Things - and Beliefs - Hiding in Plain Sight

Things - and Beliefs - Hiding in Plain Sight
As the subconscious mind takes in information from the outside world, things that tend to consistently happen in a particular way begin to form into beliefs. Then these beliefs can become “truths” to us - something we know to be true and don’t question anymore. In many cases these “truths” can be helpful...

Don't Follow Me: Take the Road with Your Name On It

Don't Follow Me: Take the Road with Your Name On It
I saw a bumper sticker proclaiming, "Don’t follow me -- I’m following my bliss." Good advice! How much more creative and successful would your life be if you remained true to your own inner guidance rather than imitating the paths chosen by others?

Why It Helps To Become Conscious of Your Feelings

Why It Helps To Become Conscious of Your Feelings
The minute you awaken in the morning, access your first feeling and your first thought. That first feeling or thought of the day commonly sets the stage and the tone for the rest of the day. So, if that first feeling/thought is not to your liking, the choice is yours. Right then and there is the best time to change it with feelings/thoughts that ARE of your liking.

Why Your Negative Emotions Are Your Friend

Why Your Negative Emotions Are Your Friend
Your Inner Compass is constantly sending you signals, but what happens when you don't listen to the signals and act accordingly? Well, the signals don't go away, they simply get louder and more powerful. So when you ignore your Inner Compass, it tries harder and harder to get your attention. This means that what started out as maybe a vague feeling of mild discomfort will become a stronger feeling of discomfort.

Hero Worship: Who's Your Hero?

Hero Worship: Who's Your Hero?
Hero worship has existed "forever"... it seems that humans have a need to worship someone or something "greater than" themselves. Whether we choose to worship an external God figure (like a saint), or a hero figure from a comic strip or movie, or the movie stars themselves...

Meeting Myself Again Through My Old Journals

Meeting Myself Again Through My Old Journals
I wrote about my difficulties, my challenges, my full and often overwhelming life as a wife, mother, daughter, and full-time professor with hours of evening paperwork. All of these roles took huge chunks out of me, and my exhausting days were underscored by a line I came upon in my journal, one that actually took my breath away as I read it twenty years later...

Who Are You? Identify Yourself, Please!

Who Are You? Identify Yourself, Please!
Being asked by someone what we believe our “identity” is can be difficult. Whenever this author hears a police officer on a television show yell out, “Identify yourself, please!” she has to laugh. Should the person respond with “I’m a single woman in her 40s who owns six cats and brews my own beer in my spare time”? Or perhaps, “I’m a Leo, and I love to jet ski and eat junk food”?

Choosing Another Way: Intimacy With Yourself First

Choosing Another Way: Intimacy With Yourself FirstNone of us ever truly forgets the nurturing, warm comfort of the womb. We spend our lives trying to re-create that feeling of being held and protected. Nor do we forget the pain of individuation, of leaving Mother and home. We seek throughout our lives to have the separation and the resulting loneliness filled with meaningful relationships...

Are You Helping Your Friends Too Much?

Are You Helping Your Friends Too Much?Although most of us don't mind doing favors now and then, unhappily, some people have no qualms about inconveniencing others if doing so helps them achieve their goals. Although helping these people may give us some pleasure initially, our good feelings vanish when we finally realize we are being used.

Honoring Your Sacred Space: Soul and the Heart Center

Honoring Your Sacred Space: Soul and the Heart Center We do not need history to tell us that having created every kind of sacred space around the world has not ensured that human beings are guided by unconditional love and the wisdom of the soul. The missing link is the heart. This is why the wisdom teachings of heart-centeredness are always revolutionary at whatever time and wherever they appear.

When The Things That Trigger Our Emotions Aren't Real

When The Things That Trigger Our Emotions Aren't RealWhen we talk about it on paper, detaching or reducing our level of attachment doesn't sound so dif­ficult. There is no need to complicate anything; we keep it simple, moving from one interaction to another without becoming too attached to any one outcome. But in life it rarely happens this way...

Swirling Through The Five Stages of Abandonment

Swirling Through The Five Stages of AbandonmentAbout six months into my heartbreak, I had a rude awakening. I was sitting on my bed pulling up my stockings. A mirrored door was ajar and its reflection caught me off guard. In a flash, I recognized the woman hunched over her feet, glowering at the mirror. It was me, caught in a moment of self-revulsion.

Are You Hiding? Come Out Come Out Whoever You Are!

Are You Hiding? Come Out Come Out Whoever You Are!A big clue that you’re caught up in the concern for looking good is if you’re burned out, stuck, deadened, resistant, or experiencing a loss of purpose or inner peace. That’s a signal that somewhere in there the real you is missing. When you feel that way, your energy...

Tender Words About You: You Are Good Enough!

Tender Words About You: You Are Good Enough!When you live with the belief that something about you makes you weak or not good enough, it is difficult to enter into mutual relationships seeking the best for each person. When you do not see your own belovedness and magnificence, it's difficult to think about being a healthy person, much less imagining a mutual relationship...

Why You ABSOLUTELY Must Love Yourself And How You Can Do It

Why You ABSOLUTELY Must Love Yourself And How You Can Do ItWhen I first heard of the concept of Self Love, I laughed out loud. I was sure it was the most pretentious and ridiculous idea I’d ever heard. I ridiculed the concept for a good long minute and gave it hell. Then I went back to despising myself (that was so much more “humble” and “honorable”).

Why You Need To Befriend Yourself

Why You Need To Befriend YourselfIt is a paradox that if we cannot open our hearts to ourselves, then we have no foundation for dealing with other people lovingly and compassionately. We've been trained not to ask loving and compassionate questions of ourselves. 

What To Do When Emotional Triggers Set Us Off

Triggers as Teachers: Staying on Your Recovery PathTriggers are hooks that summon emotional experiences of other times when you were frightened, harmed, and helpless. When you succumb to a trigger, you feel a sense of guilt, shame, and failure as you add another layer of fear, punishment, and helplessness to your original experience...

Befriending Yourself: You Are Not Your Enemy

Befriending Yourself: You Are Not Your EnemyThe shift from living with attachment to the judgmental mind to living with kindness is perhaps the most important part of our work with the critic. It requires us to embrace all of who we are — the good, the bad, and the ugly. This can require a radical shift in our inner world...

Why Are Our Brains Addicted To Negative Behavior?

Are Our Brains Attached and Addicted To Negative Behavior?Being attached to negative be­havior is addictive to the brain. In such cases, we are predisposed to make choices based on patterns that seek out unnecessary drama. Could all of this be because you have set a pattern in your thinking that anticipates the worst?

Why You Should Practice The Golden Rule in Reverse!

Why You Should Practice The Golden Rule in Reverse!If you find yourself time and again in relationships that make you feel unlovable, then you’re probably short on self-love. I had relationships like this. Wanting love from someone else led me to do crazy things like elope with a man I’d casually met on the beach...

The Rules of Life: Whose Rule Book Are You Following?

The Rules of Life: Whose Rule Book Are You Following?Are you — right now — living a life completely by your own rules? I’m not talking about your parents’ rules, your boss’s rules, or your partner’s rules... Here's how to make your own rule book so that you’re not living their lives, dreams, frustrations, and visions for you...

Getting Along With Others: Simple or Complicated?

Getting Along With Others: Simple or Complicated?Many people have real challenges in their relationships with other people. Are you one of them? One of the largest contributing factors to your ability to freely enjoy other people depends upon how much you enjoy yourself... how much you accept yourself.

How To Be Real, Authentic, and Juicy

How To Be Real, Authentic, and JuicyOne of the qualities Buddhists strive for on the path to enlightenment is called “sameness of being.” It means being exactly who you authentically are, no matter who you are interacting with. To be your most authentic self, you must get over your habits of worrying about....

Reality Checklist for Psychological Maturity

Reality Checklist for Psychological MaturityDid you ever wonder what characterizes a psychologically mature person? I’ve thought about it a lot – both on my own personal inner journey of awakening and because I work as a therapist and coach on a daily basis, helping other people with their issues. Here are some of the things I’ve discovered.

Freeing Yourself from Reactive Thoughts and Ego Concepts

Freeing Yourself from Reactive Thoughts and Ego ConceptsHow can you free yourself from being lost in your thoughts? To understand the answer we must examine the chain reaction of thought. Every thought that passes through your mind sets the background for the next one. Your attention keeps reacting to each thought in a way that makes way for the next. For example...

The Good News and The Bad News

The Good News and The Bad NewsI am writing about you. You; wonderfully flawed, perfectly nutty, beautiful, broken-hearted, powerful you. Would you like to impact the planet and be a part of a positive change? Would you like to feel more at peace with yourself and be a happier human being?

How A Bad Memory Can Actually Br Good For You

How A Bad Memory Can Actually Br Good For YouIt’s not uncommon to hear people wishing that they had a better memory. “If only I weren’t so forgetful”, they complain. “If only I could reliably remember my computer password, and that my neighbour’s name is Sarah, not Sandra.” If this sounds familiar then I know how you feel.

The Sweet Dawn of Renewal after the Dark Night of the Soul

The Sweet Dawn of Renewal after the Dark Night of the SoulRenewal is well described by Beat novelist and poet Jack Kerouac in his line, ‘I saw that my life was a vast glowing empty page and I could do anything I wanted.’ After a smooth transition, renewal brings a gradual sense of stability and certainty after a time of rapid change. As we step towards our dreams...

Rediscovering Yourself When Life Puts the Squeeze On You

 Rediscovering Yourself When Life Puts the Squeeze On YouWhen the six-year-old showed his drawing to the grownups in his life, instead of seeing a boa constrictor digesting an elephant, they thought it was a drawing of a hat. Whenever he showed it to adults, he received the same response. The youngster concluded that none of the grownups had any imagination at all!

The Most Common Issues for Earth Angels: Love, Fear, and Trust

The Most Common Issues for Earth Angels: Love, Fear, and TrustAs you experience being an earth angel, you will discover that the path of service is riddled with deep feelings. We are in service at all times, and we need to set an example to other earth angels. If you are living with dysfunction, and your life is not in balance, you need to seek out a teacher and heal within. We cannot serve others when we are ourselves are out of balance.

Is Your Outer Child a Self-Saboteur and a Bully?

Welcome to Your Outer ChildWhat makes you break your diet, or run up your credit card, or be attracted to all the wrong people? Each of us has self-sabotaging tendencies, the origins of which elude us. Be confused no longer! I’m here to tell you that these behaviors are attributable to a part of your personality that perhaps you didn’t even know you had: your Outer Child.

Widening Your Lens and Reframing Your Story

Widening Your Lens and Reframing Your StoryOur biographies are truly ours to play with, and it is our responsibility to take care with how we do this. If, for instance, you tell yourself an old story that revolves around the notion that no matter what you do, “that’s just the way it is,” and the ending will always be the same, the universe will eventually show you exactly that.

Understanding Karma and Resolving Emotional Wounds

Understanding Karma and Resolving Emotional WoundsIn my years of working with clients and their karmic history, I have chosen to take the meaning of karma out of the duality, that is, the belief that doing good brings good things, doing bad brings bad things. Instead, I use a deeper spiritual meaning of karma—its role as the unresolved emotional wounds...

Shining the Light on The Jewel in the Lotus

Shining the Light on The Jewel in the LotusA website or any new profession, relationship, or step ahead in life is an excellent projective test for where your consciousness lives at the moment. Since life is more about what’s going on inside you rather than what’s going on outside, the best use of outside is to shine light on the inside, so you can progress in your soul’s journey.

How We Internalize Blame and Feelings of Unworthiness

How We Internalize Blame and Feelings of UnworthinessWe all carry some degree of self-blame, ways we accuse or condemn ourselves. Often these feelings come from our childhood, where we were blamed for mistakes we made. It’s sad how other people’s blame of us can turn into our blame of ourselves, which then often becomes our secret shame, and can keep us from the happiness we want...

Three Questions to Ask for A Wild and Precious Life

Three Questions to Ask for A Wild and Precious LifeWhether or not we’re part of a couple, we come into the world alone, we leave alone, and we make many of our most important decisions after we’ve done our own private soul-searching. We and we alone are responsible for our behavior; we create our own lives.

Creating Time to Be Alone: A Life-Saving Act

Creating Time to Be Alone: A Life-Saving ActSolitude is the state of being alone and away from others, without feeling any sense of regret, guilt, or loneliness. Spending time in solitude is highly self-nurturing and a practice that we all need to embrace. When we are so busy with the hectic activities of our lives...

Awareness: The Key to Personal and Planetary Healing

Awareness: The Key to Personal and Planetary HealingAwareness is the beginning of healing. It is the transformation of consciousness from feeling victimized and separate to remembering that we are always connected with a higher purpose and a greater objective than simply sleep-walking...

Is There Such A Thing As Good Selfishness?

What Is The Highest and Best Form of Selfishness?I have been rethinking selfishness, the ego, and self-centeredness. In some schools of thought these are dirty words, nasty attributes to be subdued, transmuted, and overcome. But maybe they're not so bad. Maybe it's all how you look at them. Baseball star Reggie Jackson said, "The only thing I don't...

This Moment Does Not Define You: You Are More Than That

This Moment Does Not Define You: You Are More Than ThatWhen I was anorexic, surface feelings took on a villainous and critical role. I know this sounds melodramatic and unrealistic (because it is), but “feeling bloated” literally felt like the death of me. I could not separate my true self from my passing thoughts and feelings.

Take The Challenge: Activate Your Goodness

Take The Challenge: Activate Your GoodnessAll my life I wondered, What is my role? I explored this both within myself and with the help of others. I began by asking myself, What can I offer to the world, given my specific skills, life experi­ences, and through the platforms that I will attain?

The Wisdom of Your Discontent Is Chasing After You

The Wisdom of Your Discontent Is Chasing After YouI realized my nagging feelings of dissatisfaction, that little dissenting voice that made me feel like I wasn't in the right place at the right time, or doing the right thing, was all a set of instructions for how to find inner peace in the presence of my emotional turmoil...

International Dependence Day: A New Holiday

Dependence Day: A New International Holiday

Independence allows us to choose our lives, live them however we want, decide who we marry, what kind of work we do, if we want to have children, and the religion or spiritual path we follow. Independence gives us freedom of choice. We can easily forget an equally important thing … dependence...

Finding Your Joy: When Beliefs Battle The Body

Finding Your Joy: When Beliefs Battle The Body

Joy enters my heart each time I see the world from a higher perspective than before. I can see more clearly through the eyes of my greater self. I know that finding joy is possible even in the most extreme circumstances...

Talking About Karma is Talking About Love

Talking About Karma --Talking About Love

There are those who think karma is about blame and punishment. This sounds like old-time religion to me -- the methods and fear-based strategies designed to control simple minds and simple hearts. Karma is not like that...

Finding Your Inner Goddess

Finding Your Inner Goddess by Jamie Rose

Take out your journal and write the names of two women you admire. Women who for you embody the word "god­dess." For me, this first list might include Michelle Obama and Helen Mirren. If you're...

Why Are We All Ignoring Our Loneliness?

Ignoring Our Loneliness

We need to acknowledge our mutual human suffering. While it is, of course, natural for human beings to talk and communicate with one another, unless we have a good excuse or reason to do so we seem to maintain our typical everyday stranger status with the entire general public surrounding us.

Recovering From Childhood's Low Self-Esteem

Recovering From Childhood's Low Self-EsteemPeople with low self-esteem have believed the worst about themselves so strongly and for so long that they readily discard any feedback that contradicts their belief. They are unable to trust compliments and praise and often unknowingly twist such comments to mean the opposite.

Embracing A New You Every Day

Embracing A New You Every Day As they grow older, many people constrict their boundaries; they often seek what is comfortable, familiar, and safe. Life becomes a matter of focusing on the petty rather than...

The Drama in Our Lives: A Wake-Up Call

The Drama in Our Lives: A Wake-Up CallWe all have times in our life where we find ourselves caught in the middle of dramas or 'impossible' situations. Our first tendency mighty be to find who's to blame and/or how to fix it. However, Alan Seale suggests: "This situation has happened for a reason. It wants to tell us something. The drama is a wake-up call..."

Transformation: Heeding the Call of Love

Transformation: Heeding the Call of Love

Beliefs, dogma, theologies — all the costumes of religion — vary dramatically through time and place. But the call to know love as the ground of our being, and to honor our gift of life through the way that we live it: this does not vary.  Seeking, yearning, tasting and transforming are certainly heart, soul and meaning of...

Blame, Shame, and Self-Responsibility

Blame, Shame, and Self-ResponsibilityThe more we bristle at the idea of self-responsibility, the more likely it is that we were taught at an early age to feel shame. Blame and shame go hand in hand, one giving rise to the other. They both have to do with finding fault, pointing a finger of judgment, and defining something or someone as “wrong.”

The Secret to Being Happy with Who You Are

The Secret to Feeling Good About "Being You"I've never been a big fan of country music. I have found it depressing, sad, whining, self-pitying... Well, you get the picture. However, now that I live in northern Florida, when I'm in my car and I'm "surfing" radio stations, country music is mostly what I find. Now, I must admit, I've discovered that not...

Being A Better Person

"He makes me want to be a better person." As I reflected on this statement later, I realized that this is the best compliment anyone could ever hope to receive. Just think about your own life... Think of the reactions and comments you may have made about others...

Honoring Yourself: Honor is Really About Respect

Honoring Yourself: Honor is Really About RespectHonor is really about respect. The word respect is commonly used as it relates to respecting others. For example, "Respect your elders. Honor your mother and your father." These phrases are familiar. But how about this one: "Honor yourself." Does that feel right to you?

Releasing the Junk Emotions by Washing Your Mind

Releasing the Junk Emotions

by Venerable Yifa. Junk emotions, such as anxiety, jealousy, anger, obsession, short-temperedness, greed, hatred, and so on, are neither good for us nor are they good for other people with whom we come into contact. They need to be inventoried, just like...

Are Emotions Bad or A Gateway to Your Soul?

Are Emotions Bad or A Gateway to Your Self?

We often have the misconception that our emotions interfere with our experience of ultimate peace: that they are the storm that distracts us from spacious calm. There are so many false notions about emotions. We usually learn at an early age that there are "good"...

Being The Saint Next Door

Being The Saint Next Door by Alan Cohen

by Alan Cohen. What if someone close to you turned out to be a hero to millions? The seeds of greatness can sprout anywhere, through anyone. Every great person, from Galileo to St. Francis to Martin Luther King Jr., grew up as a normal person and did normal things with normal people. Probably none of their buddies expected...

Befriending the Shadow

Befriending the Shadow...

by Robert Ohotto. When we don't recognize or accept certain parts of our own nature - positive and negative - we'll project these qualities onto others. Those who anger, irritate, frustrate, and even consciously attempt to sabotage us are our greatest teachers...

Withdrawing Projections by Being Aware That We Are Projecting

Withdrawing Projections by Being Aware That We Are ProjectingWhy do we project our repressed parts? Why can't or don't those parts just remain peacefully buried -- or asleep in the basement -- and let us go on undisturbed with our "normal" lives? Apparently there is no way to avoid it even while there are limitless ways to ignore or deny it...

Your Call to Action: Picking God's Little Green Apples

Your Call to Action: Picking God's Little Green Apples

by O.C. Smith & James Shaw. God's little green apples are yours for the picking. Whether you reach above your head for the green apples, or whether they fall at your feet, you must do the picking. It is only then that you can "bite into" (have) your new and changed experiences.

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