Why Having Sex On The Mind Makes People Lie

Why Having Sex On The Mind Makes People Lie
With sex on their minds, people are more likely to change their attitudes and engage in deceptive self-presentation, research on sexual priming finds.

Experiencing Tantra: Spiritual Oneness Is Always Accompanied By Deep Love

Experiencing Tantra: Spiritual Oneness Is Always Accompanied By Deep Love
Tantra is well regarded within the yoga tradition as the fastest path to enlightenment. Eastern legend holds that an average human soul takes 100,000 lifetimes to achieve enlightenment, but that with tantra, any person truly committed to this path can gain enlightenment in as little as one lifetime. I soon discovered why this is true.

What Is Sex Really For? It's More Than The Obvious Reasons

What Is Sex Really For?
Few topics arouse as much interest and controversy as sex. This is hardly surprising. The biological continuance of the species hinges on it – if human beings stopped having sex, there would soon be no more human beings.

The Gay Gene Search Reveals Not One But Many

Gay Gene Search Reveals Not One But Many
It has long been clear that a person’s sexual preference – whether they prefer male or female sexual partners, or both – is influenced by his or her genetic makeup.

Who's Avoiding Sex, And Why

Who's Avoiding Sex, And Why

Sex has a strong influence on many aspects of well-being: it is one of our most basic physiological needs. Sex feeds our identity and is a core element of our social life.

Lascivious Virgins And Lustful Itches In Early England

Lascivious Virgins And Lustful Itches In Early EnglandIn the 18th and 19th centuries, masturbation was thought of as a “disease”, capable of causing psychological or physical damage like blindness or insanity. This medical and moral panic surrounding masturbation can still shape beliefs today.

Why We Need A New Philosophy Of Sex

Why We Need A New Philosophy Of Sex

A number of years ago, I found myself at a public sex beach in southern France for research purposes. Unsurprisingly, I experienced some ethical dilemmas.

Why Our Relationship With Dick Pics Is Complicated

Why Our Relationship With Dick Pics Is Complicated
Why do men send dick pics? Some research and popular commentary suggests it is for reasons of narcissism and over-confidence. Some men no doubt send them in the hopes of receiving a nude photo in kind, or because they genuinely believe that’s what women desire.

You Need More Than Just Testes To Make A Penis

You Need More Than Just Testes To Make A Penis
In prenatal ultrasounds or at delivery, many new parents look between their baby’s legs: the presence of a penis is taken as a strong sign that it’s a boy.

The Benefits of Choosing Celibacy for a Few Months or More

The Benefits of Choosing Celibacy for a Few Months or MoreWhat brings a person to consider celibacy for a few months or years cannot be easily explained. It will take some time to reap the results of greater tolerance for sexual feelings without needing to act on them in conventional ways. Sex will become more of a choice than a need.

Why Older Adults May Need The Sex Talk Even More Than Teens

Why Older Adults May Need The Sex Talk Even More Than TeensHumans are sexual beings. This urge does not stop when the clock strikes 60. Or even 90.Young adults may deny older relatives are having sex, but sexual activity is a strong indicator of healthy aging and vitality.

Accepting Homosexuality: From Shame to Acceptance

Accepting Homosexuality: From Shame to AcceptanceI feel that now is the time to take a completely different look at Homosexuality! With modern science suspecting the causes of same-sex orientation to be genetic, it is time to dispel the myths of choice. When people are born a certain way through no choice of their own -- such as race, or looks, or handicaps -- should they be penalized by society? Is that fair?... I think not.

Do You Want A Better Sex Life?

Do You Want A Better Sex Life?

One in 3 American adults do not get enough sleep. Sexual issues are also common, with as many as 45 percent of women and 31 percent of men having a concern about their sex life.

Freud Versus Jung: A Bitter Feud Over The Meaning Of Sex

Freud Versus Jung: A Bitter Feud Over The Meaning Of SexOn 27 February 1907, at Berggasse 19 in Vienna, Sigmund Freud fell in love. The object of his affection was Carl Gustav Jung: 19 years younger than Freud, the young psychiatrist was already the clinical director of the prestigious Burghölzli Hospital and a professor at the University of Zurich.

Chi and Sexual Energy: A Path Toward Health, Vitality, and The Divine

Chi and Sexual Energy: A Path Toward Health, Vitality, and The Divine
Energy, like water, is the life-giving sustenance of the earth. Sexual energy is nourishment for the totality of ourselves -- the body, the mind, and the spirit. It is the water of life, replenishing the gardens of the human temple. Working with energy is a pivotal factor in our overall state of happiness.

Feminine Wisdom and Aging: The Positive Role of the Wise Woman and Crone

Feminine Wisdom and Aging: The Positive Role of the Wise Woman and Crone
Times are changing, and for the most part, the word 'crone' is now accurately being used as a synonym for a woman who not only embodies postmenopausal wisdom, but shares it with the world. It is the time when the wisdom and healing of a woman's menopausal journey quickens in her heart, and her desire to share all that she has learned drives her back to the outer world.

What Do We Consent To When We Consent To Sex?

What Do We Consent To When We Consent To Sex?Two men regularly meet at a sex club, so that one (‘the top’) can fist the other (‘the bottom’). One night, the fisting duo stay until the club closes. The lights click on in their sobering glory, exposing the prosthetic hand that the top has been inserting into the anus of the bottom.

How to Restore Sexual Performance

How to Restore Sexual PerformanceThere are several ways to restore most of one's sexual performance including a high tone of physical conditioning and mental attitude. The power of the mind to influence the relative efficiency of one's sexual performance cannot go unnoticed.

Are Midlife Sex Problems More Common Than You Think?

Are Midlife Sex Problems Are More Common Than You Think?

The most common sexual problem is low desire, according to a research study we recently published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Around 40 per cent of the women we asked, and 30 per cent of men, reported experiencing problems with low desire during the last six months.

How Technology Is Changing Sex

How Technology Is Changing SexAs the TV series Westworld wraps up its second season, the show continues to spark discussion about a potential future that involves lifelike sex robots.

Women Show Sexual Preference For Tall, Dominant Men

Women Show Sexual Preference For Tall, Dominant Men
The old cliché tells us the most desirable men are “tall, dark, and handsome” – and scientific research confirms that heterosexual women tend to prefer partners who are taller than them.

When Sex Roles Get Reversed, Some Females Develop A Penis

A male African jacana bird mounts a female, but who takes the lead in caring for the young?. In many species, the males develop elaborated sexual traits to attract females and dissuade potential rival males through competition.

Is The Point Of Sex To Boost a Woman's Immune System?

Is The Point Of Sex To Boost a Woman's Immune System?Most people think just one sperm is needed to fertilize a woman’s egg and make a healthy pregnancy. However, biologists now believe sexual intercourse is not just a sperm delivery process, but also a kind of biological communication.

Why Child Sex Abuse Doesn't Create Pedophiles

Why Child Sex Abuse Doesn't Create PedophilesA popular misconception is that most child sex offenders were once victims themselves. The theory is based on the erroneous assumption that they’ve become paedophiles – those preferentially sexually attracted to prepubescent children – because of their victimisation.

How Does Internet Porn Affect Romantic Life?

Does Internet Porn Affect Romantic Life?The world of internet pornography is a pervasive and wide reaching technology, growing at a breathtaking rate. It is a $13 billion-a-year industry in the US. Nine out of 10 boys in America are exposed to it before the age of 18, and men are 543% more likely to be users than women.

When Science Meets Sex, Lust, Attraction And Attachment

When Science Meets Sex, Lust, Attraction And AttachmentYou are on holiday with your partner of several years. Your relationship is going pretty well, but you wonder if it could be better. It’s Valentine’s Day and you find a bottle on the beach. You rub it. A love genie appears. He (or she) will grant you three special Valentine wishes. Here are some of your choices:

Why Good Sex Ed Doesn't Lead To Teen Pregnancy

Sex ed should be inclusive, empowering, and facilitate ethical sexual relationships. lauren rushing/Flickr, CC BY-NC-NDComprehensive, inclusive sexuality and relationships education (“sex ed”) teaches children and adolescents in age-appropriate ways that sexuality is a normal, healthy part of life.

When New Moms Are Stressed, Sex Life Takes A Hit

When New Moms Are Stressed, Sex Life Takes A HitAfter having their first baby, new parents report being only somewhat satisfied with their sex lives. The stress levels of moms—but not dads—may be a reason why.

Do Abstinence Pledges Prevent Teen Pregnancy And Sexually Transmitted Diseases?

Do Abstinence Pledges Prevent Teen Pregnancy And Sexually Transmitted Diseases?In the United States, the teen pregnancy rate is higher than in any other western industrialized country, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). At the same time, a growing number of American teens and young adults have been diagnosed with sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

The Greatest Taboo? What The Bible Says About Incest

The Greatest Taboo? What The Bible Says About IncestIncest sparks strong emotions – and today, in many cultures at least, they are largely negative. But has it always been thus? Or is the taboo peculiar to certain times and places?

Does The G-spot Exist?

Does The G-spot Exist?It is perhaps one of the most controversial debates in sexual function: is there or isn’t there a G-spot? And if there is, how do we find it?

Do Deep Voices Make Guys More Scary Than Sexy?

Do Deep Voices Make Guys More Scary Than Sexy?"Masculine traits in humans are not the same as, say, in peacocks where the beautiful tail attracts a mate," says David Puts. "For example, beards make men more dominant looking, scarier, and seemingly more dangerous, but most women prefer clean-shaven men."

How Long Does Sex Normally Last?

How Long Does Sex Normally Last?The difficult thing is how to measure it, because people will probably over-estimate. If you’re a non-scientist, you might have once asked yourself, propped against the bedhead after disappointingly quick intercourse, how long does sex “normally” last?

Gender Fluidity Is Great — But Only If You're Famous

Gender Fluidity Is Great — But Only If You're FamousFor all that Miley Cyrus’s cropped hair and crotch-clutching and “I don’t relate to being boy or girl” have inspired articles about gender fluidity as the new “in” thing, it’s hard not to see Cyrus’s “trailblazing” as derivative of David Bowie – a true icon in so many ways, not least in his defiant smashing of gender norms.

Researchers Close In On The Mystery Of Why Sex Evolved

Researchers Close In On The Mystery Of Why Sex EvolvedThe reason why, in terms of evolution, organisms have sex may seem rather obvious – they do it to reproduce. Clearly, natural selection must favour individuals who can reproduce over those who can’t. But this is missing the point. For many species there is an alternative: asexual reproduction.

Why Boys Need To Have Conversations About Emotional Intimacy

What parents don’t know about teenage boys. Davidlohr Bueso, CC BYAmerican classrooms do not talk frankly about teenage love or emotional intimacy. Last month, Tom Porton, an award-winning, veteran Bronx high school teacher, handed in his resignation after colliding with the school’s principal.

Is Cheating More Society's Problem Than An Affair Of The Heart

Is Cheating Is More Society's Problem Than An Affair Of The HeartWhen it comes to love, cheating and divorce, matters are never just of the heart. In a bid to understand the love lives of humans, scientists have turned to the romantic relations of birds since the family life of many birds is reminiscent of those exhibited by humans.

Considering Spicing Up Valentine's Day With An Aphrodisiac?

Considering Spicing Up Valentine's Day With An Aphrodisiac?Throughout the ages, many cultures have searched for potent aphrodisiacs to increase sexual desire. The term derives from Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love, beauty, pleasure and procreation.

 

What Does The Male Gaze Mean, And What About A Female Gaze?

What Does The Male Gaze Mean, And What About A Female Gaze?The “gaze” is a term that describes how viewers engage with visual media. Originating in film theory and criticism in the 1970s, the gaze refers to how we look at visual representations. These include advertisements, television programs and cinema.

The All-in-one Solution To Sexual Health Is On Its Way

The All-in-one Solution To Sexual Health Is On Its WayThe current sexual and reproductive prevention methods have significantly improved the health and well-being of women and their families. But this is not enough. Worldwide each year there are still 85 million unplanned pregnancies, 21.6 million unsafe abortions, and nearly 300 000 maternal deaths from complications related to pregnancy and birth.

Some Thoughts On The Female Orgasm For 2015

Some Thoughts On The Female Orgasm For 2015Without the perennially interesting problem of the female orgasm, it sometimes seems that the oddly sex-segregated world of men’s and women’s magazines would run out of content.

The Science Behind A More Meaningful Understanding Of Sexual Orientation

The Science Behind A More Meaningful Understanding Of Sexual OrientationPeople who are attracted to others of the same sex develop their orientation before they are born. This is not a choice. And scientific evidence shows their parents cannot be blamed.

The Truth About Sexuality In Ancient Greece

The Truth About Sex In Ancient GreeceA new exhibition at the British Museum promises to lift the lid on what beauty meant for the ancient Greeks. But while we gaze at the serene marble statues on display – straining male torsos and soft female flesh – are we seeing what the ancients saw?

Does ‘Hotness’ Depend on Group Opinion?

It’s often thought that we are hardwired by eons of natural selection to be attracted to particular physical traits; that preference is thought to guide a search for healthy mates to help us produce healthy offspring. But the study by Yang and Leonard Lee of the National University of Singapore challenges the notion that our inborn ideas of physical attractiveness are immutable.

Everything You Wanted To Know About Sexting, But Were Afraid To Ask

Everything You Wanted To Know About Sexting, But Were Afraid To Ask

Stories of teens taking and sending a naked picture of themselves with their phones have been all over the news media in recent years. The outcome? Shocking, according to reports which have suggested that humiliation and sometimes even suicide can follow.

From Repression to Transcendence: Is There Life After Sex?

From Repression to Transcendence: Is There Life After Sex?

You exist as a sexual being. Once you accept it, the conflict that has been created down through the centuries dissolves. Once you accept it deeply, with no ideas in between, when sex is thought of as simply natural, you live it. Sex is transcended not by any effort on your part. If you make any effort, that will be repressive...

Making Love to a Woman: The Joy of Giving Pleasure

Making Love to a Woman: The Joy of Giving Pleasure

Many men admit that the physical act of sex helps them to open their hearts to connect with their partners. Whereas many women need heart connection first so they can be open to sex. Many couples, therefore, are truly stuck. He wants sex in order to feel love. She wants love in order to enjoy sex.

The Road To Sexual Ecstasy: Awaken The Lover Within

The Road To Sexual Ecstasy: Awaken The Lover Within

by Margo Anand. In launching yourself into this adventure, your first question is likely to be "Where do I begin?" Many of my clients, when they come to work with me, assume that the answer is, "by finding the right partner". They believe that...

To Know Consciously is the Birth of the New Tantric Human

To Know Consciously is the Birth of the New Tantric Human

by Christopher S. Hyatt, Ph.D. The Tantric act is a giving and a receiving. There is no taking. When giving and receiving reach their highest level of intensity then No-One is left. There is simply Love.

Sexual Energy in Seduction: Red Lights, Green Lights

Sexual Energy in Seduction: Red Lights, Green Lights

There is a reason why some people choose to dress or groom themselves in ways that are not provocative. Certain ways of dressing, as well as certain uses of things such as makeup, scents, and jewelry, often elicit exchanges of sexual energy. If we go through the day projecting our sexual energy onto others...

Sexual Energy Taoist Perspective

Sexual energy is nourishment for the totality of ourselves — the body, the mind, and the spirit. Sexual imbalances can cloud the mind with distorted thoughts and skewed desires, but a balanced sexuality can be the source of creativity and a way of fulfilling our dreams. It is also the energy that can create spiritual fulfillment, as it is a force that unifies and creates wholeness out of opposites.

Herbs to Improve Your Sex Life

How do herbs help with sex? The term "aphrodisiac" probably comes to mind right away. An aphrodisiac is anything that provokes sexual interest or desire. And it's true -- many herbs can enhance sexual desire. But when it comes to sex, herbs can do more than that.

Genital Herpes

Your sexual health and attitude are determined by multiple influences -- your parents, friends, teachers and your environment and culture -- but the most important influence is you. Most of the time we do not question the way we behave. Our actions reflect habits of thought and established beliefs about ourselves and others.

Importance of Sex

by Arthur Lytle, Ph.D. >Sexual intercourse can be a very creative act. On a temporary basis, some satisfaction can be had with almost any other human sexual partner, but only temporarily. There is always that constant urge and desire to seek that greater fulfillment . . . the ultimate.>

2nd Chakra: Your Doorway to Sensuality & Sexuality

2nd Chakra: Your Doorway to Sensuality & SexualityWhen basic pleasures are denied, such as your healthy sexuality, emotional expression, and sensual curiosity, you may find yourself choosing substitute 'pleasures' such as drugs, drinking, video games, television, and overeating. You may also resort to negative behaviors...

Infant Sexuality

by Rhonda Levand. Everything that happened to us in our infancy, every touch received, every reaction we felt to our sexuality, is remembered in our subconscious minds. We have stored these memories of our first touch, bonding with our mothers and fathers, feeding, toilet training, holding, and nurturing, to be triggered...

Intimacy, Growth, and Tantra

by Stuart Sovatsky, Ph.D. Tantric practices are indications of a certain direction for intimacy and growth. They are not just instructions to be enacted or another set of erotic conventions to be performed and perfected.

Creating a Love Ceremony

by Diana De Luca. It is important to take time out of the ordinary, everyday routine to create a nurturing, sensual space. As we open our hearts and honor our sexuality, we are nourished and healed on a deep level. Give yourself permission to...

The Lover's Touch

by Diana Daffner. I would like you to touch me as if you were going away tomorrow, far far away, and you wanted to remember the feel of my body, the texture of my skin, the hills and valleys that make up the landscape of who I am. I would like you to touch me as if you were blind, knowing that you love me...

Make Peace with your Sexuality

by Patricia Diane Cota-Robles. Sexuality is a beautiful expression of love. It is an intimate, sacred communion between two people. When experienced with an open heart, it can transcend the limitation of physical reality and allow one to soar into the octaves of ecstasy, wonder and awe; it can...

Making Love To God

by Joyce & Barry Vissell. Most people have a difficult time with their sexual lives. However, those traveling the spiritual path can develop unique problems in handling sexual energy. Some of us assume we no longer have sexual desire -- that we've outgrown it. Some of us feel hopelessly trapped..

Menopause & Crone Sexuality

There are powerful landmarks that profoundly influence women's lives. They function as psychological gateways to the change in consciousness required by each new stage. Emotions women feel, the psychological meaning they attach to the events, and transformational experiences of each stage are outgrowths of the physical timing inherent in the female body.

Sex After Sixty

If you don't believe that there is sex after sixty, even seventy and eighty, just read the medical books. They will tell you that, yes, there is; perhaps a tiny bit less often, a smidgen less hot, but it will be there for both of you, all of us, forever, so to speak. Unfortunately, these books were written by people in their thirties and forties fantasizing about their own futures.

Normalizing Sacred Sexuality

by anonymous. How can we normalize sexuality, taking it from scared to sacred? We undertake an individual journey into our Soul, the heroic journey referred to by mythologist, Joseph Campbell. This journey leads us to explore the fearful places where our shadow dwells, the places that we have denied for most of our lives.

Opening Up To Sex

Sex, the most fearful and fascinating, the most guilt ridden and ecstatic of arts, is a subject we do not discuss easily. Most of us have spent many years avoiding sex talk due to our shame, guilt, and fear programming. In order to share Sacred Sexuality, you must have the courage to communicate your innermost feelings, letting your partner know what you like and dislike.

Parents, Sex & Intimacy

by Rhonda Levand.

Our parents had a more profound influence on us than anyone else. What they communicated to us verbally, by their actions, or what they didn't tell us about sex, affects our sexuality. Since we probably lived between sixteen and twenty years with our parents, and what they did...

The Passionate Partnership

by Charles & Caroline Muir. We believe that as much care, thoughtfulness, and attention should be paid to a relationship as to a career, a family, or a cause. Unfortunately, this is not a popular concept. More popular, but less realistic, is the theory that love, having visited itself upon us, is here to stay; that a relationship, once established, will operate on automatic, will be self-sustaining...

Recycling Sexual Energy

by David & Ellen Ramsdale. When something is recycled, it is returned to its source. The wheel, or cycle, is turned back to the beginning of its circular path. There is some evidence that in human beings the sexual energy cycle has two stages. The first stage begins in the brain, at the pituitary and pineal glands, and ends in the sex glands. The second stage...

Sensual Ceremonies

A sensual ceremony is a special gift. It is a physical sharing warmth and caring, an expression of tenderness. Giving this gift of pleasure, we invite another to be guided into the inner garden. Here are a few ideas to help you raise the level of sensuousness in your sex life. 

Sex And Religion: Gnostic Taboos

by Morton & Barbara Kelsey.

 What is the source of our fear of talking about sexuality and sexual conduct? Why is the subject so delicate and forbidding for adults that they are uncomfortable discussing it with children? We believe the heresy of gnosticism that has permeated many of the sexual attitudes of the Christian Church is responsible for a great deal of the sexual negativity and unwholesomeness of our culture.

Sex & Self Esteem

The pendulum has been swinging from the days of save yourself for marriage, to the pill, free love, open marriage, STD's (sexually transmitted diseases) and safe sex. And the pendulum is still in motion. We talk about the sexual revolution. There have been and will be many sexual revolutions until we...

Sex Roles and the Family

by Gerald Fishkin. Individual and family problems often go hand in hand. The stressed-out family member is likely to act out his or her tensions in the family setting, putting additional pressure on others in the family. Many parents, for example, react to their stressful situation by becoming more...

Sex & Rejuvenation Taoist Style

When the machinery of rejuvenation is activated through the practice of Taoist sexology, aging can be prevented. The age-old search for the fountain of youth may end here, for Taoists believe that immortality can be attained by transforming the physical body through continuous rejuvenation.

Sex You Up!

Sex You Up! Sex is more than just fun, it's profoundly important in maintaining physical and emotional well-being Science has uncovered several ways in which regular sexual activity confers health benefits. - InnerSelf Magazine

Sexual Healings

by Miss Desmond Clark.

Do you know how to tie your shoe? I hope so. Now, do you remember who taught you how? Whether it was your Mom or Dad is unimportant... but do you remember? We all have memories that we can recall but I have noticed that many of us do not remember the little obscure incidents that helped form our personality and our behavior. Can you remember who said you were not good enough... and you accepted that?

Attitude & Sexual Health

by Dr Jenny McCloskey. Your sexual health and attitude are determined by multiple influences -- your parents, friends, teachers and your environment and culture -- but the most important influence is you. Most of the time we do not question the way we behave. Our actions reflect habits of thought and established beliefs about ourselves and others.

Sex in Ancient Cultures

Throughout the recorded history of the world and its religions, the power of sex has been a motivating force, even if not recognized as such. It has been lifted high and cast down to the lowest point by humanity, but it has never ceased to be, of itself, the supreme gift of the Creator.

The Sexual Surrogate

In modern Western societies the messages about sex are extremely contradictory and confusing. We have no traditional rites of passage nor meaningful ceremonies to initiate young people into informed adult sexuality. I hoped that my work might establish standards that could help people of all ages have less confusion about sex and intimate relationships.

Sexuality & Spirituality

Sexual energy is instrumental to the Ageless Body. It is by virtue of the hormones and their master glands connected to sexual function that the body stays in a perpetual state of "juicy" youth.

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