How To Teach Saving and Spending to Kids As Young As 3 Years Old

How To Teach Saving and Spending to Kids As Young As 3 Years Old

Planning for the holidays will look a different this year in the face of COVID-19. Beyond gathering restrictions, many families have come up against economic hardship and other stressors related to the pandemic.

7 Tips To Make Speaking In Online Classes and Meetings Easier

7 Tips To Make Speaking In Online Classes and Meetings Easier

Many parents and students are engaged in a daily routine of speaking to people via a camera on a computer, tablet or phone during COVID-19 restrictions. This often means finding a quiet place in order to ask a question, provide an answer or share an opinion with a virtual audience.

How Does One Attain True Wisdom?

How Does One Attain True Wisdom?

There is a difference between wisdom and knowledge. One could say that wisdom is knowledge that has been brought into one's heart and experienced as true. We have all been introduced to many ideas and theories from reading books or listening to someone, but until this information has been tested in our own experience, wisdom is not possible.

Complete Union: Honor The Soul First

Complete Union: Honor The Soul First

When a woman and man join, the coming together of bodies is the least of the meetings taking place. While the five senses are engaging in intense sensations, the minds of the two people are merging with all of their desires, aversions and thoughts. More important and more binding, the souls of the individuals are uniting, bringing together all of their hopes, dreams, sorrows; past, present and future.

Why We Need French-style Divorce for Lockdown Break-ups

Why We Need French-style Divorce for Lockdown Break-ups

The coronavirus pandemic has put new pressures on relationships and many are feeling the strain. With families locked in houses, schools closed and job losses on the horizon, it’s perhaps inevitable that this unusual time will cause many people to re-evaluate or end their relationships.

No, A Hug Isn't COVID-Safe. But If You Have To Do It, Here's What To Keep In Mind

No, A Hug Isn't COVID-Safe. But If You Have To Do It, Here's What To Keep In Mind

Some people who live alone may by now have gone months without touching or hugging another person. While avoiding close contact with others is one of the key measures to prevent virus spread, the irony is we probably need a hug more in 2020 than ever before. So how dangerous is a hug really in the time of COVID?

 

Supporting Your Peaceful Home: Consciously Cultivating Connection

Supporting Your Peaceful Home: Consciously Cultivating Connection

Mindful parenting is not about a technique to create an outcome but about building a loving relationship for life. Children want to please us when they’re treated with love, compassion, respect—and when their own stress levels aren’t too high.

Loving Yourself through the Joy of Masturbation

Loving Yourself through the Joy of Masturbation

My first post-marital relationship was a sexual turning point. Blake was an exciting man. At the time we met, I'd been off alcohol for three years, so we were both completely drug free. We started mainlining sex. I intended to explore sex passionately and in depth without the interference of church or state.

Envy, A Fierce and Hypocritical Emotion, Can Cause Illness

Envy, A Fierce and Hypocritical Emotion, Is An Illness In Itself

One of the fiercest and most hypocritical human emotions is envy. When the envy is conscious and sent deliberately, the harm is even more terrible, appearing as a sudden illness in the person's life, with no apparent cause.

Becoming A More Idealized Version of Ourselves

Becoming A More Idealized Version of Ourselves

As 5D humans we are unable to tolerate cruelty and harm to any living being. As an example, when talking about current events, I often say in a semi-joking way to my husband and close friends, “People don’t act like that on my planet.” This feels quite literal to me. It is baffling that people here are so cruel to one another.

How To Stay Socially Connected If Lockdown Returns To You

How To Stay Socially Connected If Lockdown Returns To You

After a fairly relaxed summer, more and more places are bringing back tighter restrictions in response to rising COVID-19 cases, with some even returning to full or near-full lockdowns.

What To Do When You Want To Yell At Your Kids (or At Other Adults)

What To Do When You Want To Yell At Your Kids (or At Other Adults)

It’s weird, we expect children to be respectful, yet we continually order them around. We make demands of them, then we are surprised when they are demanding. We yell, threaten, and punish, demonstrating to them that power and coercion are our go-to tools. Unsurprisingly, this causes disconnection in the relationship.

Why Do We Always Seem To Repeat The Same Lesson?

Why Do We Always Seem To Repeat The Same Lesson?

Have you ever noticed that lessons tend to repeat themselves? Does it seem as if you married or dated the same person several times in different bodies with different names? Have you run into the same type of boss over and over again? Do you find yourself having the same problem with many different coworkers?

3 Ways To Get Your Point Across While Wearing A Mask

3 Ways To Get Your Point Across While Wearing A Mask

You wear your mask, keep six feet between yourself and others and are committed to safety. But the measures that help minimize your risk of COVID-19 can also have an impact on your interactions with others.

Taking the Risk to Listen and Be Heard with the Heart

Are You Taking the Risk to Hear & Be Heard?

We may think that because of the development of the ability to see and hear into the far reaches of space that we must be quite advanced in the field of communication. But all this has little effect on our ability to listen with our heart...

Why Friendships Are Falling Apart Over Politics

Why Friendships Are Falling Apart Over Politics

Former Supreme Court Justices Ruth Bader Ginsburg and Antonin Scalia were on opposite sides of the political spectrum. Yet despite their obvious legal disagreements, the liberal Ginsburg once described herself and the conservative Scalia as “best buddies.”

You Can Grow Beyond Victim To Fulfill Your Destiny

You Can Grow Beyond Victim To Fulfill Your Destiny

Andrea has been married four times, and divorced three. "I don't see myself as a four-time loser; I consider myself a four-time learner. Although those marriages didn't endure, I gained valuable lessons that helped me bring more depth and presence to the relationships that followed, and ultimately contributed to the successful marriage I now have."

When Having A Difficult Time...

When Having a Difficult Time...

Right now, in our country, and perhaps in other countries as well, people are having a challenging time in their lives. It could be easy for a person to feel lost in all of this ongoing challenge. But how can we feel found? 

An Open Letter to the Entire Human Family

An Open Letter to the Entire Human Family

This is the moment of truth for humankind. Critical choices must now be made in order to protect the continued existence of human society and the earth itself. This letter is not a political appeal, although the message in it certainly extends to...

Women and Suicide: The Dangers of Social Isolation

Women and Suicide: The Dangers of Social Isolation

Men have long been recognised as being most at risk of suicide, but the Office for National Statistics recently reported the highest annual rate of female suicides in the UK since 2004.

Why Microaggressions Aren't Just Innocent Blunders

Why Microaggressions Aren't Just Innocent Blunders

A white man shares publicly that a group of Black Harvard graduates “look like gang members to me” and claims he would have said the same of white people dressed similarly.

How Parents Should Talk To Their Children About Sex

How Parents Should Talk To Their Children About Sex

Parents and children need to be able to discuss sex – but often they avoid these conversations. Here are some tips that will help change these conversations from awkward to normal.

Forgiving Means Releasing The Pain Associated With An Event

Forgiving Means Releasing The Pain Associated With An Event

Forgiving means "releasing the pain associated with an event. You don't need to forgive the action, just the person. Your reason for forgiving is to heal yourself, not because it is something that you are expected to do."

Why Yelling At People Who Aren't Wearing Masks Won't Work

Why Yelling At People Who Aren't Wearing Masks Won't Work

There is strong scientific evidence that wearing a mask reduces the risk of transmitting the coronavirus and cuts down the risk of infection to the wearer by as much as 65%. Both the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the World Health Organization recommend wearing them.

How Family and Friends Can Help To End Domestic Violence

How Family and Friends Can Help To End Domestic Violence

Domestic violence disproportionately affects women and girls around the world. In the United States, one in four women and one in seven men experience domestic violence during their lifetime.

A New Golden Rule and The Couple's Manifesto of Love

A New Golden Rule and The Couple's Manifesto of Love

The familiar Golden Rule -- Do unto others as you would have them do unto you -- has analogues throughout the world's cultures. A better version of the Golden Rule for couples -- and one of the secrets to loving in flow -- is to do unto your partner as your partner would like, not as you would like or as you wish he or she would like.

Appreciating Your Partner and Being Mindful of Each Other

Appreciating Your Partner and Being Mindful of Each Other

Do the best couples have any secret strategies for staying mindful and not taking one another for granted? Paying attention each time your partner reaches out in some tiny way, even if you must say, 'Now's not a good time,' shows courtesy and caring, and keeps you both current with each other's lives.

Seeing Our Parents and Our Relatives In A New Light

Seeing Our Parents and Our Relatives In A New Light 

Our parents and our relatives are among our most important teachers; they help shape our view of the world, how we understand ourselves, and our relationships with ourselves and with others.

Relationship Problem? Heal It or Repeat It!

Relationship Problem? Heal It or Repeat It!

Quite often, I spend time with people who are extremely critical of themselves for having multiple failed relationships. The truth is, they're missing the point: We can't fail, because there's no way to do these things wrong. A failed relationship, if you put it into its proper context, is a chance to...

How You Can Learn to Trust Each Other and Negotiate Love

How You Can Negotiate Love

If you're in a relationship and are ready to deal with your conflicts, don't be afraid. You and your partner have the power to share your feelings and needs -- and reach agreement peacefully. Is it possible for you and your partner to resolve smoothly the differences that arise in your relationship?

We Can Learn To Be Love Finders Rather Than Fault Finders

How To Become a Love Finder Rather Than a Fault Finder

Fault finding serves as a means to justify an illusory sense of superiority. To become a love finder requires us to be vigilant and self-realized. Most of us are just regular, ordinary people; therefore, vigilance will be our primary tool for taking note of our blaming and fault finding.

What Should You Say To Someone Who Refuses To Wear A Mask?

What Should You Say To Someone Who Refuses To Wear A Mask?

Multiple studies have shown that masks reduce the transmission of virus-loaded droplets from people with COVID-19. However, according to a Gallup poll, almost a third of Americans say they rarely or never wear a mask in public.

Being Safe Together: How To Know, Respect, and Love Each Other

Being Safe Together: How To Know, Respect, and Love Each Other

Partners sometimes try so hard to protect each other's feelings. They cannot connect, draw close, or touch each other emotionally because of these protective defenses. The object of truth-telling is to break down these defenses -- to stop the protection and tell the truth about how you feel.

Why Humour Matters More Than Good Looks With Online Dating

Why Humour Matters More Than Good Looks With Online Dating

Online dating platforms have witnessed a surge of users and activities during the COVID-19 pandemic. The lockdown restrictions and physical distancing protocols have changed the way people work and live — but also how they date.

The White Supremacist Origins of Modern Marriage Advice

The White Supremacist Origins of Modern Marriage Advice

When I was conducting research for my new book on the destructive aspects of modern heterosexual relationships, I started looking into the archives of early 20th-century books about courtship and marriage written by physicians and sexologists.

You Are Not A Robot or Machine: Become An Authentic Rebel

Become An Authentic Rebel: You Are Not A Robot or Machine

The world tries to mold every person into a commodity: useful, efficient, obedient - never rebellious, never asserting itself, never declaring its own individuality, but always being subservient, almost like a robot.

Speak To Me Of Love - Not Bills and Housecleaning

Speak To Me Of Love - Not Bills and Money

Foreplay is a 24 hour a day affair for most women, in that it is everything that happens between partners during the day. For a woman, foreplay begins when the couple awakens in the morning. From that moment on, everything her partner says and everything her partner does affects how she will feel sexually...

Making Appreciation A Part Of Your Regular Routine... for Kids (and Adults)

Achieving an Attitude of Gratitude... for Kids (and Adults)

How do you help your child achieve a positive sense of worth? By teaching him how to appreciate himself. Do this by: 1. First, no matter how your child is behaving, find something within him to value and be grateful for. 2. Then, point out to your child the specific quality or action you are appreciating about him.

An Affair to Remember: How to Ensure a Committed Relationship

An Affair to Remember: How to Ensure a Committed Relationship

A third party has no power to break up a healthy relationship. No one can come between you and your partner unless something has already come between you. A mate having an affair is not the cause of a breakup; it is a symptom of a breakdown in the fabric of the primary relationship. An affair can be the most valuable wakeup call of a lifetime.

4 Tips To Help Kids To Cope With Covid-19 Anxiety

4 Tips To Help Kids To Cope With Covid-19 Anxiety

The news coverage on COVID-19 is pervasive, persistent, and in my view as a professor of psychiatry, perilous. Sometimes it seems as though the pandemic is all we talk about.

Don't Give Up On Your Relationship

Don't Give Up On Your Relationship

Can any two people create and maintain a great relationship? You may not think so, because in your search for love, you've only met with failure and disappointment. You may have come to expect that any love relationship you have will end up being quite painful...

Children Reveal What They Really Think Of Adults

Children Reveal What They Really Think Of Adults

Every parent knows that sometimes your child says something that stops you in your tracks. Such a moment came for one of us, Emma Maynard, when her son Oscar was approaching his year 6 SATS tests at the end of primary school.

The Empathy of Children: Have We Lost Our Ability To Feel?

The Empathy of Children: Have We Lost Our Ability To Feel?

During the first few months of 2003, I was taught something remarkable by 123 children, from 2 to 13 years of age. There is something remarkable about kids: they experience life in a way that expresses deep and profound wisdom. Their wisdom is born of their own connection to life and to living things.

The Three Requirements of a Human Being

Beloved Friend: The Practice of Gazing at the Beloved

Can a man who longs for a woman to complete him really believe that he needs to do nothing more than lose himself in television sports and drink imported beer while he's waiting for his beloved to appear? If he then walked into a room... would she be attracted to him?

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InnerSelf Newsletter: November 29, 2020
by InnerSelf Staff
This week, we focus on seeing things differently... of looking from a different perspective, with an open mind and an open heart.
Why I Should Ignore COVID-19 and Why I Won't
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InnerSelf Newsletter: November 15, 2020
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InnerSelf Newsletter: October 25, 2020
by InnerSelf Staff
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