It’s not always easy to embrace change. There are times in our lives when we feel sad that change is happening. We want to resist it, even if unbeknownst to us it is bringing future happiness into our life.
I am an educator of educators. I teach others how to be the best teachers. But, I’m also different. I have learning challenges.
Assumptions are thoughts in the mind that define us and limit us. But the strangest thing about these assumptions is that they are not even there. They are really just groups of thoughts, glued together by our assumption that they are true. And yet they seem to cause so much pain and suffering...
The funny thing about reality is that you can only get so close to it. Our senses compose an interface between our brains and the universe, a reality interface. Everything we experience and everything we are and ever will be are ultimately derived from sensory input.
How many lions does it take to kill a lamb? The answer isn’t as straightforward as you might think. Not, at least, according to game theory
We are spend a lot of time thinking about the future. We create idealistic dreams. "The Right Man/ Woman will appear. He/she will understand me perfectly." "This job will fulfill me completely." As a result, we develop unrealistic expectations that leave us...
Grit describes the ability to persevere with long-term goals, sustaining interest and energy over months or years.
When we look at nature, we can clearly see how everything is related to cycles. We have lunar cycles, tide cycles, flower cycles, mating cycles, birthing cycles, and death cycles. Nature creates beautiful things and then these beautiful things fade and get replaced by other beautiful things.
Somewhere, we got the idea that losses should be avoided at all costs because they are too painful. The result: no one taught us to effectively mourn when a significant ending occurs. As a result we often are stuck in a flat, gray place.
Are you living the life you’ve always dreamed of? I mean, really? Are you the person you want to be? Or is there a persistent issue in your life you’ve yet to change or improve? No matter where you’re starting from, you can go to your next level of...
The mark of true wisdom is twofold: First, it encompasses every aspect of our being, body, mind, and spirit. It touches our personal lives as well as our relationships with family, community, and the world.
“Simplicity, simplicity, simplicity!” urges American transcendentalist writer Henry David Thoreau in Walden (1854), his account of living frugally in a log cabin near Concord, Massachusetts.
I’ve noticed that a number of recent self-improvement books use the phrase becoming a better you. The problem with trying to be a “better you” is the implication that you are not okay now. It also presumes that there’s an objective standard of okayness. Often we want to be “better” so that...
I believe that the invitation to truly live requires us to be rooted in a deep trust of life. This rooting is grounded in openness, watered with courage, fertilized by compassion, expressed with kindness, blossoms through patience, and–when fully mature—embodies peace.
You’re not being offered one side of life that seems better than its opposite. You learn the knack for living peacefully with both sides of life—divine and human, light and dark, high and low, winning and losing, succeeding and failing, loving and hating, order and chaos, happiness and sorrow.
Each of us is body, mind, and spirit, and of the three, it is our minds that can limit us. While the spirit is indeed most important, it’s our bodies that communicate messages from Source, because our bodies are solid, substantial forms that only relay truth. The more we listen to them, the better we accurately understand what’s happening in our lives.
Uncertainty in these times is the only certainty. That which has a beginning will end. In my own life, many years ago, a business decision to take on a partner nearly ended in disaster. Though fear and panic gripped my heart I knew that the only way to...
Many people are searching for fulfillment. It seems we are all searching for happiness in our materialistic world. If you search long enough, you will realize that...
Feeling chronically overwhelmed, beset by obstacles, and short on time can really get in the way of living a Well Life. Obstacles are unavoidable, but these issues can often be effectively managed by simply improving your efficiency. Here are some of the best approaches we’ve found for becoming more efficient and reclaiming your time.
The spiritual teacher Bashar defines abundance as “the ability to do what you need to do when you need to do it.” This definition says nothing about a particular amount of money in your bank account or a specified way your support should come. There are an infinite number of ways you can be taken care of. Money is just one of them.
According to Jung, the shadow is any part of the psyche which remains unconscious. It is not always dark or undesirable. Since the shadow is any part of ourselves that we "send away," it contains parts of oneself which may also be quite pleasing, yet for one reason or another, are allowed neither awareness nor expression.
I’d like to share a very useful tool for bringing your mind back to the present moment when it is trying to cling to something that hasn’t happened yet. It realigns your perspective of whatever is pulling you into the future and reengages you with the now.
I have come to understand how important it is to have a healthy balance between Yin and Yang energies, both within us and outside of us. Yin energy is the energy of rest, introspection, integration, reflection and silence. Often misunderstood to be the weaker component...
Britain is facing an uncertain future and an uneasy relationship with Europe after Brexit and the latest general election.
Have you ever been there — knocked to the ground by a traumatic event? Woken up one morning as someone you knew and in the midst of your busy day had it all suddenly change? In my case, I unexpectedly had joined the tribe of the traumatized — women facing cancer.
Picking your child’s first school can be one of the hardest choices you make as a parent.
Growing up in a difficult family or living in a difficult family inevitably produces negative consequences of all sorts. These are on top of the other challenges you face — challenges around life purpose and meaning, making a living and paying the bills, getting ill, falling out of love, making mistakes and disappointing yourself, and more.
Social pressure to feel happy can actually have the opposite effect–and might contribute to the prevalence of depression–according to recent research.
When you need to remember a phone number, a shopping list or a set of instructions, you rely on what psychologists and neuroscientists refer to as working memory.
Desire and manifestation: This is clearly one of the most popular topics in the self-help and happiness literature today. The prevailing idea is that we will be really happy when all of our current desires are manifested — when we become and have everything we want.
One of the most radical things a person can do is to see life as a good time. To make a decision to be happy. But make no mistake. Living life with joie de vivre is a revolutionary act. It takes vigilance. Few of us believe we get to choose. We think it's a matter of fate, a roll of the dice.
The term demoralization was originally coined in the 1970s by a psychiatrist who was seeing patients that didn’t quite meet full criteria for major depression. Nonetheless, they were suffering – in a shared state of emotional distress and sense of incompetence.
In order to align ourselves with “God’s mission” for us, it’s helpful to know what these two questions are. The first question people report being asked when having an NDE is, “What did you learn about being able to love?” It’s probably...
A new report identifies three factors that could help students complete college.
Our study of ethnically Chinese people in Malaysia shows some of the assumptions about what leads to their business success might be wrong.
Everything in life comes from practice. No matter how small or inconsequential we think it is, everything we do, from brushing our teeth to getting through a scary job interview, comes from practice, the deliberate repetition of an action with an awareness of what we want to achieve.
People are willing to offer more money to others who display similar emotional expressions, research finds. Those expressions are even more powerful factors than race or sex.
In the beginning, there was perfect happiness. Sometimes this state is referred to metaphorically as the Garden of Eden, but it’s really a state of mind that’s pure bliss. No judgments, sadness, anger, or sickness existed...only love.
One process for attaining clarity used by the Quakers is called the clearness committee. In it a person convenes a group of at least four people to ask him or her questions on an issue about which he or she wants clarity.
Everything you do is either taking you somewhere or it is taking you nowhere. If there is any value in going nowhere, it is to bring you to the realization of the somewhere you would rather be.
We are mortal, and a certain amount of deterioration is inevitable with age. Even so, the following Practices will improve your mental processes, while the lack of them contributes to mental deterioration...
Graduation season is upon us, and for many graduates, it’s a moment they’ll want to remember for the rest of their lives.
How can I tell you about the importance of feelings? It's like trying to tell you of the importance of the floorboards in your home. Most of the time we never really think about floorboards, but what if your home had none? There would be nothing to stand on. The same with feelings...
Some people cannot distinguish or name the emotions that they feel. In such cases, it's important to increase the emotional vocabulary and learn how varied feelings can be. An easy way to accomplish this is to use an emotional vocabulary list.
Are you ready to come out from under the influence of others and learn how to listen to your inner wisdom? You can discover your truth and find the confidence to express it through your creativity, relationships – wherever the adventure of life takes you.
Simple living is not an end in itself. We may save money and increase our freedom and security, and our life may reflect the special beauty of simplicity.
A Russian man was recently given a three-and-a-half year suspended sentence for inciting religious hatred. His crime?
How many times have you stopped yourself from doing something you really wanted to do? We sometimes seem to have a whole slough of reasons why "not to do" something. These range from "because I don't have the time or money", to "because they might disapprove".
Our modern working lives are ruled by the concept of competence. Competence based interviews are used to decide if we should get a job. If we do get the job, we are then trained to achieve competency in the workplace.
In the past twenty years, I’ve come to appreciate that my personal awakening motivates me, defines me, and guides me to lead a life of meaning and impact. Rather than experiencing life in a casual way, I’m driven to maximize every moment.
Unfortunately, for many of us, the condition and appearance of the place where we live make us feel uneasy instead of refreshed, resulting in relationship, career, and creative blocks. We need to feel truly at home in our living quarters and in our own bodies.
We are finding new ways to live in the world, and new ways to relate to one another. This awakening comes at a critical time, for the old thinking that still dominates most governments, politics, and business as usual has created huge dinosaurs that are rapidly becoming extinct.
There are many life-paths you can choose, just as there are many ways you can serve on a planetary level. There is a path of will, a path of struggle, and a path of joy and compassion.
Our culture invariably supposes that action and accomplishment are better than rest, that doing something -- anything -- is better than doing nothing. Poisoned by this hypnotic belief that good things come only through unceasing determination and tireless effort, we can never truly rest.
Anyone can be a champion, whether they are Steph Curry of the Golden State Warriors, the janitor of your child’s elementary school, a grocery store clerk, a local park ranger, or the second-string quarterback on your peewee football team. It happens when one becomes...
I began a course of chemotherapy that was supposed to last forty-eight weeks. The one still point in this turning world was the Buddhist practice I had been cultivating for fifteen years. This practice had steadied me through major crises in my life, providing a reliable base point to which to return, no matter what else was going on.
Shock, horror, a new study shows the British public don’t like their jobs. Using smart phones researchers mapped the happiness of people in real time, while they went about their daily lives. And they discovered that people do not report feeling very happy at work.
At first you may notice small, subtle alterations in your life and everything appearing to flow with ease. You may find that other people start to notice a difference in you. You may even find that situations that you have always hoped for turn up. Most importantly, you will notice...
Twenty-five years ago, as a young adult, circumstances felt as if they had spun out of control, and I was so emotionally frayed that everyday activities (such as washing dishes) overwhelmed me. Depression, insecurity, fear, guilt, and anger dominated my terrain.
A few years ago my good friend Mark Foulks occupied the rear seat of a tandem on a sponsored long distance cycle ride from Berkshire to Barcelona.
At some point in our lives we all come face to face with feelings of rejection. These feelings can be brought about by many situations. Let’s examine the circumstances related to feeling rejected. First...
A more evolved consciousness means new thinking, and it is the key to a new civilization, which, in turn, is the key to the well-being, and even the survival, of humankind. You can help humanity survive; you can evolve your consciousness. One way you can do this is by...
The path to true happiness is not a singular paved road. Sometimes you’ll circle back to the same spot several times before you realize you’ve got to try a different route. The best way to avoid that particular brand of déja vu is to make sure you never compromise three of the most important...
There is a vast difference between ego and self-esteem, although the observer can easily confuse them. Ego is egotism, an inordinately large sense of self-importance.
Whenever you find yourself in a difficult or uncomfortable situation, think of three things that you’re glad about even in this unpleasant moment. They can be things that you’re glad are not happening or things that you’re glad are happening. Feel...
When Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg was asked to give this year’s commencement address at Harvard, he asked for advice from Bill Gates.
As our Western lifestyles have become increasingly complex, there has been an exponential growth of interest in personal and spiritual development.
Dramas are the unconscious, personal, and emotional conflicts that we create with others, or with life situations. Many human beings spend much time or even their entire lives engaging in drama, for in their disempowered alienation from...
There was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village. As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish. The businessman was impressed...
I knew the joys were there but I'd opted out of readily seeing them. For a period of six months every time I was aware of something drawing a literal YAY out of me, I wrote down whatever it was that caused it...
Writing in a journal is a way to discover the answers to your questions, to express yourself creatively, to find the voice of your soul, to strengthen your connection with your open heart, and to face your fears and overcome obstacles. Above all, it's a way to relax and explore...
Most people's pictures of reality are fear-based and limiting, and do not serve us. Yet we take them home and replicate them in our own lives, to the point that we believe they're our own. Then we wonder why we, and the people we know, are so unhappy.
It's frustrating to believe that peace is some distant goal, attainable only by a few fortunate souls blessed with good genes, superior brain chemistry, plenty of money, or a calling as a monk. But peace has not deserted even the crankiest and busiest among us.
Do certain people want more medical care than others do? And, does that matter?
A young woman had a suitor who loved her very much. The suitor came to her door clutching a bouquet of daisies to give her. "Where are my roses?" she demanded. Her suitor turned and went away. The next week he was back on her doorstep with another bunch of daisies...
Some therapists will use "dream interpretation" to help a patient understand himself, but understanding will not cure symptoms. Our goal is to find blocked memories and to cry. The more you cry, the more your mind will heal itself, and when the pain is gone, the understanding will take care of itself.
Our emotions are nothing more than an extension of the ego's opinions -- nothing more. For the most part, our emotions are theatrical manifestations of the ego's opinions. They are forms of manipulation. You have an opinion and you start cranking the emotion. So we live as prisoners of these opinions.
One of the most helpful tools I have received from A Course in Miracles is the suggestion to seek the Holy Spirit’s help by asking this tiny question: "Please help me see this differently." The very first time I sought His help, I received instant relief from my incessant drive to control whatever had nabbed my attention.
The idea of a life lived modestly is gaining traction. Ten years ago, Samantha Weinberg, a mother of two young children, spent a year not shopping.
Mental disorders are currently defined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), which includes hundreds of distinct diagnostic categories, but a new study we worked on suggests we could do better.
Chimpanzees are the closest living relatives to humans. Because of this they can offer invaluable insights into understanding the evolutionary roots of how humans developed their cognitive and technological abilities.
We live in interesting times. In addition to everything else going on in the Western world, there's a spiritual awakening quietly taking place, and right at its heart lies the discovery of that program within us
Everyday is April Fools' Day...it doesn't only occur on April 1st. Many of us are living daily the greatest April fools' of all... and we are it! We have been living our lives as a lie, pretending to be someone we're not. We are living our lives as if they belonged to someone or something else.
The better a student does at math, the more strongly anxiety will drag his or her performance down, new research shows.
I found myself in the world of the late eighties with a complete loss of identity and direction. My professional life was in upheaval; my personal life was a disaster. That's when my first significant experience with feathers happened.
Seeing life as a series of "have to's" can be destructive. In reality, we don't "have to" do anything. On the contrary, we choose to do everything.
With the advent of the Internet and Facebook, I’ve had lots of people from my past find me and reach out to connect. Some from as far back as elementary school, high school, and college. Some of these people were my best friends at the time...
Failure isn't something I enjoy -- not that anyone really does -- but some of us are very hard on ourselves when it comes to failure, while some shrug their shoulders and go on.
Q: You talk about guilt as a great human weakness. I was brought up in a family where I was made to feel guilty for everything, and find it difficult to transcend this deep-seated emotion. How would you suggest I banish guilt from my life...
Our current political climate is volatile, scary, and uncertain. But maybe the not knowing and the confusion will finally allow us to arrive at a true beginning.
Look, I know you think fantasies are fun, sexy, and cool, whether you dream of being Cinderella or Prince Charming, or that your love will be passionate, available, rich, gorgeous, and lovable.
Raging waterfall love is the kind that makes you lose your head, your focus, your center, and pretty much all your roots at the same time. It is the kind of love that gives you such an adrenaline kick each time that you cannot think about anything else...
Things just happen and then we judge them and react to them based on what we believe is good or bad. In other words, our reactions to events are determined by our ideas of what reality should be like in order to live up to our idea of what’s good.
I now have officially become someone who looks good ‘for my age,’ or so I have been told, which is another sign of aging. People don’t make such a comment unless you are old. They also say that 60 is the new 50 and 50 the new 40, and so on, but really?
Problematic ways of seeking support -- acting like a victim, rejecting help, getting angry at people “for not understanding,” pouting, and escalating your complaints so that they sound like reports of catastrophes -- are likely to backfire and drive people away. However, you can learn to ask for help in a reasonable way.
Many people today are frustrated and disheartened by the divide that seems to have arisen in this country and across the globe. This discord affects everything from family relationships to the workplace, leaving people frustrated and fearful that it’s going to get worse and there’s nothing they can do about it.
What you see as your life story is only a story. It’s your experience. You are not just your story. You are more than that. You can unlearn the errors that cause you suffering and stress, and free yourself to greater life...
Our attention is affected by the ultradian rhythm that alters our attention span every 90 to 120 minutes throughout the day. Mind Wandering naturally occurs at the end of this cycle, as well as after any intense cognitive task. Mind Wandering is our mind’s way of forcing us to give it a rest.
There's a fun thing you could do that would teach you a lot about yourself — a perspective to adopt for an entire day. Fun is the operative word. Take on this project with a lightness of heart, with the bemused eye of the curious scientist bent on discovery.
We would all like to boost our cognitive ability beyond the limits set by Mother Nature. So it’s no wonder that brain-training programmes