The Surprising Role Of Childhood Trauma In Athletic Success

The Surprising Role Of Childhood Trauma In Athletic SuccessThe story of Canadian speed skater and cyclist Clara Hughes, the first ever Olympian to win multiple medals in both the summer and winter games, is a story of triumph over adversity.

Why NBA Players Perform Worse After Late Night Tweets

Why NBA Players Perform Worse After Late Night TweetsNBA players who use Twitter or other forms of social media late at night don’t perform as well on the court the next day, a new study shows. A player’s shooting percentage was 1.7 percentage points lower following a night during which he tweeted during typical sleeping hours. Late-night tweeting was also associated with approximately 1.1 fewer points scored and 0.5 fewer rebounds in the next day’s game.

Lessons, Lessons, Lessons! Not All Lessons Have To Be Painful

Lessons, Lessons, Lessons! Not All Lessons Have To Be Painful
I know some of you, myself included, feel that lessons must be painful to be appreciated or remembered. Contrary to popular belief, not all lessons have to be painful. Some can even be fun. It's all in the 'moral to the story'. Life gives us wonderful examples to follow ... allow me to illustrate.

Even One Is Enough... What Would Love Do?

Even One Is Enough... What Would Love Do?We live in a world of extremes. Extreme wealth, extreme poverty. Extreme hedonism and joy, and extreme fear and pain. Extreme religious devotion, and extreme hatred. And as with everything, the microcosm and the macrocosm are reflections of each other. In each one of us there resides these extremes, or at least a presence of these realities -- though maybe not in the extreme.

Feel Younger Than You Are? Here's Why You're On To Something Good

Feel Younger Than You Are? Here's Why You're On To Something Good
It seems that to some extent, we really are as young as we feel. But how do we know which is the chicken and the egg? Are people who feel younger simply healthier to start with or are they so keen on being young that they actually take better care of themselves and therefore live longer?

On Experiencing Shame and the Inner Critic

On Experiencing Shame and the Inner Critic
Everyone knows what it’s like to be knocked off center, to lose their inner sense of balance and groundedness, at least temporarily, when faced with life’s unwanted curve balls. Whether it’s a troubling health diagnosis, the death of a loved one, a serious car accident, a layoff, or a natural disaster, life can intensely challenge our resilience.

When You Hit A Limit, Learn To Ask Different Questions

When You Hit A Limit, Learn To Ask Different Questions
Talk to high-school students preparing for their science exams, and you’ll probably hear two things: that they’re scared of physics, and relatively comfortable with biology. Strangely, this is contrary to the view of most researchers.

Standing Up and Stepping In: Taking Personal Responsibility for Your Life

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Being passive developed as a pattern for a really good reason -- we were avoiding feeling our emotions (especially sadness) and had to find some place to channel the sensations we were experiencing. Maybe dad was a tyrant and we felt like we had no choice but to be quiet and duck. Maybe our classmates laughed at us when we made a mistake, and we decided being shy was safer.

How Your Birth Date Influences How Well You Do In School, And Later In Life

How Your Birth Month Influences How Well You Do In School, And Later In Life
Whether you were born in December, January, August or September can have a significant and long-lasting impact on your life. Our new research shows your birthday month may also contribute to shaping your personality. In particular, we found people’s self-confidence can significantly differ because of their month of birth.

Going From Conflict to Resolution: Using Aikido Principles to Resolve Conflict

Going From Conflict to Resolution: Connecting to Invent Options for Mutual Gain
Roger Fisher (1922–2012) served as a reconnaissance pilot in World War II and then graduated from Harvard Law School, becoming a professor there in 1958. Witnessing maiming and death firsthand during the war and then seeing the destructive effects of costly, pro­tracted litigation as a partner in a major law firm, Fisher was pas­sionate about finding more creative alternatives to resolve conflict.

Research Finds That 40% Of People Over 50 Drink Too Much

Research Finds That 40% Of People Over 50 Drink Too Much
Mention hazardous drinking and most of us imagine teenagers or students getting drunk, causing havoc and filling our emergency departments on a Friday night. But what if I told you that we should be just as worried about how much our parents and grandparents are drinking?

5 Things You Didn't Know About Psychopaths

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Most people think they know what a psychopath is: someone who has no feelings. Someone who probably tortured animals for fun when they were little. But here are five things you probably didn’t know about psychopaths.

Give-Up-Itis: When People Just Give Up And Die

Give-Up-Itis: When People Just Give Up And Die
The term give-up-itis was coined by medical officers during the Korean War (1950-1953). They described it as a condition where a person develops extreme apathy, gives up hope, relinquishes the will to live and dies, despite the lack of an obvious physical cause.

Life is a Series of Positive and Negative Steps

Life is a Series of Positive and Negative Steps
Ever heard the saying "3 steps forward and two steps back"? Of course you have! Well there's more than that. All universal activity, including human endeavor, occurs in excess and must be corrected.

How Measuring Performance By Numbers Backfires

How Measuring Performance By Numbers Backfires
More and more companies, government agencies, educational institutions and philanthropic organisations are today in the grip of a new phenomenon. I’ve termed it ‘metric fixation’. The key components of metric fixation are the belief that it is possible – and desirable – to replace professional judgment (acquired through personal experience and talent) with numerical indicators of comparative performance based upon standardised data (metrics); and that the best way to motivate people within these organisations is by attaching rewards and penalties to their measured performance.

Men And Women Process Motion At Different Speeds

Men And Women Process Motion At Different Speeds
On average, men pick up on visual motion significantly faster than women do, according to a new study. Humans’ ability to notice moving objects has always been a useful skill, good for avoiding an animal predator in ancient times and crossing a busy street in the modern world.

This Body Clock Trick Makes Us More Patient

This Body Clock Trick Makes Us More Patient
Seeing time tick down quickly on a countdown clock may give people more patience than seeing time pass slowly would. In a series of experiments, the speed of a countdown clock affected the patience and decision-making of video game players, both during and after the game, according to David Reitter, associate professor of information sciences and technology at Penn State.

How Our Brains Predict Where Speedy Objects Will Go

How Our Brains Predict Where Speedy Objects Will Go
New research may explain why some people—like sports stars—anticipate and react to fast-moving objects much quicker than others. When Serena Williams returns a lightning-quick tennis serve—most of us marvel at her skill and speed. Considering what the human brain overcomes to make it happen, these kinds of feats are nothing short of miraculous.

Attaining Balance Between The Two Halves Of The Brain

Attaining Balance Between The Two Halves Of The Brain
We feel good when both the rational and emotional parts of our brain interact perfectly and are in balance. Things to do with our feelings and emotions are dealt with by the right side, while the left side handles analytical thinking.

Why Life Is Not a Race You'd Want To Win

Why Life Is Not a Race

Before I met my wife I was always rushing; rushing to get to the store, rushing to reach my goals, rushing through life hoping to get there faster.

Habit Hacking: Optimizing Your Settings

Habit Hacking: Optimizing Your Settings
While healthy eating, regular physical exercise, stress man­agement, and getting enough sleep constitute advice that our grandparents might have provided, we all need the tools to move from knowing to doing, from thought to belief to mas­sive action.

Giving Busy the Boot: Kicking Your Busy Habits

Giving Busy the Boot: Kicking Your Busy Habits
The busy habit is just like
any other habit — breaking it takes practice. You may be accustomed to rushing from place to place, saying yes when you really need and want to say no, or being the go-to person all the time, and it’s exhausting! I’m sure you know far too well what that feels like...

Should You Shield Yourself From Others’ Abhorrent Beliefs?

Should You Shield Yourself From Others’ Abhorrent Beliefs?
Many of our choices have the potential to change how we think about the world. Often the choices taken are for some kind of betterment: to teach us something, to increase understanding or to improve ways of thinking. What happens, though, when a choice...

Are Stereotypes About The Millennial Generation True?

Are Millennials Lazy Whiners Or Victims Of Circumstance?
Writer Michael Hobbes says there are too many stereotypes about millennials. So, there are three things that every millennial should know. The first one is that there is no evidence for any of the stereotypes about us.

Dancing with Life: Being Flexible, Making Adjustments, and Going with the Flow

Dancing with Life: Being Flexible, Making Adjustments, and Going with the Flow
Human beings have essentially two modes or mind-sets that we operate or live in, with, of course, some shades of gray in between. We have what you might call a healthy mode, and another, which you can think of as reactive. When we are in our healthiest state of mind, we 'dance' with life. We're...

Where Is This Coming From? And What's The Bottom Line?

Where Is This Coming From? What Is The Bottom Line?
When something is taking place and you don't feel in harmony within yourself, ask yourself one simple question: "Where is this coming from?" Keep repeating the question and take it step by step until you get to the "bottom line" -- a basic belief you hold which is instrumental in creating your reactions (and your reality).

The Law of Least Effort is the Fourth Spiritual Law of Success

The Law of Least Effort is the Fourth Spiritual Law of Success
Least effort is expended when your actions are motivated by love, because nature is held together by the energy of love. When you seek power and control over other people, you waste energy. But when your actions are motivated by love, there is no waste of energy, your energy multiplies and accumulates.

Awareness is Power in the School of Life

Awareness is Power in the School of Life
Life is a great school, and nature is the ultimate teacher, but without awareness, or free attention, we miss life's teachings. Awareness transforms life experience into wisdom, and confusion into clarity. Awareness is the beginning of all growth.

Is Your Life Run by "Should"?

Is Your Life Run by "Should"?
The bummer about 'shoulds' is that when we are dominated by them, we are also dominated by the fear of being rejected or abandoned in some way, because that's the core emotional fear that activates many of them. These ongoing fears leave many of us drained and exhausted...

Where Do Our Stressful Thoughts And Beliefs Come From?

Where Do Our Stressful Thoughts And Beliefs Come From?
The moment we can ask ourselves “Does this thought have anything to do with reality?” “Is this thought true?” we are starting to wake up. This understanding breaks the bondage, which is our total identification with thoughts, and empowers us to wake up from the dream state.

Can Self-Control Be Learned, and Why Does It Matter?

Can Self-Control Be Learned, and Why Does It Matter?
Is self-control something you can acquire, like a new language or a taste for opera? Or is it one of those things you either have or don’t, like fashion sense or a knack for telling a good joke?

How Positions Of Power Fuel Narcissism

How Positions Of Power Fuel Narcissism
Endowing people with social power inflates the socially-toxic component of narcissism called exploitation and entitlement, according to new research.

What Does It Mean To Become More Conscious?

What Does It Mean To Become More Conscious?
Using the word consciousness in any discussion can be confusing because it's a word used to mean so many things. As Jung defines it, consciousness is the perception of a relationship between a subject (my ego) and something else that's either outside of me or part of my inner world. Becoming conscious, in the Jungian sense, requires a committed effort to know ourselves, but this effort rewards us with a sense of energy, assurance, and peace.

Our Centuries-Long Quest For A Quiet Place

Our Centuries Long Quest For A Quiet Place
The history of this quest for quietness, which I’ve explored by digging through archives, reveals something of a paradox: The more time and money people spend trying to keep unwanted sound out, the more sensitive to it they become.

Why Stock Investors On Higher Floors Take More Risks

Why Stock Investors On Higher Floors Take More Risks
Stocks have been on a bumpy ride lately as concerns over a trade war prompt investors to rethink their appetite for risk. But what prompts people to take risks in the first place? A desire for wealth? Fear of failure? Personality? Gender? Age? Education? Race?

How Do We Know What Is Right For Us?

How Do We Know What Is Right For Us?
A question that often arises is "How do we know what is right for us?" How do we find our 'proper' place in life, whether we are talking about employment, living location, vacation spot, etc? It seems that whatever the question, the solution is always the same...

Being Polite May Not Be A Universal Concept

Being Polite May Not Be A Universal Concept?
A French waiter hit the headlines in March 2018 when he contested his dismissal from a Canadian restaurant for his “aggressive tone and nature”.

Why You Stink At Fact Checking

Why You Stink At Fact Checking
Research from cognitive psychology shows that people are naturally poor fact-checkers and it is very difficult for us to compare things we read or hear to what we already know about a topic. In what’s been called an era of “fake news,” this reality has important implications for how people consume journalism, social media and other public information.

Outsmarting Your Doubting Voices and Valuing Your Natural Abilities

Outsmarting Youur Doubting Voices and Valuing Your Natural Abilities
Women have long had the self-destructive habit of discounting themselves and their natural abilities. This is a common gremlin, assuming that what comes easily to us is not valuable or unique. It's all part of our training to push others into the limelight and be a support person rather than...

Tattoos Through The Lens Of Consciousness

Tattoos Through The Lens Of Consciousness
Believe it or not, your tattoo, and what it represents, is cap­tured in your consciousness. It is immortally etched into your cel­lular memory and will either enhance or lower your vibration, based on the intention and emotions imbued at its creation.

Creating A Life Of Positive Meaning

Your Life, Your Legacy, Your Choice: Living In Ways You Would Be Pleased To Remember
Granny was satisfied with life. Despite adversity, she did not dwell on or run from the disappointments of life; she courageously faced hardship by grieving, accepting, forgiving, and moving on. She made mistakes. But instead of living with regret, she made the effort to make a better choice the next time she faced a similar situation.

The Role Women Played In Getting Dyslexia Recognized

The Role Women Played In Getting Dyslexia RecognizedDyslexia affects up to 10% of the population and is widely accepted as a learning difficulty that can cause problems with (among other things) reading, writing and spelling. But it hasn’t always been this way.

Changing...Instantly: It's A Lot Easier Than You Think

Changing...Instantly: It's A Lot Easier Than You Think
Mechanical behaviors are old ways of doing things that once worked, or appeared to have worked, in situations that were stressful or in situations that were actual or perceived as potentially endangering your survival.

Mind Over Mountain

Mind Over Mountain
My first time hiking I was in physical distress just walking uphill. Resting briefly, I recovered and continued. I began imagining a string at the top of my head connected to the top of the mountain. The peak was pulling me to it. I also imagined myself standing on the summit.

Why Having A Tattoo Of Your Lover's Name Has Been A Bad Idea

Why Having A Tattoo Of Your Lover's Name Has Been A Bad Idea
Every Valentine’s Day we are reminded about the importance of showing our commitment to our lovers – whether we are married to them or not. For some people this might mean getting a tattoo of their lover’s name or initials.

Are You Soul Conscious...or in Trance?

Are You Soul Conscious...or in Trance?
Any moment in which we are unaware and out of balance and harmony, then we are in trance. When we are feeling superior and feel justified in our judgments, we are in trance. When we feel inferior or unworthy, we are in trance. Streams of past, future, or worrisome thoughts that surface...

Learning Our Lessons Through Crisis and Life Stories

Learning Our Lessons Through Crisis and Life Stories
S
ad but true, we all grow out of the soil of pain....The crises that arise in our lives are here to serve us, not to hurt us. As counterintuitive as this sounds, crisis is nothing more than your own soul trying to get your attention, to show you your path. The soul uses pain, crisis, and trauma to wake us up.

Trying To Give Up A Bad Habit?

Trying To Give Up A Bad Habit?
Let me set you a task. For the next minute, I want you to not think about Donald Trump. You must block all thoughts of Trump from your mind.

Of Horseshoe Crabs and Empathy

Of Horseshoe Crabs and Empathy
The crabs and kelp and eels are all gone. The mind searches for the cause – to understand, to blame, and then to fix – but in a complex non-linear system, it is often impossible to isolate causes. This quality of complex systems collides with our culture’s general approach to problem-solving, which is first to identify the cause, the culprit, the germ, the pest, the badguy, the disease, the wrong idea, or the bad personal quality, and second to dominate, defeat, or destroy that culprit.

To Better Focus On A New Task, Try This Plan

To Better Focus On A New Task, Try This Plan
When you have to switch tasks at work, making a plan to return to and finish the task you’re leaving can help you better focus on the new, interrupting work, according to new research.

Why Your Morals May Be More Flexible Than You Think

Why Your Morals May Be More Flexible Than You ThinkDisapproval of qualities people often associate with immorality such as selfishness, dishonesty, sexual infidelity, and mercilessness is conditional, rather than universal, according to a new study.

The Yaqui Deer Dancer: The Art of Becoming What You Are Doing

The Yaqui Deer Dancer: The Art of Becoming What You Are DoingTo perform, whether surgery or dance, we must practice. We practice doing what we cannot do. By giving ourselves wholly to practicing we may transcend practicing, and find ourselves playing, with mind, body, heart and soul fully surrendered.

The Psychology Of The Clutch Athlete

The Psychology Of The Clutch Athlete“I don’t know. It’s unbelievable. It’s amazing,” said Dodgers outfielder Enrique “Kiké” Hernandez after game 5 of the National League Championship Series, when he became the first Dodger in the team’s 134-year history to hit three home runs in a postseason game.

Some Brain Training Programs Cut Dementia Risk

Some Brain Training Programs Cuts Dementia RiskCertain cognitive training via the computer may reduce the risk of dementia among older adults, researchers report. “…we found that those who received more training also gained a greater protective benefit…”

Why Working With Buddies Can Improve Performance

Why Working With Buddies Can Improve PerformanceWe routinely work together with other people. Often, we try to achieve shared goals in groups, whether as a team of firefighters or in a scientific collaboration.

On Being Kind and Opening Our Heart In Challenging Situations

On Being Kind and Opening Our Heart In Challenging SituationsI woke up in a pissy mood recently, committed to gloom before I had even rolled out of bed. Still grumpy that afternoon, I went to the supermarket, only to be greeted by the sweetest checkout clerk ever. I couldn’t resist her happy eyes and huge smile.

It's Time To Take A Stand and Lead The Way

It's Time To Take A Stand and Lead The Way
“They,” whoever they are, say that if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything. What do you stand for? A handful of courageous activists like Mahatma Gandhi, Rosa Parks, Martin Luther King, Mother Theresa, Gloria Steinem, and Nelson Mandela, have changed the world because of their stand. But the idea of taking a stand...

Is Truth Overrated? What The Experts Say

Is Truth Overrated? What The Experts SaySeek the truth and minimize harm. That’s how we instruct young journalists to prepare for the profession. Until recently, factual, objective reporting has been the mantra of modern journalism. But is objectivity a relevant concept in the era of fake news, filter bubbles and alternative facts?

The Science Of Being Nice: How Politeness Is Different From Compassion

The Science Of Being Nice: How Politeness Is Different From CompassionThe word “nice” has an unusual history in the English language. Originally a term for “foolish”, its meaning over the centuries has morphed from “wanton” to “reserved” to “fastidious”. These days, it has become...

What Happens To Your Body When You're Stressed

What Happens To Your Body When You're StressedWe all feel stressed from time to time – it’s all part of the emotional ups and downs of life. Stress has many sources, it can come from our environment, from our bodies, or our own thoughts and how we view the world around us. 

A Limited View of Life: It's Time for a Change in Perception

A Limited View of Life: It's Time for a Change in PerceptionSo many of our problems arise from a fundamental disconnection with our own awareness, our own wisdom, and the natural world. Once we disconnect ourselves from what we know, and what is real, we are free to careen headlong into...

Dealing with The Clutter of Becoming a "Better Me"

The Clutter of Becoming a "Better Me"I’ve noticed that a number of recent self-improvement books use the phrase becoming a better you. The problem with trying to be a “better you” is the implication that you are not okay now. It also presumes that there’s an objective standard of okayness. Often we want to be “better” so that...

How to Live Your Well Life Plan with Greater Efficiency

How to Live Your Well Life Plan with Greater EfficiencyFeeling chronically overwhelmed, beset by obstacles, and short on time can really get in the way of living a Well Life. Obstacles are una­voidable, but these issues can often be effectively managed by sim­ply improving your efficiency. Here are some of the best approaches we’ve found for becoming more efficient and reclaiming your time.

And Then What? A Mantra for Inner Peace

And Then What? A Mantra for Inner PeaceI’d like to share a very useful tool for bringing your mind back to the present moment when it is trying to cling to something that hasn’t happened yet. It realigns your perspective of whatever is pulling you into the fu­ture and reengages you with the now.

How You Keep Things In Mind Over The Short Term

How You Keep Things In Mind Over The Short TermWhen you need to remember a phone number, a shopping list or a set of instructions, you rely on what psychologists and neuroscientists refer to as working memory.

The Tyranny Of Competence: Why It Is Bad For Us To Be Good Enough

The Tyranny Of Competence: Why It Is Bad For Us To Be Good EnoughOur modern working lives are ruled by the concept of competence. Competence based interviews are used to decide if we should get a job. If we do get the job, we are then trained to achieve competency in the workplace.

How To Be A Champion In Your Everyday Life

How You Can Be a Champion Every DayAnyone can be a champion, whether they are Steph Curry of the Golden State Warriors, the janitor of your child’s elementary school, a grocery store clerk, a local park ranger, or the second-string quarterback on your peewee football team. It happens when one becomes...

The 7 Kinds of Clutter Nobody Ever Talks About

The 7 Kinds of Clutter Nobody Ever Talks AboutMuch of the advice about getting rid of clutter seems to start with the cheerfully abrupt command to “Just do it!” But when you can’t identify the underlying beliefs that are causing you to become buried in clut­ter, that’s almost impossible. So I’ve listed a few tough-love strategies to initiate change...

Upending The Myth Of The Super Successful College Dropout

Upending The Myth Of The Super Successful College DropoutWhen Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg was asked to give this year’s commencement address at Harvard, he asked for advice from Bill Gates.

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