How Online Dating Can Be Deceptive

How Online Dating Can Be Deceptive
On the internet, you can become anyone you want to – at least for a while. And though deception doesn’t fit well with lasting romance, people lie all the time

Self Care and Nurturing Practices for the New Year (and Beyond)

Self Care and Nurturing Practices for the New Year (and Beyond)
If you’re like me, you might be finding that you need a bit of a breather this month. It’s important to take time to rest, to let everything settle in, shake out, and shake down, and allow the inner and outer transformations that we have all experienced to take root deeply within our bodies, our psyches, and our souls.

How To Identify, Understand And Teach Gifted Children

How To Identify, Understand And Teach Gifted Children
The beginning of the 2019 school year will be a time of planning and crystal-gazing. Teachers will plan their instructional agenda in a general way. Students will think about another year at school.

3 Ways To Be Smart On Social Media

3 Ways To Be Smart On Social Media

This past year, many people deleted their social media accounts following revelations about privacy violations on social media platforms and other concerns related to hate speech.

Caring About The Collective In An Age Of Individualism

Caring About The Collective In An Age Of IndividualismWhen it comes to urban planning, the question is not so much how to physically plan our cities differently. Rather, the question is how to convince both the public and our politicians to implement change.

Fast Food Chains Use Cute Animal Toys To Market Meat To Children

Fast Food Chains Use Cute Animal Toys To Market Meat To ChildrenThe news that McDonald’s has launched a new plant-based “Happy Meal” for children based on a vegan “wrap” would seem to bear this idea out. McDonald’s new offering is the latest in a wave of vegetarian or vegan product launches

'Tis The Season For Conception

'Tis The Season For ConceptionDoes it ever seem like you’re invited to an awful lot of summer birthday gatherings? For good reason.

How Good Arguments Can Stop Extremism

How Good Arguments Can Stop ExtremismMany of my best friends think that some of my deeply held beliefs about important issues are obviously false or even nonsense.

The Benefits of Choosing Celibacy for a Few Months or More

The Benefits of Choosing Celibacy for a Few Months or MoreWhat brings a person to consider celibacy for a few months or years cannot be easily explained. It will take some time to reap the results of greater tolerance for sexual feelings without needing to act on them in conventional ways. Sex will become more of a choice than a need.

Is Your Heart Light or Heavy?

Taking a Heart Reading: Is Your Heart Light or Heavy?Can you recognize your innocence when others are trying to convince you that you are guilty? None of us have truly sinned. Yes, we have made plenty of mistakes, but none of us has done anything that would cause us for even a moment to lose the love of God or deserve damnation.

Embracing Nature: Gazing and the Dance of Touch

Embracing Nature: Gazing and the Dance of Touch The practice of looking into someone’s eyes and holding his or her gaze stimulates the sensations and presence of the body so strongly that it can almost be thought of as touch at a distance. The primary reason that many people find gazing into another’s eyes so challenging and daunting...

The Emotional Landscape: How To Deal with Challenging Emotions

The Emotional Landscape: How To Deal with Challenging EmotionsOur children feel things deeply, including surprise, delight, disgust, anger, frustration, revenge, jealousy, and enthusiasm. They often don’t even have the words to communicate their feelings, which is why they sometimes act them out inappropriately, but once they learn...

What Aristotle Can Teach Us About Trump's Rhetoric

What Aristotle Can Teach Us About Trump's RhetoricFrom Franklin D. Roosevelt’s fireside chats to Ronald Reagan’s reputation as the “great communicator” to Barack Obama’s soaring oratory to Donald Trump’s Twitter use, styles of presidential communication have varied over time.

Shaming Your Children On Social Media: Good or Bad?

Shaming Your Children On Social Media: Good or Bad?Matt Cox knew he would be criticized when he forced his 10-year-old daughter to walk 5 miles to school in 36-degree weather as her punishment for being suspended from the school bus twice for bullying.

The Truth About FASD and Drinking Alcohol While Pregnant

The Truth About FASD and Drinking Alcohol While PregnantFetal alcohol spectrum disorder (FASD) is often overlooked and understudied. Caused by prenatal alcohol exposure, it is sometimes referred to as an “invisible disorder.”

When You Have Two Lovers, The Holidays Can Be Tricky

When You Have Two Lovers, The Holidays Can Be TrickyImagine you’re going home for the holidays, and this year you’re introducing a new partner to your family. Slightly awkward? Ok. Now imagine your old partner is there as well. Oh, and they’re still your partner too.

The Science Of Saying Goodbye To Santa

The Science Of Saying Goodbye To SantaSanta here. I know this season has been hard. Your eight-year-old looked at you baldfaced and said I wasn’t real. How can this be? Is the innocence and magic already gone?

Teaching Our Children About Love, Emotions, and Relationships

Teaching Our Children About Love, Emotions, and RelationshipsA great irony of human existence is that love, which is arguably the single most desired goal in life, is so poorly understood and so hard for us to master. Given its importance, we might expect that enormous resources would be spent on understanding how to attain love.

Looking For A High-Tech Gift For A Young Child?

Looking For A High-tech Gift For A Young Child? Shopping for a new high-tech gift for the child in your life this holiday season? It’s easy to be overwhelmed by all the options. Bright boxes, colorful apps and cute plastic robots will promise that learning outcomes will improve if your child plays with x, y or z.

Why Older Adults May Need The Sex Talk Even More Than Teens

Why Older Adults May Need The Sex Talk Even More Than TeensHumans are sexual beings. This urge does not stop when the clock strikes 60. Or even 90.Young adults may deny older relatives are having sex, but sexual activity is a strong indicator of healthy aging and vitality.

How To Design Cities To Counter Loneliness

How To Design Cities To Counter LonelinessDo you feel lonely? If you do, you are not alone. While you may think it’s a personal mental health issue, the collective social impact is an epidemic.

Listening to Ourselves Speak... Are We Being Mindful?

Listening to Ourselves Speak... Are We Being Mindful?If we could listen to ourselves as we converse, we would probably be astounded at how often we speak mindlessly. We are so taken up with being the speaker that, quite innocently perhaps, we make insensitive comments, speak inaccurately, or talk too much, hardly aware...

Accepting Homosexuality: From Shame to Acceptance

Accepting Homosexuality: From Shame to AcceptanceI feel that now is the time to take a completely different look at Homosexuality! With modern science suspecting the causes of same-sex orientation to be genetic, it is time to dispel the myths of choice. When people are born a certain way through no choice of their own -- such as race, or looks, or handicaps -- should they be penalized by society? Is that fair?... I think not.

The Secret to the Love and Joy of our 50-Year Marriage

The Joy and Secret of a Long LoveDecember 21, 1968 was our wedding day. It was the happiest day for me. After four years of loving Barry and having people tell us that a Jewish/Christian marriage just cannot work, we were actually doing it. I was marrying the love of my life, the man foretold to me by an inner voice when I was nine years old...

How Where You're Born Influences The Person You Become

How Where You're Born Influences The Person You BecomeAs early as the fifth century, the Greek philosopher Thucydides contrasted the self-control and stoicism of Spartans with the more indulgent and free-thinking citizens of Athens.

Are You Afraid of Your Own Thoughts?

Are We Afraid of Our Own Thoughts?Face it -- the one person you never spend time with is yourself. It's almost too mind-boggling when you think of the questions that would immediately come up if you did: Would I find myself amusing? And here's the big one: Would I even like myself?

How Pregnancy Hormones Affect The Body

How Pregnancy Hormones Affect The BodyMultiple hormones produced by the mother, placenta and the fetus drive and coordinate the amazing biological changes and development of the baby that occur with conception, fetal growth and birth.

Why Forcing Kids To Say I’m Sorry Doesn’t Fool Anybody

Why Forcing Kids To Say I’m Sorry Doesn’t Fool AnybodyDon’t force an unremorseful kid to apologize until they’re truly sorry, new research suggests. The point of an apology—to express remorse and repair relationships—is lost because children may dislike the apologizer even more after the insincere apology than before.

Do You Want A Better Sex Life?

Do You Want A Better Sex Life?

One in 3 American adults do not get enough sleep. Sexual issues are also common, with as many as 45 percent of women and 31 percent of men having a concern about their sex life.

Love In A Time Of Migrants: On Rethinking Arranged Marriages

Love In A Time Of Migrants: On Rethinking Arranged Marriages
In his book In Praise of Love (2009), the French communist philosopher Alain Badiou attacks the notion of ‘risk-free love’, which he sees written in the commercial language of dating services that promise their customers ‘love, without falling in love’.

Symptoms of Inner Peace and the Inner Peace Syndrome

Symptoms of Inner Peace and the Inner Peace Syndrome
If you have all or most of the following symptoms, please be advised that your condition of PEACE may be so far advanced as to not be treatable. 1. A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than from fears based on past experiences. 2. An unmistaken ability to enjoy each moment.

How To Tell If You Are Dating A Psychopath

How To Tell If You Are Dating A Psychopath
It may sound like a scene straight out of a horror movie, but statistically you are not that unlikely to end up on a date with a psychopath. It is estimated that about 1 in 100 people are psychopaths. The majority of psychopaths aren’t actually criminals, but live fairly ordinary lives in our midst. So how do you know if you happen to be dating a psychopath and what should you expect? Luckily, there’s research on the topic.

The Drama in Our Lives is A Wake-Up Call

The Drama in Our Lives is A Wake-Up Call
We all have times in our life where we find ourselves caught in the middle of dramas or 'impossible' situations. Our first tendency mighty be to find who's to blame and/or how to fix it. However, Alan Seale suggests: "This situation has happened for a reason. It wants to tell us something. The drama is a wake-up call..."

How Long Should I Wait Between Pregnancies?

How Long Should I Wait Between Pregnancies?

Women often wonder what the “right” length of time is after giving birth before getting pregnant again. A recent Canadian study suggests 12-18 months between pregnancies is ideal for most women.

How To Know If You Are An Extrovert?

How To Know If Are You An Extrovert?When it comes to socializing, is your philosophy "The more, the merrier?" If so, you definitely show qualities associated with the trait known as extroversion...

Freud Versus Jung: A Bitter Feud Over The Meaning Of Sex

Freud Versus Jung: A Bitter Feud Over The Meaning Of SexOn 27 February 1907, at Berggasse 19 in Vienna, Sigmund Freud fell in love. The object of his affection was Carl Gustav Jung: 19 years younger than Freud, the young psychiatrist was already the clinical director of the prestigious Burghölzli Hospital and a professor at the University of Zurich.

How Marriage Has Changed Dramatically Throughout History

How Marriage Has Changed Dramatically Throughout History
In 2017, Australians were asked “Should the law be changed to allow same-sex couples to marry?”. The answer was a resounding “yes” – more than 60% of those who expressed a view backed marriage equality.

To Really Appreciate a Woman...

To Really Appreciate a Woman...
Real appreciation is a gift of love straight from the heart, an acknowledgement of another’s greatness and beauty, and a way of showing your partner that you really care. Many women need specific kinds of appreciation. And many men don’t understand this.

To Really Appreciate a Man...

To Really Appreciate a Man...
Find out what kind of acknowledgment means most to the man in your life. How does he most need to be appreciated? You may be surprised. Please don’t get the idea that men don’t need appreciation for inner qualities of being.

Putting The X In Text: Warm Wishes Or A Kiss-off?

Putting The X In Text: Warm Wishes Or A Kiss-off?

Do you sign off texts and emails with an x? Have you ever thought what that x – shorthand for a kiss – means to you or the person who has sent it to you? It’s said that the liberal use of x in electronic correspondence, whether personal or professional, is feminising the workplace

What Is The Right Age To Have A Child?

What Is The Right Age To Have A Child?

Over the past three decades, there has been a steady increase in the average age of parents. Advances in fertility science mean that people can, literally, put their eggs or sperm on ice and delay the start of parenthood.

How Humor Can Change Your Relationship

How Humor Can Change Your Relationship
A sense of humor is an attractive trait. There is abundant cross-cultural evidence that shows that being funny makes you more desirable as a mate, especially if you are a man. But once the initial flirting is over, and you are in a romantic relationship, how large a role does humor play?

Neuroscientists Identify A Surprising Low-Tech Fix For Sleep-Deprived Teens

Neuroscientists Identify A Surprising Low-Tech Fix For Sleep-Deprived Teens
Healthy sleep leads to healthy brains. Neuroscientists have gotten that message out. But parents, doctors and educators alike have struggled to identify what to do to improve sleep. Some have called for delaying school start times or limiting screentime before bed to achieve academic, health and even economic gains.

Chi and Sexual Energy: A Path Toward Health, Vitality, and The Divine

Chi and Sexual Energy: A Path Toward Health, Vitality, and The Divine
Energy, like water, is the life-giving sustenance of the earth. Sexual energy is nourishment for the totality of ourselves -- the body, the mind, and the spirit. It is the water of life, replenishing the gardens of the human temple. Working with energy is a pivotal factor in our overall state of happiness.

4 Ways Children Say Their Well-Being Can Be Improved

4 Ways Children Say Their Well-Being Can Be Improved
Good emotional health as a child lays the foundation for good life satisfaction in adulthood. However, in the UK children and young people’s happiness with their life is now at its lowest since 2010.

Why Wisdom Must Be Shared: Wisdom Retained Is Wisdom Wasted

Why Wisdom Must Be Shared
If there is a reward for longevity, it is paid out in the form of wisdom, a quality of consciousness that has little to do with intelligence/I.Q. or book learning. Being a by-product of experience, wisdom more often is possessed by men and women who have survived fifty or more winters.

How To Make Sure Your Relationships Are Functional, Not Dysfunctional

How To Make Sure Your Relationships Are Functional, Not Dysfunctional
A healthy relationship stimulates both partners' individual growth. A functional relationship is not a fairy-tale type 'they lived happily ever after' scenario; it is subject to the same stresses and challenges inherent in any human partnership.

How Can A Baby Have Three Parents?

How Can A Baby Have Three Parents?
It seems impossible, right? We have been taught from the time we were young that babies are made when a sperm and an egg come together, and the DNA from these two cells combine to make a unique individual with half the DNA from the mother and half from the father.

Why Everyone Should Know Their Attachment Style

If you’ve suffered from anxiety, depression or relationship problems, a psychological theory called “attachment theory” can help you get to the root cause of your difficulties and give you a greater understanding of what’s going on.

Why Teaching Reading In Schools Can Kill A Love For Books

Why Reading Teaching In Schools Can Kill A Love For Books
Reading instruction in the classroom is a key concern for all teachers and there are many ways to go about it. However, is our determination to achieve excellence in reading skills in our children killing their love and enjoyment of a good book?

There's A Reason Your Child Wants To Read The Same Book Over And Over Again

There is a reason your child wants to read the same book over and over again
We often hear about the benefits of reading storybooks at bedtime for promoting vocabulary, early literacy skills, and a good relationship with your child. But the experts haven’t been in your home, and your child requests the same book every single night, sometimes multiple times a night. You both know all the words by heart.

Why Individuals With ADHD Are Gifted and Creative

Why Individuals With ADHD Are Gifted and CreativeIndividuals with ADHD may be our most creative individuals, our most extraordinary thinkers, our most brilliant inventors and pioneers. The children among us whom our teachers and psychiatrists say are 'disordered' may, in fact, carry a set of abilities -- a skill set -- that was necessary for the survival of humanity in the past, that has created much of what we treasure in our present 'quality of life,' and that will be critical to the survival of the human race in the future.

Developing Teen Brains Are Vulnerable To Anxiety

Developing Teen Brains Are Vulnerable To Anxiety
Adolescence is the life stage when mental illnesses are most likely temerge, with anxiety disorders being the most common. Recent estimates suggest that over 30 percent of teens have an anxiety disorder. That means about one of every three teenagers is struggling with anxiety that significantly interferes with their life and is unlikely to fade without treatment.

Relationships Can Help Us Grow: Changing Our Fight, Flight, or Freeze Response

Relationships Can Help Us Grow: Changing Our Fight, Flight, or Freeze Response
When conflict and challenges come up in most relationships, people tend to react in one of three ways: Fight, Flight or Freeze to protect themselves against painful feelings that are difficult or impossible to experience at the time they are happening. But, the problem is many people get stuck in...

Kill The Competition: Why Siblings Fight But Colleagues Cooperate

Kill The Competition: Why Siblings Fight But Colleagues Cooperate
There is a certain rhythm to the swing of sibling relations. We resent our brothers and sisters in childhood. We support them in adulthood. We sue them after the reading of the will. The choreographer of this dance, as in so many others, is competition.

How Artificial Intelligence Can Make Us Better At Expressing Ourselves

How Artificial Intelligence Can Make Us Better At Expressing Ourselves
Argument and debate form the cornerstones of civilised society and intellectual life. Processes of argumentation run our governments, structure scientific endeavour and frame religious belief. So should we worry that new advances in artificial intelligence are taking steps towards equipping computers with these skills?

Is Newborn Smiling Really Just A Reflex?

Is Newborn Smiling Really Just A Reflex?Very few people can resist smiling at a newborn baby – signalling positive emotions, such as joy and interest. Of course, this is especially true for new parents. One study found that new mothers looked at their 16-hour-old babies 80% of the time and smiled at them 34% of the time.

How To Watch A Scary Movie With Your Child

How To Watch A Scary Movie With Your Child

On Halloween, the cinemas and TV channels are filled with horror movies. But what should you do if you have a young child who wants to watch too?

Facebook Posts that Use These Words Can Predict Depression

Facebook Posts that Use These Words Can Predict Depression
Researchers have created an algorithm that analyzes social media posts to find linguistic markers for depression. In any given year, depression affects more than six percent of the adult population in the United States—some 16 million people—but fewer than half receive the treatment they need.

Feminine Wisdom and Aging: The Positive Role of the Wise Woman and Crone

Feminine Wisdom and Aging: The Positive Role of the Wise Woman and Crone
Times are changing, and for the most part, the word 'crone' is now accurately being used as a synonym for a woman who not only embodies postmenopausal wisdom, but shares it with the world. It is the time when the wisdom and healing of a woman's menopausal journey quickens in her heart, and her desire to share all that she has learned drives her back to the outer world.

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