Christmas is a stressful time for many, so not surprisingly it’s also known as the season for arguments.
Schools began to introduce fluorescent lighting in the mid 1950s and rows of these low cost, long life, high efficacy lamps tend to be the lighting of choice in many schools around the world.
The question often is, "How can I call it quits with my partner in a constructive way?" First, end a relationship because you are following your inner knowing, not because you’re in the midst of an argument, emotional meltdown, or have specific topics that need resolution.
How can you talk about the science behind climate change with relatives who are disengaged, doubtful, or dismissive of it at holidays?
Have you ever felt like everyone else has so much more to be thankful for? Check your Facebook or Instagram feed: Your friends seem to dine at finer restaurants, take more exotic vacations and have more accomplished children. They even have cuter pets!
What does loneliness sound like? I asked this question on Twitter recently. You might expect that people would say “silence”, but they didn’t.
'Energy in motion' can be used for good or bad, the same as a pencil can be used to draw a beautiful picture or to poke someone in the eye. I know how I consciously direct my emotional energy is important and I reach some confidence in doing so by feeling my feelings.
Parents are often their children’s first literacy teachers. They oversee children signing their names on artwork and read storybooks with their kids.
If you have kids, chances are you’ve worried about their presence on social media.
We use anger in disciplining our children because we become upset by what they do, and we then become angry. But when we mix the 'lesson' with our anger, we end up teaching our child that it's okay to respond with anger to things that upset us. When we respond with anger, the child learns anger.
Kids seem to learn about the idea of hypocrisy early in elementary school, new research suggests.
A new study on sex-based discrimination toward women in the workplace documents the plusses and minuses of male allies.
Children seem able to find wonder in the simplest of things -- an unusual bug on the sidewalk, a puddle that is particularly deep, a small paper airplane. As we age, somehow our capacity for awe and wonder is diminished, just as our skin loses its elasticity. So how do we recapture the experience of wonder?
You might say that not-forcing is the second principle of the Tao -- in Chinese it is called wu wei, and it means literally 'not doing', but would be much better translated to give it the spirit of 'not forcing' or 'not obstructing'. Wu wei when applied to human activity refers to a person who does not get in his or her own way.
Polyamory is the act of engaging in multiple consensual, potentially long-term, romantic or sexual relationships at the same time.
If you are losing energy in the form of joy, health, money, or love, you have a leak in your system. There is no malevolent parasite that has invaded your world and is undermining you. Your leak is on your property, and as such you have access to repair it.
Consider this: 167 million men and women in the United States are on a diet at any given moment. If that many people are trying a solution and it doesn't work, something's wrong with the so-called solution. Contrary to what proponents of expensive diet regimens say, these diets can't work long term, no matter how much willpower you have.
Loving an insecure person can be frustrating. You always feel like you have to offer praise or reassurance.
Only children get a bad rap. They are often perceived as selfish, spoiled, anxious, socially inept and lonely. And my profession, psychology, may be partly to blame for these negative stereotypes.
More than one in three young adults aged 18 to 25 reported problematic levels of loneliness, according to a new report from Swinburne University and VicHealth.
Think about it... for years we have been molded and pushed to behave in certain 'acceptable' ways. We have been asked to adhere to tradition, to behave according to certain accepted rules of behavior, and to dress according to the norm.
When we are born, our brains have a lot to learn. For the newborn baby, everything they learn about the world around them comes from their senses.
Even though many of us had the illusion that reaching adulthood would mean we had achieved a sort of award-worthy final destination where we could live forevermore from a place of certainty and peace, knowing what to do and what to wear in every circumstance, this was probably not the case.
When people lived in small communities and villages, they often felt a sense of connection to the past. There was incredible strength to be derived from living in a world where one didn't feel alone. There was power in knowing that, in addition to...
Over the last four decades, Joyce and I have counseled many couples who are suffering with their sexual relationship. Most of these couples also feel disconnected from each other. They think they can improve their overall relationship by improving their sexual relationship. This is usually a mistake.
Perhaps evolution’s most wondrous manifestation is visible in the unparalleled elegance and versatility in the design of the human hand.
With sex on their minds, people are more likely to change their attitudes and engage in deceptive self-presentation, research on sexual priming finds.
Research across many years and many cultures has found around 35-40% of people say they feel insecure in their adult relationships. While 60-65% experience secure, loving and satisfying relationships.
Here's a stunner: 64 percent of all marriages that began in 1990 ended in divorce by the turn of the millennium. 70 percent of those failed marriages produced at least one child. Roughly half of all children born in this country over the past 15 years have ended up being children of divorce.
Tantra is well regarded within the yoga tradition as the fastest path to enlightenment. Eastern legend holds that an average human soul takes 100,000 lifetimes to achieve enlightenment, but that with tantra, any person truly committed to this path can gain enlightenment in as little as one lifetime. I soon discovered why this is true.
Is he or she the one? You know… the one to introduce to my parents, the one to move in with, the one to start a family with, the one to marry? At some point in every dating relationship, you ask yourself some version of these questions.
Nearly half of parents in a new national poll say they’ve declined a playdate because they didn’t feel comfortable leaving their child in the other parent’s care.
The minute you awaken in the morning, access your first feeling and your first thought. That first feeling or thought of the day commonly sets the stage and the tone for the rest of the day. So, if that first feeling/thought is not to your liking, the choice is yours. Right then and there is the best time to change it with feelings/thoughts that ARE of your liking.
The host of Sunrise breakfast television show, David Koch, aka Kochie, has stirred controversy by saying mothers should breastfeed “discreetly”...
Children develop at varying rates in all sorts of ways, from when they take their first steps to when they understand that their own perspective might be different to someone else’s.
You cannot avoid truth. It is better to face it, it is better to accept it, it is better to live it. Right now, when you say something, your body says something else; when your tongue says something, your eyes go on saying something else simultaneously.
From an early age, children can make decisions about what kinds of information to teach other kids, according to new research.
Couples often trade responsibility for their Inner Children. They project their disowned feelings on each other and riddle the relationship with unrealistic expectations and displaced anger. When you unwittingly hand your deepest longings over to your partner, you abandon your Inner Child all over again.
Few topics arouse as much interest and controversy as sex. This is hardly surprising. The biological continuance of the species hinges on it – if human beings stopped having sex, there would soon be no more human beings.
Has this happened to you? You strike up a conversation with a complete stranger, only to discover that you share surprising connections
Public health agencies are warning parents about using cannabis in the presence of their children. However, parents who use cannabis say that it makes them more empathetic, more patient and more caring towards their young ones
The paradox of vulnerability in relationships, the path to connection, is to allow yourself to be both strong and vulnerable at the same time. When you do, it allows your partner to get to see the real you with your defenses down. This means no hiding. Not from yourself, not from your partner and best of all no hiding from the truth.
Love is the highest vibrational energy and can accomplish almost anything. The more we can keep our hearts open, the greater the love we feel, and the more patience, understanding, and compassion we have for others.
There is nothing good or worthwhile about having a low opinion of oneself. However, positive self esteem improves one's health, sociability, and general attitude towards life. Negative self esteem is a habit, a highly addictive habit. Perhaps you can see what an enemy to your well- being this is, and have a greater willingness to defeat it.
Instead of being the coolest kid in the room, how about being the kindest? Once a child understands the importance of their actions, good deeds, and the joy of helping others, kindness becomes fun and is highly contagious. What’s wonderful about kindness is that it is a skill that can be learned.
It’s a problem many teachers are familiar with, a student apparently struggling in class, but in fact just suffering from something that’s easily fixed – vision problems – with an inexpensive pair of glasses.
We live in a society in which inequality is entrenched and increasing – in this context, words can have real and pernicious effects. This is particularly true of the way we speak about inequality itself.
Depression is a leading cause of disability and disease for people around the world. It often begins during adolescence, especially for females, may continue or recur in adulthood and tends to become a lifetime chronic health condition.
Homework. Whether you’re a fifth-grader or a freshman in college, the mere thought of homework can be overwhelming. And actually doing homework can be quite difficult. But homework doesn’t have to be something a student dreads.
We have all gone through life saying certain things about ourselves, such as: I'm a shy person, or I'm intelligent, or I'm stupid, or I'm clumsy, or I'm slow, etc. Once we understand the power of the word and of the mind, we come to the realization that all of these statements were simply creating self-fulfilling prophecies.
At a time when public debate around the world is suffering from a collision between facts and “alternative facts”, experts must find new ways to reach people.
The Beatles song, All You Need Is Love summed it up quite nicely. Love is all we need, but it is usually not all we want. Unfortunately, some of us use our love to manipulate, control, and otherwise misappropriate our energies. We think that only a select few are actually deserving of our love...
Married couples make a number of important decisions together, such as where to live, what type of house to buy, how many children to have and how to educate them.
On any given day we're lied to from 10 to 200 times, and the clues to detect those lie can be subtle and counter-intuitive.
You may be attracted to someone when you first meet but it may be on a physical level mostly. When the excitement of that original feeling fades, you may feel something is wrong with the relationship. In actuality, you only misunderstood the meaning of relationships.
To build up your courage for those really difficult "no's," start small. Practice saying no in non-threatening encounters where there isn't much at stake. Little by little, stretch yourself by saying no in more challenging circumstances.
The UK has seen a sharp increase in teenage drug use in the last few years: the NHS reports that 37% of 15-year-olds have used drugs, and that deaths resulting from drug use are at their highest since records began in 1993
Google recently agreed to pay a US$170 million fine for illegally gathering children’s personal data on YouTube without parental consent, which is a violation under the Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act (COPPA).
What is it about saying, flat out, 'I love you' to our children that has been shunned by many and may still constitute a taboo among middle-aged parents today? Novels, movies, indeed most cultures invest 'I love you' with strong erotic content. The deep, romantic, feeling-tone of the phrase reinforces the taboo...
Another school year is upon us, and both parents and children have a lot to remember as people are coming and going on new schedules: make and take lunches, bring an item for show-and-tell, carry cups to the table for dinner when asked.
It seems obvious that your friends would agree they are your friends. But recent findings published in the journal PLOS ONE call this into question.
Parents are often concerned when they observe their child telling lies. However, lie-telling can give us a window into understanding children’s social and cognitive development.
Of course, your ancestors can and do leave behavioral and attitudinal legacies that help you actualize your innate potentials. Mingled with ancestral legacies we discover blessings as well as curses. You can take a major step toward maturing when you can see and accept both the good and the bad in other...
About eight years ago, I went to dinner with a dear friend I had known for more than 40 years. It would be the last time we would see each other and by the end of that evening I was deeply shaken.
Parents and caregivers often wait until their children are older to talk about sexual consent. And many parents often leave “the sex talk” altogether – hoping that schools will do it instead.
I have a policy: On Sundays, I don't allow myself to come within five hundred yards of the computer; the phone goes on voice mail; and the cell phone gets to snooze in my purse all day. My friends know how I am about Sundays, and they respect my need for solitude. This soothing Sunday routine means a lot to me...
In today's changing times, we are looking for a better way to be ourselves, not someone we were raised to be. In this time of intense self-discovery, all others serve as our mirrors.
The book ignited a revolution, breaking free from conventional wisdom that said children required schedules, discipline and little affection.
“Jamal” is a 16-year-old boy who sustained a concussion in a skateboarding accident in July.
It has long been clear that a person’s sexual preference – whether they prefer male or female sexual partners, or both – is influenced by his or her genetic makeup.
I teach, speak, and write about joy, peace, power, ease, and grace because I am learning to bring them more fully into my own life, not because I have mastered them. And to the degree that I have been able to make them a reality in my life, part of my life's work is helping others make...
With decisions to make every day, small and big, of momentary and far-reaching consequence, people who become parents put themselves on a fast track towards adulthood. They are responsible for the life of a little one now and so they move up in the ranks of generations.
In the film Being John Malkovich, an unhappy guy named Craig discovers a portal into movie star John Malkovich's mind, through which he can live vicariously for fifteen minutes. Soon there is a long line of people paying $200 to enter the portal and be someone else.
Argument is everywhere. From the kitchen table to the boardroom to the highest echelons of power, we all use argument to persuade, investigate new ideas, and make collective decisions.
Using politically incorrect speech can help people appear more authentic, according to new research.
Teenagers who spend more than three hours a day on social media are more likely to report high levels of behaviors that may indicate mental health problems compared to adolescents who do not use social media at all, according to a new study.
Older adults who get hearing aids for a newly diagnosed hearing loss have a lower risk of being diagnosed with dementia, depression, or anxiety for the first time over the next three years.
|Giving advice may actually benefit the advice-giver, according to new research.
When we speak, our sentences emerge as a flowing stream of sound. Unless we are really annoyed.
Fidgeting is usually considered as a sign of boredom or lack of attention which can be distracting to others.
Though it’s not easy, it is possible to change the poor sleep habits of children in preschool and elementary school, experts say.
Around 1% of the population has an autism spectrum disorder, with estimates ranging from one in 150 to one in 70.
If you’re a parent of a preschooler, you might be wondering how you can help set your child up for success once they enter kindergarten.
When parents separate or get divorced, it inevitably disrupts the lives of children, and can take a toll on their mental wellbeing.
Diagnoses of mental disorders and drug prescriptions among school-age children have skyrocketed over the last two decades.
When making food choices when we’re with friends, we tend to want to match characteristics that others can measure or rank, such as size or price, but feel free to go our own way on things like flavor or shape, a new study suggests.
Kids are less likely to have concentration problems and behavioral issues if their parents make a greater effort to engage with their schooling earlier in the year, according to new research.
The numbers of women undergoing elective egg freezing across the Western world has increased rapidly over the past few years.
Breakups happen to friends, too. Here’s how to find closure, while preserving your heart and dignity.
We are complex beings. Within each of us there are many, many aspects, some of which seem to be at war with others. We all have an Inner Critic: that voice that nags at us, puts us down, tells us we're not good enough. When we...
One of the interesting questions we face as philosophers who are attempting to make philosophical ideas accessible for a general audience, is whether or not everyone can or should ‘do philosophy’.
There’s been a surge in measles cases across Europe, putting people’s lives at risk according to new findings from the World Health Organization.
Inquiry-based learning emphasises a student’s role in the learning process and asks them to engage with an idea or topic in an active way, rather than by sitting and listening to a teacher.
The claim that homosexual men share a “gay gene” created a furor in the 1990s. But new research two decades on supports this claim – and adds another candidate gene.
Empathy is everywhere. In many ways, empathy is the social glue that holds everybody together. Empathy is a social experience that involves feeling external emotional energy to the point of mirroring an emotion and taking it into one’s own experience.
Because I conduct research about reading, parents often ask me the same question: “What can I do to help my child become a better reader?”
The universality of a good story serves to demonstrate that we’re not so different from our counterparts across the globe, which in turn prompts us to empathize with the “other” to the extent that we will eventually feel as the “other”; thus, respect and empathy are the inevitable by-products of this process.
Schools across the country encourage parents to help their children with homework.
Teen girls experience relationship abuse at alarming rates, according to a new study that specifically focuses on reproductive coercion—pressure from a partner to get pregnant.
Sex robots made headlines after American comedian Whitney Cummings brought out her very own lookalike robot for her Netflix special called Can I Touch It? RealBotix