Control or Joy: Which Will You Choose to Experience?

Control or Joy: Which Will You Choose to Experience? by Alan Watts.

by Alan Watts. An old aphorism from India says, What is beyond, is that which is also here. And you must not mistake this for a kind of blasé boredom, or a tiring of adventure. It is instead the startling recognition that in the place where we are now, we have already arrived. This is it. What we are seeking is, if we are not totally blind, already here.

Protect Your Sensitive Self and Become Whole and Healthy

Protect Your Sensitive Self and Become Whole and HealthyGraphic images on TV, the stench of exhaust fumes, fluorescent lighting, office temperatures that are too hot or too cold, or sitting for too long in traffic can all cause enough discomfort to make you tense against the pain to come, real or anticipated.

How Connected Are You to Your Future Self?

How Far Into The Future"From an objective point of view, the present flips into the future in an instant," says Corinna Loeckenhoff. "There is the past and the future, but the present isn't really there."

Living a Conscious Life: A New Role for Your Outer Child

Living a Conscious Life: A New Role for Your Outer ChildYou have your life ahead of you; and I, mine. So many choices face us. We can go back to the familiar and let our energy dissipate into old patterns, or we can choose to do things differently and move our lives in the direction of our goals. Transforming your life is not a matter of simply...

The Power of Letting Go: Can We Learn From Nature?

The Power of Letting Go: Can We Learn From Nature?Nature is a great teacher. Its natural cycles demonstrate important truths about life and renewal. Every year, deciduous trees must drop their leaves so that new life can form. If the leaves did not fall, the tree could not renew itself. It is that simple. What can this cycle teach us?

Is It Possible To Face and Transform Disappointment?

Is It Possible To Face and Transform Disappointment?Have you ever had something turn out far different than you expected it would and felt immensely disappointed? Have you ever been so let down by a person or situation that you thought you’d never get over it? Have you ever not lived up to your own standards and felt a sense of failure?

For a Richer Life, Get Rid of Your Excess Stuff

For a Richer Life, Get Rid of Your Excess StuffDespite advertising messages that assure us happiness is to be found in our next purchase, the opposite tends to be true as mountains of stuff, clutter and debt leave us stressed and unfulfilled.

A Year Without Fear: What Would Your Life Be Like?

A Year Without Fear: What Would Your Life Be Like?You are more powerful than you know. But fear keeps you from your boldest possibilities. Yet what if you could cultivate a presence within that could help you choose your good all the time? Here’s an excerpt from A Year Without Fear, which can help you make these daily choices.

Keeping the Love Vibration Strong

Keeping the Love Vibration StrongNo matter what we believe in, I think we can agree that stuff is up in our world and it's unsettling. It's disturbing actually and it can make us feel scared. So how DO I keep my Love Vibration strong? For me, it's all about the little things...

When Families Move, High School Students May Suffer

When Families Move, High School Students May SufferResidential mobility is a hallmark of modern American society. Policies encourage mobility as a way of improving outcomes for low-income families residing in poor neighborhoods.

Meals On Wheels Brings Food And Cuts Loneliness

Meals on Wheels brings food and cuts lonelinessWhen Congress passed the Older Americans Act in 1965 to support elderly people who were struggling—often alone—to continue to live at home, a major plank of the legislation provided for home delivery of meals.

Why the Holidays Don’t Matter...

Why the Holidays Don't MatterI would like to suggest that the holidays don’t really matter and there is nothing you really need to do about them. Such a suggestion, of course, reads like heresy. The holidays, while fun and significant, drive lots of people crazy. There are pressures to...

The Midlife Crisis Is Real, But It Doesn’t Linger

The Midlife Crisis Is Real, But It Doesn’t Linger

Research shows that satisfaction with life follows a U-shape—gradually falling from early adulthood and reaching a low point around the ages of 40 to 42. But it then reverses direction and keeps rising to the age of 70.

Overcoming Great Obstacles While Remaining Zen

Overcoming Great Obstacles While Remaining ZenThose who know me can vouch that they have no clear idea how I have survived through so many hardships and obstacles and still smile today, and some even ask me what kind of magic pill I take to maintain such a Zen state.

Keeping Your Vibrations High to Navigate Through Life

Keep Your Vibrations High to Navigate Through LifeYou must be vigilant about maintaining your vibration at a high enough level to enable you to navigate through life more purposefully, authentically, and, most importantly, safely. You will attract whatever you imagine, so to be mindful of the frequencies you are focusing on.

What Motivates Your Choice of the World You Prefer?

What Motivates Your Choice of The World You Prefer?The reasons for our choices prevail at a level below our conscious mind. Every living thing does what it believes will bring it the greatest reward. The rub, in human terms, is that quite often the reward we perceive is not in our best interest.

The Defining Moment: The Confidence To Change

The Defining Moment: The Confidence To ChangeMy life was spinning out of control. I hated myself. I hated life. I hated people. My life was going nowhere. My childhood thoughts — I'm stupid, I'm not good enough, I'm not loved, and it's wrong to express myself — had contaminated my adult life and were crippling me by hindering my confidence, true potential, and success...

Nurturing Your Emotional Self into a Creative, Joyful Power

Nurturing Your Emotional Self into a Creative, Joyful PowerYour Emotional Self is a source of magical possibilities. It needs loving attention; when it receives that it flowers, releasing a childlike perfume of warmth and playfulness. What follows are five ways to attend to our Emotional Self and nurture it into a creative, joyful power.

Aligning with Life and Living Within the Cycles

Aligning with Life and Living Within the CyclesFor most of my childhood, one of my favorite sayings was “It’s not fair!” As an adult, I continued to believe life should go the way I wanted it to go. When I couldn’t control the external world, I tried to make things better by transferring the sense of “Life isn’t right when . . .” to “I’m not right unless . . .”

Are You Part of My Tribe? The Intelligence of Pattern Recognition

Are You Part of My Tribe? The Intelligence of Pattern RecognitionJust noticing the pattern, the way in which we are similar and are connected, can bring healing, strengthen the function of your brain, and help you to be more adaptable and intelligent. What do you see when you look at the people around you?

Healing the Shadows: Love is the Only Gift Worth Giving

Healing the Shadows: Love is the Only Gift Worth GivingOne after another sat next to me and just slipped into my arms. Nothing needed to be said. We just looked into each other’s eyes and shared the common sadness. I needed only to love; they needed only to be loved.

Two Kinds of Feedback To Give When Someone Is Changing Their Behavior

Two Kinds of Feedback To Give When Someone Is Changing Their Behavior How do you encourage other people when they are changing their behavior? Chances are you want to be supportive, so you focus on saying positive things to people. And that can be great. But there are several potential problems that lurk when you give feedback to others.

Reset Your Life! Ask Yourself What Makes You Come Alive

Reset Your Life! Ask Yourself What Makes You Come AliveI know I’m not the only person who’s lived through tough times. I know that you, like me, have experienced your fair share of dreams, hopes, and disappointments. But I also know that you are committed to creating your best life. And I can help. I’ll share with you how I pushed the reset button on my life and take you through the steps so that you can too.

How to Unlearn Old Patterns and Transform Your Life

How to Unlearn Old Patterns and Transform Your LifeChange is such a big ambiguous word. There are thousands of titles of books that offer you the opportunity to change. Change your mind. Change your body. Change your relationship. Change your soul. But is change what we really seek?

Being A Chronic Overachiever: I Had No Idea What It Would Cost

Being A Chronic Overachiever: I Had No Idea What It Would CostMy strongest memories of my father are of him leaving for work. There was something important about the ritual of him preparing for work. He was off to do important things. He was off to do business, to work, to provide for us. If his leaving in the morning was an important ritual, waiting for Dad to come home had an air of expectation. Did he have a good day? Or a bad one?

How To Live a Life True to Yourself with Compassion and Patience

How To Live a Life True to Yourself with Compassion and Patience by Bronnie Ware.When I left yet another 'good job' to go and live on the island, confusion reigned. 'Why would she do that? Where is she going to this time?' And through all of this I was just thinking with excitement, 'I'm going to live on an island!'

Changing Yourself & Your Past

Changing Yourself & Your Past

If there was one thing you could change about yourself, what would it be? If you could go back and change one thing from your past, what would it be? I feel that each of us has to accept the way we find ourselves. I don't think we ever really stray very far from our destiny...

Keeping Your New Year’s Evolutions

Keeping Your New Year’s Evolutions

Many of us make New Year’s resolutions which, according to many surveys, don’t last very long. Many are gone by the end of January, and most are gone by July. Most resolutions have to do with losing weight, saving money, and taking self-improvement courses. All worthy goals, to be sure. But why do most resolutions tank?

Go Out Into Nature and Find Peace

Go Out Into Nature and Find Peace

Over the years, I've informally polled thousands of people about the things they do to take care of themselves. Going out into nature is at the top of the list. Returning to the natural world is my favorite self-care activity as well, and has been since childhood.

Developing New Habits and New Moves on The Camino de Santiago

Developing New Habits and New Moves on The Camino de SantiagoIf Noah were alive, this would have been a nice day to bring the ark out of retirement... I woke up early and started walking in the dark soon after 6 o’clock. Due to albergue logistics this would be my last 30-kilometer (19-mile) day. That left 19 kilometers (11 miles) for Wednesday and 20 kilometers (12 miles) for Thursday, the final day. 

The Butterfly Effect: Thank You for Eating the Cake

Thank You for Eating the Cake

I realized that one small act can change not just your life, but the lives of many whom you touch. Never underestimate the power of any act of courage or kindness. When you live in alignment with your true self, you send out ripples that affect the entire universe.

The Prostitute Archetype: Connecting to Fears Around Survival

The Prostitute Archetype: Connected to Fears Around Survival

The prostitute archetype is connected to your fears around survival. It helps you learn lessons in relation to your integrity and inner strength. It asks questions such as, Are you willing to sell your spirit, your loyalty, your body, or your morals for money and physical survival, or do you have the courage and the stamina to...

Waking Up: Becoming Aware & Informed

Waking Up: Becoming Aware & Informed

The time has come to write a new story for our lives and to let go of those handed down to us by our families and our cultures. These are not our stories; they do not belong to us. We must hand them back with love and write our own. We are being urged to become aware and informed and, by doing so...

Discovering the Pearls of Wisdom Within Ourselves

Discovering the Pearls of Wisdom Within Ourselves

Every period of recorded history reports the arrival of certain “game changing” ideas, the advent of some unique insight whose appearance serves to transform the consciousness of the world itself. Of course, revelations such as these...

Staying Smoke-Free Forever

Staying Smoke-Free Forever

They say that the most voracious anti-smoking person was probably once a heavy smoker. I (Karen) was at a party and a guy next to me pointed out three people scurrying onto the patio to have a cigarette. He then launched into a rant about smokers being the...

How To Change in Three Simple Steps

How To Change Things in Three Simple Steps

Most of us find it difficult to change things. If you look at ordinary life and ordinary people, you will discover that they also find it very difficult to change things. Some people haven’t changed since they left school. At eighty years old they are still the same as when they left school...

Has Something Shifted? Entering the Twilight Zone?

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Just as you thought life couldn't get any weirder - it did! You don't have to be a super psychic to feel that the energy has accelerated with a strange new twist. Many are feeling a little dizzy or out of balance / out of body, while others are feeling just plain tired...

Meeting the Shadow: From Dante's Inferno to a World of Compassion

Meeting the Shadow: From Dante's Inferno to a World of Compassion

In European mythology, this specific process of self-discovery (meeting the shadow) is usually depicted as the hero literally descending into the underworld and meeting the dead. Whether it’s in The Odyssey or The Divine Comedy or the Harry Potter tales (in which Harry frequently visits past events), the first part of this process involves going into a netherworld that allows the traveler (and the reader) to think...

What You Make of It

2012: What You Make of It

2012 is here. Finally. After many years of anticipation, sensationalism, foreboding, titillation, and wild prophecies, we’ve reached the end of the Mayan calendar. The era of momentous...

Brace for Impact!

Brace for Impact!

On January 15, 2009, a jet taking off from New York City suddenly plummeted into the Hudson River. What would your thoughts, feelings, desires, regrets, and heartfelt prayers be if you, like these passengers, knew you perhaps only had two more minutes to live? ...

Gifts of Suffering

In honoring our feelings, we can more swiftly and comfortably navigate through difficult times, and come out wiser in the process. If we face our difficulties with grace, gratitude, if we can combine occasional expressions of pain and sadness with our usual routine of...

Taking Radical Responsibility: Personal Healing is Global Healing

Taking Radical Responsibility: Personal Healing is Global HealingResponsible means able to respond, answerable for, trustworthy. Most of us would probably say we are responsible. But it is often the wrong response! Frequently, we are tempted to take responsibility for others, as in changing or healing them. As a peace activist, I know this one quite well. To me...

Awash in Guns

In just one year, guns are used to kill more than thirty thousand Americans, and thousands more are injured. The fear of gun violence alone affects the quality of life of every American, even those who have never experienced it firsthand. What we forget is that living in fear does not have to be an inevitable part of life in America.

How To Eat A Mango

I love the smell and taste of a plump fresh mango. I always have. But for most of my life I would not buy or eat them. Why? I really never thought about it. Then one day somebody showed me how to eat a mango. Here's the secret...

Boundaries

Boundaries... barriers... walls... All these words have similar meanings. They indicate a place where one must stop and go no further. In some cases boundaries and walls are wonderful. But too much of a "good thing" can become its opposite... bad.

The Seasons of Our Nature

Just as there are four seasons in Nature, our inner natures also experience four seasons. In the Winter of our inner natures, we feel as if we're coming undone; an old fear we thought we'd put to rest resurfaces. The more attached we are to worldly success, or to old patterns and people with whom we've identified...

All About Sam

In my community, there is one man whose life speaks louder than his words. He is known as Sam, and he lives on the streets. His life provides us with a sense of charity so that we can live guilt-free in our lavishly furnished homes. We don't want to learn how one could adapt to living on the street.

Angel Cop

A testimonial of an encounter with a policeman who assisted in showing her the way back to the path of enlightenment and recovery: "One morning last spring I was driving down US1 at 5:30 in the morning. Well, I wasn't just driving, I was speeding. I was going at least 15 miles over the 45mph limit, and my mind was not on the road..."

A Defining Moment

A thought or decision can certainly redefine our direction in life and in love. There's a lesson in every experience. However, one usually doesn't figure out the lesson until well after the experience...

My Life As A Bum

Article (short-fiction) that takes a look at being homeless and a way in and out of that experience.

Attaining Happiness & Joy

by J. Donald Walters. We all seek permanent happiness. No one has, as his long-term goal, a happiness that is evanescent. More than anything else, what we want of life is escape from pain, and the attainment of joy. The deeper our joy, the more deeply meaningful our lives become also. The duty with which we are charged by life itself is to find that 'hidden treasure': infinite joy and bliss.

Integrating The Feminine

Our difficulty lies in the fact that in asserting our right to partake in the man's world we have come to identify with the very patriarchal attitudes that devalue our mothers and grandmothers. We are ashamed of our yearnings for connection, our tears, our mothers. We try to live like men: valuing separateness and achievement.

Afraid of the Unknown

by Stuart Wilde. Naturally we are scared to move into the unknown because our personality relies a lot on the symbols, psychological structures, and associations we develop. We become comfortable in a society, and with a group of people -- work mates, family, and friends. However, embracing change is a matter of giving away or letting go of old traits.

Abuse - Transforming the Memory

Abuse is deeply shattering to the body, psyche, and spirit. The process of opening up and letting go, of becoming aware, can break up the painful memories that arise from abuse, whether they've been there for a long time or are just beginning to arise.

Freeing the True Self with a Harley & Zen

by Darrell G. Yardley, Ph.D.Although in my classes at the university I referred to myself as an "old hippie", my life had become tame, boring, and very unfulfilling. A growing awareness had started creeping in, an awakening in my psyche, that there was something, a big something, not right in my life.

Spring Forward

This is the time of year, the Spring, which represents rebirth and regeneration. It's the time of year when we shed the parts of ourselves that are no longer working for us and move forward into the world of infinite possibilities. We can reach and achieve anything that we want. The only one that stops us is ourselves. The only one imposing limitations on us are ourselves.

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