Why Your Life Sucks and How To Make It Better

Why Your Life Sucks and How To Make It Better
If you are losing energy in the form of joy, health, money, or love, you have a leak in your system. There is no malevolent parasite that has invaded your world and is undermining you. Your leak is on your property, and as such you have access to repair it.

The Weight Loss Solution: Looking At Weight Issues Differently

The Weight Loss Solution: Looking At Weight Issues Differently
Consider this: 167 million men and women in the United States are on a diet at any given moment. If that many people are trying a solution and it doesn't work, something's wrong with the so-called solution. Contrary to what proponents of expensive diet regimens say, these diets can't work long term, no matter how much willpower you have.

Myths Debunked About Only Children

Myths About Only Children Debunked
Only children get a bad rap. They are often perceived as selfish, spoiled, anxious, socially inept and lonely. And my profession, psychology, may be partly to blame for these negative stereotypes.

Adulting: “Responsible Adulthood” and the Power of Shedding the Shoulds

Adulting: “Responsible Adulthood” and the Power of Shedding the Shoulds
Even though many of us had the illusion that reaching adulthood would mean we had achieved a sort of award-worthy final destination where we could live forevermore from a place of certainty and peace, knowing what to do and what to wear in every circumstance, this was probably not the case. 

You Too Can Choose to Become a Wise Elder

Choosing to Become a Wise Elder
When people lived in small communities and villages, they often felt a sense of connection to the past. There was incredible strength to be derived from living in a world where one didn't feel alone. There was power in knowing that, in addition to...

Why Having Sex On The Mind Makes People Lie

Why Having Sex On The Mind Makes People Lie
With sex on their minds, people are more likely to change their attitudes and engage in deceptive self-presentation, research on sexual priming finds.

How Do You Talk To Your Kids About Divorce?

How Do You Talk To Your Kids About Divorce?
Here's a stunner: 64 percent of all marriages that began in 1990 ended in divorce by the turn of the millennium.  70 percent of those failed marriages produced at least one child. Roughly half of all children born in this country over the past 15 years have ended up being children of divorce.

Experiencing Tantra: Spiritual Oneness Is Always Accompanied By Deep Love

Experiencing Tantra: Spiritual Oneness Is Always Accompanied By Deep Love
Tantra is well regarded within the yoga tradition as the fastest path to enlightenment. Eastern legend holds that an average human soul takes 100,000 lifetimes to achieve enlightenment, but that with tantra, any person truly committed to this path can gain enlightenment in as little as one lifetime. I soon discovered why this is true.

How Psychology Predicts Where Your Relationship Is Headed

How Psychology Predicts Where Your Relationship Is Headed
Is he or she the one? You know… the one to introduce to my parents, the one to move in with, the one to start a family with, the one to marry? At some point in every dating relationship, you ask yourself some version of these questions.

Why It Helps To Become Conscious of Your Feelings

Why It Helps To Become Conscious of Your Feelings
The minute you awaken in the morning, access your first feeling and your first thought. That first feeling or thought of the day commonly sets the stage and the tone for the rest of the day. So, if that first feeling/thought is not to your liking, the choice is yours. Right then and there is the best time to change it with feelings/thoughts that ARE of your liking.

When Should My Child Start Speaking?

When Should My Child Start Speaking?
Children develop at varying rates in all sorts of ways, from when they take their first steps to when they understand that their own perspective might be different to someone else’s.

Live An Extraordinary Life By Being True to Yourself

Living An Extraordinary Life By Being True to Yourself
You cannot avoid truth. It is better to face it, it is better to accept it, it is better to live it. Right now, when you say something, your body says something else; when your tongue says something, your eyes go on saying something else simultaneously.

When Outer Child Feels Unloved, Learn To Be There for Yourself

When Outer Child Feels Unloved, Learn To Be There for Yourself
Couples often trade responsibility for their Inner Children. They project their disowned feelings on each other and riddle the relationship with unrealistic expectations and displaced anger. When you unwittingly hand your deepest longings over to your partner, you abandon your Inner Child all over again.

What Is Sex Really For? It's More Than The Obvious Reasons

What Is Sex Really For?
Few topics arouse as much interest and controversy as sex. This is hardly surprising. The biological continuance of the species hinges on it – if human beings stopped having sex, there would soon be no more human beings.

Is Using Cannabis In Front Of Children Harmful?

Is Using Cannabis In Front Of Children Harmful?
Public health agencies are warning parents about using cannabis in the presence of their children. However, parents who use cannabis say that it makes them more empathetic, more patient and more caring towards their young ones

Being Vulnerable in Relationship

Allowing Yourself to Be Vulnerable in Relationship
The paradox of vulnerability in relationships, the path to connection, is to allow yourself to be both strong and vulnerable at the same time. When you do, it allows your partner to get to see the real you with your defenses down. This means no hiding. Not from yourself, not from your partner and best of all no hiding from the truth.

The Challenge: Feeling Love For Ourselves and For Others

The Challenge: Feeling Love For Ourselves and For Others
Love is the highest vibrational energy and can accomplish almost anything. The more we can keep our hearts open, the greater the love we feel, and the more patience, understanding, and compassion we have for others. 

Arguing Your Way Back To Positive Self Esteem

The Necessity of Self Esteem for Health and General Attitude Towards Life
There is nothing good or worthwhile about having a low opinion of oneself. However, positive self esteem improves one's health, sociability, and general attitude towards life. Negative self esteem is a habit, a highly addictive habit. Perhaps you can see what an enemy to your well- being this is, and have a greater willingness to defeat it.

Kindness Is A Skill That Can Be Learned: Why Kindness Matters Most

Kindness Is A Skill That Can Be Learned: Why Kindness Matters Most
Instead of being the coolest kid in the room, how about being the kindest? Once a child understands the im­portance of their actions, good deeds, and the joy of helping others, kindness becomes fun and is highly contagious. What’s wonderful about kindness is that it is a skill that can be learned.

How The Language We Use Entrenches Inequalities

How The Language We Use Entrenches Inequalities
We live in a society in which inequality is entrenched and increasing – in this context, words can have real and pernicious effects. This is particularly true of the way we speak about inequality itself.

6 Ways To Establish A Productive Homework Routine

6 Ways To Establish A Productive Homework Routine
Homework. Whether you’re a fifth-grader or a freshman in college, the mere thought of homework can be overwhelming. And actually doing homework can be quite difficult. But homework doesn’t have to be something a student dreads.

What Are You Telling Yourself About Who You Are?

What Are You Telling Yourself About Who You Are?
We have all gone through life saying certain things about ourselves, such as: I'm a shy person, or I'm intelligent, or I'm stupid, or I'm clumsy, or I'm slow, etc. Once we understand the power of the word and of the mind, we come to the realization that all of these statements were simply creating self-fulfilling prophecies.

Love Is All We Need, But It Is Usually Not All We Want

Love Is All We Need, But It Is Usually Not All We WantThe Beatles song, All You Need Is Love summed it up quite nicely. Love is all we need, but it is usually not all we want. Unfortunately, some of us use our love to manipulate, control, and otherwise misappropriate our energies. We think that only a select few are actually deserving of our love...

How To Spot A Liar

On any given day we're lied to from 10 to 200 times, and the clues to detect those lie can be subtle and counter-intuitive.

Are You Misunderstanding The Meaning Of Relationships?

Relationships Offer Opportunities To Re-discover And Share Love
You may be attracted to someone when you first meet but it may be on a physical level mostly. When the excitement of that original feeling fades, you may feel something is wrong with the relationship. In actuality, you only misunderstood the meaning of relationships.

How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty

How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty
To build up your courage for those really difficult "no's," start small. Practice saying no in non-threatening encounters where there isn't much at stake. Little by little, stretch yourself by saying no in more challenging circumstances.

How To Talk To Your Teenagers About Drugs

How To Talk To Your Teenagers About Drugs
The UK has seen a sharp increase in teenage drug use in the last few years: the NHS reports that 37% of 15-year-olds have used drugs, and that deaths resulting from drug use are at their highest since records began in 1993

Why We Need To Data-Proof Our Kids

Why We Need To Data-proof Are Kids
Google recently agreed to pay a US$170 million fine for illegally gathering children’s personal data on YouTube without parental consent, which is a violation under the Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act (COPPA).

The Fear of Saying "I Love You"

The Fear of Saying "I Love You"
What is it about saying, flat out, 'I love you' to our children that has been shunned by many and may still constitute a taboo among middle-aged parents today? Novels, movies, indeed most cultures invest 'I love you' with strong erotic content. The deep, romantic, feeling-tone of the phrase reinforces the taboo...

Children's Lies Are Deceptively Complex

Children's Lies Are Deceptively Complex
Parents are often concerned when they observe their child telling lies. However, lie-telling can give us a window into understanding children’s social and cognitive development.

What Is Karma: Personal, Family, Adopted Children, and Past-Life Karma

The Blessings and Curses of Karma: Personal, Family, and Past-Life
Of course, your ancestors can and do leave behavioral and attitudinal legacies that help you actualize your innate potentials. Mingled with ancestral legacies we discover blessings as well as curses. You can take a major step toward maturing when you can see and accept both the good and the bad in other...

On The Ending Of A Friendship

On The Ending Of A Friendship
About eight years ago, I went to dinner with a dear friend I had known for more than 40 years. It would be the last time we would see each other and by the end of that evening I was deeply shaken.

How To Talk To Your Children About Sexual Consent

How To Talk To Your Children About Sexual Consent
Parents and caregivers often wait until their children are older to talk about sexual consent. And many parents often leave “the sex talk” altogether – hoping that schools will do it instead.

Nurturing Yourself: Give Yourself a "Me-Day"

Nurturing Yourself: Give Yourself a "Me-Day"
I have a policy: On Sundays, I don't allow myself to come within five hundred yards of the computer; the phone goes on voice mail; and the cell phone gets to snooze in my purse all day. My friends know how I am about Sundays, and they respect my need for solitude. This soothing Sunday routine means a lot to me...

Dr. Spock's Timeless Lessons In Parenting


The book ignited a revolution, breaking free from conventional wisdom that said children required schedules, discipline and little affection.

The Gay Gene Search Reveals Not One But Many

Gay Gene Search Reveals Not One But Many
It has long been clear that a person’s sexual preference – whether they prefer male or female sexual partners, or both – is influenced by his or her genetic makeup.

Sacred Pampering: Experiencing All the Joy You Can Stand

Experiencing All the Joy You Can Stand
I teach, speak, and write about joy, peace, power, ease, and grace because I am learning to bring them more fully into my own life, not because I have mastered them. And to the degree that I have been able to make them a reality in my life, part of my life's work is helping others make...

What Makes You A Mature Adult?

What Makes You A Mature Adult?
With decisions to make every day, small and big, of momentary and far-reaching consequence, people who become parents put themselves on a fast track towards adulthood. They are responsible for the life of a little one now and so they move up in the ranks of generations.

How Much Would You Pay To Be Yourself?

How Much Would You Pay To Be Yourself?
In the film Being John Malkovich, an unhappy guy named Craig discovers a portal into movie star John Malkovich's mind, through which he can live vicariously for fifteen minutes. Soon there is a long line of people paying $200 to enter the portal and be someone else.

Teens Who Spend Hours On Social Media Report These Behaviors

Teens Who Spend Hours On Social Media Report These Behaviors
Teenagers who spend more than three hours a day on social media are more likely to report high levels of behaviors that may indicate mental health problems compared to adolescents who do not use social media at all, according to a new study.

5 Ways To Help Your Kids Sleep Better

5 Ways To Help Your Kids Sleep Better
Though it’s not easy, it is possible to change the poor sleep habits of children in preschool and elementary school, experts say.

How To Get Preschoolers Ready To Learn Math

How To Get Preschoolers Ready To Learn Math
If you’re a parent of a preschooler, you might be wondering how you can help set your child up for success once they enter kindergarten.

Why We Match Our Friends’ Portion Size

Why We Match Our Friends’ Portion Size
When making food choices when we’re with friends, we tend to want to match characteristics that others can measure or rank, such as size or price, but feel free to go our own way on things like flavor or shape, a new study suggests.

The Inner "Others": The Voices That Put You Down

The Inner "Others": The Voices That Put You Down
We are complex beings. Within each of us there are many, many aspects, some of which seem to be at war with others. We all have an Inner Critic: that voice that nags at us, puts us down, tells us we're not good enough. When we...

The Do's and Don'ts of Empathy

The Do's and Don'ts of Empathy
Empathy is everywhere. In many ways, empathy is the social glue that holds everybody together. Empathy is a social experience that involves feeling external emotional energy to the point of mirroring an emotion and taking it into one’s own experience.

The Universality of A Good Story: The World According to Rumi

The Universality of A Good Story: The World According to Rumi
The universality of a good story serves to demonstrate that we’re not so different from our counterparts across the globe, which in turn prompts us to empathize with the “other” to the extent that we will eventually feel as the “other”; thus, respect and empathy are the inevitable by-products of this process.

Teen Girls Face Pressure To Get Pregnant

Teen Girls Face Pressure To Get Pregnant
Teen girls experience relationship abuse at alarming rates, according to a new study that specifically focuses on reproductive coercion—pressure from a partner to get pregnant.

I Am Not My Mother: The Power of MOM (Mind Over Matter)

I Am Not My Mother: The Power of MOM (Mind Over Matter)
Some people feel that they are limited by their genes, by what is encoded in their DNA. Studies show that identical twins raised in different environments have some strikingly similar tastes and behaviors. While that may be true, one must be careful not to use that as an excuse...

No Matter What Age You Are, The Best Is Yet To Come

How Does It Feel to Be Sixty? The Best Is Yet To Come
When I asked the question -- How does it feel to be sixty? -- of my teacher at the Gurdjieff Foundation, she took her time to ponder it before answering. At last she uttered one succinct word: "Relieved." She went on, "In our teens and twenties, we are absorbed in educating ourselves and plotting our futures; then we are busy working toward realizing..."

A Life Worth Living... Without Regrets

A Life Worth Living... Without Regrets
The American software consultant I interviewed told me about an exercise he did ages ago that has stayed with him his whole life. The participants in the workshop he was in were asked to write their own eulogy, then deliver it to the class, speaking about how they wanted to be remembered.

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