Why Forcing Kids To Say I’m Sorry Doesn’t Fool Anybody

Why Forcing Kids To Say I’m Sorry Doesn’t Fool AnybodyDon’t force an unremorseful kid to apologize until they’re truly sorry, new research suggests. The point of an apology—to express remorse and repair relationships—is lost because children may dislike the apologizer even more after the insincere apology than before.

Do You Want A Better Sex Life?

Do You Want A Better Sex Life?

One in 3 American adults do not get enough sleep. Sexual issues are also common, with as many as 45 percent of women and 31 percent of men having a concern about their sex life.

Love In A Time Of Migrants: On Rethinking Arranged Marriages

Love In A Time Of Migrants: On Rethinking Arranged Marriages
In his book In Praise of Love (2009), the French communist philosopher Alain Badiou attacks the notion of ‘risk-free love’, which he sees written in the commercial language of dating services that promise their customers ‘love, without falling in love’.

Symptoms of Inner Peace and the Inner Peace Syndrome

Symptoms of Inner Peace and the Inner Peace Syndrome
If you have all or most of the following symptoms, please be advised that your condition of PEACE may be so far advanced as to not be treatable. 1. A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than from fears based on past experiences. 2. An unmistaken ability to enjoy each moment.

How To Tell If You Are Dating A Psychopath

How To Tell If You Are Dating A Psychopath
It may sound like a scene straight out of a horror movie, but statistically you are not that unlikely to end up on a date with a psychopath. It is estimated that about 1 in 100 people are psychopaths. The majority of psychopaths aren’t actually criminals, but live fairly ordinary lives in our midst. So how do you know if you happen to be dating a psychopath and what should you expect? Luckily, there’s research on the topic.

The Drama in Our Lives is A Wake-Up Call

The Drama in Our Lives is A Wake-Up Call
We all have times in our life where we find ourselves caught in the middle of dramas or 'impossible' situations. Our first tendency mighty be to find who's to blame and/or how to fix it. However, Alan Seale suggests: "This situation has happened for a reason. It wants to tell us something. The drama is a wake-up call..."

How Long Should I Wait Between Pregnancies?

How Long Should I Wait Between Pregnancies?

Women often wonder what the “right” length of time is after giving birth before getting pregnant again. A recent Canadian study suggests 12-18 months between pregnancies is ideal for most women.

How To Know If You Are An Extrovert?

How To Know If Are You An Extrovert?When it comes to socializing, is your philosophy "The more, the merrier?" If so, you definitely show qualities associated with the trait known as extroversion...

Freud Versus Jung: A Bitter Feud Over The Meaning Of Sex

Freud Versus Jung: A Bitter Feud Over The Meaning Of SexOn 27 February 1907, at Berggasse 19 in Vienna, Sigmund Freud fell in love. The object of his affection was Carl Gustav Jung: 19 years younger than Freud, the young psychiatrist was already the clinical director of the prestigious Burghölzli Hospital and a professor at the University of Zurich.

How Marriage Has Changed Dramatically Throughout History

How Marriage Has Changed Dramatically Throughout History
In 2017, Australians were asked “Should the law be changed to allow same-sex couples to marry?”. The answer was a resounding “yes” – more than 60% of those who expressed a view backed marriage equality.

To Really Appreciate a Woman...

To Really Appreciate a Woman...
Real appreciation is a gift of love straight from the heart, an acknowledgement of another’s greatness and beauty, and a way of showing your partner that you really care. Many women need specific kinds of appreciation. And many men don’t understand this.

To Really Appreciate a Man...

To Really Appreciate a Man...
Find out what kind of acknowledgment means most to the man in your life. How does he most need to be appreciated? You may be surprised. Please don’t get the idea that men don’t need appreciation for inner qualities of being.

Putting The X In Text: Warm Wishes Or A Kiss-off?

Putting The X In Text: Warm Wishes Or A Kiss-off?

Do you sign off texts and emails with an x? Have you ever thought what that x – shorthand for a kiss – means to you or the person who has sent it to you? It’s said that the liberal use of x in electronic correspondence, whether personal or professional, is feminising the workplace

What Is The Right Age To Have A Child?

What Is The Right Age To Have A Child?

Over the past three decades, there has been a steady increase in the average age of parents. Advances in fertility science mean that people can, literally, put their eggs or sperm on ice and delay the start of parenthood.

How Humor Can Change Your Relationship

How Humor Can Change Your Relationship
A sense of humor is an attractive trait. There is abundant cross-cultural evidence that shows that being funny makes you more desirable as a mate, especially if you are a man. But once the initial flirting is over, and you are in a romantic relationship, how large a role does humor play?

Neuroscientists Identify A Surprising Low-Tech Fix For Sleep-Deprived Teens

Neuroscientists Identify A Surprising Low-Tech Fix For Sleep-Deprived Teens
Healthy sleep leads to healthy brains. Neuroscientists have gotten that message out. But parents, doctors and educators alike have struggled to identify what to do to improve sleep. Some have called for delaying school start times or limiting screentime before bed to achieve academic, health and even economic gains.

Chi and Sexual Energy: A Path Toward Health, Vitality, and The Divine

Chi and Sexual Energy: A Path Toward Health, Vitality, and The Divine
Energy, like water, is the life-giving sustenance of the earth. Sexual energy is nourishment for the totality of ourselves -- the body, the mind, and the spirit. It is the water of life, replenishing the gardens of the human temple. Working with energy is a pivotal factor in our overall state of happiness.

4 Ways Children Say Their Well-Being Can Be Improved

4 Ways Children Say Their Well-Being Can Be Improved
Good emotional health as a child lays the foundation for good life satisfaction in adulthood. However, in the UK children and young people’s happiness with their life is now at its lowest since 2010.

Why Wisdom Must Be Shared: Wisdom Retained Is Wisdom Wasted

Why Wisdom Must Be Shared
If there is a reward for longevity, it is paid out in the form of wisdom, a quality of consciousness that has little to do with intelligence/I.Q. or book learning. Being a by-product of experience, wisdom more often is possessed by men and women who have survived fifty or more winters.

How To Make Sure Your Relationships Are Functional, Not Dysfunctional

How To Make Sure Your Relationships Are Functional, Not Dysfunctional
A healthy relationship stimulates both partners' individual growth. A functional relationship is not a fairy-tale type 'they lived happily ever after' scenario; it is subject to the same stresses and challenges inherent in any human partnership.

How Can A Baby Have Three Parents?

How Can A Baby Have Three Parents?
It seems impossible, right? We have been taught from the time we were young that babies are made when a sperm and an egg come together, and the DNA from these two cells combine to make a unique individual with half the DNA from the mother and half from the father.

Why Everyone Should Know Their Attachment Style

If you’ve suffered from anxiety, depression or relationship problems, a psychological theory called “attachment theory” can help you get to the root cause of your difficulties and give you a greater understanding of what’s going on.

What Can You Do If Your Child Is Afraid of the Dark?

What Can You Do If Your Child Is Afraid of the Dark?
A common childhood fear is fear of the dark. Many children become terrified of the dark and can't go to sleep in a darkened room alone, convinced the "bogeyman" or some other night creature is waiting in the shadows to get them. I had a client whose son was terrified...

Why Teaching Reading In Schools Can Kill A Love For Books

Why Reading Teaching In Schools Can Kill A Love For Books
Reading instruction in the classroom is a key concern for all teachers and there are many ways to go about it. However, is our determination to achieve excellence in reading skills in our children killing their love and enjoyment of a good book?

There's A Reason Your Child Wants To Read The Same Book Over And Over Again

There is a reason your child wants to read the same book over and over again
We often hear about the benefits of reading storybooks at bedtime for promoting vocabulary, early literacy skills, and a good relationship with your child. But the experts haven’t been in your home, and your child requests the same book every single night, sometimes multiple times a night. You both know all the words by heart.

Why Individuals With ADHD Are Gifted and Creative

Why Individuals With ADHD Are Gifted and CreativeIndividuals with ADHD may be our most creative individuals, our most extraordinary thinkers, our most brilliant inventors and pioneers. The children among us whom our teachers and psychiatrists say are 'disordered' may, in fact, carry a set of abilities -- a skill set -- that was necessary for the survival of humanity in the past, that has created much of what we treasure in our present 'quality of life,' and that will be critical to the survival of the human race in the future.

Developing Teen Brains Are Vulnerable To Anxiety

Developing Teen Brains Are Vulnerable To Anxiety
Adolescence is the life stage when mental illnesses are most likely temerge, with anxiety disorders being the most common. Recent estimates suggest that over 30 percent of teens have an anxiety disorder. That means about one of every three teenagers is struggling with anxiety that significantly interferes with their life and is unlikely to fade without treatment.

Relationships Can Help Us Grow: Changing Our Fight, Flight, or Freeze Response

Relationships Can Help Us Grow: Changing Our Fight, Flight, or Freeze Response
When conflict and challenges come up in most relationships, people tend to react in one of three ways: Fight, Flight or Freeze to protect themselves against painful feelings that are difficult or impossible to experience at the time they are happening. But, the problem is many people get stuck in...

Kill The Competition: Why Siblings Fight But Colleagues Cooperate

Kill The Competition: Why Siblings Fight But Colleagues Cooperate
There is a certain rhythm to the swing of sibling relations. We resent our brothers and sisters in childhood. We support them in adulthood. We sue them after the reading of the will. The choreographer of this dance, as in so many others, is competition.

How Artificial Intelligence Can Make Us Better At Expressing Ourselves

How Artificial Intelligence Can Make Us Better At Expressing Ourselves
Argument and debate form the cornerstones of civilised society and intellectual life. Processes of argumentation run our governments, structure scientific endeavour and frame religious belief. So should we worry that new advances in artificial intelligence are taking steps towards equipping computers with these skills?

Is Newborn Smiling Really Just A Reflex?

Is Newborn Smiling Really Just A Reflex?Very few people can resist smiling at a newborn baby – signalling positive emotions, such as joy and interest. Of course, this is especially true for new parents. One study found that new mothers looked at their 16-hour-old babies 80% of the time and smiled at them 34% of the time.

How To Watch A Scary Movie With Your Child

How To Watch A Scary Movie With Your Child

On Halloween, the cinemas and TV channels are filled with horror movies. But what should you do if you have a young child who wants to watch too?

What Is Karma: Personal, Family, and Past-Life

The Blessings and Curses of Karma: Personal, Family, and Past-Life
Of course, your ancestors can and do leave behavioral and attitudinal legacies that help you actualize your innate potentials. Mingled with ancestral legacies we discover blessings as well as curses. You can take a major step toward maturing when you can see and accept both the good and the bad in other...

Facebook Posts that Use These Words Can Predict Depression

Facebook Posts that Use These Words Can Predict Depression
Researchers have created an algorithm that analyzes social media posts to find linguistic markers for depression. In any given year, depression affects more than six percent of the adult population in the United States—some 16 million people—but fewer than half receive the treatment they need.

Feminine Wisdom and Aging: The Positive Role of the Wise Woman and Crone

Feminine Wisdom and Aging: The Positive Role of the Wise Woman and Crone
Times are changing, and for the most part, the word 'crone' is now accurately being used as a synonym for a woman who not only embodies postmenopausal wisdom, but shares it with the world. It is the time when the wisdom and healing of a woman's menopausal journey quickens in her heart, and her desire to share all that she has learned drives her back to the outer world.

What Makes A Good Community Where Young Children Can Thrive?

What Makes A Good Community Where Young Children Can Thrive?


The international research is clear. Stimulating and positive environments early in life provide optimal foundations for children’s ongoing development into adulthood. This in turn makes a difference to the productivity of society at large. Communities are important environments in which young children grow and develop. There is limited research, however, on how communities can best influence early childhood development.

What Do We Consent To When We Consent To Sex?

What Do We Consent To When We Consent To Sex?Two men regularly meet at a sex club, so that one (‘the top’) can fist the other (‘the bottom’). One night, the fisting duo stay until the club closes. The lights click on in their sobering glory, exposing the prosthetic hand that the top has been inserting into the anus of the bottom.

Debunking the “I Am Not Good Enough” Fallacy

 Love Yourself Madly: Debunking the “I Am Not Enough” Fallacy
In an interview on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Jane Fonda revealed that it wasn’t until after she turned sixty that she realized one of life’s most important secrets: She had to give up her incessant desire to be perfect so that she could begin to experience herself as whole.

The Connected Inner Guide: A Great Tool for Adolescents and Decision Making

The Connected Inner Guide: A Great Tool for Adolescents and Decision Making
Adolescence is an amazing time, filled with countless opportunities and challenges for your daughter. She is facing many of the decisions that will shape her adult life. To successfully handle these potentially life-altering situations, she needs a strong internal decision-making center.

Prayer of Love For My Son On His Wedding Day

Prayer of Love For My Son On His Wedding Day
I pray that I no longer seek for the other one for I have found completion in me. And if in my solitary journey,  I happen to join with another soul, let our hearts merge because we have so much love to give... And if we find ourselves taking, let our receiving be based on...

Soul Mates and Soul Families: Being At One With Love!

Soul Mates & Soul Families: The Search Goes On
The whole point of a soul mate turning up in your life is to show you to yourself. That is the purpose of all human relationships. You learn through viewing in the mirror. The Law of Attraction works in every aspect of your life, and therefore each person drawn into your life is there through vibration, and nothing else. They are present because your vibration and their vibration are matched in some way.

When To Worry About Nail Biting, Skin Picking And Other Repetitive Behaviors

Nail-biting, nose-picking, mouth-chewing, skin-picking, hair-pulling – we all do some of them, some of the time. Some normal grooming behaviours help maintain good hygiene (such as picking at a dirty finger nail) and appearance (plucking that pesky grey hair).

Want To Know If Your Partner's Cheating On You?

Want To Know If Your Partner's Cheating On You?

Picture Morgan Freeman, Donald Trump or Margaret Thatcher. Most likely you can hear their voices in your mind, and the characteristic inflections that they put on certain words, as well as their tone and pitch.

How to Restore Sexual Performance

How to Restore Sexual PerformanceThere are several ways to restore most of one's sexual performance including a high tone of physical conditioning and mental attitude. The power of the mind to influence the relative efficiency of one's sexual performance cannot go unnoticed.

What Your Kids Need To Know About Legal Weed

What Your Kids Need To Know About Legal Weed
Weed, pot, grass, marijuana — or cannabis to use the proper terminology — is now legal in Canada, after 95 years of prohibition. Anyone over the age of 18, or 19 depending on the province, can now walk into a store and buy up to 30 grams (approx. 1 ounce) of regulated product.

The Teenage Brain: Why Some Years Are Crazier Than Others

The Teenage Brain: Why Some Years Are Crazier Than Others
Neurobiologically the single most important fact about, say, a 20 year old brain is the fact that almost all of it is already matured, fully wired up—myelinated, a jargon-y term for it. The reward dopamine system has been going full blast, and somewhere around like early puberty all of the brain is totally up to speed—except for the frontal cortex.

Taking the Risk to Listen and Be Heard with the Heart

Are You Taking the Risk to Hear & Be Heard?
We may think that because of the development of the ability to see and hear into the far reaches of space that we must be quite advanced in the field of communication. But all this has little effect on our ability to listen with our heart...

Does Your Child Struggle With Spelling? This Might Help

Does Your Child Struggle With Spelling? This Might HelpEnglish spelling has a reputation for being illogical and chaotic. What’s going on with yacht, and why the W in two? There are a thousand other “but why?” questions our children ask about English spelling.

How Can I Love Better, Without Conditions or Expectations?

How Can I Love Better, Without Conditions or Expectations?
Love has to be understood, not as a biological infatuation — that is lust. That exists in all the animals; there is nothing special about it. Love is the fragrance of a silent, peaceful, meditative heart. Love has nothing to do with biology or chemistry or hormones...

Five Steps to Harvesting the Fruits and Gifts of Solitude

Five Steps to Harvesting the Fruits and Gifts of Solitude
Americans are deeply ambivalent about the solitary person in our midst. On the one hand, the lone hero is much admired in national folklore. On the other side of our ambivalence is the belief that to be alone, even temporarily, is to have been abandoned and to be sunk in a black misery of loneliness.

A Child's Sense of Self: Healing the Wounds of the Inner Child

A Child's Sense of Self: Healing the Wounds of the Inner Child
A lot of us suffer a great deal in our lives because our inner child has old wounds that have never been healed. It is important to know how to overcome our old wounds, because all too often they stand in the way of our ability to fully love ourselves, other people, and the children in our lives. Our old wounds often become our children's burden.

Should You Hide Negative Emotions From Children?

Should You Hide Negative Emotions From Children?
From crying in the toilet to leaving the house in a rage, many parents and carers don’t want their children to see them getting emotional. But is this the right thing to do, or should you come clean about your fear of spiders or how angry you are with your boss? While the topic is complex, some clear answers are beginning to emerge from the research.

The Psychology Of Closure And Why Some Need It More Than Others

The Psychology Of Closure And Why Some Need It More Than Others
Imagine your partner unexpectedly changes their Facebook status from “in a relationship” to “single” and then refuses to communicate with you. This sounds awfully cruel, completely robbing you of your right to find out why you have been dumped so that you can get some closure and move on.

Is Wifehood Old-Fashioned And Does It Still Matter?

Is Wifehood Old-Fashioned And Does It Still Matter?

When the King of Sweden asks Joan, the protagonist of the newly-released film The Wife, what she does for a living, she replies, ironically, “I am a king maker”. This poignant scene takes place towards the film’s end, as Joan (Glenn Close) takes part in the festive dinner celebrating her husband being awarded the Nobel Prize in Literature.

How To Make Friends Online

How To Make Friends OnlineYour chances of forming online friendships depend mainly on the number of groups and organizations you join, not their types, according to a new analysis of six online social networks.

Family: Different Personalities and Roles, Similar Karmic Lessons

Family: Different Personalities and Roles, Similar Karmic Lessons
The family unit is a complex mixture of personalities who come together to learn, heal, and love. It is the first place we begin our Earthly journey. Family is instrumental in helping us fulfill our soul's purpose by helping us learn karmic lessons and providing an environment in which we can develop our gifts and talents.

Sex-Ed Is Crucial To The Rights Of Today's Youth

Sex-Ed Is Crucial To The Rights Of Today's Youth
Young people need a brand of sex education that is responsive to current realities, behaviours and pressures so they can get the most comprehensive and contemporary information about the issues that they will face and are facing in making decisions about relationships and sexual activity.

How Facebook Friends Hurt Our Feelings And Our Thinking

How Facebook Friends Hurt Our Feelings And Our Thinking
Social media sites can make us feel left out—and can actually inhibit intelligent thought, research shows. A new study takes a critical look not just at Facebook and other similar platforms, but at the peculiarities of the systems on which they operate.

How To Become a Love Finder Rather Than a Fault Finder

How To Become a Love Finder Rather Than a Fault Finder
Fault finding serves as a means to justify an illusory sense of superiority. To become a love finder requires us to be vigilant and self-realized. Most of us are just regular, ordinary people; therefore, vigilance will be our primary tool for taking note of our blaming and fault finding.

More Boys Are Hurt By Dating Violence Than Girls

More Boys Are Hurt By Dating Violence Than GirlsFor some teenagers, involvement in dating relationships can result in experiences of violence, which can have harmful effects on health and well-being, and are associated with higher levels of depression and suicidal thoughts and poorer educational outcomes.

More Kids Live In 3 Generation Homes Than Ever Before

More Kids Live In 3 Generation Homes Than Ever BeforeMore children in the United States than ever before live in multigenerational households, according to a new study. In 1996, about 5.7 percent of kids, or roughly 4 million, lived in multigenerational families. Twenty years later, the numbers are 9.8 percent, or about 7 million children.

How Friendships Can Push Teens To Delinquency

How Friendships Can Push Teens To DelinquencyThe friends that adolescents select, the influence they have on each other, and gender may all play a role in establishing friendships that can help, or possibly hurt, teens, according to new research.

Gone But Never Forgotten: How To Comfort A Child Whose Sibling Has Died

Gone But Never Forgotten: How To Comfort A Child Whose Sibling Has Died

In 1971, when I was four years old, my brother died of a congenital heart condition. Writing about this experience has prompted more responses than anything else I’ve ever written or spoken about. Untold and unheard stories appear in comments sections, strangers tell me cross-culturally consistent tales in the soft corners of conference rooms and speak about the siblings they’ve lost and how present the memories of them still are in their minds and hearts.

Want To Prevent Sexual Harassment And Assault?

Want To Prevent Sexual Harassment And Assault?

In the wake of sexual assault and harassment allegations involving Brett Kavanaugh, Harvey Weinstein, Bill O'Reilly and others, Americans may be learning just how prevalent sexual violence is in our society. So, what can be done to prevent it?

How To Gently Get Your Child To Brush Their Teeth

How To Gently Get Your Child To Brush Their Teeth
For most parents, the phrase “I don’t want to brush my teeth” is rather familiar. While it may seem easiest to pry their mouth open and force them to brush, research suggests there are better ways that may positively influence children’s future dental health.

Why The Sexual Objectification Of Men Isn't Just A Bit Of Fun

Why The Sexual Objectification Of Men Isn't Just A Bit Of FunThe idea that advertising, entertainment and news media are guilty of objectifying women is familiar enough to most of us. But recently the balance seems to have shifted, with concerns being expressed about the potential objectification of male actors in drama series such as Bodyguard and Poldark.

Does Being A Parent Make You More Conservative?

Does Being A Parent Make You More Conservative?
Parents may display more conservative attitudes, according to new research. Parental advice like “Look both ways before you cross the street,” or “Don’t run with scissors,” can be considered examples of a certain perspective that portrays the world as a dangerous place—a perspective parents might use to instill caution in their children.

How Often Do People Forget Things About One Another?

 How Often Do People Forget Things About One Another?

A new acquaintance needs to be reminded of your name while you are having a conversation. A colleague forgets your plan to meet for coffee and schedules a conflicting meeting. A friend books a table for the two of you at a restaurant but it slips her mind that you don’t like sushi.

How To Know If You Should Trust Your Boss? Your Lover?

How To Know If You Should You Trust Your Boss? Your Lover?

One of the topics most frequently discussed “at the water-cooler” is how much we may, or may not, trust people — from employers and managers to co-workers, friends and lovers.

Trust, of course, is vital for individual relationships and for organizational effectiveness — within universities and businesses alike. It creates an atmosphere where work is well-managed. It smooths the way, serving as a lubricant for an effective — and efficient — work environment.

These Words Make Kids More Helpful And Persistent

These Words Make Kids More Helpful And PersistentEncouraging children “to help,” rather than asking them to “be helpers,” can instill persistence as they work to fulfill daily tasks that are difficult to complete, according to a new study.

The Art of Speaking Up and Taking Charge of Your Life

The Art of Speaking Up and Taking Charge of Your Life
Both men and women have to learn to speak up in order to take charge of their lives and cultivate meaningful relationships! This applies to school, work, business, family, and social events. As scary as it can seem at first, I guarantee that speaking up will bring copious rewards and breakthrough moments.

How To Teach Kids Where Food Comes From

How To Teach Kids Where Food Comes FromSurvey the shelves of most supermarkets and you’ll no doubt be confronted with row upon row of food designed to appeal to children. Be it chicken nuggets or turkey twizzlers – many foods now bear little resemblance to their original ingredients – “junk foods” now line the supermarket shelves to appeal to young consumers.

Healing The Pain That Won't Go Away

Healing The Pain That Won't Go AwaySelf-mutilation is a big problem facing teens today. This affliction is the result of fear instilled by trauma. It is as though the brain contains a computer chip, which has been programmed, because of trauma, to self-mutilate. It is a mental trap that has taken innumerable young people hostage...

The Secret To A Happy Marriage

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Between 2005 and 2010, one in ten married couples in Indonesia got divorced, according to data from the Supreme Court. In 70% of the cases, the wife initiated the divorce. The trend has only increased since then, rising by 80% between 2010 and 2015.

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