Do Not Give Up What You Want Most for What You Want Right Now

Do Not Give Up What You Want Most for What You Want Right Now

The most powerful influence on the human mind is our core beliefs about our identity, who we think we are. If you have a core belief that you are lazy or that the world is out to get you, no matter how much you try to be more productive or to feel safer in this world, you will sabotage your efforts to align with your core belief.

How do you heal this? Start by asking yourself, What do I want to believe?

Once you’ve discerned these new empowering beliefs, do the work to prove these beliefs to be true, using your own life experiences and the experiences of others. Remember, you see what you want to see.

Create a New Narrative

The more you control the voice in your head, the easier it will be to allow guidance to come forth from your higher self. If your house is dilapi­dated and built on a crooked foundation yet located on a beautiful piece of property, do you try to put up new walls, give the house a fresh coat of paint, and hope for the best? No. You tear that sucker to the ground. Strip it of everything, including the foundation, and then start from scratch.

We need to break the mind down to its core beliefs, decide how we want to view the world, and then build up from there. This requires a new set of basic beliefs, a new system for you to honor and practice.

Five Core Beliefs

During my many years of working with clients and walking my own spiritual path, the following five core beliefs have helped me live in a more peaceful and meaningful way. Whether you love these five or wish to make up your own, I encourage you to print them out and put them in a place that allows you to see them throughout the day.

  1. Everything happens for me, not to me. There is meaning and growth opportunity in this experience.

  2. Everything is unfolding perfectly at the exact right time.

  3. Out of this, only good will come.

  4. The Universe is looking out for me and conspiring in my favor.

  5. I am enough, and I am loved.

When beginning to take control of the voice in your head, please be patient. Your first reaction will be to go to your default survival mind. Take a little space, and start to do the work. Call on your new belief system, and ask your higher self for guidance. Have compassion for yourself in the process; you are doing the hard work of rewiring yourself from a place of fear and control to one of love and surrender.

This requires daily practice but will ultimately give you the clarity you need to take action and live your life’s purpose. This purpose is noth­ing more than awakening to your gift and sharing it with the world, living in harmony with the flow of life, and enjoying your adventure as it unfolds.

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Find Your Clarity

Once you begin to question the validity of what you think, you can start to separate from the monkey mind and allow your true self to shine through. From this place, you can create a clear vision for what you desire instead of being stuck in a story about what you can’t achieve.

With clarity on your side, you can say that you are not willing to give up what you want most (energy, confidence, strength) for what you want right now (food, comfort, instant gratification). By becoming vulnerable enough to explore your beliefs about your body and food, you start the journey of setting yourself free.

Before you attempt to achieve anything, you must start by having extreme clarity about the outcome you want to create. One of the best questions you can ask yourself before starting anything new, even a conversation, is, “What is my outcome? Why is this so important? What becomes available to me if I achieve this? What is withheld from me if I don’t?”

Focus on the Desired Outcome

We focus too much on the problem and not enough on the solution. Having clarity about what you want will keep your attention going in the right direction. Where you put your attention is where you manifest your reality. Do you think more about what you want than what you don’t want? Do you look in the mirror and see the possibility or the failure?

Using clarity to stay focused on the outcome is integral to your long-term success. If you aren’t anchored to the outcome at all times, you will ultimately drown in the process. The process of achieving anything worthwhile is going to be difficult. Think of three things that are massively important to you that you want to achieve. Now think about the process of getting there, the blood, sweat, and tears it will take to get you to the finish line. Are you motivated to act? No way, José.

Take a deep breath and begin to visualize your outcome. Think about how it will feel to be at the end goal. Visualize what it will look like, the emotions you will experience, how your life will improve. Feeling more motivated? Having a clear outcome for your health journey is one of the most important aspects of your new path. You must remain focused on the outcome to be successful.

Write Your Clear Vision

Before you sit down to write your clear vision for optimal health, make sure you are in the right state of mind. Jump around to some music, go for a jog around the block, jump on a trampoline, or move your body in a way that feels good. In other words, shake out your willies and any negative energy living in the body so that you are a clear vessel for writing.

When you write, make sure to be as detailed as possible. If your vision is of you walking down the beach in a bikini, paint the picture on paper. What color is your bathing suit? Is your hair up or down? Is the sun shining, or is it sunset? How do you feel as you walk? What did you do for a workout that day, and what were your meals? If you were to read this vision to a stranger, he or she would be able to throw it onto a movie screen and have it play like the trailer of your future fabulous life.

Once you’ve written this vision, keep it somewhere close because you will be reading it every morning before you start your day. This image is what you want most.

What You Want Most vs. What You Want Right Now

There’s another aspect of desire, which is what you want right at the moment, and the two visions usually don’t match up. What I want most may be to meditate every day to achieve a calm and peaceful inner self. What I want right now is to skip the meditations so I can knock some things off of my to-do list.

What you want most is to wake up early and get to that exercise class. What you want right now may be to press snooze and try to get back to that dream where you are starring in Fifty Shades of Grey.

When I find myself in this predicament, I make this simple but powerful statement: “I am not willing to give up what I want most for what I want right now.” When I say the words what I want most, I think about the vision I read that morning. It empowers me to get through the moment of instant gratification and reach deeper and more powerful goals.

Say the outcome I want is to adopt healthier eat­ing habits. I’m at a Mexican restaurant thinking this mantra over and over again as I sit in front of a basket of chips. Then I ask the waiter for guacamole with fresh-cut veggies and repeat my mantra. I wake up the next morning ecstatic that I made the best decision for the outcome that is most important to me.

This doesn’t always work, and when it doesn’t, there is a deeper lesson for me to learn. Be gentle with yourself as you use this tool. There’s always something to learn, and you are still moving forward on the path, whether or not it feels that way.

Skimmer’s Delight

* You need clarity to say you are not willing to give up what you want most for what you want right now.

* You are worthy simply because you beat out all those other sperm-and-egg pairs. You don’t need another reason.

* Take back control of your mind, and create new core beliefs that allow you to authentically desire health and wellness.

* If you focus on the process of what it takes to achieve your goal, you will fail. To be successful, you must remain fo­cused on the outcome.

Make It Stick

1. Time to get crystal clear on paper. What do you want most? Write down your vision of optimal health, and use the following guidelines:

  • Use the present tense.
  • Write without fear.
  • Be as detailed as possible.
  • Explain why you want this (the “why” comes before the “how”).

Ask yourself, “What is my outcome? Why is this so important? What becomes available to me if I achieve this? What is withheld from me if I don’t?”

2. Write your response to the following questions:

  • What core beliefs do I have about my weight or my ability to follow through with my health goals?
  • Are there any theories I have mistaken for facts that, if rewritten, would help me feel healthier and happier?
  • What do I want to believe about my body and my health?

3. Think about a major event in your life. How did this shape the way you now see the world? Did this event create a positive or negative belief ? Without this belief, how would your life or actions be different today?

4. Journal about a time in your life when something hap­pened and, in the moment, you completely resisted it (a breakup, a job change). Now that time has passed, explain why you think the Universe had your back. How did it show up for you in a way that you couldn’t see at the time?

Copyright © 2019 by Carly Pollack. All rights reserved.
Reprinted with permission of the publisher,
New World Library --

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