True happiness may not be at all far away, but it requires a radical change of view as to where to find it.

How The Buddha Became A Christian Saint

How The Buddha Became A Christian Saint

From the 11th century onwards, the Legend of Barlaam and Josaphat enjoyed a popularity in the medieval West attained perhaps by no other legend.

Simple Mindfulness and Awareness As A Way To Inner Peace

Simple Mindfulness Or Awareness As A Way To Enlightenment

The Buddha's teaching of simple mindfulness or awareness as a way to enlightenment is particularly suitable for people today. The whole secret of mindfulness can be summed up in the two words: "Remember" and "Awareness."

Daily Mindfulness: Eating and Walking Mindfully

Daily Mindfulness: Eating and Walking Mindfully

When you practice mindful breathing, you become truly present. Mindful eating is very pleasant and is a very deep practice. Mindful walking is healing and transformational. Mindfulness brings healing to past and future generations as well as to our own selves. All of us can do it. By the third or fourth day, you will have seen the difference.

How to Dissolve Solid Views and Evolve Beyond the Little Me

How to Dissolve Solid Views & Evolve Beyond the Little Me

It takes some training to equate complete letting go with comfort. But in fact, 'nothing to hold on to' is the root of happiness. There's a sense of freedom when we accept that we're not in control. By not knowing, not hoping to know, and not acting like we know what's happening, we begin to access our inner strength.

Becoming a Living Soul: Not Just Pointing At The Moon

Becoming a Living Soul: Not Just Pointing At The Moon

 I was born in 1960 and my formative years were spent worrying about the Vietnam War, race riots, and the nuclear threat. My earliest memory is John F. Kennedy's assassination. Sadly, my daughter was about the same age on September 11, 2001 as I was on the day JFK died. Will she be haunted by the continuous Technicolor loop of doom and destruction...

Beyond Fear: Meditation to Release Fears One by One

Beyond Fear: Meditation to Release Fears One by One

Fears are the biggest blocks that keep people from achieving the level of mastery they desire. The subconscious mind draws to us whatever we think about. Fear is a very strongly energized thought and has a lot of power to create undesirable conditions in our lives. "Like attracts like" and if you are always thinking of fearful things, the very things you fear will be attracted to you.

Facing My Worst Fear and My Greatest Vulnerability

Facing My Worst Fear and My Greatest VulnerabilityWhat if Joyce dies before me? This is one of my greatest vulnerabilities. Sure, I could die first. Statistically, women live longer than men. Even though we’re both healthy in the important ways, we are still seventy years old. We are now in our senior years. Death of our bodies is no longer something that can be ignored.

"Breathing God": Staying Connected through the Breath

Waking up to the first faint suggestion of light, I don’t want to leave my bed. And so I don’t. I just let myself lie there under the warmth of the thick covers and turn my attention to my breath. I become aware of it. I start feeling it. I start letting go to it.

Every Footstep Is The Journey On Our Sacred Trail

Every Footstep Is The Journey On The Sacred Trail

The first time I actually saw a rainbow, its quiet beauty struck my heart with such awe that it touched something deep within me. Just seeing a rainbow catches you quite off guard and somehow just makes you stop and look ... and wonder.

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