Which 3 R's Really Lead to Happiness and Success?

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Many of us have grown up with the concept of the 3 R's. We have been told that the 3R's were the basis or the most important part of education. And we were always told that the three R's were Reading, Writing, and Arithmetic. Now wait a minute! Only one of those starts with an R… which got me thinking that maybe the 3 R's were something completely different.

How To Step Back and Maintain a Larger Perspective

How To Step Back and Maintain a Larger Perspective

When we obsessively focus on something that is, or isn't, within our control, it can feel like we're carrying a giant boulder on our backs. Instead, we need to treat that one aspect of our lives as small rocks in our pocket so we can...

Are You Holding Yourself Back From Expressing Your True Self?

Are You Holding Back from Expressing Your True Self?
We have repressed a lot of our emotions, whether they are considered 'good' or 'bad' ones. Sometimes we hold back on expressing our love for fear of being misunderstood, or perhaps thinking the timing is not 'right'. Most commonly, we have been taught to hold back on our 'negative' emotions — fear, anger, sorrow, pain, etc.

How to Break the Spell and Set Yourself Free

How to Break the Spell and Set Yourself Free

We need to examine the spells that hypnotize us and break them when they hinder us. Spells are words, deeds and judgements that go unquestioned, undigested and unchallenged. It could be a doctor informing you that you have three months to live, a friend saying your marriage won’t work, your mind telling you that...

Conflicting Desires: Can You Have Whatever You Want?

Conflicting Desires: Can You Have Whatever You Want?

If you have contradictory desire streams -- desires for two opposing things at the same time -- it becomes much more difficult for Nature to fulfill your desires. For example, you might think that you desire an ideal relationship, but if part of your brain is thinking, "Hah, you don't deserve that. It's never worked before.."

Rewriting the Script: I Give Myself Permission...

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How many times have you made a decision to change something in your life and then found yourself slipping off the path you had chosen? Have you found yourself repeating past behavior even though the higher side of your consciousness knew better than to be caught in that same old trap?

Have We Been Living A Lie Since Childhood?

Have We Been Living An April's Fool Since Childhood?

Everyday is April Fools' Day...it doesn't only occur on April 1st. Many of us are living daily the greatest April fools' of all... and we are it! We have been living our lives as a lie, pretending to be someone we're not. We are living our lives as if they belonged to someone or something else.

How To Cut Through Negative Self-Talk

How to Talk to Yourself

When we become aware of our story lines -- the things we tell ourselves to keep from moving forward -- we can use affirmations to make our mental chatter more fluid.

How The Arts Promotes Mental Health

How The Arts Promotes Mental Health

During self-isolation due to coronavirus, many are turningto the arts. Perhaps they seek a creative outlet or opportunity for expression

Emotions 'R Us: As We Think, So Shall We Feel

Emotions 'R Us: As We Think, So Shall We Feel

We can't be feeling what we are feeling unless we are "thinking" it. First we have to think and then we feel, so whatever we are feeling is a result of our thinking. If we are feeling fear, then we are having a fearful thought...

Why The Ego Makes It Difficult to Recognize Love

Why Egos Make It Difficult to Recognize Love

It may surprise you to learn that your ego doesn't believe that love really exists, but it's true. Just think! When you allow your ego to direct your search for love, you are actually asking the only thing in the universe that doesn't know what love is, to find it for you.

From Crappy to Happy in Four Easy Steps

From Crappy to Happy in Four Easy Steps
What am I doing? is the most frequent question I ask as I let go of my most recent job and relationship. The answer always comes back the same: You are being true to yourself. You are living your Truth. This is crazy, I say to myself. No job, no security, saving good-bye to someone who loves me, whom I love.

Are Autistic Personality Tests Reliable?

Are Autistic Personality Tests Reliable?

Autism has been a subject of ever increasing interest over the last 20 years. It has been the subject of popular TV shows, novels and numerous studies looking at everything from sensory experiences to mental health in autism.



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