Getting Real: The Most Direct Path to Freedom and Happiness

Getting Real: The Most Direct Path to Wholeness
Honest communication is not only the quickest, most direct path to wholeness, it is also the least expensive. Without spending years in a therapist's office, you can get out of the morass of judgments, generalizations, shoulds, withholdings, assessments, and explanations about why you are the way you are.

What Is Cognitive Behaviour Therapy?

What Is Cognitive Behaviour Therapy?
If you or someone you care about experience an emotional problem it won’t be long before you hear that cognitive behaviour therapy, or CBT, is probably the treatment of choice.

To Be Happy, The Approval Of Others Is Not Needed

To Be Happy, The Approval Of Others Is Not Needed
To be sincere with oneself means not to let his happiness depend on the approval of others. In the context of the quest for bliss, opinions simply do not matter. The only important thing is how to deepen that bliss...

Expressing your Emotions through Art

Express your Emotions through Art
Emotions are invisible. We can't see them directly with our normal vision. Rather, we feel them in our bodies. As for detecting other people's emotions, you know by the signs. Even when no words are spoken, you often know what's going on inside another person.

How Can External Change Lead to Internal Change?

How Can External Change Lead to Internal Change?By the time my patients pick up the phone to make an appointment with me -- or to call any healer, for that matter -- two very important steps have occurred first. First, they have decided that something is awry in their life, something is not as they want it to be; and second, they have decided to do something about it. They are at a gateway...

Taming the Tiger: How to Safely Deal with Difficult Emotions

How to Cope with Difficult EmotionsEmotions cause trouble or create feelings of discomfort, but now is the time to find ways to work with emotions constructively, especially those that cause the most trouble. Many people cope with working with difficult emotions or emotional patterns by repressing them. 

Trapped in Therapy? The Problem with Psychiatry and Psychotherapy

Trapped in Therapy? The Problem with Psychiatry and Psychotherapy
In the first year of training, which was mainly inpatient psychiatry, learning to treat patients, attending daily lectures, and having individual supervision, we also had a weekly group therapy session for all the trainees. This included residents from all the years of training, so it was a pretty big group, run by two psychiatrists.

What's Done Is Done: Be Here Now!

Be Here Now! What's Done Is Done!
Almost 50 years ago, Ram Dass published a book with the title "Be Here Now". It's still good advice. This reminder to be here now was brought to mind as I reflected on the general public's increased interest and acceptance of past-lives.

Transforming Grief And Despair Into Acceptance, Contentment, And Love

Transforming Grief And Despair Into Acceptance, Contentment, And LoveThere are certain critical turning points when grief and despair begin to transform into acceptance, contentment, and Love. I have seen three common ingredients that seem to signal the moment when the weight of depression and disappointment starts to lift...

Changing Perceptions and Cleaning Out the Mind's Cubbyholes

Changing Perceptions and Cleaning Out the Mind's Cubbyholes
Let's imagine our minds as being filled with rows of cubbyholes. Each cubbyhole represents a particular relationship in our lives. Some of these cubbyholes contain largely benevolent thoughts. Others are filled with grievances and other dark thoughts. As I begin to think of those people, I may find a significant amount of resentment or anger stored away...

Negative Self-Talk: How Did Those Critical Voices Get In There?

Negative Self-Talk: How Did Those Critical Voices Get In There?
I believe that the primary goals of consciousness are to keep us alive and to stave off trauma or potential future trauma. Now if I am correct (and I may not be), then self-harm or the extreme of self-harm — self-annihilation — would be extremely difficult. Consider the statistics...

Psychotherapy Is Not Harmless: On The Side Effects Of CBT

Psychotherapy Is Not Harmless: On The Side Effects Of CBT
The structured nature of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and its clearly defined principles (based on the links between thoughts, feelings and behaviours) make it relatively easy to train practitioners, ensure standardised delivery and measure outcomes.

How To Reduce Stress And Anxiety With Ease

How To Reduce Stress And Anxiety With Ease
Writing about positive emotions may help to reduce stress and anxiety, according to our new study, published in the British Journal of Health Psychology.

Scars That Wound, Scars That Heal

Scars That Wound, Scars That Heal
I interviewed numerous people who have regrettable ink and most admit their decision to get a tattoo was impulsive and not really contemplated. Their experiences with having a bad tattoo included suffering from severe depression and panic attacks. Some people even resort to therapy and antidepressants over a bad tattoo.

Four Myths About Achieving Life Balance

Four Myths About Achieving Life Balance
Some of the first things that often need to be overcome when seeking to engage a higher degree of balance in one's life are the all-too commonly-held myths and misconceptions about Life Balance and how to achieve it. Here are four of the most prevalent ones in our society...

The Best Advice For You? The Advice You Give Others

Best Advice For You: The Advice You Give Others
As human beings, we seem to have developed a tendency to look outside of ourselves for the solutions to our problems. When we encounter a challenge or difficulty in our life, we run to someone else for the solution... While it may not be good to develop a dependency on others, these people can help...

Seeing The Actual Problem In The Brain Decreases The Stigma Of Illness

Seeing The Actual Problem In The Brain Decreases The Stigma Of IllnessAs a psychiatrist, I find that one of the hardest parts of my job is telling parents and their children that they are not to blame for their illness. Children with emotional and behavioral problems continue to suffer considerable stigma.

Why Restoring Morale Is Important To Mental Health In Difficult Times

Why Restoring Morale Is Important To Mental Health In Difficult TimesThe term demoralization was originally coined in the 1970s by a psychiatrist who was seeing patients that didn’t quite meet full criteria for major depression. Nonetheless, they were suffering – in a shared state of emotional distress and sense of incompetence.

Ayahuasca and The Need to Feel Loved and Accepted

 Ayahuasca and The Need to Feel Loved and AcceptedIn ayahuasca ceremonies, people sometimes view visionary home movies of their childhood while maintaining an outside observer’s perspective. At other times, they relive a childhood event as if it were happening in the ceremonial moment; they regress in age to the time of the scene. Either way, ceremonies often open up deep feelings of wanting to be accepted and loved.

Writing to Heal from Hardships and Trauma

Writing to Heal from Hardships and Trauma“I wanted to talk with you because I wanted others to know that when you are out there, writing can help. I still struggle with PTSD...with all of it. But I can tell you, when I was out there — in the middle of a war — the writing helped take the unseen monkey off my back.”

Why Emotions Are Your Guides To Your Feelings

Why Emotions Are Your Guides To Your FeelingsSome people cannot distinguish or name the emotions that they feel. In such cases, it's important to increase the emotional vocabulary and learn how varied feelings can be. An easy way to accomplish this is to use an emotional vocabulary list.

How To Ask For Help Without Driving People Away

How To Ask For Help Without Driving People AwayProblematic ways of seeking support -- acting like a victim, rejecting help, getting angry at people “for not understanding,” pouting, and escalating your complaints so that they sound like reports of catastrophes -- are likely to backfire and drive people away. However, you can learn to ask for help in a reasonable way.

Mind Your Own Business and Enjoy The Holiday Season!

Mind Your Own Business and Enjoy The Holiday Season!Minding other people’s business is a surefire way to make yourself unhappy. That’s why if you want to enjoy the coming holiday season and live a happy life, I highly recommend you take a close look at this mechanism and ask yourself whose business you are in?

Why Our Wounded Healer Needs To Be Our Constant Companion

Why Our Wounded Healer Needs To Be Our Constant CompanionThe burdens and pain we overcome grow into our greatest storehouse of wisdom and compassion. They literally become the power that enables us to assist others in their healing. Our suffering has been our initiation of the heart...

Why Psychology Lost Its Soul

Some people believe the soul has no mass, takes no space and is localised nowhere. Michelle Robinson/Flickr, CC BYMany people today believe they possess a soul. While conceptions of the soul differ, many would describe it as an “invisible force that appears to animate us”.

Learning to Process Emotions Safely and Successfully

Learning to Process Emotions Safely and SuccessfullyOne of the biggest problems that people bring to therapy is not knowing what to do with a wide range of feelings, including sadness, anger, ecstasy, fear, and depression. Many visits to medical doctors are attempts to deal with feelings unable to be expressed or released. Such feeling problems are quite common.

Does Our Worthiness Depend on Following or Not Following The Rules?

Does Our Worthiness Depend On Following or Not Following The Rules?We have come to believe more in our morals than we believe in ourselves. Because we trust in morals, we don’t trust in our inner and divine essence to lead and guide us. We don’t even trust love to guide us, because, you know, love can be tainted with all kinds of loyalties that may or may not be right...

The Heart Begins to Heal: Emotional Healing and The Healing Process

The Heart Begins to Heal: Emotional Healing and The Healing ProcessFor most people, emotional healing is an on-going process and occurs gradually over time. We go through a process of recognising and removing layers of programming and false beliefs that have built up over the years. Over the years I have observed two main types of healing that takes place: specific healing and deeper healing.

Seven Steps to Make Peace with the Suicide of a Loved One

Seven Steps to Make Peace with the Suicide of a Loved OneSuicide can be a plea for help, a response to mental illness, or the last gasp of despair. Suicide can also be an impulsive mistake, a planned ending of life, or the ultimate act of rage. Whatever the cause, suicide turns worlds upside-down. This seven-step method can assist you in finding your way out of the rabbit hole of devastation...

Spiritual Funk: Untethered & Free Falling Surrender to the Process

surrender to the processEver felt like you were falling through space? Everything that held you and tethered you has disappeared and evaporated. What is a free-falling, spiritually-inclined person to do? Pull off the galactic highway and take a little snooze or hitch a ride on a screaming meteor? There might be another way...

Accepting, Honoring, & Channeling Your Emotions

Accepting, Honoring, & Channeling Your Emotions

We have learned to repress our emotions, or to blatantly "dump" them on others. Often, our strong emotions make us lash out and blame others for our feelings. There is an alternative, that not only heals you but empowers you.

Chakra Psychology: Which of Your Chakras Are Dominant?

Chakra Psychology: Which of Your Chakras Are Dominant?

By reflecting upon the nature of our own thoughts, inclinations, perceptions, desires, and actions, we can fairly accurately identify which chakras are dominant within us. We can also determine ways we might develop in order to be...

Inner Voice to the Rescue

Inner Voice to the Rescue, article by Shari Rathman

Once upon a time there was this young person who had such great hopes for an exciting life filled with adventures and love. Then one day she heard a voice inside her. It was as if someone was whispering to her a message that no one else could hear.

Personality Need Upgrading?

If you are brave enough to appraise your personality and arrive at some conclusions about what changes you want to make, you will still be faced with the enormous challenge of actually changing your personality...

Matters Of The Mind

We use our mind in many ways. We use it when we don't even think about it; it simply takes over and provides us with the support we need for survival. We forget that it's there working and we overlook it as the best tool we have for self-improvement.

How to Love Yourself

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved...

Abuse Survivors: Releasing the Pain

A lot of the afternoon talk shows are featuring "therapists" who say that it's not possible to completely repress memories of abuse. Well, I know from my dealings with thousands of abuse survivors that repression is an extremely common coping mechanism. However, many women do not remember the abuse they experienced until a dramatic life event occurs.

Changing Levels of Consciousness

Dealing with addictive responses such as anger, jealousy, irritation, aggravation.We learned these as children and we now respond automatically. We can learn to respond in a different manner, and thus raise our level of consciousness and our happiness leve

How To Reclaim Your Lost Self

Although 'self-help' information can be readily gleaned, there must be a head-heart, or intellect-feeling connection before one's situation can change. All knowledge learned must be internalized (believed), and processed (discussed, analyzed, emotions explored). Insights must be gained and goals set and attained, in order to resolve unfinished business, heal wounds, and grow.

Success Through Hypnosis

The goal of hypnosis is to access the subconscious mind which functions at a deeper level than our usual level of awareness. Our subconscious mind is not limited. It can remember everything and can transmit solutions to our problems.

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