Meeting Our Shadow Self and Attaining a True State of Peace

Meeting Our Shadow Self and Attaining a True State of Peace

How do you heal yourselves mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally? The first step is to realize that the healing is happening all the time. It has been happening all along.

It may be hard to see when the times are tough, when you feel trapped in circumstances that appear to be beyond your control, when you are in any kind of pain, when there is abuse on any level. But if you can step into much higher levels from there, you can recognize that every place that you are is perfect for you in your journey, and that every being with whom you are encountering time and space is perfect for accomplishing the lesson at hand.

For many people, healing, or "going through their stuff", is what they do with their therapist. That may be one very important aspect of going through your stuff. But moving through your stuff happens in every activity in every minute of every day.

Healing, like Love, demands surrender. Healing means coming back to Love -- surrendering to Love flowing through your entire being. Healing means uncovering your truth and living it. Every moment is healing. You just may not be aware of the healing. But as you become aware of every situation as a gift for healing, as a gift for the journey, as a gift for moving through your stuff, then you facilitate the healing process, the pain dissipates, and the circumstances begin to change.

You are healing in every moment of your life. Don't worry so much about how to heal. Rather, open your awareness to the fact that it is already happening, and see where that leads you.

[Section above from a Stephen Levine lecture,
Omega Institute conference, Spring 1994]

Attachment and the Shadow SelfIt is often in the solar plexus that we begin to recognize our dark side, the shadow aspect of our personality. When we are willing to look honestly within, we find the ways in which we have succeeded or failed in fulfilling our dreams and goals.

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Western society is strongly built on concepts of success and failure. However, a major part of the healing that occurs in the solar plexus is the realization that success and failure only have to do with ego.

The soul is busy taking a journey and having experiences from which it will learn. It knows nothing of success and failure. The soul only knows truth, honesty, and integrity. As long as we live our lives from a place of truth and integrity, allowing Love to flow through our being, we are following a pathway toward healing. With this realization, we are able to let go of attachment to success, and simply take the journey.

Attachment is a big issue of the solar plexus. Through attachment, whether to a person, job, situation, problem, idea, or belief, we feel some kind of control or security. There are literally bands of energy that form between the solar plexus chakra and the object of our attachment.

Energy bands form from the second chakra through emotional-sexual attachment, and from the heart chakra in love attachments, but from the solar plexus we find the energy bands that form out of control and security issues. In balancing this chakra, we learn to let go of our attachment to the outcome of a situation, to a job, or to a lover, no longer depending on the object of our attachment to give us an identity or a reason for being. As we let go of the attachment, we experience healing, because we begin to find wholeness within ourselves.

Here we also address issues of desire and need. When ego and soul are in balance, desire is a healthy feeling, leading us forward in our journey of development. However, when ego begins to reign, desire becomes need. As the energy becomes more and more distorted, need becomes greed.

From Desire to Greed; From Need to Neediness

Martha began working for a large bank in an entry-level position with a great desire to advance. She was very bright and learned quickly, earning several promotions in rapid succession. However, as she kept being promoted, she became somewhat obsessed with climbing the corporate ladder. She basked in her newfound status and power over other people's career paths, and began to thrive on those feelings. She became willing to do anything necessary to ensure her continued promotion and increased power.

What was once healthy ambition had become desperate need, leading to aggression and manipulation. Her ego craved more and more power at the expense of others. Only when she was faced with a life-threatening illness did she realize that she had alienated her closest friends, family members, and colleagues. Desire, need, and attachment to outcome are important issues to address so we can be aware of the important inner balance and always follow the direction of the soul.

Another aspect of this issue is when genuine need becomes neediness. This is a sign of tremendous weakness, not only in the solar plexus, but in the lower chakras in general.

When people become needy they tend to suck energy from everyone else around them, refusing to step firmly into their own power, strength, and life force in order to find sustenance. Rather than addressing their own issues and learning to provide both the physical and emotional nurturing that they require, they seek out others who will take care of them.

Meeting Our Inner Dragons

In the third chakra (solar plexus) we face the practical challenges and problems of our lives, and fight our daily battles. The deeper we go in our work here, the more we realize that the people in our lives are simply mirrors for us to see and know ourselves. The person who irritates us is often giving us the gift of showing us a part of ourselves that we don't particularly like.

When we are standing in a place of less awareness, we tend to create battles and enemies outside ourselves, finding someone or some situation to fight against. That is the ego's way of coping with inner conflict. But when we come to the essence of the solar plexus, we realize that the battles are just the manifestation of what is happening inside, and that we must go inside to meet our well-disguised dragons. That's where the real battle lies.

Attaining a True State of Peace

Being rigid in our beliefs and harsh in our judgments only leads to inflexibility in life. This makes any kind of adjustments to situations and conditions all the more difficult. When we can become more fully aware of our inner battles and stop projecting them outside of ourselves, we can more easily let go of ego judgments and prejudices and come to a place of peace inside. Then we can more fully realize that a true state of peace does not necessarily mean the absence of conflict, but is an inner state.

When we achieve an inner state of peace, we can accept conflict around us and work through it in a gentle and nonjudgmental way, not getting tied up in our attachments to certain feelings or outcomes.

©2001. Reprinted with permission of the publisher,
Weiser Books.

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