How To Build Self-Esteem by Loving Yourself

How To Build Self-Esteem by Loving Yourself

You'll never have good self-esteem if you have negative thoughts about yourself. Self-esteem is merely feeling good about yourself, and when you do so, you develop confidence. Confidence then builds self-esteem -- each step feeds upon the other...

Why We Need To Stop and Smell the Flowers

Why You Need To Stop and Smell the FlowersOne hears a lot about nurturing... nurturing one's self, nurturing loved ones, children, etc. I have been advised many times in my life to pay more attention to myself, and to nurture myself. Not feeling  too clear at one time about what that meant (since I had never learned how to nurture myself), I asked...

Reverse The Aging Process And Regenerate Your Body By ReprogrammingYour Brain

Methods Of Reprograming Your BrainThe physical body is a biological robot. This biological robot is under the control of the Computer Brain. There is absolutely nothing that is outside of our actions and our thoughts that is outside the relationship between the biological computer and your body. Your body does everything your brain commands it to do.

The Best That Can Happen

The Best That Can HappenWhen I ask clients who face a difficult situation, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” they usually have a well-prepared list of possible dark outcomes. When I ask, “What’s the best thing that could happen?” they usually take a while to think of an answer. They are so practiced in pessimism that optimism hasn’t crossed their mind.

The Art of Believing and Holding On To Our Vision

The Art of Believing and Holding On To Our VisionOftentimes, in our life, we have doubts about the outcome of a situation... whether the doubt has to do with our own capabilities, or someone else's. Yet faith in ourselves is an integral part in succeeding... When we give up believing in ourselves, we give up trying.

Daring To Take Action and Stepping Into The Unknown

Daring To Take Action and Stepping Into The UnknownRealistic hope enables us to believe that we can cope with what lies ahead and gives us the courage to step into the unknown. Without being prepared to take a risk, we don’t make new discoveries about ourselves or what it means to be a human being, nor can we find the fulfillment and happiness we long for.

The Age of Separation: The Story of the People

04 27 the age of separation the story of the peopleMy childhood perceptions were part of a narrative I call the Story of the People, in which humanity was destined to create a perfect world through science, reason, and technology: to conquer nature, transcend our animal origins, and engineer a rational society.

Is Your Life Being Run by "Should"?

Is Your Life Run by "Should"?
The bummer about 'shoulds' is that when we are dominated by them, we are also dominated by the fear of being rejected or abandoned in some way, because that's the core emotional fear that activates many of them. These ongoing fears leave many of us drained and exhausted...

Taking Inner Inventory: Who Do I Pretend To Be? What Do I Need?

Taking Inner Inventory: Who Do I Pretend To Be? What Do I Need?Ask yourself, "Who do I pretend to be?" Sometimes we become so immersed in who we think we are -- or who others imagine us to be -- that we begin to identify with the mask that we wear as we weave our way through the world.If we come to believe that we are our mask, then...

The Bubble: A Superhero Shield With Special Powers

The Bubble: A Superhero Shield With Special PowersPerhaps you’re feeling a little chaotic in your mind — or worrying about everything and losing sight of what is important and what isn’t. Hands up then, everyone! It is a very likely state for a lot of us as we can often feel that a lot of demands are put on us.

How Is Your Sense of Personal Power Limited?

Is Your Sense of Personal Power Limited?Personal Power comes from within, from a strong and healthy sense of self. Your personal power includes several components: your self-esteem, how good you feel about yourself; your independence, how well you can decide on your own what is right for you to do; and your initiative...

Act with Kindness, Considering Everyone and Everything

Act with Kindness, Considering Everyone and EverythingKindness towards people means being considerate, friendly and generous. The opposite to kindness is intentionally causing harm. The Process rewards us for deeds of kindness, and corrects us for deeds of harm. There are always consequences for our actions.

Why A Belief In Meritocracy Is False And Morally Wrong

Why A Belief In Meritocracy Is False And Morally Wrong
Meritocracy has become a leading social ideal. Politicians across the ideological spectrum continually return to the theme that the rewards of life – money, power, jobs, university admission – should be distributed according to skill and effort.

When You Have A Critical Moment of Emotional Stress

When You Have A Critical Moment of Emotional Stress
Have any of you noticed that sometimes when you try to create something, certain obstacles will come up which question exactly what you're trying to create? I've wondered if this is some kind of test, you know, to see how bad I really want the creation.

How Language Has Become A Tool For Social Exclusion

How Language Has Become A Tool For Social Exclusion
The soundtrack of our lives and the visual landscapes of our cities are multilingual. Languages, in their plurality, enrich our experience of the world and our creative potential.

How Nap Time For Teens Might Benefit Their Brains

How Nap Time For Teens Might Benefit Their Brains
Which is better for a teen who can’t get the recommended amount of rest: just 6.5 hours of sleep at night, or 5 hours at night plus a nap in the afternoon?

The Biggest Spiritual Challenge

The Biggest Spiritual Challenge
I always found spirituality, the disciplines of meditation and silence, very simple. My challenge was between activity and stillness. I always got off on the adrenaline trip of being active. That's why I've traveled around so much.

How Social Media Fantasies Can Demolish Your Confidence

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Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are loaded with pictures of people going to exotic places, looking like they are about to be on the cover of Vogue, and otherwise living a fairy-tale existence.

Balancing the Scales and Spending Our Allowance of Time Wisely

Balancing the Scales and Spending Our Allowance of Time Wisely
Balance in all things is the correct way to live. So how do we balance our scales to get the correct perspective of life? We must weigh up each situation that comes into our lives and balance our minds to understand what feels good and what doesn't. 

Mission Not Accomplished: Doubting Everything You Think You Know

Mission Not Accomplished: Doubting Everything You Think You Know
As a koan teaching tells us, “To touch the absolute is not yet enlightenment.” When these moments come, there is a tendency to think, “Aha, I’ve got it!” Yet, just as on one level this gratifying thought fills us with a sense of accomplishment and empowerment, on another level we can already feel it slipping away, as the moment passes...

Simple and Easy Ways to Reduce Stress

Simple and Easy Ways to Reduce Stress
You have probably seen the cartoon sketch that depicts stress as 'the overwhelming urge to choke the living #@*% out of someone who desperately deserves it'. While that depiction may be true, it certainly is not the only form of stress.

Journey Into The Unknown: Becoming Someone New On A Regular Basis

Journey Into The Unknown: Becoming Someone New On A Regular Basis
Life is a challenge. Utilizing your capabilities, pushing to become all you might be, is a relentless dare. But when you are alive, that is the homework that has been assigned to you. Regardless of the variety of "wings on your heart," the issue is the same for everyone. Push to...

Are You In A Rut? Put Your Genie in a Bigger Bottle

Snap Out Of It! Put Your Genie in a Bigger BottleHumans are creatures of habit, and sometimes we get stuck in a rut. Sometimes we're overwhelmed. We face a simple daily task and spin into panic or just plain freeze. Neither opens up our hearts or minds to the real challenges or pleasures at hand. We need to snap out of it and get back into living again. But how?

The 7 Kinds of Clutter Nobody Ever Talks About

The 7 Kinds of Clutter Nobody Ever Talks AboutMuch of the advice about getting rid of clutter seems to start with the cheerfully abrupt command to “Just do it!” But when you can’t identify the underlying beliefs that are causing you to become buried in clut­ter, that’s almost impossible. So I’ve listed a few tough-love strategies to initiate change...

Never the Same Trip: Boredom Is An Attitude

Never the Same Trip: Boredom Is An AttitudeBoredom is not a condition; it is an attitude. Anything can be boring if you bring a closed mind to it. Anything can be fascinating if you bring an open mind to it. You can make anything out of anything.

The Power of Releasing and Letting Go

The Power of Releasing and Letting GoWe're all carrying around such incredibly heavy loads of excess baggage, stuff we don't need, stuff that's weighing us down and preventing our Good from manifesting. One of the best ways to feel better is to release. When you release, you become lighter. Releasing is a good way to raise your energy.

Why Some Teachers Don't Understand The Depth Of Dyslexia

Why Some Teachers Don't Understand The Depth Of DyslexiaIt is generally accepted that underlying neurological aspects, such as slight differences in brain structure, can change the way that dyslexic people process information, and this affects the behaviour they might display.

Why NBA Players Perform Worse After Late Night Tweets

Why NBA Players Perform Worse After Late Night TweetsNBA players who use Twitter or other forms of social media late at night don’t perform as well on the court the next day, a new study shows. A player’s shooting percentage was 1.7 percentage points lower following a night during which he tweeted during typical sleeping hours. Late-night tweeting was also associated with approximately 1.1 fewer points scored and 0.5 fewer rebounds in the next day’s game.

Lessons, Lessons, Lessons! Not All Lessons Have To Be Painful

Lessons, Lessons, Lessons! Not All Lessons Have To Be Painful
I know some of you, myself included, feel that lessons must be painful to be appreciated or remembered. Contrary to popular belief, not all lessons have to be painful. Some can even be fun. It's all in the 'moral to the story'. Life gives us wonderful examples to follow ... allow me to illustrate.

Even One Is Enough... What Would Love Do?

Even One Is Enough... What Would Love Do?We live in a world of extremes. Extreme wealth, extreme poverty. Extreme hedonism and joy, and extreme fear and pain. Extreme religious devotion, and extreme hatred. And as with everything, the microcosm and the macrocosm are reflections of each other. In each one of us there resides these extremes, or at least a presence of these realities -- though maybe not in the extreme.

Feel Younger Than You Are? Here's Why You're On To Something Good

Feel Younger Than You Are? Here's Why You're On To Something Good
It seems that to some extent, we really are as young as we feel. But how do we know which is the chicken and the egg? Are people who feel younger simply healthier to start with or are they so keen on being young that they actually take better care of themselves and therefore live longer?

On Experiencing Shame and the Inner Critic

On Experiencing Shame and the Inner Critic
Everyone knows what it’s like to be knocked off center, to lose their inner sense of balance and groundedness, at least temporarily, when faced with life’s unwanted curve balls. Whether it’s a troubling health diagnosis, the death of a loved one, a serious car accident, a layoff, or a natural disaster, life can intensely challenge our resilience.

When You Hit A Limit, Learn To Ask Different Questions

When You Hit A Limit, Learn To Ask Different Questions
Talk to high-school students preparing for their science exams, and you’ll probably hear two things: that they’re scared of physics, and relatively comfortable with biology. Strangely, this is contrary to the view of most researchers.

Standing Up and Stepping In: Taking Personal Responsibility for Your Life

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Being passive developed as a pattern for a really good reason -- we were avoiding feeling our emotions (especially sadness) and had to find some place to channel the sensations we were experiencing. Maybe dad was a tyrant and we felt like we had no choice but to be quiet and duck. Maybe our classmates laughed at us when we made a mistake, and we decided being shy was safer.

How Your Birth Date Influences How Well You Do In School, And Later In Life

How Your Birth Month Influences How Well You Do In School, And Later In Life
Whether you were born in December, January, August or September can have a significant and long-lasting impact on your life. Our new research shows your birthday month may also contribute to shaping your personality. In particular, we found people’s self-confidence can significantly differ because of their month of birth.

Going From Conflict to Resolution: Using Aikido Principles to Resolve Conflict

Going From Conflict to Resolution: Connecting to Invent Options for Mutual Gain
Roger Fisher (1922–2012) served as a reconnaissance pilot in World War II and then graduated from Harvard Law School, becoming a professor there in 1958. Witnessing maiming and death firsthand during the war and then seeing the destructive effects of costly, pro­tracted litigation as a partner in a major law firm, Fisher was pas­sionate about finding more creative alternatives to resolve conflict.

Research Finds That 40% Of People Over 50 Drink Too Much

Research Finds That 40% Of People Over 50 Drink Too Much
Mention hazardous drinking and most of us imagine teenagers or students getting drunk, causing havoc and filling our emergency departments on a Friday night. But what if I told you that we should be just as worried about how much our parents and grandparents are drinking?

Life is a Series of Positive and Negative Steps

Life is a Series of Positive and Negative Steps
Ever heard the saying "3 steps forward and two steps back"? Of course you have! Well there's more than that. All universal activity, including human endeavor, occurs in excess and must be corrected.

5 Things You Didn't Know About Psychopaths

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Most people think they know what a psychopath is: someone who has no feelings. Someone who probably tortured animals for fun when they were little. But here are five things you probably didn’t know about psychopaths.

Give-Up-Itis: When People Just Give Up And Die

Give-Up-Itis: When People Just Give Up And Die
The term give-up-itis was coined by medical officers during the Korean War (1950-1953). They described it as a condition where a person develops extreme apathy, gives up hope, relinquishes the will to live and dies, despite the lack of an obvious physical cause.

How Measuring Performance By Numbers Backfires

How Measuring Performance By Numbers Backfires
More and more companies, government agencies, educational institutions and philanthropic organisations are today in the grip of a new phenomenon. I’ve termed it ‘metric fixation’. The key components of metric fixation are the belief that it is possible – and desirable – to replace professional judgment (acquired through personal experience and talent) with numerical indicators of comparative performance based upon standardised data (metrics); and that the best way to motivate people within these organisations is by attaching rewards and penalties to their measured performance.

Men And Women Process Motion At Different Speeds

Men And Women Process Motion At Different Speeds
On average, men pick up on visual motion significantly faster than women do, according to a new study. Humans’ ability to notice moving objects has always been a useful skill, good for avoiding an animal predator in ancient times and crossing a busy street in the modern world.

This Body Clock Trick Makes Us More Patient

This Body Clock Trick Makes Us More Patient
Seeing time tick down quickly on a countdown clock may give people more patience than seeing time pass slowly would. In a series of experiments, the speed of a countdown clock affected the patience and decision-making of video game players, both during and after the game, according to David Reitter, associate professor of information sciences and technology at Penn State.

How Our Brains Predict Where Speedy Objects Will Go

How Our Brains Predict Where Speedy Objects Will Go
New research may explain why some people—like sports stars—anticipate and react to fast-moving objects much quicker than others. When Serena Williams returns a lightning-quick tennis serve—most of us marvel at her skill and speed. Considering what the human brain overcomes to make it happen, these kinds of feats are nothing short of miraculous.

Why Life Is Not a Race You'd Want To Win

Why Life Is Not a Race

Before I met my wife I was always rushing; rushing to get to the store, rushing to reach my goals, rushing through life hoping to get there faster.

Attaining Balance Between The Two Halves Of The Brain

Attaining Balance Between The Two Halves Of The Brain
We feel good when both the rational and emotional parts of our brain interact perfectly and are in balance. Things to do with our feelings and emotions are dealt with by the right side, while the left side handles analytical thinking.

Habit Hacking: Optimizing Your Settings

Habit Hacking: Optimizing Your Settings
While healthy eating, regular physical exercise, stress man­agement, and getting enough sleep constitute advice that our grandparents might have provided, we all need the tools to move from knowing to doing, from thought to belief to mas­sive action.

Giving Busy the Boot: Kicking Your Busy Habits

Giving Busy the Boot: Kicking Your Busy Habits
The busy habit is just like
any other habit — breaking it takes practice. You may be accustomed to rushing from place to place, saying yes when you really need and want to say no, or being the go-to person all the time, and it’s exhausting! I’m sure you know far too well what that feels like...

Should You Shield Yourself From Others’ Abhorrent Beliefs?

Should You Shield Yourself From Others’ Abhorrent Beliefs?
Many of our choices have the potential to change how we think about the world. Often the choices taken are for some kind of betterment: to teach us something, to increase understanding or to improve ways of thinking. What happens, though, when a choice...

Dancing with Life: Being Flexible, Making Adjustments, and Going with the Flow

Dancing with Life: Being Flexible, Making Adjustments, and Going with the Flow
Human beings have essentially two modes or mind-sets that we operate or live in, with, of course, some shades of gray in between. We have what you might call a healthy mode, and another, which you can think of as reactive. When we are in our healthiest state of mind, we 'dance' with life. We're...

Are Stereotypes About The Millennial Generation True?

Are Millennials Lazy Whiners Or Victims Of Circumstance?
Writer Michael Hobbes says there are too many stereotypes about millennials. So, there are three things that every millennial should know. The first one is that there is no evidence for any of the stereotypes about us.

Where Is This Coming From? And What's The Bottom Line?

Where Is This Coming From? What Is The Bottom Line?
When something is taking place and you don't feel in harmony within yourself, ask yourself one simple question: "Where is this coming from?" Keep repeating the question and take it step by step until you get to the "bottom line" -- a basic belief you hold which is instrumental in creating your reactions (and your reality).

The Law of Least Effort is the Fourth Spiritual Law of Success

The Law of Least Effort is the Fourth Spiritual Law of Success
Least effort is expended when your actions are motivated by love, because nature is held together by the energy of love. When you seek power and control over other people, you waste energy. But when your actions are motivated by love, there is no waste of energy, your energy multiplies and accumulates.

Awareness is Power in the School of Life

Awareness is Power in the School of Life
Life is a great school, and nature is the ultimate teacher, but without awareness, or free attention, we miss life's teachings. Awareness transforms life experience into wisdom, and confusion into clarity. Awareness is the beginning of all growth.

Where Do Our Stressful Thoughts And Beliefs Come From?

Where Do Our Stressful Thoughts And Beliefs Come From?
The moment we can ask ourselves “Does this thought have anything to do with reality?” “Is this thought true?” we are starting to wake up. This understanding breaks the bondage, which is our total identification with thoughts, and empowers us to wake up from the dream state.

What Does It Mean To Become More Conscious?

What Does It Mean To Become More Conscious?
Using the word consciousness in any discussion can be confusing because it's a word used to mean so many things. As Jung defines it, consciousness is the perception of a relationship between a subject (my ego) and something else that's either outside of me or part of my inner world. Becoming conscious, in the Jungian sense, requires a committed effort to know ourselves, but this effort rewards us with a sense of energy, assurance, and peace.

Can Self-Control Be Learned, and Why Does It Matter?

Can Self-Control Be Learned, and Why Does It Matter?
Is self-control something you can acquire, like a new language or a taste for opera? Or is it one of those things you either have or don’t, like fashion sense or a knack for telling a good joke?

How Positions Of Power Fuel Narcissism

How Positions Of Power Fuel Narcissism
Endowing people with social power inflates the socially-toxic component of narcissism called exploitation and entitlement, according to new research.

Our Centuries-Long Quest For A Quiet Place

Our Centuries Long Quest For A Quiet Place
The history of this quest for quietness, which I’ve explored by digging through archives, reveals something of a paradox: The more time and money people spend trying to keep unwanted sound out, the more sensitive to it they become.

How Do We Know What Is Right For Us?

How Do We Know What Is Right For Us?
A question that often arises is "How do we know what is right for us?" How do we find our 'proper' place in life, whether we are talking about employment, living location, vacation spot, etc? It seems that whatever the question, the solution is always the same...

Why Stock Investors On Higher Floors Take More Risks

Why Stock Investors On Higher Floors Take More Risks
Stocks have been on a bumpy ride lately as concerns over a trade war prompt investors to rethink their appetite for risk. But what prompts people to take risks in the first place? A desire for wealth? Fear of failure? Personality? Gender? Age? Education? Race?

Outsmarting Your Doubting Voices and Valuing Your Natural Abilities

Outsmarting Youur Doubting Voices and Valuing Your Natural Abilities
Women have long had the self-destructive habit of discounting themselves and their natural abilities. This is a common gremlin, assuming that what comes easily to us is not valuable or unique. It's all part of our training to push others into the limelight and be a support person rather than...

Being Polite May Not Be A Universal Concept

Being Polite May Not Be A Universal Concept?
A French waiter hit the headlines in March 2018 when he contested his dismissal from a Canadian restaurant for his “aggressive tone and nature”.

Why You Stink At Fact Checking

Why You Stink At Fact Checking
Research from cognitive psychology shows that people are naturally poor fact-checkers and it is very difficult for us to compare things we read or hear to what we already know about a topic. In what’s been called an era of “fake news,” this reality has important implications for how people consume journalism, social media and other public information.

Creating A Life Of Positive Meaning

Your Life, Your Legacy, Your Choice: Living In Ways You Would Be Pleased To Remember
Granny was satisfied with life. Despite adversity, she did not dwell on or run from the disappointments of life; she courageously faced hardship by grieving, accepting, forgiving, and moving on. She made mistakes. But instead of living with regret, she made the effort to make a better choice the next time she faced a similar situation.

Tattoos Through The Lens Of Consciousness

Tattoos Through The Lens Of Consciousness
Believe it or not, your tattoo, and what it represents, is cap­tured in your consciousness. It is immortally etched into your cel­lular memory and will either enhance or lower your vibration, based on the intention and emotions imbued at its creation.

Changing...Instantly: It's A Lot Easier Than You Think

Changing...Instantly: It's A Lot Easier Than You Think
Mechanical behaviors are old ways of doing things that once worked, or appeared to have worked, in situations that were stressful or in situations that were actual or perceived as potentially endangering your survival.

The Role Women Played In Getting Dyslexia Recognized

The Role Women Played In Getting Dyslexia RecognizedDyslexia affects up to 10% of the population and is widely accepted as a learning difficulty that can cause problems with (among other things) reading, writing and spelling. But it hasn’t always been this way.

Mind Over Mountain

Mind Over Mountain
My first time hiking I was in physical distress just walking uphill. Resting briefly, I recovered and continued. I began imagining a string at the top of my head connected to the top of the mountain. The peak was pulling me to it. I also imagined myself standing on the summit.

Why Having A Tattoo Of Your Lover's Name Has Been A Bad Idea

Why Having A Tattoo Of Your Lover's Name Has Been A Bad Idea
Every Valentine’s Day we are reminded about the importance of showing our commitment to our lovers – whether we are married to them or not. For some people this might mean getting a tattoo of their lover’s name or initials.

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