Can Money Buy You Happiness? It's Complicated

Can Money Buy You Happiness? It's ComplicatedConsumer society is growing fast around the globe. In 2011 it was estimated that 1.7 billion people were living in what is considered to be the “consumer class” – and nearly half of them are in the developing world.

You've Got The Power, So Stop Giving It Away

You've Got The Power, So Stop Giving It AwayMany times we seem to experience life as if we have no power to make changes -- no power to make a difference. If you don't feel powerful, or if you feel that power is unavailable to you, take a look at where, in your daily life (and in your past), you have relinquished your power.

Why Our Perception Of Growing Old Needs Some Get Up And Go

Over 75s hockey match. Alex Rotas“Weak”, “sick”, “immobile”, “decrepit”, “lonely”, “depressed”. If the prospect of growing old brings thoughts like these to mind, you are not alone. It seems that many people – of all age groups – have a preconceived idea of what being old will be like. And it’s generally not good.

Breaking Loose From The Chains Of Illusion

Breaking Loose From The Chains Of IllusionAs things happened, various rules and regulations began to rise along with various laws. You accumulated a long array of very specific things to juggle in order to be 'good enough', certain kinds of food, certain kinds of behavior, thoughts, actions, emotions, and on and on.

Your Inner Guidance System Always Moves You Toward Fulfillment and Success

Your Inner Guidance System Always Moves You Toward Fulfillment and SuccessThe guidance your IGS (internal guidance system) gives you is specific to your life. It takes into account how you are to think, feel, and behave in order to be happy and successful in every situation you encounter. If there is a difficult situation or conversation that you need to have...

The Key To Creating A More Peaceful & Kind World

The Key To Creating A More Peaceful & Kind WorldAs someone who was once unhappy in every sense of the word, I can personally verify that misery leads to heartless behavior, and vice versa. For years I experienced failed relationships, financial struggles, poor health, depression, and an endless stream of...

The Science, Drugs And Tech Pushing Our Brains To New Limits

Does serotonin make you a better person? Xavier Béjar/Flickr, CC BY-SAA recent explosion of neuroscience techniques is driving substantial advances in our understanding of the brain. Combined with developments in engineering, machine learning and computing this flowering has helped us enhance our cognitive abilities and potential.

How To Unlock Your Inner Resilience

How To Unlock Your Inner ResilienceWe can all think of someone in our lives we view as being “resilient”. They are the people we know who impress us with their seemingly endless ability to carry on – no matter what.

How To Live Life From Joy Rather Than From Fear

Living Life from Joy or from Fear?I now live my life from joy instead of from fear. This is the one very simple difference between who I was before my near-death experience (NDE) and who I am today. Before, without even realizing it, everything I did was to avoid pain or to please other people...

What Parts Of The Brain Make Our Personalities So Unique?

What Parts Of The Brain Make Our Personalities So Unique?Personality is a broad term describing how people habitually relate to the world and their inner self. After the developmental period through childhood and adolescence, these patterns of relating remain reasonably stable through life.

Life Cycles and Changes Are Driving Me Crazy

Life Cycles and Changes Are Driving Me CrazySince change is the only constant in life, we have to get used to the idea that letting go of our fear of the unknown allows us the opportunity to create space and the potential to birth something new and potentially greater in our lives...

Can You Open Your Heart and Get Out of Your Own Way?

Open Your Heart and Get Out of Your Own WayWhen your heart opens, you access your natural sense of con­fidence. It emerges when you embrace the moment fully — no matter what is happening. When you show up, available for life just as it is, you feel fully awake and alive.

Why Psychology Lost Its Soul

Some people believe the soul has no mass, takes no space and is localised nowhere. Michelle Robinson/Flickr, CC BYMany people today believe they possess a soul. While conceptions of the soul differ, many would describe it as an “invisible force that appears to animate us”.

Stop Thoughtlessly Re-Posting Memes and Get in the Arena

Stop Thoughtlessly Re-Posting Memes and Get in the ArenaPosting a meme isn’t being the change. Neither is hash-tagging. No matter how relevant and important the cause, you’re not changing the world with a hashtag; you’re just making yourself feel better. If you’re unwilling to actually work toward a solution...

From Crappy to Happy in Four Easy Steps

From Crappy to Happy in Four Easy StepsWhat am I doing? is the most frequent question I ask as I let go of my most recent job and relationship. The answer always comes back the same: You are being true to yourself. You are living your Truth. This is crazy, I say to myself. No job, no security, saving good-bye to someone who loves me, whom I love.

How To Practice The "Religion" of LivingKindness

LivingKindness: The Religion of KindnessThe Dalai Lama once said, “My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.” What a simple yet profound creed! Having adopted this same philosophy, I’ve discovered that this belief system supports not only my own spiritual journey, but more important, all of life...

Science Achievement Gaps Start Early In Kindergarten

Science Achievement Gaps Start Early In KindergartenThe annual back-to-school season is filled with high hopes for making new friends, meeting new teachers – and, from the view of many policymakers – promoting gains in science achievement. 

We're Actually More Antisocial In A Shared Office Space

We're Actually More Antisocial In A Shared Office SpaceIf we all work side by side in an open-plan office or “hot desk”, moving from place to place, it’s sure to increase collaboration! It turns out that may be wrong. If you don’t have your own space, perhaps you are better off working remotely with your cat for company.

The Power of Your Words – A Little Reminder

The Power of Your Words – A Little ReminderI am quite sure we would all be much more careful of what we say if we were aware of the power of the spoken word. If we understood that every word we speak or write is an affirmation. To affirm literally means to make firm....

Why There Is Value Living On The College Campus

Why There Is Value Living On The College CampusAs families consider the living options available to their college students and look at the costs of college education, what might not be as evident to them is how on-campus living can actually maximize their college investment.

Easy Practices Available to You for Wisdom and Mastery

Easy Practices Available to You for Wisdom and Mastery What follows are some activities from which I draw for my personal faith and mindset practice. I don't do all of these things every day but, across the span of any given month, I endeavor to do some combination of these activities or disciplines regularly. The result? For me, greater clarity, less time feeling scattered

The Joy and The Courage to Ask for Help

The Joy and The Courage to Ask for HelpI have to admit. I have a hard time asking for help. I have that “false pride” thing about being able to do it myself, that if I have to ask for help, it means I’m helpless. It makes me think about the two year old who proclaims, “I can do it myself!”

Why Your Self-Sabotage Peaks At Your Favorite Time Of Day

Why Your Self-sabotage Peaks At Your Favorite Time Of DayIf you’re a “morning person,” you’re more likely to undermine your performance on a stressful task early in the day, research suggests. The same goes for “night owls” and performance in the evening.

Creativity Brings Hope: Releasing the Divine Capabilities of Our Species

Creativity Brings Hope: Releasing the Divine Capabilities of Our SpeciesWhere does our hope lie? Where shall we ground ourselves for continuing on and changing our ways radically? Creativity can redeem and save our species. I agree with Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés that all women and men are born gifted. All we need to do is release this creativity, get out of its way, as M. C. Richards used to say.

Where Is Your Joy? What Are You Hoping For?

Where Is Your Joy? What Are You Hoping For?Many of us have lost our way, or at least we lose our way during the day or the week. Some people feel that their joy can only exist on weekends, as the week is consumed by work. Joy is sometimes relegated to two days a week at the most! If we've lost the path of joy...

Feeling Down: 7 Ways to Restore Hope

Feeling Down: 7 Ways to Restore HopeWhen you feel depressed, you may despair that your life will never get better. Rather than telling yourself how hopeless your situation is, you can restore hope and get rolling. I know this because I've worked with people who believed their downer feelings would never end, and I've seen them take action to turn the corner and find the peace, love, and joy they'd been yearning for.

Why It Actually Feels Good To Fight Conformity

Why It Actually Feels Good To Fight ConformityGoing with the flow might seem easier than sticking up for yourself against unanimous disagreement. However, bodily responses suggest that expressing your opinions and core values can be a positive psychological experience.

When You Mess Up, Get Up: The Power Of Failure

Thomas EdisonIn the middle of his bar routine – having flung himself into the air with style and skill – Dutch gymnast Epke Zonderland missed the bar at the last grasp and face-planted into the mat.

What's Your Story? How To Learn From Your Past

What's Your Story? How To Learn From Your PastStories are like boxes we build around ourselves to give structure, identity, security and familiarity. We are attached to them even when they are traumatic and painful, because they feel so much part of us... However, stories also limit us...

Why You Shouldn't Want To Always Be Happy

Why You Shouldn't Want To Always Be HappyIn the 1990s, a psychologist named Martin Seligman led the positive psychology movement, which placed the study of human happiness squarely at the center of psychology research and theory.

Why We Care About Chinese Philosophy

Why We Care That Chinese Philosophy Is Missing From U.S. Philosophy EducationPhilosophy has been a favorite whipping boy in the culture wars since 399 B.C., when an Athenian jury sentenced Socrates to death. Nowadays, philosophers are no longer accused of “corrupting the youth.”

How To Handle Fears About Getting Old

How To Handle Fears About Getting OldDespite the fact that we have a good chance of reaching one hundred (whether we like it or not), many of us fear the unknown landscape of aging. We fear illness, not having enough money, losing our mental abilities, being dependent on others, and becoming a burden to our families. Truth is...

When Every Single Choice Makes a Difference...

When Every Single Choice Makes a Difference...Every day we make choices. Some seem simple, some seem complex. What will I eat for breakfast? What will I say to this person? How will I react to this situation? Some choices we make without even thinking about it, and sometimes we are simply remaking a choice we made a long time ago.

Music Training Speeds Up Brain Development In Children

musical trainingObserving a pianist at a recital – converting musical notations into precisely timed finger movements on a piano – can be a powerful emotional experience.

Why Time Goes By Faster As We Age

Why Time Goes By Faster As We Age When we were children, the summer holidays seemed to last forever, and the wait between Christmases felt like an eternity. So why is that when we get older, the time just seems to zip by, with weeks, months and entire seasons disappearing from a blurred calendar at dizzying speed?

If It Doesn't Kill Us Does It Actually Makes Us Stronger?

make you strong 8 8It may seem that wise, strong people typically have gone through a few hard times in their lives. By comparison, those who have led a very sheltered and privileged life often appear to crack more easily under pressure

This Moment on Earth: The Statements We Make With Our Choices

This Moment on Earth: The Statements We Make With Our ChoicesSo much is at stake in our times. Whether we like it or not, and whether we accept it or not, the choices we make, individually and collectively, in the coming years will make an incredible amount of difference, perhaps...

Stressed Out? How To Let Go of Fixating on What's Wrong!

It's Possible To Be Aware and Not Stressed OutWe’ve all read countless stories that stress is bad for our health and leads to weight gain, heart disease, and a host of other emotional and physical issues. We’re told to reduce our stress, which sounds like a solid idea, but how does one accomplish that in this crazy-busy world?

Take Daily Snapshots of Joy

Take Daily Snapshots of JoyHere’s some wonderful advice for being miserable: Ignore all the good and decent things that surround you in the course of an ordinary day. Here’s more: Complain about the things you can’t change, and even complain about those things you can change. The list could go on...

Can Genes Really Predict How Well You'll Do Academically?

Can Genes Really Predict How Well You'll Do Academically?Researchers at King’s College London say they are able to predict educational achievement from DNA alone. Using a new type of analysis called a “genome-wide polygenic score”, or GPS, they analysed DNA samples from 3,497 people in the ongoing Twins Early Development Study.

The Science Behind Trusting Clinton Or Trump

The Science Behind Trusting Clinton Or TrumpLarge swaths of the American public want Donald J. Trump to be their president – maybe even a majority, according to an analysis from Nate Silver’s FiveThirtyEight in late July.

It's All in Your Head?

It's All in Your Head?Just as true happiness is not simply the absence of problems but an internal life state that enables us to challenge any obstacles to happiness that come our way, health is not simply the absence of illness. The important issue is whether we defeat sickness when it comes or whether sickness defeats us...

Allow the Enchanted by Opening Yourself to Change

Allow the Enchanted by Opening Yourself to ChangeI’m tempted by efficiency. My overactive brain craves the order of a predictable routine, a color-by-numbers life, the safety of no surprises. But I also crave enchantment. My heart craves the unpredictable, the spontaneous, the magical. In many ways, the two are...

Why Are We Here If We're All Playing Make-Believe?

 Why Are We Here If We're All Playing Make-Believe?Pretend, for a minute, that we’ve all come to Earth to learn something. Since we may not care for little boxy classrooms, instead we have a whole planet for our current lessons. Now pretend that there’s not one of us who isn’t in the test of some major challenge.

Why Most People Use The Status Quo As A Moral Compass

Why Most People Use The Status Quo As A Moral CompassThe Binewskis are no ordinary family. Arty has flippers instead of limbs; Iphy and Elly are Siamese twins; Chick has telekinetic powers. These traveling circus performers see their differences as talents, but others consider them freaks with “no values or morals.”

Do Your Best and Forget The Rest

Do Your Best and Forget The RestWhat the most confident-seeming people have is not brazen ballsiness, impressive bravery, courage or any of that elusive stuff really...it’s PASSION. It’s enthusiasm. It’s WILLINGNESS. It’s RESILIENCE and FLEXIBILITY.

What's Your Default Energy and How Is It Affecting Your Life?

What's Your Default Energy and How Is It Affecting Your Life?Each of us has a Default Mechanism, a subconscious pattern of returning to memories of previous experiences in your mind to find a response to a current experience. Your default powers your very first, almost automatic, reaction in response to the events of your life.

How Smart Drugs Are Making Workplaces More Competitive

Smart drugs could work wonders for tired doctors. michaeljungWe live in an increasingly competitive world where we are always looking to gain an advantage over our rivals, sometimes even our own colleagues. In some cases, it can push people to extreme, unethical and illegitimate methods – something we’ve seen recently in the doping scandal that has hit the athletics world.

What Is Your Life Theme and How Is It Affecting You?

What Is Your Life Theme and How Is It Affecting You?Everybody has a life theme, a significant psychological issue which they are working out in this life. Your life theme is created when a powerful emotional chord is struck in your childhood, and it is reinforced when similar events reoccur throughout your life...

How Languages Can Reveal Secrets To Happiness

How Languages Can Reveal Secrets To HappinessThe limits of our language are said to define the boundaries of our world. This is because in our everyday lives, we can only really register and make sense of what we can name. We are restricted by the words we know, which shape what we can and cannot experience.

Celebrate and Dance On Life

Celebrate and Dance On LifeHow do you feel when you encounter cheerful, happy people who laugh a lot and seem to find some good even in the worst of circumstances? I can recall what my reaction to these people was in the past. I would stick my finger in my mouth and act as if I was gagging.

How Aging Affects The Way We Make Decisions

How Aging Affects The Way We Make DecisionsAround the world, people are living longer than ever before, with a recent report from Public Health England revealing that the average 65-year-old man can expect to live another 19 years, while a 65-year-old woman has got a further 21 years to play with.

How Can I Know What's Best For Me?

How Can I Know What's Best For Me?One of the biggest things I've discovered working with clients everyday is how extremely difficult and challenging it is for most people today to know what is best for them to think, say and do in the various situations and relationships in their lives.

Feel It All: Stop Spinning Your Wheels and Start Living a Fuller Life

Feel Fully: Stop Spinning Your Wheels and Start Living a Fuller LifeWhen we perceive from the fragmented mind, we push life away. When we drop into the healed heart, our soul expands...we leave the false emptiness of separation and the tail-chasing, fortune cookie, nonspeak and enter the full and juicy alive-messy-perfect presence of the Whole...the Everything.

The Freeing Power of Honesty & Being True to Yourself

The Freeing Power of Honesty & Being True to YourselfEach of us longs to express who we are, what we think and how we feel. But how often do we? From my perch I see more being repressed than expressed. Considering that repression can lead to depression, illness and even violence, what is stopping us from being true to ourselves and...

Learning Life's Lessons: Smarten Up, Grow Up, Wake Up

Learning Life's Lessons: Smarten Up, Grow Up, Wake UpEarth is a perfect school, and daily life is the classroom. This idea is hardly new, but what follows will help you appreciate the full value of your life experience. And once this central premise penetrates your psyche, you’ll stop seeking and start trusting — because you’ll confront a higher truth.

Softening and Letting Be: Switching from Velcro Thinking to Teflon Thinking

Softening and Letting Be: Switching from Velcro Thinking to Teflon ThinkingMuch of our pain comes from the emotional clutter of resisting or hardening ourselves against the way things are. For example, how often do you resist what appears before you during an average day? Suppose you’re stuck at a stoplight and late for work. Do you get anxious or frustrated and blame the red light...

Planetary Healing: It's None of My Business... or Is It?

Planetary Healing: It's None of My Business... or Is It?For many years, I never watched TV. I remember my TV breaking down and as I placed it out with the garbage, deciding not to buy another one. So in those days, I was not watching the news, or anything else on TV. This went on for many years.

Finding Solitude In An Era Of Perpetual Contact

Did you notice, or were you too busy texting? nahidv/flickr, CC BYBeing alone has many benefits. It grants freedom in thought and action. It boosts creativity. It offers a terrain for the imagination to roam. Solitude also enriches our connections with others by providing perspective, which enhances intimacy and fosters empathy.

Are You Addicted to Your Problems?

Are You Addicted to Your Problems? Are you addicted to your problems? That's a strange question I admit. Addicted to problems? How can you be addicted to something you don't like? Aren't people addicted to things they enjoy? Exactly! We do enjoy our problems, in a perverse kind of way.

A Reminder Of Good Things To Come

A Reminder Of Good Things To ComeHow are you doing today? This is your moment to breathe in a little hope and love. I'm here for you with reminders of good things to come. Because the world seems like it's going crazy sometimes. I know.  I feel it too. We could talk about it for daaaaays, right? It's pretty intense...

Control or Joy: Which Will You Choose to Experience?

Control or Joy: Which Will You Choose to Experience? by Alan Watts.

by Alan Watts. An old aphorism from India says, What is beyond, is that which is also here. And you must not mistake this for a kind of blasé boredom, or a tiring of adventure. It is instead the startling recognition that in the place where we are now, we have already arrived. This is it. What we are seeking is, if we are not totally blind, already here.

Does A Week Of Little Sleep Undo Lots Of Studying?

Does A Week Of Little Sleep Undo Lots Of Studying?"Despite the fact that most of our participants were from elite schools, they were not spared the adverse effects of sleep curtailment on their cognitive functions," says June Lo.

Looking For Love & Approval

Looking For Love & ApprovalWhat would you be doing differently if you did not have to prove yourself to anyone?  Your enemies are not your dysfunctional parents, childhood sexual abuser, or punitive parochial school teacher; your enemies are the thoughts they instilled in you that you still believe...

Seeing Through New Eyes: Twelve Keys to a New Life

Seeing Through New Eyes: Twelve Keys to a New LifeWhen you have begun seeing through new eyes, it might still appear to others that nothing about you has changed. However, you know inside yourself that everything has changed. A Zen proverb says: Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water; after...

The Merits of Focusing on the Bright Side

The Merits of Focusing on the Bright SideHave you become a wet blanket, failing to acknowledge what's working or punishing others when they say or do things you don't like? If so you are unknowingly or knowingly creating alienation and insecurity in those around you. You are not spreading joy, love, or peace.

I Dare to Dream and I Deserve My Dream

I Deserve My DreamIf you feel you don’t deserve your Dream, no matter how much time and sweat you put in, how many movers and shakers you know, how many “lucky” breaks you have, or how gorgeous (or outrageous) you are, you will torpedo yourself.

Fully Alive: Seeing Life in High Definition

Fully Alive: Seeing Life in High DefinitionBeing fully alive feels like seeing the world in high definition. It makes everything taste, feel, look, smell, and sound more vivid and intense. Experiences go from black and white or analog to technicolor.

In the Quest for Happiness, Approval Is Not Needed

In the Quest for Happiness, Approval Is Not NeededTo be sincere with oneself means not to let his happiness depend on the approval of others. In the context of the quest for bliss, opinions simply do not matter. The only important thing is how to deepen that bliss...

Being Happy In The Present Pays Off In Evolution

Being Happy In The Present Pays Off In Evolution"Instead of relying blindly on advice from self-help authors about how to be happy, get to know yourself—what your brain/mind is like, how it works, and how it interacts with the world—and you'll be in a better position to decide for yourself," says Shimon Edelman.

Protect Your Sensitive Self and Become Whole and Healthy

Protect Your Sensitive Self and Become Whole and HealthyGraphic images on TV, the stench of exhaust fumes, fluorescent lighting, office temperatures that are too hot or too cold, or sitting for too long in traffic can all cause enough discomfort to make you tense against the pain to come, real or anticipated.

How Connected Are You to Your Future Self?

How Far Into The Future"From an objective point of view, the present flips into the future in an instant," says Corinna Loeckenhoff. "There is the past and the future, but the present isn't really there."

Love, Serve, and Remember: Living With Purpose and Joy

Love, Serve, and Remember: Living With Purpose and JoyI want to love, serve and remember until the very day that I die. I want to be able to look back at my life and feel that I tried in my mission. I will never be perfect in this, but I can strive to be the best I can be. In this way I will live with purpose and joy.

How To Live Consciously Using Breath and Body Awareness

How To Live Consciously Using Breath and Body AwarenessThankfully, in order for us to benefit from breath and body awareness, a permanent shift in consciousness isn’t required. When we inhabit our body, even small improvements in present moment awareness can significantly reduce stress and suffering.

The Truth about Fairy Tales

The Truth About Fairy TalesWe all want to be enjoy the bliss of true relationship—and rightfully so. Love is our natural state. Our soul recognizes that the world we walk daily is definitely not the kingdom of heaven and we long to return to the domain of which we retain a faint but ecstatic memory.

You Were Sent Here To Fulfill Your Potential

You Were Sent Here To Fulfill Your PotentialPerhaps you have never considered that you have unrealized potential. After all, many of us have arrived at the final quarter of our lives. Aren’t we done yet? Haven’t we spent ourselves? The fortunate answer is no.

Keeping Too Busy to Keep Your Soul Intact?

Keeping Too Busy to Keep Your Soul Intact?Most people have some physical symptom that signals them that they are starting to run down their batteries. A sore throat, headache, or hemorrhoid flare-up is the universe's way of alerting you that you are getting stressed.

Can People Actually Multitask?

Can People Actually Multitask?Despite the obvious limitations, we still keep trying to do many things at the same time. Many of us believe we can do two things at once. We try it every day even though our limitations are obvious. Yet we persist, so much so that laws need to be passed to deal with our foolishness.

Is The Weather Deciding What Mood You're In?

Is The Weather Deciding What Mood You're In?When you catch yourself complaining about the weather, stop. Sim­ply say, “Really? I love this weather.” Usually that produces a shock effect. Remember that all kinds of weather are necessary to keep this earth healthy. So...

A+ or B-? What’s Your Secret Rating of Your Life?

A+ or B-? What’s Your Secret Rating of Your Life? If we don’t like where we are, does that mean we’re condemned to stay there? Absolutely not. There’s no limit to the options, opportunities and actions we can take. If we really want something enough, we’ll find ways—comfortable, usual or astoundingly daring—to move toward what we really want.

Learning to Process Emotions Safely and Successfully

Learning to Process Emotions Safely and SuccessfullyOne of the biggest problems that people bring to therapy is not knowing what to do with a wide range of feelings, including sadness, anger, ecstasy, fear, and depression. Many visits to medical doctors are attempts to deal with feelings unable to be expressed or released. Such feeling problems are quite common.

Get Out Your Mental Eraser: Changing Limiting Core Beliefs!

Changing Limiting Core Beliefs: Get Out Your Mental Eraser!We were born into belief systems which have been reinforced by our culture, and now accepted as reality. These beliefs are perceptions of how life works. At first glance many perceptions appear to be true -- we can even quote statistics to support them -- but upon closer examination...

Goodbye Wonder Woman, Hello Stress Reduction

Goodbye Wonder Woman by Kristine CarlsonWhile this article is written for women, its conclusions can be applied to males as well... We are expected to do it all -- all the time. We have taken our ability to multi-task, and to accomplish a tremendous amount, to new levels. We are exhausted!

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