How To Cut Through Negative Self-Talk

How to Talk to Yourself

When we become aware of our story lines -- the things we tell ourselves to keep from moving forward -- we can use affirmations to make our mental chatter more fluid.

Affirmations counteract negative story lines with positive words and feelings. They have the power to instantly cut through negative self-talk and take us into a place where we can know our inner light.

For example, when something goes wrong, we may say, "This just proves how stupid I am -- I can never do anything right!" To increase awareness, you could use an affirmation such as, "Everything I do works out perfectly, regardless of minor setbacks."

After repeating this, your mind-set will change, and you'll be able to adjust your story line to something like, "Well, I really blew it that time, but I'll figure out what happened, make some adjustments, and try again!"

Changing Your Self-Talk

Here are some other possibilities for changing what you say to yourself: When you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about someone else, you can say:

"May I accept all beings as they are,"
     instead of
"If only he would meditate, he'd be all right."

When you find yourself thrown off center by a situation, you can say:

"May I be undisturbed by the comings or goings of events,"
     instead of
"I must be getting old. I just can't take change anymore."

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When you find yourself completely fixated in a disagreement, you can say:

"Isn't this funny?"
     instead of,
"If I don't get out of this room right now, I'm going to die."

When you find yourself unable to go on, you can say:

"I have come a long way and I will keep going, step by step,"
     instead of,
"There's no way I can finish this job today."

When you find yourself beset by anxiety and helplessness about someone else's well-being, you can say:

"I care for you deeply, but I cannot keep you from suffering,"
     instead of
"I'm a terrible parent (or friend)."

When you find that you feel guilty because someone else depends on you and you can't satisfy their expectations, you can say:

"I wish you happiness but I cannot make your choices for you,"
     instead of,
"I'm sorry, I guess I'm a selfish person. My mother always said so. Anyway, I just don't know how to help."

When you find yourself pierced by guilt and blame, you can say:

"Today marks a turning point in my life,"
     instead of
"Why do I always screw everything up?"

When you want something that seems impossible to have, you can say:

"I have everything I need to be happy,"
     rather than,
"I am such a dunce -- I never plan ahead."

Once you begin experimenting with positive self-talk, you'll see that it has an almost infinite variety of forms. And like the sun, moon, and stars, it has a curious ability to connect you with the brightness in yourself and others.

Copyright 2000, published by Hay House Inc.

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