We all know people who show us the negative side of their Sun sign. Aries attacks, Taurus is lazy, Virgo is critical, Scorpio is vindictive ... every sign has its negative side. The following are little suggestions as to what is going on inside people when they display such negative behavior. If we can understand how it feels inside, we will be able to choose a more helpful response.
Aries people are learning how to use energy, but they often get it wrong. They are glad when people stand up to them, because they don't intend to hurt or destroy. They need to be encouraged, or they can become unsure and depressed. They begin new things, or revive things that were thought to be over, and they feel the need to keep moving on to the next new thing.
Taurus people, at heart, are silent, preferring to commune with Nature. Being so in touch with earth energy, they can heal others with it. They can seem slow or lazy, but they need time to feel secure before they can speak or act. They tend to use no more energy than is required to achieve something, and they appreciate the value of leisure.
Gemini people have difficulty linking the two halves of the brain. When in the left-brain mode (rational), they think and talk well. When in the right-brain mode (intuitive), they are silent, not knowing how to communicate. They need to accept and express the imaginative, creative side.
Cancer people, by nature, feel emotions like waves on the sea -- up and down and up again. They need to be given time to come back up. Cancer people are part-parent, part-child, and need to learn to mother their own inner neediness; otherwise, they will get someone else to play one of these parts, and will feel possessive of that person.
Leo people present themselves as being much larger than they feel inside. It is easy to crush them with coolness. It takes much courage and energy to radiate so much, and they need lots of love and smiles from others to keep it going. They need to listen as well as radiate, and it is not easy for them to do both at the same time. If appreciated, they will do anything for you.
Virgo people criticize themselves more than anyone else, feeling that anything short of perfection is not good enough. They give themselves a very hard time. They often point out only the faults, forgetting to voice their more appreciative thoughts. They thrive on being recognized as helpful and will assist you if you tell them how their talents can be useful.
Libra people are afraid to upset the balance. When they have all the facts about a situation, they will recognize the best course of action, but not before. The only decisions they can make quickly are those that they know don't really matter, but deciding whether a decision is in that class or not may take some time. They lift what others cast down.
Scorpio people are emotionally vulnerable at a deeper level than the other signs. They use many methods of protection: silence, directing attention at other people, or being prickly to keep others at bay. As they explore and accept their own emotions, they become able to understand and support others through the worst disasters.
Sagittarius people may not be able to prove what they know, or say how they know it. Their imagination takes them beyond the rational, and their teaching creates a linking bridge. Their enthusiasm is intended to inspire others to make their own efforts, not to lead them. Their natural good humor can produce jokes that offend others unintentionally.
Capricorn people carry responsibility like a cloak, which is heavy during childhood, but feels lighter as they get older. Their innate knowledge of the physical makes their achievements seem magical. The pleasing results of their hard work matter more to them than emotional expression, so they often omit to tell people when they are feeling overburdened.
Aquarius people may seem cool, but they feel they are levitating over a sea of emotion that threatens to engulf them if they look down. Their detachment gives them wonderful vision, but it will exclude the feeling aspect of humanity unless they have looked into their own sea. Their strong attachment to principles can lead them to be hurt by others with different priorities.
Pisces people have no boundaries, which is difficult in the material world. They need to learn to create personal boundaries in order to know what they are feeling. When centered in their hearts, they can identify with spirit itself, which knows no boundaries.
1. Check inside yourself to see how you feel when you express the negative side of your own Sun sign.
2. Ask your friends how they are feeling when they act negatively.
Negative Opposites to Sun Signs
It is interesting to look at the people you know in terms of their Sun signs. The Sun represents the quality of a person's spiritual radiance, if they give their spirit the opportunity to radiate by expressing the sign.
When a person's spirit is being expressed, they will show strong characteristics of their Sun sign: positive when feeling good, and negative when having difficulties. Positive or negative, the whole personality is holding together, and their light is shining even though it may feel uncomfortable to others. You would say of such people that they are reasonably well integrated, and there will be a light in their eyes.
If this is not the case, the personality will be scattered and the person will feel every obstacle as a great hurdle to be overcome, instead of being just the next thing to deal with. There are many ways of being less than our best, and they are all part of being human. However, when people start to behave like the negative of the sign opposite their Sun sign, it shows that they are having difficulty being themselves, operating from the heart. This opposite sign will be behind the Earth and is sometimes called the Earth sign. It indicates the personality without its spirit, so it is a sign of darkness.
For instance, an Aries person who isn't expressing force, energy, aggressiveness, or impatience, who is not starting new projects with great zeal, will tend to seem wishy-washy and indecisive; i.e., negative Libra. A Pisces person who is not being sensitive, looking after someone else in some way, or expressing emotions or reflecting the emotions of others, will often appear to be a cold perfectionist with a tendency to criticize; i.e., negative Virgo.
People who are expressing their negative-opposite state are very possibly out of touch with their Sun sign, and, if that is so, life will be more difficult for them than is necessary. Great help can be given in a chart reading by showing in a sensitive way how these people can change their behavior or thought processes very slightly, tipping the balance back toward their own sign.
When we are moved to help our friends feel better, we tend to go about it in ways that make us feel better, but each Sun sign has its own needs. If you know the Sun signs of your friends, you can, in daily conversation, encourage them to "be themselves" (their sign) more. Such a change will naturally lead to behavior that opens the door to their own spirit, which can then express again through their personality. Their light comes on again and life starts to flow more easily.
How To Bring People Back to Their Own Sun Sign
The following are some of the negative traits of opposite signs, accompanied by a few possible ways to bring people back to their own Sun sign. Many more ways could be found. It takes not only knowing something of the signs, but also a good knowledge of the individual character to find the right way for each person -- the wrong way can just make matters worse!
Aries, when afraid to act, or staggering from a perceived attack, can become negative Libra -- indecisive, worried, inactive, going on about different possibilities without enthusiasm, "Yes, but . . .", etc.
To bring them back to their Aries heart center, say to them, "Just do what you want to do," "Do it your own way", or, "You can do it!"
Taurus, when feeling unsteady, uncertain, or unsafe, or having lost a treasured possession, can become negative Scorpio -- angry, seething, hurtful statements, blaming, vengeful, etc.
To bring them back to their Taurus heart center, suggest a walk in the park together, a meal out, a day in the country, or a massage.
Gemini, when feeling unable to think or communicate, can become negative Sagittarius -- head in the clouds, can't be bothered to explain, witty jokes at another's expense, wanting to get away, etc.
To bring them back to their Gemini heart center, ask them, "What have you heard about (something topical)?" "Read anything interesting lately?" Or, "What's the problem?"
Cancer, when feeling unloved, or heavily responsible for their loved ones, can become negative Capricorn -- getting on with their work huffily, "I've got all this work to do," or "The world's going downhill."
To bring them back to their Cancer heart center, put your arm around their shoulder, ask what has upset them, listen, and don't try to make things right.
Leo, when feeling a lack of energy, or when rebuffed or hurt, can become negative Aquarius -- keeping away from people, won't say how they feel, apathetic, etc.
To bring them back to their Leo heart center, tell them what you like about their warmth, verbally appreciate something about their appearance or their style, smile into their eyes, or help them laugh about something.
Virgo, when feeling unable to cope, or when their helpful intentions are misunderstood, can become negative Pisces -- emotional, unfocused, martyred, weepy, feeling useless, etc.
To bring them back to their Virgo heart center, ask them, "What would you advise me to do about (something they are good at)?" "How can I help you?" Or point out how truly helpful they are.
Libra, when feeling challenged or criticized, or feeling pressured to make a decision, can become negative Aries -- aggressive, argumentative, etc.
To bring them back to their Libra heart center, say to them, "Take your time," "What color would best describe how you feel?" "How can these two viewpoints be reconciled?" Or, play music they like.
Scorpio, when feeling exposed and vulnerable, or deeply hurt, can become negative Taurus -- stubbornly silent, obstructive, etc.
To bring them back to their Scorpio heart center, say to them, "It may be hard to put into words, but can you tell me how you are feeling?" Or, if you can accept it, let them express their anger, grief, or pain, or point out the funny side of the situation.
Sagittarius, when feeling trapped by responsibility or overburdened with commitments, can become negative Gemini -- flippant, superficial, talking without meaning, upset and not talking at all, etc.
To bring them back to their Sagittarius heart center, ask them which of their commitments has the highest priority, and then say, "Is there an adventure in disguise here?" Or suggest an outing or a party.
Capricorn, when feeling overburdened with responsibilities and unsupported, can become negative Cancer -- moody, possessive, emotional, etc.
To bring them back to their Capricorn heart center, say to them: "I really appreciate all the work you are doing," "It is wonderful how I can rely on you doing what you say you will do," "That was a great achievement (something they worked hard at)," or, "What are you upset about?"
Aquarius, when losing their detached point of view about something, can become negative Leo -- dogmatic, domineering, not listening, etc.
To bring them back to their Aquarian heart center, ask them: "Why do you think that happened?" "You sound a bit involved, could you say what it is that's getting to you?" Or, ask in a group, "What do you others think about that?"
Pisces, when feeling taken for granted or exhausted from caring for others, can become negative Virgo -- cold, critical, perfectionistic, etc.
To bring them back to their Pisces heart center, ask them, "Do you ever get the feeling that no one appreciates you?" "It must be really difficult sometimes being as sensitive as you are," or, "What's the worst of the situation?" Encourage them to have a good cry about it to let it out of their system, or ask what boundaries they feel they need.
When any person (including yourself) is acting out the negative of their own Sun sign, there is no need to interfere. Most people feel better when others give them their undivided attention, and listen to them without interrupting or trying to solve their problems for them. They do not need help, just the opportunity to express themselves without being judged!
On the other hand, there are often times when people are expressing the positive behavior of the Zodiac sign opposite to their own. Opposite signs, when positively expressed, are complementary to each other, and even need each other for balance within the Zodiac circle.
- Aries needs some Libran diplomacy to get away with being themselves.
- Taurus needs the Scorpio depth of feeling to be truly secure with people.
- Gemini needs the Sagittarian broad focus to bring value into their communicating.
- Cancer needs to take Capricorn responsibility for supplying the needs of their inner child.
- Leo needs some Aquarian detachment, when faced with their audience, to maintain enough courage to be sincere.
- Virgo needs to be in Pisces' selfless service to prevent their critical skills from becoming painful.
- Libra needs to be centered in themselves, like Aries, to balance their world without unbalancing themselves.
- Scorpio needs their feet on the Taurus bedrock to keep their head above emotional water.
- Sagittarius needs to communicate with Gemini versatility to get their brilliant ideas across.
- Capricorn needs to acknowledge their feelings, like Cancer, in order to stay connected to those they support.
- Aquarius needs to come from the heart with Leo sincerity to have their unpossessive love appreciated and received.
- Pisces needs the focus of Virgo to become self-aware in the midst of sensing everyone else.
Perhaps the most important point to make about the Zodiac signs is that all people feel better about themselves when the gifts of their own Sun sign are appreciated by others. If we would appreciate children when they are expressing their Sun sign qualities, they would have a better sense of self-esteem, a better start in life.
1. Think about times when you act out the negatives of your opposite sign. What would bring you back to your own Sun sign?
2. Notice a friend displaying negative behavior. Is it the negative of their own Sun sign, or of the opposite sign? If it is the opposite, how do you think they could be helped back to their own sign? Does it work? If not, why not? What does work?
Soul Purpose Astrology: How to Read Your Birth Chart for Growth & Transformation
by Margaret Koolman.
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About the Author
Margaret Koolman (Hawaii) has studied astrology since 1975. This book grew from her teaching notes at the request of her students, who found that her style and content were not available in other books. Ms. Koolman presents workshops and readings in England, Australia, and the United States. She is available for personal readings and can be contacted through her website, http://www.soulastrology.com.