Always A Reflection: Finding the Missing Quality

Always A Reflection: Finding the Missing QualityDifficulties we are having in our relationships often mirror parts of ourselves that we need to heal. Such difficulties may involve a family member, a close friend, a coworker, or even a clerk in a store. If you are having difficulty with a relationship take...

Freeing Yourself from Reactive Thoughts and Ego Concepts

Freeing Yourself from Reactive Thoughts and Ego ConceptsHow can you free yourself from being lost in your thoughts? To understand the answer we must examine the chain reaction of thought. Every thought that passes through your mind sets the background for the next one. Your attention keeps reacting to each thought in a way that makes way for the next. For example...

Inner Brat in Action in our Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors

Inner Brat in Action in our Thoughts, Feelings, and BehaviorsToo often the inner brat influences us to say or do things that we later regret, just because it can't tolerate even mild frustration. Representing primitive desires and impulses, the inner brat wants what it wants, when it wants it, without considering the consequences.

Recovering From Childhood's Low Self-Esteem

Recovering From Childhood's Low Self-EsteemPeople with low self-esteem have believed the worst about themselves so strongly and for so long that they readily discard any feedback that contradicts their belief. They are unable to trust compliments and praise and often unknowingly twist such comments to mean the opposite.

Life Can Be Messy But It's a Necessary Journey

Life Can Be Messy But It's a Necessary JourneyI never expected life to be so messy. The life I imagined for myself, growing up, was simpler and neater than the one I actually ended up living. Life was, I thought then, a straight, unobstructed road to the destinations I would choose, with pretty vistas and sunsets on the way.

Changing Your Self-Image, Changing the Mirror of Your Experiences

Changing Your Self-Image, Changing the Mirror of Your ExperiencesThe image you hold of yourself determines your success or failure in everything. Ponder it for a moment. What do you really think about yourself? Do you like you? If you have accepted an idea of inferiority, then you better stop and rethink your position.

Take The Challenge: Activate Your Goodness

Take The Challenge: Activate Your GoodnessAll my life I wondered, What is my role? I explored this both within myself and with the help of others. I began by asking myself, What can I offer to the world, given my specific skills, life experi­ences, and through the platforms that I will attain?

Embracing A New You Every Day

Embracing A New You Every Day As they grow older, many people constrict their boundaries; they often seek what is comfortable, familiar, and safe. Life becomes a matter of focusing on the petty rather than...

Withdrawing Projections by Being Aware That We Are Projecting

Withdrawing Projections by Being Aware That We Are ProjectingWhy do we project our repressed parts? Why can't or don't those parts just remain peacefully buried -- or asleep in the basement -- and let us go on undisturbed with our "normal" lives? Apparently there is no way to avoid it even while there are limitless ways to ignore or deny it...

Ready For College? Here's Why You Should Think About A Gap Year

College can increase psychological distress. Jeremy Wilburn, CC BY-NC-NDMalia Obama recently announced that she will take a gap year before attending Harvard University. Historically, American high school graduates have been less likely to take a gap year as compared to their European and Australian counterparts.

The Wisdom of Your Discontent Is Chasing After You

The Wisdom of Your Discontent Is Chasing After YouI realized my nagging feelings of dissatisfaction, that little dissenting voice that made me feel like I wasn't in the right place at the right time, or doing the right thing, was all a set of instructions for how to find inner peace in the presence of my emotional turmoil...

Honoring Yourself: Honor is Really About Respect

Honoring Yourself: Honor is Really About RespectHonor is really about respect. The word respect is commonly used as it relates to respecting others. For example, "Respect your elders. Honor your mother and your father." These phrases are familiar. But how about this one: "Honor yourself." Does that feel right to you?

The Good News and The Bad News

The Good News and The Bad NewsI am writing about you. You; wonderfully flawed, perfectly nutty, beautiful, broken-hearted, powerful you. Would you like to impact the planet and be a part of a positive change? Would you like to feel more at peace with yourself and be a happier human being?

Taking Better Care of Yourself: Self-Care and Self-Talk

Taking Better Care of Yourself: Self-Care and Self-TalkIt is time to stop being your own worst enemy and begin to become your own best friend. As a psychotherapist, I see time and time again the adverse effects of my clients' lack of self-care. In general...

Three Questions to Ask for A Wild and Precious Life

Three Questions to Ask for A Wild and Precious LifeWhether or not we’re part of a couple, we come into the world alone, we leave alone, and we make many of our most important decisions after we’ve done our own private soul-searching. We and we alone are responsible for our behavior; we create our own lives.

What Pushes Our Buttons and What Can We Do About It?

What Pushes Our Buttons and What Can We Do About It?When it comes to dealing with stress, everyone has an elemental style of dealing with it, and everyone has an ego. Our reactions are often as predictable as the sun coming up every day and going down each night. Whatever the cause -- we react.

How A Bad Memory Can Actually Br Good For You

How A Bad Memory Can Actually Br Good For YouIt’s not uncommon to hear people wishing that they had a better memory. “If only I weren’t so forgetful”, they complain. “If only I could reliably remember my computer password, and that my neighbour’s name is Sarah, not Sandra.” If this sounds familiar then I know how you feel.

The Sweet Dawn of Renewal after the Dark Night of the Soul

The Sweet Dawn of Renewal after the Dark Night of the SoulRenewal is well described by Beat novelist and poet Jack Kerouac in his line, ‘I saw that my life was a vast glowing empty page and I could do anything I wanted.’ After a smooth transition, renewal brings a gradual sense of stability and certainty after a time of rapid change. As we step towards our dreams...

Rediscovering Yourself When Life Puts the Squeeze On You

 Rediscovering Yourself When Life Puts the Squeeze On YouWhen the six-year-old showed his drawing to the grownups in his life, instead of seeing a boa constrictor digesting an elephant, they thought it was a drawing of a hat. Whenever he showed it to adults, he received the same response. The youngster concluded that none of the grownups had any imagination at all!

Relax and Learn to Release Tension, Anxiety, and Stress

Relax and Learn to Release Tension, Anxiety, and StressWhen you are able to detach yourself from the areas of stress, tension, and pain in your body and just be aware of them without the interference of your analytical mind, they have room to unwind and release. This is not to deny or ignore pain; it is to be present with it in a relaxed, open, non judging way.

There Is Nothing to Fix: Discovering & Accepting Who I Am

There Is Nothing to Fix: Discovering & Accepting Who I AmFor years, I looked at myself through the prism of trying to “fix” myself. It was subtle, out of sight, like a current underneath the smooth surface of a river, but it was altering the flow of my life...

The Most Common Issues for Earth Angels: Love, Fear, and Trust

The Most Common Issues for Earth Angels: Love, Fear, and TrustAs you experience being an earth angel, you will discover that the path of service is riddled with deep feelings. We are in service at all times, and we need to set an example to other earth angels. If you are living with dysfunction, and your life is not in balance, you need to seek out a teacher and heal within. We cannot serve others when we are ourselves are out of balance.

Creating Time to Be Alone: A Life-Saving Act

Creating Time to Be Alone: A Life-Saving ActSolitude is the state of being alone and away from others, without feeling any sense of regret, guilt, or loneliness. Spending time in solitude is highly self-nurturing and a practice that we all need to embrace. When we are so busy with the hectic activities of our lives...

The Secret to Being Happy with Who You Are

The Secret to Feeling Good About "Being You"I've never been a big fan of country music. I have found it depressing, sad, whining, self-pitying... Well, you get the picture. However, now that I live in northern Florida, when I'm in my car and I'm "surfing" radio stations, country music is mostly what I find. Now, I must admit, I've discovered that not...

Blame, Shame, and Self-Responsibility

Blame, Shame, and Self-ResponsibilityThe more we bristle at the idea of self-responsibility, the more likely it is that we were taught at an early age to feel shame. Blame and shame go hand in hand, one giving rise to the other. They both have to do with finding fault, pointing a finger of judgment, and defining something or someone as “wrong.”

Awareness: The Key to Personal and Planetary Healing

Awareness: The Key to Personal and Planetary HealingAwareness is the beginning of healing. It is the transformation of consciousness from feeling victimized and separate to remembering that we are always connected with a higher purpose and a greater objective than simply sleep-walking...

Are Your Core Values Yours, or Do They Belong to Someone Else?

Are Your Core Values Yours, or Do They Belong to Someone Else?Core values are the things in our lives that we live from that are nonnegotiable. They are at the heart of who we are, and they need to resonate with our heart’s energy. If they don’t, they are not our values but belong to someone else.

Is Your Outer Child a Self-Saboteur and a Bully?

Welcome to Your Outer ChildWhat makes you break your diet, or run up your credit card, or be attracted to all the wrong people? Each of us has self-sabotaging tendencies, the origins of which elude us. Be confused no longer! I’m here to tell you that these behaviors are attributable to a part of your personality that perhaps you didn’t even know you had: your Outer Child.

Widening Your Lens and Reframing Your Story

Widening Your Lens and Reframing Your StoryOur biographies are truly ours to play with, and it is our responsibility to take care with how we do this. If, for instance, you tell yourself an old story that revolves around the notion that no matter what you do, “that’s just the way it is,” and the ending will always be the same, the universe will eventually show you exactly that.

Understanding Karma and Resolving Emotional Wounds

Understanding Karma and Resolving Emotional WoundsIn my years of working with clients and their karmic history, I have chosen to take the meaning of karma out of the duality, that is, the belief that doing good brings good things, doing bad brings bad things. Instead, I use a deeper spiritual meaning of karma—its role as the unresolved emotional wounds...

My Most Memorable Encounter

My Most Memorable EncounterRecently someone asked me, "In your years of publishing, what would you say was your most memorable encounter?" I instantly heard my inner voice whisper the answer, but my mind didn't feel comfortable with expressing what it had heard...

Afraid of the Past?

Afraid of the Past?How can one be afraid of the past when it has already happened? Yet when one looks closely at the fears we have for the future, we see they are often repetitions of old fears, or of things that have happened to us or to others in the past. What is it you fear? Look back at your past and see...

Gossiping and Criticizing Others: Causes and Consequences

Gossiping and Criticizing Others: Causes and ConsequencesMany of us have a well-practiced habit of talking about the faults of others. In fact, sometimes doing this is so habitual that we don't realize we've done it until afterward. Yet, when we examine its effect in our lives, we quickly realize that this habit...

Just Three Simple Rules To Live By

Just Three Simple Rules To Live ByMany of us are familiar with the Ten Commandments, written some thirty-three hundred years ago. We would all agree that we have learned a few things in the last thirty-three hundred years. It may be that instead of the Ten Commandments, we require just three simple rules for living...

Shining the Light on The Jewel in the Lotus

Shining the Light on The Jewel in the LotusA website or any new profession, relationship, or step ahead in life is an excellent projective test for where your consciousness lives at the moment. Since life is more about what’s going on inside you rather than what’s going on outside, the best use of outside is to shine light on the inside, so you can progress in your soul’s journey.

Zen and the Art of Blackberry Picking

Zen and the Art of Blackberry PickingOutside her country home, Dorisse exclaimed, "I've just got to stop and pick some of these delicious blackberries." Until she said that, I hadn't noticed that there were blackberry bushes all around us. I was amazed. Here I was surrounded by a potential source of nourishment...

Emotional Elbows: Loving All Parts of Yourself, the Good & the "Bad"

Emotional Elbows: Loving All Parts of Yourself, the Good & the "Bad"My thoughts and feelings have a lot to do with how I do or don't love myself. Imagine learning to love every part of your Self, the good stuff and the 'bad.' It has been a big project for me. Some years ago, a wise teacher told me emotional balance was key to knowing the higher levels of my Self...

Who Are You Becoming? Do You Like Who You've Become?

Who Are You Becoming? Do You Like Who You Have Become?
The question to ask ourselves is "Who are we becoming?" Are we living up to the child we were, or could have been? Loving, playful, wanting nothing more than to love and be loved. (I'm talking about very early childhood. Before we were tainted and "corrupted" by mind games, by competitiveness, jealousy, revenge, etc. etc.)

How We Internalize Blame and Feelings of Unworthiness

How We Internalize Blame and Feelings of UnworthinessWe all carry some degree of self-blame, ways we accuse or condemn ourselves. Often these feelings come from our childhood, where we were blamed for mistakes we made. It’s sad how other people’s blame of us can turn into our blame of ourselves, which then often becomes our secret shame, and can keep us from the happiness we want...

This Moment Does Not Define You: You Are More Than That

This Moment Does Not Define You: You Are More Than ThatWhen I was anorexic, surface feelings took on a villainous and critical role. I know this sounds melodramatic and unrealistic (because it is), but “feeling bloated” literally felt like the death of me. I could not separate my true self from my passing thoughts and feelings.

Transformation: Heeding the Call of Love

Transformation: Heeding the Call of Love

Beliefs, dogma, theologies — all the costumes of religion — vary dramatically through time and place. But the call to know love as the ground of our being, and to honor our gift of life through the way that we live it: this does not vary.  Seeking, yearning, tasting and transforming are certainly heart, soul and meaning of...

Get Real: Live Authentically In A World Steeped In Illusion

Get Real: Live Authentically In A World Steeped In Illusion

The news was beyond depressing. It was ridiculous. It was unbelievable. Finally, after the closing sortie of auto accidents and snarled traffic, the broadcaster announced, “. . .and now for a great new book by an author who is going to tell you how to live a happy life.”

Releasing the Junk Emotions by Washing Your Mind

Releasing the Junk Emotions

by Venerable Yifa. Junk emotions, such as anxiety, jealousy, anger, obsession, short-temperedness, greed, hatred, and so on, are neither good for us nor are they good for other people with whom we come into contact. They need to be inventoried, just like...

Are Emotions Bad or A Gateway to Your Soul?

Are Emotions Bad or A Gateway to Your Self?

We often have the misconception that our emotions interfere with our experience of ultimate peace: that they are the storm that distracts us from spacious calm. There are so many false notions about emotions. We usually learn at an early age that there are "good"...

Talking About Karma is Talking About Love

Talking About Karma --Talking About Love

There are those who think karma is about blame and punishment. This sounds like old-time religion to me -- the methods and fear-based strategies designed to control simple minds and simple hearts. Karma is not like that...

Your Call to Action: Picking God's Little Green Apples

Your Call to Action: Picking God's Little Green Apples

by O.C. Smith & James Shaw. God's little green apples are yours for the picking. Whether you reach above your head for the green apples, or whether they fall at your feet, you must do the picking. It is only then that you can "bite into" (have) your new and changed experiences.

Living in the Moment with Greater Presence, Respect, and Gratefulness

Living in the Moment w/ Greater Presence, Respect, and Gratefulness

by Jacob Liberman with Erik Liberman. We often talk about "wanting to be spiritual," but being spiritual and taking care of our everyday affairs are exactly the same thing. There is no difference. With clarity we become ordinary -- simply taking care of whatever comes before us. In this process, we develop trust that...

International Dependence Day: A New Holiday

Dependence Day: A New International Holiday

Independence allows us to choose our lives, live them however we want, decide who we marry, what kind of work we do, if we want to have children, and the religion or spiritual path we follow. Independence gives us freedom of choice. We can easily forget an equally important thing … dependence...

Finding Your Joy: When Beliefs Battle The Body

Finding Your Joy: When Beliefs Battle The Body

Joy enters my heart each time I see the world from a higher perspective than before. I can see more clearly through the eyes of my greater self. I know that finding joy is possible even in the most extreme circumstances...

Finding Your Inner Goddess

Finding Your Inner Goddess by Jamie Rose

Take out your journal and write the names of two women you admire. Women who for you embody the word "god­dess." For me, this first list might include Michelle Obama and Helen Mirren. If you're...

Befriending the Shadow

Befriending the Shadow...

by Robert Ohotto. When we don't recognize or accept certain parts of our own nature - positive and negative - we'll project these qualities onto others. Those who anger, irritate, frustrate, and even consciously attempt to sabotage us are our greatest teachers...

Why Are We All Ignoring Our Loneliness?

Ignoring Our Loneliness

We need to acknowledge our mutual human suffering. While it is, of course, natural for human beings to talk and communicate with one another, unless we have a good excuse or reason to do so we seem to maintain our typical everyday stranger status with the entire general public surrounding us.

Expressing Feelings: A Drawing is Worth a Thousand Tears

Expressing Feelings: A Drawing is Worth a Thousand Tears

by Lucia Capacchione. I discovered the healing power of getting in touch with feelings while struggling with a serious illness. Without realizing what I was doing or where it would lead, I scribbled and doodled my feelings out on paper. These strange...

Mechanics and Miracles: Which Are You Seeing?

Mechanics and Miracles: Which Are You Seeing?

Considering the challenges facing humanity, one might wonder if it’s time to put less emphasis on activity and more emphasis on awakening. Less what and more why. The form of life is the chalice through which we drink the essence of life.

Being A Better Person

"He makes me want to be a better person." As I reflected on this statement later, I realized that this is the best compliment anyone could ever hope to receive. Just think about your own life... Think of the reactions and comments you may have made about others...

Being The Saint Next Door

Being The Saint Next Door by Alan Cohen

by Alan Cohen. What if someone close to you turned out to be a hero to millions? The seeds of greatness can sprout anywhere, through anyone. Every great person, from Galileo to St. Francis to Martin Luther King Jr., grew up as a normal person and did normal things with normal people. Probably none of their buddies expected...

Mastering Unconditional Love

Radiating the resonance of unconditional love is the intention of all those who have attracted this message. You have come forth to teach one another to stay with the love, no matter what the conditions hold.

Altered State -- Altered Life

Altered State -- Altered Life

by Cheryl Canfield. The quest to discover 'Who am I?' and 'Why am I here?' is often preceded by some crisis that serves as a wake-up call and has the potential to propel us, if we're willing, into a more expanded or spiritual awareness. It was cancer that gave me the opportunity to test the principles I had...

Do You Know Your A B C s?

A is for acceptance of myself and others. B is for blamelessness and removing blame from my perceptions. C is for compassion for myself and others. D is for detachment and letting others be themselves?

You Are Magnificent

You are responsible for all your feelings. Never put yourself down. Never think or say anything negative about yourself. Take a few minutes everyday, a few times a day if possible, and practice loving yourself, tuning into the loving light within and honoring your divinity.

Snapshots From Infinity

If you look in the eyes of a young child, one or two years old, very often it looks as if there is a light on in there. In an adult this light is gone. Where does it go? What happens to it? What is the difference between this child and me that I no longer glow with this brightness?

Living The Law of Love

Many of you aspire to the state of un-conditional love, but in practice it evades most of you. Central to the law of Love is allowing. Firstly allowing yourself, then be allowing of all others and their creations and thoughts. Love is the total and complete acceptance of what is, that is love in its simplest definition.

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