Remember: It's Never Too Late To Belong

Remember: It's Never Too Late To Belong

Have you ever forgotten something – a name, a place, an event – and struggled to remember, finally giving up, only to have an "ah ah" moment some time later, suddenly recalling what evaded your recollection, maybe in the shower, or driving, or daydreaming by the window, watching the rain?

Daily Joy Practice: Embracing A New You Every Day

Embracing A New You Every Day

As they grow older, many people constrict their boundaries; they often seek what is comfortable, familiar, and safe. Life becomes a matter of focusing on the petty rather than...

Becoming an Ally to People of Color

Becoming an Ally to People of Color

I grew up in Buffalo, New York and, from the time I was just a little girl, my parents, without even knowing it, started training me to become an ally to people of color. I shall be forever grateful to them. My mother emphasized that all humans are created equal and that all, regardless of skin color, are children of God.

How Do You and Your Child Relate?

How Do You and Your Child Relate?

There are many parents who would never imagine that their child doesn't have the nerve to talk with them. When I first created my school programs more than twenty years ago, I was amazed at how many thousands of children told me they felt this way and hadn't let their parents know. How close do you think your child feels to you?

Beloved Friend: The Practice of Gazing at the Beloved

Beloved Friend: The Practice of Gazing at the Beloved

Can a man who longs for a woman to complete him really believe that he needs to do nothing more than lose himself in television sports and drink imported beer while he's waiting for his beloved to appear? If he then walked into a room... would she be attracted to him?

An Open Letter to the Entire Human Family

An Open Letter to the Entire Human Family

This is the moment of truth for humankind. Critical choices must now be made in order to protect the continued existence of human society and the earth itself. This letter is not a political appeal, although the message in it certainly extends to...

The Simple and Effective Way to Resolve Differences

The Simple and Effective Way to Resolve Differences

It’s not just intimate partnerships that are destroyed by not being able to resolve conflict. Business associates, neighbors, friends, and colleagues are affected as well. In each case we have a choice when conflicts arise. We can fight, give in, deny, and avoid, or we can cooperate, collaborate, negotiate, and accommodate.

Truth in Dating and in Relationships as a Journey toward Consciousness

Truth in Dating and in Relationships as a Journey toward Consciousness

Truth in Dating is about using honesty as a "practice." A practice is a discipline that you take on intentionally in order to expand your awareness and enhance your capacity to experience life to the fullest. Telling the truth is not easy. Yet when you do allow yourself to be real and spontaneous, you're more radiant, alive, and attractive.

Strategies To Cut Down On Fighting and Headache-Causing Strife

Strategies To Cut Down On Fighting and Headache-Causing Strife

What you say and how you say it certainly matters, and I'll focus on ways to talk more effectively later. First, though, I want to emphasize that you can cut down on headache-causing strife using any number of strategies, most of which don't involve struggling for the right words.

The Long-Lasting Importance of the Bonding of Mother and Child

The Long-Lasting Importance of the Bonding of Mother and Child

Bonding gives an intuitive, extrasensory kind of relationship between mother and child. Bonding is a felt process, not available to discursive thought, language, or intellect. It is a communion that bypasses our ordinary reasoning mind. The mother senses the infant's need to evacuate the same way she recognizes her own bodily needs, but the communion of bonding goes beyond just physical processes.

Here's How To Stay Connected When You're In Lockdown

Here's How To Stay Connected When You're In Lockdown

We know positive social support can improve our capacity to cope with stress. But right now we’re being asked to keep our distance from others to minimise the spread of the virus.

Here Are 7 Ways To Help Young People Navigate A Changed World

Here Are 7 Ways To Help Young People Navigate A Changed World

As we start to think about rebuilding our lives in the midst of an ongoing pandemic, we need to be clearer than ever about what kind of Australia we want to live in, what counts as progress, and how we measure how well we’re succeeding.

Loving All Parts of Yourself, the "Good" & the "Bad"

Emotional Elbows: Loving All Parts of Yourself, the Good & the "Bad"

My thoughts and feelings have a lot to do with how I do or don't love myself. Imagine learning to love every part of your Self, the good stuff and the 'bad.' It has been a big project for me. Some years ago, a wise teacher told me emotional balance was key to knowing the higher levels of my Self...

How Sharing Your Dreams Could Help To Improve Your Relationships

How Sharing Your Dreams Could Help To Improve Your Relationships

When you wake up from a strange or particularly memorable dream, how likely are you to share it? Maybe you might tell your partner about it over breakfast or text a friend to tell them the details and ponder over its meaning.

I Seek to Understand: The Power of Truly Listening

I Seek to Understand: The Power of Truly Listening

Have you ever listened? I mean truly listened? Qui­eted your mind and surrendered all self-concern and given yourself completely to another person so that he or she is fully heard? If you’re really honest, the answer is likely no.

Changing Your Self-Image Changes the Mirror of Your Experiences

Changing Your Self-Image Changes the Mirror of Your Experiences

The image you hold of yourself determines your success or failure in everything. Ponder it for a moment. What do you really think about yourself? Do you like you? If you have accepted an idea of inferiority, then you better stop and rethink your position.

"Gifts" From Your Family of Origin: Beliefs, Attitudes, and More

"Gifts" From Your Family of Origin: Beliefs, Attitudes, and More

Your life journey began with your parents or primary caregivers, and your childhood experience of gifts, hurts, and disappointments: these became the very foundation of your ideas about love and pain.

Why A Little Baby Talk Is Good For Your Toddler

Why A Little Baby Talk Is Good For Your Toddler

Has anyone ever told you: “Don’t baby talk to your baby?” Parents of young infants often tell us that they have heard this advice from friends, family and even health care professionals.

Love Yourself, Then, Love Your Neighbor As Yourself

Love Yourself,Then, Love Your Neighbor As Yourself

You've been inundated with erroneous information. It becomes terribly hard to try to figure out what's right. You're inundated by all types of moralistic behavior, commandments, church rules, and law. Behavioral modification is probably the most simplistic.

How To Be A Good Friend

How To Be A Good Friend

Good girlfriends have the knack of rescuing us at the right time, preventing our missteps, and saving our hides. As a forty-plus woman who's been duly blessed with a supportive circle of girlfriends, I can personally verify the aforementioned statement. To have a good friend, you must first be one.

IDENTITY: Who Am I and What Am I Capable Of?

IDENTITY: Who Am I and What Am I Capable Of?

Identity defines how we view ourselves, who we think we are, and what we think we are capable of. Our deepest beliefs anchor our identity with either our human selves or our souls.

The Harmony Ethic: Caring For Others Through Deep Respect and Kindness

The Harmony Ethic: Caring For Others Through Deep Respect and Kindness

The Harmony Ethic is a system based upon caring for fellow human beings through the expression of deep respect and kindness. To the Cherokee, a person has just as much choice in creating harmony as he or she does in creating disharmony and social disruption.

The Law of Love, Universal Energy and How To Allow It

The Law of Love, Universal Energy and How To Allow It

Many of you aspire to the state of un-conditional love, but in practice it evades most of you. Central to the law of Love is allowing. Firstly allowing yourself, then be allowing of all others and their creations and thoughts. Love is the total and complete acceptance of what is, that is love in its simplest definition.

There's No Such Thing As A Failed Relationship

There's No Such Thing As A Failed Relationship

Quite often, I spend time with people who are extremely critical of themselves for having multiple failed relationships. The truth is, they're missing the point: We can't fail, because there's no way to do these things wrong. A failed relationship, if you put it into its proper context, is a chance to...

Lessons From The History Of Solitude

Lessons From The History Of Solitude

It’s hard to believe now, but until relatively recently, solitude – or the experience of being alone for significant periods of time – was treated with a mixture of fear and respect. 

These Tools Help Older People Connect Digitally While Isolating

These Tools Help Older People Connect Digitally While Isolating

Social isolation is hardly a new experience for many older people. If there is one silver lining to the current pandemic it may be that people of all ages are now in a position to gain empathetic insight into what was already daily life for many older people living on their own.

How To Create a Caring, Nurturing Relationship and Be Cherished

How To Be Cherished and Create a Caring and Nurturing Relationship
Relationships need care and nurturing, and often it's hard to know what to do. You have probably been searching for reasons why your relationship isn't as warm, loving, and compassionate as you'd like. It is natural for relationships to have an ebb and flow, to grow more or less intimate as circumstances shift...

Coronavirus and Sex: Dos And Don'ts During Social Distancing

Coronavirus And Sex: Dos And Don'ts During Social Distancing

Given the common modes of transmission of respiratory viruses, engaging in certain types of sexual activities may risk spreading the virus. However, expecting people to abstain from sex during times of isolation is unrealistic.

Connecting Emotionally: An Essential Part of Happy Relationships

Connecting Emotionally: An Essential Part of Happy Relationships
Whether people are struggling to save a marriage, to cooperate in a family crisis, or to build rapport with a difficult boss, they usually have one thing in common: They need to share emotional information that can help them feel connected.

3 Ways To Gain Greater Personal Insight For Deeper Love

Does Perfect Love Exist?
Most of us long for relationships in which we are loved and accepted just the way we are. Our hearts' desire is to give and receive love in relationships that make us feel that even if others disagree with what we do or say, they still love us. They accept us.

Are You Seeing the Whole Picture? Listening Deeply with an Open Mind

Deep Listening: Listening Calmly with an Open Mind
Traditional models of couples or relationship therapy emphasize being honest about our feelings, being "up front" and standing up for ourselves. The problem with these models is that when we are upset, we do not see things clearly. We do not see how the situation looks to the other person...

A Season of Hope -- of Light, Love, and Social Solidarity

A Season of Hope -- of Light, Love, and Social Solidarity
For years, psychologists, educators and church leaders have warned about subversive and decadent influences on children in our society -- the internet, pornographic literature and films, violent video games, raunchy TV, and so on. It's an old story: the more sexually perverted the entertainment, the more teenagers watch it, and the higher the ratings and the profits.

Seven Words and Three Simple Rules To Live By

Just Three Simple Rules To Live By
Many of us are familiar with the Ten Commandments, written some thirty-three hundred years ago. We would all agree that we have learned a few things in the last thirty-three hundred years. It may be that instead of the Ten Commandments, we require just three simple rules for living...

Most Couples Are Less Satisfied When The Woman Earns More

Most Couples Are Less Satisfied When The Woman Earns More

Women are now the main earners in about one in four Australian households. This increase in female “breadwinner” households challenges traditional expectations of men and women and their roles in family life.

Young Men On Sexting: It’s Normal, But Complicated

Young Men On Sexting: It’s Normal, But Complicated

Concern about the popularity of “sexting” - the sending and receiving of sexually explicit text messages and photographs - among young people has been a frequent point of discussion in recent years.

How to Be Safe in Relationships? Open Your Heart

How to Be Safe in Relationships? Open Your Heart
The heart is the organ of happiness! Of course I am talking about more than just the organ itself — I am talking about the heart as an emotional, energetic, and spiritual center. Most of us are unaware of how much we hold numbness...

Notes on Intimacy and Having a Genuine Loving Relationship

Notes on Intimacy
Once you are in a relationship, how can you develop intimacy? One key is honesty. Some people tell little lies about themselves when they first begin a relationship. This is destructive to intimacy, because your partner will never be completely sure if you are telling the truth. It is much easier to maintain credibility if you...

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