Kindness Is A Skill That Can Be Learned: Why Kindness Matters Most

Kindness Is A Skill That Can Be Learned: Why Kindness Matters Most
Instead of being the coolest kid in the room, how about being the kindest? Once a child understands the im­portance of their actions, good deeds, and the joy of helping others, kindness becomes fun and is highly contagious. What’s wonderful about kindness is that it is a skill that can be learned.

How The Language We Use Entrenches Inequalities

How The Language We Use Entrenches Inequalities
We live in a society in which inequality is entrenched and increasing – in this context, words can have real and pernicious effects. This is particularly true of the way we speak about inequality itself.

6 Ways To Establish A Productive Homework Routine

6 Ways To Establish A Productive Homework Routine
Homework. Whether you’re a fifth-grader or a freshman in college, the mere thought of homework can be overwhelming. And actually doing homework can be quite difficult. But homework doesn’t have to be something a student dreads.

What Are You Telling Yourself About Who You Are?

What Are You Telling Yourself About Who You Are?
We have all gone through life saying certain things about ourselves, such as: I'm a shy person, or I'm intelligent, or I'm stupid, or I'm clumsy, or I'm slow, etc. Once we understand the power of the word and of the mind, we come to the realization that all of these statements were simply creating self-fulfilling prophecies.

Love Is All We Need, But It Is Usually Not All We Want

Love Is All We Need, But It Is Usually Not All We WantThe Beatles song, All You Need Is Love summed it up quite nicely. Love is all we need, but it is usually not all we want. Unfortunately, some of us use our love to manipulate, control, and otherwise misappropriate our energies. We think that only a select few are actually deserving of our love...

How To Spot A Liar

On any given day we're lied to from 10 to 200 times, and the clues to detect those lie can be subtle and counter-intuitive.

Are You Misunderstanding The Meaning Of Relationships?

Relationships Offer Opportunities To Re-discover And Share Love
You may be attracted to someone when you first meet but it may be on a physical level mostly. When the excitement of that original feeling fades, you may feel something is wrong with the relationship. In actuality, you only misunderstood the meaning of relationships.

How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty

How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty
To build up your courage for those really difficult "no's," start small. Practice saying no in non-threatening encounters where there isn't much at stake. Little by little, stretch yourself by saying no in more challenging circumstances.

How To Talk To Your Teenagers About Drugs

How To Talk To Your Teenagers About Drugs
The UK has seen a sharp increase in teenage drug use in the last few years: the NHS reports that 37% of 15-year-olds have used drugs, and that deaths resulting from drug use are at their highest since records began in 1993

Why We Need To Data-Proof Our Kids

Why We Need To Data-proof Are Kids
Google recently agreed to pay a US$170 million fine for illegally gathering children’s personal data on YouTube without parental consent, which is a violation under the Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act (COPPA).

The Fear of Saying "I Love You"

The Fear of Saying "I Love You"
What is it about saying, flat out, 'I love you' to our children that has been shunned by many and may still constitute a taboo among middle-aged parents today? Novels, movies, indeed most cultures invest 'I love you' with strong erotic content. The deep, romantic, feeling-tone of the phrase reinforces the taboo...

Children's Lies Are Deceptively Complex

Children's Lies Are Deceptively Complex
Parents are often concerned when they observe their child telling lies. However, lie-telling can give us a window into understanding children’s social and cognitive development.

What Is Karma: Personal, Family, Adopted Children, and Past-Life Karma

The Blessings and Curses of Karma: Personal, Family, and Past-Life
Of course, your ancestors can and do leave behavioral and attitudinal legacies that help you actualize your innate potentials. Mingled with ancestral legacies we discover blessings as well as curses. You can take a major step toward maturing when you can see and accept both the good and the bad in other...

On The Ending Of A Friendship

On The Ending Of A Friendship
About eight years ago, I went to dinner with a dear friend I had known for more than 40 years. It would be the last time we would see each other and by the end of that evening I was deeply shaken.

How To Talk To Your Children About Sexual Consent

How To Talk To Your Children About Sexual Consent
Parents and caregivers often wait until their children are older to talk about sexual consent. And many parents often leave “the sex talk” altogether – hoping that schools will do it instead.

Nurturing Yourself: Give Yourself a "Me-Day"

Nurturing Yourself: Give Yourself a "Me-Day"
I have a policy: On Sundays, I don't allow myself to come within five hundred yards of the computer; the phone goes on voice mail; and the cell phone gets to snooze in my purse all day. My friends know how I am about Sundays, and they respect my need for solitude. This soothing Sunday routine means a lot to me...

Dr. Spock's Timeless Lessons In Parenting


The book ignited a revolution, breaking free from conventional wisdom that said children required schedules, discipline and little affection.

The Gay Gene Search Reveals Not One But Many

Gay Gene Search Reveals Not One But Many
It has long been clear that a person’s sexual preference – whether they prefer male or female sexual partners, or both – is influenced by his or her genetic makeup.

Sacred Pampering: Experiencing All the Joy You Can Stand

Experiencing All the Joy You Can Stand
I teach, speak, and write about joy, peace, power, ease, and grace because I am learning to bring them more fully into my own life, not because I have mastered them. And to the degree that I have been able to make them a reality in my life, part of my life's work is helping others make...

What Makes You A Mature Adult?

What Makes You A Mature Adult?
With decisions to make every day, small and big, of momentary and far-reaching consequence, people who become parents put themselves on a fast track towards adulthood. They are responsible for the life of a little one now and so they move up in the ranks of generations.

How Much Would You Pay To Be Yourself?

How Much Would You Pay To Be Yourself?
In the film Being John Malkovich, an unhappy guy named Craig discovers a portal into movie star John Malkovich's mind, through which he can live vicariously for fifteen minutes. Soon there is a long line of people paying $200 to enter the portal and be someone else.

Teens Who Spend Hours On Social Media Report These Behaviors

Teens Who Spend Hours On Social Media Report These Behaviors
Teenagers who spend more than three hours a day on social media are more likely to report high levels of behaviors that may indicate mental health problems compared to adolescents who do not use social media at all, according to a new study.

5 Ways To Help Your Kids Sleep Better

5 Ways To Help Your Kids Sleep Better
Though it’s not easy, it is possible to change the poor sleep habits of children in preschool and elementary school, experts say.

How To Get Preschoolers Ready To Learn Math

How To Get Preschoolers Ready To Learn Math
If you’re a parent of a preschooler, you might be wondering how you can help set your child up for success once they enter kindergarten.

Why We Match Our Friends’ Portion Size

Why We Match Our Friends’ Portion Size
When making food choices when we’re with friends, we tend to want to match characteristics that others can measure or rank, such as size or price, but feel free to go our own way on things like flavor or shape, a new study suggests.

The Inner "Others": The Voices That Put You Down

The Inner "Others": The Voices That Put You Down
We are complex beings. Within each of us there are many, many aspects, some of which seem to be at war with others. We all have an Inner Critic: that voice that nags at us, puts us down, tells us we're not good enough. When we...

The Do's and Don'ts of Empathy

The Do's and Don'ts of Empathy
Empathy is everywhere. In many ways, empathy is the social glue that holds everybody together. Empathy is a social experience that involves feeling external emotional energy to the point of mirroring an emotion and taking it into one’s own experience.

The Universality of A Good Story: The World According to Rumi

The Universality of A Good Story: The World According to Rumi
The universality of a good story serves to demonstrate that we’re not so different from our counterparts across the globe, which in turn prompts us to empathize with the “other” to the extent that we will eventually feel as the “other”; thus, respect and empathy are the inevitable by-products of this process.

Teen Girls Face Pressure To Get Pregnant

Teen Girls Face Pressure To Get Pregnant
Teen girls experience relationship abuse at alarming rates, according to a new study that specifically focuses on reproductive coercion—pressure from a partner to get pregnant.

I Am Not My Mother: The Power of MOM (Mind Over Matter)

I Am Not My Mother: The Power of MOM (Mind Over Matter)
Some people feel that they are limited by their genes, by what is encoded in their DNA. Studies show that identical twins raised in different environments have some strikingly similar tastes and behaviors. While that may be true, one must be careful not to use that as an excuse...

No Matter What Age You Are, The Best Is Yet To Come

How Does It Feel to Be Sixty? The Best Is Yet To Come
When I asked the question -- How does it feel to be sixty? -- of my teacher at the Gurdjieff Foundation, she took her time to ponder it before answering. At last she uttered one succinct word: "Relieved." She went on, "In our teens and twenties, we are absorbed in educating ourselves and plotting our futures; then we are busy working toward realizing..."

A Life Worth Living... Without Regrets

A Life Worth Living... Without Regrets
The American software consultant I interviewed told me about an exercise he did ages ago that has stayed with him his whole life. The participants in the workshop he was in were asked to write their own eulogy, then deliver it to the class, speaking about how they wanted to be remembered.

The Facts on US Children and Teens Killed By Firearms

The Facts on US Children and Teens Killed By Firearms
Injury is the leading cause of death for U.S. children and adolescents, accounting for over 60% of all deaths in this group. Firearms are the second leading cause of death among U.S. children and adolescents, after car crashes. Firearm deaths occur at a rate over three times higher than drownings.

Creating a Joyful Environment for Our Children and Ourselves

Creating a Joyful Environment for Our Children and Ourselves
In a world where negativity seeps into every corner of our lives and whatever is gross, weird, or shocking is considered hip and appropriate for children, we must find ways to create a home environment that promotes positive thinking and joyful attitudes. Create a fortress of beauty, hope, and peace where we can...

How Does False Information Spread Online?

How Does False Information Spread Online?
Last summer the World Economic Forum (WEF) invited its 1,500 council members to identify top trends facing the world, including what should be done about them.

How To Clean Out the Clutter in the Closets of Your Heart and Mind

How To Clean Out the Clutter in the Closets of Your Heart and Mind
We cling to so many things without which we believe we simply cannot be happy. Some of us find it difficult to part with objects and mementos of the past, and many of us are pack rats to one degree or another. This may seem like an innocent habit, but the clutter in our minds and hearts...

Learning To Teach Mindfulness To Children Can Help Reduce Your Own Stress

Learning To Teach Mindfulness To Children Can Help Reduce Your Own Stress
As the use of mindfulness has increased globally, its importance in education has also been recognised. Though it is not yet on any curriculum, it is being used in schools around the world to improve pupils’ well-being, mental health, social and emotional learning, concentration and cognition.

Is It Safe To Drink Alcohol While Breastfeeding?

Is It Safe To Drink Alcohol While Breastfeeding?
Is it safe to drink alcohol and breastfeed? As physicians, we have always cautioned patients not to. As mothers, we look forward to the occasional glass of wine.

Surrendering To Love Even in the Midst of Negativity

Surrendering To Love Even in the Midst of Negativity
To surrender to love, you will need to pay attention to any of your own emotions, moods, or thoughts that might lead you to act in less than loving ways. You may need to surrender pride, a sense of self-importance, or the need to have your way, to...

7 Favorite Books For Connecting With Your Preschooler

7 Favorite Books For Connecting With Your Preschooler
A preschooler’s day is a world of adventure fuelled by an unbridled imagination. Sparked by curiosity, they set out to discover anything and everything new while sharing about their discoveries.

Assignment Awareness: Stretching Beyond Our Comfort Zones

Assignment: Awareness and Stretching Beyond Our Comfort Zones
In an eight-month workshop, which I went on to lead, we asked ourselves four questions each day. What did I notice that had nothing to do with me? What did I do today that I respect myself for? What did I do to help another person today (anonymously if possible)? What bothered me today, if anything? The assignment was to stretch beyond who you normally are.

Why Is Personalized Learning So Controversial?

Why Is Personalized Learning So Controversial?
The term “personalized learning” is becoming more common. Indeed, 39 states mention personalized learning in their school improvement plans, as required by the Every Student Succeeds Act. Not only are states legislating personalized learning, but philanthropists are funding it and, in some cases, families are pushing back against it.

I Am This -- I Am That: The Path of Limiting Beliefs

I Am This -- I Am That: The Path of Limiting Beliefs
Each time you have told yourself, I am this, or I am that, you kept yourself limited. You have conformed to a particular way of thinking and a particular way of acting in the world. You have restricted yourself to a certain code of behavior, dictated not by true desire of the heart, but by outside influences.

Asking For What You Want: Did You Really Say That???

Wait! What Did You Just Say???
Many parents today will tell you that they're not getting what they want from their children. Quite a few parents have actually thrown in the towel. By contrast... we believe that many frustrating and seemingly insurmountable problems actually have simple, easy to understand causes, as well as equally simple and easy to understand solutions.

The Safe Place: Why The Present Is A Place Of Peace

The Safe Place: Why The Present Is A Place Of PeaceI would often say that I felt there was a party happening somewhere, but I wasn’t invited. Can you relate to that feeling? When with other people, I would pretend to be happy. I would pretend to have a good time. But inside, I felt a separation and a sadness that I couldn’t shake off. In short, I always felt I was missing out...

Want To Breastfeed? These 5 Things Will Make It Easier

More than 90% of Australian women start breastfeeding soon after the birth of their baby, but only 15% are exclusively breastfeeding at six months, despite national and international recommendations.

Saints and Soulmates: Francis and Clare of Assisi

Saints and Soulmates: Francis and Clare of AssisiAs we write in The Shared Heart, "The real soulmate is a state of consciousness, not a person." That being said, there can also be an outer soulmate, or life partner, an ancient connection with another soul where the primary purpose is serving together, blessing the earth together, more than simply loving one another.

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