Do Music Lessons Make Children Any Smarter?

Can playing the violin really make a child smarter?Music is one of the most beautiful and powerful creations of humankind, and its powers are well known – making us happy and sad or relaxed and excited.

How to Reclaim Your Innocence: Projection is the Opposite of Innocence

How to Reclaim Your Innocence: Projection is the Opposite of InnocenceInnocence is what we find within ourselves when we stop being suspicious and fearful. When we let go of our socially conditioned caution we discover we have a core of innocence and playfulness. Innocence is a state of self-love and self-acceptance that has almost nothing...

How To Be Your Own Relationship Therapist

How To Be Your Own Relationship TherapistMaybe you can't see an obvious reason why you haven't found happiness in your relationships, but somehow it's not happening as you envisioned. You can't seem to locate the answers that will bring everything together. Don't give up. Understanding is a journey...

Why Stories Matter With Children Learning

Why Stories Matter With Children LearningEver wondered why boys and girls choose particular toys, particular colors and particular stories? Why is it that girls want to dress in pink and to be princesses, or boys want to be Darth Vader, warriors and space adventurers?

Kids Can Catch Bias Through Non-verbal Cues

Kids Can Catch Bias Through Non-verbal CuesPreschool-aged children can learn bias through nonverbal signals displayed by adults, such as a condescending tone of voice or a disapproving look, new research suggests.

Are You Trying to Live Vicariously Through Your Children?

Are You Trying to Live Vicariously Through Your Children?Though we all want our children to do well, to have what they want, to achieve, we need to be aware that what they want may be different to what we want for them. Many people feel unhappy and unfulfilled partly because they've done what was expected of them to please their parents...

How To Feel Love and Open Up To Love

How To Feel Love and Open Up To LoveOnce upon a time, there was a young woman who gave and gave to other people until it hurt. She generally bent over backwards to help anyone she cared about (or didn't care about). It pleased her no end to buy something special for a friend, even when she really needed some...

Let Go of Stereotypes and Smash Your Birthday Ceiling

Let Go of Stereotypes and Smash Your Birthday Ceiling Growing older is inevitable and, as has been said, better than the alternative. Limiting ourselves by age, though, is a state of mind. But often we accept stereotypical statements about age, aging, and what is supposed to happen at certain ages. We don’t need to accept any of these thoughts!

How Santa Helps Teach Children To Be Good Little Consumers

How Santa Helps Teach Children To Be Good Little ConsumersIt’s that time of year – the season when parents, schools and retailers sell one of the most magical lies to children: Santa Claus. But far from being a harmless way to fire children’s imagination at Christmas, the “Santa lie”...

Are Single-sex Schools Good For Your Child?

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Gender-segregated education is making a comeback. Single-sex classrooms, long discouraged under Title IX, the federal law that prohibits gender discrimination in education, have been gaining prominence in recent years, especially in urban charter schools.

Tips for Better Communication in Families

Communication Tips for FamiliesFamily communication is possible, but love must be the lubricant. Talking about things like love, kindness, and generosity, and not "problems", might be the route to family change.

Why People Trust Sharing Economy Strangers More Than Their Colleagues

Why People Trust Sharing Economy Strangers More Than Their ColleaguesTrust is a crucial element in any relationship, not least when financial transactions are taking place. The rise of sharing economy platforms such as Airbnb and Uber – where you pay a stranger for a service – are especially dependent on trust.

The Point of Life Is To Love: Moving Outside Our Safety Zone

The Point of Life Is To LoveI have experienced a lot of life since I first started to apprentice in my family’s traditions. I have felt the ups and downs of life—from confrontations to harmony, from feeling anger and fear to happiness and love. I have learned that the key...

Why President Trump Will Continue to Hold Rallies

Why President Trump Will Continue to Hold RalliesDonald Trump has just finished the last of his nine post-election “thank you tour” rallies. Why did he do them? And why is he planning further rallies after he becomes president?

Why Sex Gets Better In Older Age

Why Sex Gets Better In Older AgeAging is generally associated with improvements in our quality of life: We become more proficient in our work, learn how to manage our finances better and our bonds with loved ones deepen.

Why Bromosexual Friendships Are Getting More Attention

Why Bromosexual Friendships Are Getting More AttentionFor a long time, friendships between gay men and straight men – what some now call “bromosexual” friendships – were uncommon.

Why You Should Practice The Golden Rule in Reverse!

Why You Should Practice The Golden Rule in Reverse!If you find yourself time and again in relationships that make you feel unlovable, then you’re probably short on self-love. I had relationships like this. Wanting love from someone else led me to do crazy things like elope with a man I’d casually met on the beach...

You and The People You Are Supposed To Like Or Love But Can’t Stand

You and The People You Are Supposed To Like Or Love But Can’t StandThis article is about the people you are supposed to like or love but can’t stand, such as extended family or friends of friends. Currently, most relationships are forged from the erroneous idea that we have to be the same to get along and that differences between us are to be avoided at all costs.

7 Cheap Moisturizers Can Prevent Eczema In Babies

7 Cheap Moisturizers Can Prevent Eczema In BabiesIt may be possible to prevent babies from getting eczema—a costly, inflammatory skin disorder—just by applying something as inexpensive as petroleum jelly every day for the first six months of life.

How Neuroparenting Is Sapping The Joy Out Of Family Life

How Neuroparenting Is Sapping The Joy Out Of Family LifeThe concept of “neuroparenting” is making great waves among parents at the moment, with claims that neuroscience and new knowledge about brain development can help us to know “once and for all” how children ought to be raised.

Why Do We Fall For Fake News?

Why Do We Fall For Fake News?In recent weeks, the amount of online fake news that circulated during the final months of the presidential race is coming to light, a disturbing revelation that threatens to undermine the country’s democratic process.

Is Feminism Killing Romance?

Is Feminism Killing Romance?Heterosexual romantic relationships have historically been all about men courting and “keeping” women. And it’s a powerful tradition.

What Is Parental Alienation And Why It Matters

What Is Parental Alienation And Why It MattersParental alienation – defined as when one parent’s relationship with his or her child is harmed by the other parent – can have devastating consequences.

Why Male Couples Should Think About HIV

Why Male Couples Should Think About HIVIn a relationship there are myriad issues to manage. Who walks the dog? Does his mother like me? Whom are we supporting to win RuPaul’s “Drag Race All Stars 2”? But there is one issue that can often be harder to manage – how do we as a couple deal with HIV?

How To Tell If Your Mate Lying?

How To Tell If Your Mate Lying?A Romantic Liar isn't the man who tells a little white lie now and then to keep your spirits up or fails to tell you the whole truth because he wants to spare your feelings. Some Romantic Liars specialize in concealing the fact that they're married, while others...

Why Toddlers With Autism Might Not Look You In The Eye

Why Toddlers With Autism Might Not Look You In The EyeNew eye-tracking measures show that young children with autism do not avoid eye contact on purpose. Instead, they miss the significance of social information that is in others’ eyes.

Teens Can't Tell The Difference Between Love Or Abuse

Many Teens Can’t Tell The Difference Between Love Or AbuseMany people involved in abusive partner relationships don’t think of the mistreatment as abuse, say researchers. Yet over the course of a lifetime, one-fourth to one-third of women in the United States will experience abuse from an intimate partner.

The Rules of Life: Whose Rule Book Are You Following?

The Rules of Life: Whose Rule Book Are You Following?Are you — right now — living a life completely by your own rules? I’m not talking about your parents’ rules, your boss’s rules, or your partner’s rules... Here's how to make your own rule book so that you’re not living their lives, dreams, frustrations, and visions for you...

The Surprising Origins Of Post-truth

The Surprising Origins Of Post-truth“Post-truth” has been announced as the Oxford Dictionaries’ international word of the year. It is widely associated with US president-elect Donald Trump’s extravagantly untruthful assertions and the working-class people who voted for him nonetheless.

Toxic Communication Patterns: Put-downs and Shut-downs

Toxic Communication Patterns: Put-downs and Shut-downsPut-downs are terms of disrespect, of ridicule and humiliation. I use the term shut-down for a form of communication that, instead of opening up a topic and encouraging debate and healthy conflict, shuts it off. Shut-downs may be overt but shut-downs can also be very subtle...

Why The Selfie Should Not Be A Dirty Word

selfie artThree years ago, on the 18th of November, 2013, the Oxford English Dictionary named the term “selfie” as their Word of the Year.

Why Super-niche Dating Apps Are No Shortcut To Love

Why Super-niche Dating Apps Are No Shortcut To LoveAttempting to game the mysteries of love – or, in dating site eHarmony’s terms, “the secret sauce of attraction” – is nothing new. Equally old, of course, is the failure inherent in all such attempts to do so.

How Do You Talk To Kids About Racism?

How Do You Talk To Kids About Racism?Issues related to racism and racial discrimination feature in our news and social media feeds with alarming regularity. This year more and more stories have emerged...

Why Young Children Are Terrible At Hiding

Why Young Children Are Terrible At HidingYoung children across the globe enjoy playing games of hide and seek. There’s something highly exciting for children about escaping someone else’s glance and making oneself “invisible.”

Conscious Communication: Not Reacting from a Fear-Based Mentality

Conscious Communication: Learning Not to React from a Fear-Based MentalityAs human beings, the greatest gift we have at our disposal can also be the greatest weapon—words. We can heal ourselves, others, and the world with words; yet they can also be used in a destructive manner. Most of us are unaware that the ways in which we relate are entirely distorted and unnatural.

They're Playing Your Song... Are You Singing Along?

They're Playing Your Song... Are You Singing Along?When a woman in a certain African tribe knows she is pregnant, she goes out into the wilderness with a few friends and together they pray and meditate until they hear the song of the child. They recognize that every soul has its own vibration...

Healing Our Family Tree and Unfolding Our Full Capabilities and Talents

Healing Our Family Tree and Unfolding Our Full Capabilities and TalentsWe frequently feel cut off from our clan of origin at some given moment during our work on the self. In discovering our true nature, we will also discover at what point the family ignored and neglected us. When undergoing the abuse, we feel like an orphan, yet the fruit and the tree are still joined by bonds of obvious or underlying love.

What Are The Perils Of A Life In Isolation?

What Are The Perils Of A Life In Isolation?Humans are hardwired to interact with others, especially during times of stress. On the other hand, when we go through a trying ordeal alone, a lack of emotional support and comradeship can increase our anxiety and hinder our ability to cope.

How Parents Shape The Advantages Of Being First-born

How Parents Shape The Advantages Of Being First-bornThe title of this article might trigger self-satisfied smiles among first-borns, and some concerns among the rest of us.

Hanging Out With Friends Makes Life Less Stressful

Chimp Study Shows How Hanging Out With Friends Makes Life Less StressfulWhether offering us consolation after the death of a loved one or commiseration when our team loses yet again, our social relationships are invaluable for helping us lead happier, less stressful lives.

The Way of the Expansive Spirit for Young Athletes

The Way of the Expansive Spirit for Young AthletesI love how Eastern thought and Native American tradition emphasize the essential goodness in all children. The Tao calls this essential goodness the way of the expansive spirit. Our work is to guide our kids to discover this goodness within themselves...

Why Kids In Kindergarten Need Lessons In Self-control

Why Kids In Kindergarten Need Lessons In Self-controlAs they enter kindergarten, many children are still learning to control their behavior and may need educational support to develop that critical skill, a new study suggests.

How Should We Teach Our Kids To Use Digital Media?

How Should We Teach Our Kids To Use Digital Media?Any time a new technology is introduced, it disrupts values, routines and behaviors. This goes back well before the printing press replaced oral histories or the telephone replaced face-to-face conversations, but is evident today in our regular habits of checking our smartphones for notifications.

The Truth About Soul Mates

The Truth About Soul MatesThere will be times when someone special will walk into your life and a bonding of the spirits will take place. This means that both people are compatible, and that their inner spirits are harmonious with each other. Because of this, a kinship is started first, followed by deep inner emotional feelings for each other...

What Do Your Boundaries Say About You?

What Do Your Boundaries Say About You?In our lives -- and in relationships -- we create personal boundaries to define the space we call our own. We set boundaries and say “no” with our words, with our behavior and actions. Boundaries may sound negative, but in reality, they are very important and help to define our personal identities.

What's Love Got To Do With It? Everything!

What's Love Got To Do With It? Everything!Over the years, I have come to understand that much of what people identify as love is nothing of the sort. It is codependency, lust, neediness, addiction, and the ego's constant desire for attention. Sadly, the overwhelming majority of television shows, movies, and music really reflects a spiritual sickness...

How To Be Real, Authentic, and Juicy

How To Be Real, Authentic, and JuicyOne of the qualities Buddhists strive for on the path to enlightenment is called “sameness of being.” It means being exactly who you authentically are, no matter who you are interacting with. To be your most authentic self, you must get over your habits of worrying about....

What Is The Proper Way To Praise Your Child?

What Is The Proper Way To Praise Your Child?How do you react when you hear expressions like “well done”, “another A grade”, “aren’t you clever” and “great work”?

Should You Let Your Gifted Child Skip A Grade?

Grade-skippers have been found to do well academically. MJGDSLibrary, CC BY-NC-NDThe American school system puts students in grades based on age. However, for a large number of students, being with same-age peers in the classroom does not work.

Learning to Ask for Help Because We All Need Support

We All Need Support: Learning to Ask for HelpAssess how you currently navigate challenges: Do you immediately isolate, put on your armor, grab your sword, and head out into the forest to slay the dragon alone? Or do you enlist the help and strategic counsel of other knights and soothsayers who...

How Donald Trump Bullies With His Body Language

How Donald Trump Bullies With His Body LanguageAs Hillary Clinton and Donald Trump ramp up for their third and final televised debate, people are still trying to make sense of what happened at their second one.

Sadness as a Meditation Leads to Peace and Calm

Sadness as a MeditationSadness can become a very enriching experience. You have to work on it. It is easy to escape from your sadness — and all relationships ordinarily are escapes; one simply goes on avoiding it. And it is always there underneath... the current continues...

Why Baby Talk Is Good For Your Baby

baby talkPeople often tell new parents to avoid sing-song “baby talk” with their new addition to the family because it will slow the child’s language development.

Older Kids Know Lying Isn’t Always 100% Bad

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How To Overcome That First Date Anxiousness?

How To Overcome That First Date Anxiousness? Does anxiety keep getting in the way of you making connections with the people you’d like to spend more time with? Maybe you’ve just met someone, but are worried that your anxiety will ruin it all.

Can Great Apes Read Your Mind?

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One of the things that defines humans most is our ability to read others’ minds – that is, to make inferences about what others are thinking. To build or maintain relationships, we offer gifts and services – not arbitrarily, but with the recipient’s desires in mind.

Why Don't Feed The Trolls Is Really Good Advice

Why Don't Feed The Trolls Is Really Good AdviceAlmost half the population of the planet now has access to the internet, with about one in three of those people regularly active on social media.

Will I Ever Love Again?

Will I Ever Love Again?People in the throes of a breakup universally express the fear that they will never love again. I was afraid of this myself for a few months after losing my life partner. In the midst of the despair and hopelessness, we believe that losing our loved one means losing the possibility for love and connection forever.

Forgiving Your Children in Advance

Forgiving Your Children in AdvanceIf fear of punishment is a motivation that keeps your daughter from calling you when she needs you the most, you may need to examine your emergency procedures. The chance of real harm befalling her, out there alone in the world, simply because she is afraid to tell you...

How To Be A Conscious Single

How To Be A Conscious SingleUnfortunately, being single today is not easy. One, it is difficult, for a number of reasons, to be at peace with being single. Two, it is very difficult to meet other singles, in most any environment much less a healthy environment or process.

Reality Checklist for Psychological Maturity

Reality Checklist for Psychological MaturityDid you ever wonder what characterizes a psychologically mature person? I’ve thought about it a lot – both on my own personal inner journey of awakening and because I work as a therapist and coach on a daily basis, helping other people with their issues. Here are some of the things I’ve discovered.

What To Ignore To Understand Your Child’s Test Scores

What To Ignore To Understand Your Child’s Test ScoresNow that the first month of school is over, parents can get ready for the next milestone of the school year – they will soon get reports of the state tests their children took last year.

Adopting Your Own Romantic Manifesto

Adopting A Romantic ManifestoI find satisfaction in the pursuit of love, and a life that gives full expression to the powers of my mind and my body, while keeping open, uncensored, and unmediated lines of communication with the spirit that dwells inside me. . . to work in partnership with the creator in further improving human love and life

When And Why Do We Feel Like Sex?

When And Why Do We Feel Like Sex?Sexual desire can change from moment to moment. One minute you’re feeling frisky, and the next you just feel like a cup of tea and a nap.

What's Behind America's Insistence On Instilling Grit In Kids?

What's Behind America's Insistence On Instilling Grit In Kids?In the same way that actual grit accumulates in the cracks and crevices of the landscape, our cultural insistence on possessing grit has gradually come to the forefront of child-rearing and education reform.

How Kids Can Benefit From Boredom

How Kids Can Benefit From BoredomFrom books, arts and sports classes to iPads and television, many parents do everything in their power to entertain and educate their children. But what would happen if children were just left to be bored from time to time? How would it affect their development?

The Relationship Myth: "If You Don’t Have Something Nice To Say..."

Relationship Myth: "If You Don’t Have Something Nice To Say..."Many of us also have a strong tendency to withhold giving input to others that we fear may cause them to feel upset or angry. We are reluctant to say things to others that aren’t “nice.” Consequently, we may adopt some effec­tive ways of discouraging...

How to Raise an Environmentalist

How to Raise an EnvironmentalistWe read it in the news every day. From climate change to overfishing to deforestation, it seems that we are on the brink of a natural disaster on an epic scale. If we cannot do something to reverse these trends, we will surely make our planet uninhabitable.

Here's How To Raise A Child To Be Sympathetic

Here's How To Raise A Child To Be SympatheticParents and teachers might often wonder how to teach children caring toward others – more so when the world feels full of disagreement, conflict, and aggression.

Why Child Sex Abuse Doesn't Create Pedophiles

Why Child Sex Abuse Doesn't Create PedophilesA popular misconception is that most child sex offenders were once victims themselves. The theory is based on the erroneous assumption that they’ve become paedophiles – those preferentially sexually attracted to prepubescent children – because of their victimisation.

Why Teens Need To Start School Later

Why Teens Need To Start School LaterMillions of high schoolers are having to wake up early as they start another academic year. It is not uncommon to hear comments from parents such as, “I have a battle every morning to get my teenager out of bed and off to school. It’s a hard way to start every day.”

Sports Parent Trap: The Lure of Reaching the Pros

Sports Parent Trap: The Lure of Reaching the ProsMany young athletes become mentally, emotionally, and spiritually fried by the constant competitive pressure, which includes the overwhelming obsession to win, to gain external recognition, to attain perfection, to fulfill unrealistic expectations, and to measure self-worth solely by results and out­comes.

How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty

How To Say No Without Feeling GuiltyTo build up your courage for those really difficult "no's," start small. Practice saying no in non-threatening encounters where there isn't much at stake. Little by little, stretch yourself by saying no in more challenging circumstances.

How Does One Attain True Wisdom?

How Does One Attain True Wisdom?There is a difference between wisdom and knowledge. One could say that wisdom is knowledge that has been brought into one's heart and experienced as true. We have all been introduced to many ideas and theories from reading books or listening to someone, but until this information has been tested in our own experience, wisdom is not possible.

There Are Two Voices In Your Mind—One Is Always Wrong

There Are Two Voices In Your Mind—One Is Always WrongThere are two voices in our minds. One belongs to the ego, the other to the Holy Spirit (you may call this peaceful inner mes­senger your Higher Power or Great Spirit or Universal Source or whatever name you choose). Both voices are always available to us, but one is very loud and generally gets our attention.

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