Who Am I Now That I’m Retired?

Who Am I Now That I’m Retired?
Preparation for retirement usually focuses on financial planning and security. And with good reason. A financially secure life is a lot happier than an insecure one. However, emotional security in this stage of life is of equal importance; sadly, this issue is not so energetically addressed.

A Different Kind of Midlife: Facing Feelings and Letting Go of Illusions

A Different Midlife: Facing Feelings and Letting Go of Illusions
By your mid-30s or 40s, you wake up every morning and you feel like the same person. Your environment, which you relied on so heavily to remove your pain or guilt or suffering, is no longer taking away those feelings. This is the midlife crisis that most people know about...

Of Horseshoe Crabs and Empathy

Of Horseshoe Crabs and Empathy
The crabs and kelp and eels are all gone. The mind searches for the cause – to understand, to blame, and then to fix – but in a complex non-linear system, it is often impossible to isolate causes. This quality of complex systems collides with our culture’s general approach to problem-solving, which is first to identify the cause, the culprit, the germ, the pest, the badguy, the disease, the wrong idea, or the bad personal quality, and second to dominate, defeat, or destroy that culprit.

Why You Don’t Want Someone to Save the World

Why You Don’t Want Someone to Save the World
The conversations usually play out something like this: “something something and she is going to save the world” or “something something, so now he is going out to save the world.” The phrase “save the world” makes me want to scream.

To Better Focus On A New Task, Try This Plan

To Better Focus On A New Task, Try This Plan
When you have to switch tasks at work, making a plan to return to and finish the task you’re leaving can help you better focus on the new, interrupting work, according to new research.

What Do Single, Older Women Want?

What Do Single, Older Women Want?
The “great dream” of owning your own home is rapidly proving to be an illusion for many in the early 21st century.

5 Ways Work Can Help You Beat The January Blues

5 Ways Work Can Help You Beat The January Blues
Blue Monday is fast approaching – January 15. It’s “the most depressing day of the year”, when we are all at our most melancholy according to psychologist Cliff Arnall. The post-Christmas January blues have set in and it’s peak month for divorce lawyers and job searching...

Why Your Morals May Be More Flexible Than You Think

Why Your Morals May Be More Flexible Than You ThinkDisapproval of qualities people often associate with immorality such as selfishness, dishonesty, sexual infidelity, and mercilessness is conditional, rather than universal, according to a new study.

How To Transform Old Feelings Into A Gift

How To Transform Old Feelings Into A GiftWe frequently speak of our feelings as if we are them. You hear it in our patterns of speech: “I am angry,” as if to say, “I am anger.” However, feelings naturally arise as passing states of awareness and are not part of us. Rather, they give feedback and then expire.

The Law of the Vital Few Is Incredibly Simple and Powerful

The Law of the Vital Few Is Incredilbly Simple and PowerfulDo you feel like you are wasting time and energy spinning your wheels with little or no results? Do you wonder why some people just keep winning while others can’t get onto the boards? Would you like to maximize your social, financial, and spiritual returns while minimizing your effort?

Making Your New Year Bright

Making Your New Year Bright
It’s not trite to set New Year's intentions, especially if they make your life brighter. Set some intentions and goals for the coming year. The idea is to shift your attention away from your shortcomings, bad decisions and behaviors, and just focus on making yourself, your best self.

You Have Problems? And... What Is Your Vision?

You Have Problems? And... What Is Your Vision?
Notice how much time you devote to worrying about a problem vs. how much time you devote to developing a vision for the solution. I’m referring to your inner dialogue, the thoughts that stream constantly in that conversation you have with yourself.

Why Tax Cuts Make Us Less Happy

Republicans recently announced their tax plan and are hoping to turn it into law before Thanksgiving. While details are in flux, it would likely eliminate the estate tax, lower the top marginal rate and slash corporate rates, producing, in sum, what the president has dubbed a “gigantic” tax cut.

Self-Trust Is Our Only Guide On The Invisible Path

Self-Trust Is Our Only Guide On The Invisible Path


As the age turns, millions of people are pioneering a transition from the old world to the new. It is a journey fraught with peril and hardship and breathtaking discovery, a journey irreducibly unique for each of us. Because we are stepping out into the new, it is also profoundly uncertain and at times lonely.

Getting Real: The Most Direct Path to Wholeness

Getting Real: The Most Direct Path to WholenessHonest communication is not only the quickest, most direct path to wholeness, it is also the least expensive. Without spending years in a therapist's office, you can get out of the morass of judgments, generalizations, shoulds, withholdings, assessments, and explanations about why you are the way you are.

The Yaqui Deer Dancer: The Art of Becoming What You Are Doing

The Yaqui Deer Dancer: The Art of Becoming What You Are DoingTo perform, whether surgery or dance, we must practice. We practice doing what we cannot do. By giving ourselves wholly to practicing we may transcend practicing, and find ourselves playing, with mind, body, heart and soul fully surrendered.

Getting Out of Our Way with Trust and Timing

Getting Out of Our Way with Trust and TimingSometimes, things just go our way. We call it luck or we attribute it to simply having a good day, but in truth, we have been given a glimpse of the actual nature of the universe. If only for the moment, our state of being pulls to us this divine experience of synchronicity. There is rhyme and reason to...

Why Purpose Might Be A Better Goal Than Happiness

Why Purpose Might Be A Better Goal Than HappinessHappiness is the subject of countless quotations, slogans, self-help books and personal choices. It is also being taken seriously by national governments and organisations like the United Nations, as something societies should aim for.

The Psychology Of The Clutch Athlete

The Psychology Of The Clutch Athlete“I don’t know. It’s unbelievable. It’s amazing,” said Dodgers outfielder Enrique “Kiké” Hernandez after game 5 of the National League Championship Series, when he became the first Dodger in the team’s 134-year history to hit three home runs in a postseason game.

The Psychology Of Christmas Shopping: How Marketers Nudge You To Buy

shopping mall 12 17Many people see marketing as a form of manipulation, particularly around Christmas and the other retail bonanzas: Easter, Valentine’s Day, Mothers’ Day and Fathers’ Day. But rather than simply trying to trick people, the masters of marketing know it’s much easier to understand and work with innate human flaws.

How Marketers Are Using Your Name To Sell To You

How Marketers Are Using Your Name To Sell To YouFrom packets of Tim Tams and jars of Vegemite to luxury hand bags, today’s marketing is stamping our names on the things we buy, setting us out as unique individuals.

How Your Darkest Moments Can Be The Start of Your New Life

Your Darkest Moments Could Be The Beginning of Your Life ChangeWhether it's the end of a relationship, the struggle to get a job, or an overwhelming sense of hopelessness and lack of direction, we all experience "dark moments". My attempt at wiping my existence off the face of the planet was the best thing to happen to me; it totally changed my life...

Seeing Through and Decoding Your Life Story

Seeing Through and Decoding Your Life StoryYour life story is the accumulation of experi­ences you have had in the physical realm, but it is not who you are in your essence. Who you are is far greater than you can ever imagine. Who you are is...

What Does It Mean to Be Authentic?

What Does It Mean to Be Authentic?Colloquially, “being authentic” usually describes someone sincerely speaking his deep inner thoughts, a supposedly honest monologue, one that is often critical about something emotionally stinging or at least sensitive, and marginally beyond the scope of what we consider to be normal, acceptable, or polite everyday conversation.

Learning New Ways of Being by Saying Yes! Yes! Yes!

The YES Frequency: Learning New Ways of BeingWhat awaits you if you are willing to trust the unlimited frequency of YES will be an extraordinarily rewarding life, one that has unlimited possibilities. The YES Frequency embodies all the “hopes and dreams” of your life. We are not talking about saying yes to any negative issues...

Money Can Buy Happiness If You Know How to Spend It

Money Can Buy Happiness If You Know How to Spend ItDo you really need a lot of stuff to be happy? Science says that the opposite is true. But that doesn’t help us understand then what kind of spending will actually make us happy and what kind won’t.

Creating a Better World: The Shadow and the Vision

Creating a Better World: The Shadow and the VisionWe Americans are caught in a web of our own cre­ation. We celebrate the individual; we praise self-reliance. We have built our entire economic system on competition and striving, where we set ourselves one against the other... Is this truly the vision of who we want to be and what we wish to pass along to our children?

How We Are Being Manipulated in Trivial to Momentous Situations

How We Are Being Manipulated by Psychology and AdvertisingAlthough propaganda is as ancient as civilization itself, it has taken on a new force with the ubiquitous power of modern technology. This enhanced form of reality manipulation is used to influence us regarding the most trivial to the most momentous situations, and these persuasive techniques have far-reaching effects on the human condition.

How to Be Happy on a Day-to-Day Basis

How to Live Happily-Ever-After on a Day-to-Day BasisI once read a quote by Hugh Downs that said, “A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.” We only have to compare two people in the exact same circumstances—one happy, one not—to know just how true...

Some Brain Training Programs Cut Dementia Risk

Some Brain Training Programs Cuts Dementia RiskCertain cognitive training via the computer may reduce the risk of dementia among older adults, researchers report. “…we found that those who received more training also gained a greater protective benefit…”

Intentionally Creating Favorable Change For Our World

Carrying On With Intentionally Creating Favorable Change For Our WorldThe longevity and genius of shamanism is that, in part, it is not hidebound to methodology. As such, shamanism is always metamorphosing as it evolves in response to the current, always-changing circumstances of the world (like the weather!).

To Heal Your Life, Apply The Law Of Cause And Effect

How The Law Of Cause And Effect Is Unwavering In Its ExpressionThroughout the ages, our great spiritual and philosophical masters have taught us that if there is a certain effect you desire, there are certain causes that must be initiated to manifest that desire. If you wish an apple tree, you must plant an apple seed.

How To Be More Persuasive

How To Be More Persuasive‘So…what do you say?’ Everett Collection Whether it’s getting your partner to do more housework or making your colleagues back your latest idea, we all end up spending a considerable amount of time trying to persuade or even manipulate others.

What We Need Is Each Other: Our Time, Talent, Attention & Love

What We Need Is Each Other: Our Time, Talent, Attention & LoveThe power to bring about change is in our hands. That's because the most important thing that each of us needs is each other. Many of our problems have grown out of our alienation -- our inattention to each other as individuals. And that is something we have the power to change. One by one, person by person, we...

The Curious Relationship Between Altitude And Suicide

The Curious Relationship Between Altitude And SuicideSuicide is one of the top 10 causes of death in the U.S.There are many factors known to affect an individual’s risk for suicide. For example, people who are older, male, white, divorced, low-income, isolated or who abuse substances are all at higher risk. Psychiatric illness, mood disorders and lack of social support are also...

What Is The True Engine of Profound Happiness?

What Is The True Engine of Profound Happiness?There is a deeper dimension to happiness that transcends mere joy and zest for life. A dimension that sustains and inspires us through the best of times as well as in the periods when happiness feels like a distant memory. That dimension is meaning. Meaning supercharges our joy when life is good and keeps us moving forward when life is painful and difficult.

The Word and the Womb: Getting the Support You Need

The Word and the Womb: Getting the Support You NeedHow much should you tell other people about what is really important to you? Should you broadcast your dreams to everyone in hopes that others will honor your intentions and support you? Or would you be wiser to keep your visions to yourself and avoid debilitating criticism?

How To Soothe Yourself To Sleep

How To Soothe Yourself To SleepGetting a good night of sleep can seem like the most effortless and natural thing in the world, but when we can’t fall asleep it can quickly feel elusive and frustrating. 

Why Working With Buddies Can Improve Performance

Why Working With Buddies Can Improve PerformanceWe routinely work together with other people. Often, we try to achieve shared goals in groups, whether as a team of firefighters or in a scientific collaboration.

Skills and Tools For Staying Sane

Ninja Skills and Tools For Staying SaneAt the time I was diagnosed with bipolar, I had so little awareness of my body or stress levels that I literally had to be sobbing before I realized I was sad, or be awake for three nights running before I realized I was stressed and anxious. Learning to “hear” my body and mind has been a revelation for me, and a crucial part of my stability.

Seeing The Actual Problem In The Brain Decreases The Stigma Of Illness

Seeing The Actual Problem In The Brain Decreases The Stigma Of IllnessAs a psychiatrist, I find that one of the hardest parts of my job is telling parents and their children that they are not to blame for their illness. Children with emotional and behavioral problems continue to suffer considerable stigma.

How To Serve Your Soul’s Divine Purpose

How To Serve Your Soul’s Divine PurposeThis is a time of big questions: What changes will living my soul’s purpose make in my life? Do I know all my gifts? How will expressing my gifts help me live a life I love? Who will help me do all this?

Moving Into Our Future with an Ongoing Commitment to Peace

Moving Into Our Future with an Ongoing Commitment to PeaceOur ongoing commitment to an era of peace on Earth is essential to enable the divine blueprint of the new Earth to begin activation. It is vital that you understand what you are here to contribute and how to do this.

Ten Guidelines to Protect Your Happiness & Well-Being

Ten Guidelines to Protect Your Happiness & Well-BeingEthical discipline is really a way of protecting yourself so that your efforts in spiritual practice can flourish without getting stomped to smithereens every other day, or every other year. The guidelines are fairly simple. There are ten that are enormously helpful in a general way. Bear in mind that they are all a protection for your own well-being, in solitude or in community...

On Being Kind and Opening Our Heart In Challenging Situations

On Being Kind and Opening Our Heart In Challenging SituationsI woke up in a pissy mood recently, committed to gloom before I had even rolled out of bed. Still grumpy that afternoon, I went to the supermarket, only to be greeted by the sweetest checkout clerk ever. I couldn’t resist her happy eyes and huge smile.

Accepting Life’s Changes In All Its Forms

Accepting Life’s Changes In All Its FormsI enjoy varying my choice of clothing, jewelry, purses, shoes, hair style, always craving a new look. Yet, generally, life provides changes on a much larger scale, which can be challenging. With every major milestone in my life, I have experienced a period of adjustment.

It's Time To Take A Stand and Lead The Way

It's Time To Take A Stand and Lead The Way
“They,” whoever they are, say that if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything. What do you stand for? A handful of courageous activists like Mahatma Gandhi, Rosa Parks, Martin Luther King, Mother Theresa, Gloria Steinem, and Nelson Mandela, have changed the world because of their stand. But the idea of taking a stand...

How To Cut Through Negative Self-Talk

How to Talk to YourselfWhen we become aware of our story lines -- the things we tell ourselves to keep from moving forward -- we can use affirmations to make our mental chatter more fluid.

Expanding the Boundaries of Our Standard Worldview

Expanding the Boundaries of Our Standard WorldviewWhen confronted with something that perplexes or confounds us, we tend to attribute our lack of understanding to not having enough facts or evidence, or we relegate it to the scrap heap of the supernatural. These are the modes of explanation available to us within the container of our standard worldview.

Choosing Our Destiny By Picking A New Course Of Action

Choosing Our Destiny By Picking A New Course Of Action
Sometimes, it’s useful to ask yourself: What do I gain by continuing the course of action I am taking, and what might I gain by choosing an alternative course of action? So often we find ourselves on a course of action that demands we argue with another until...

Why Restoring Morale Is Important To Mental Health In Difficult Times

Why Restoring Morale Is Important To Mental Health In Difficult TimesThe term demoralization was originally coined in the 1970s by a psychiatrist who was seeing patients that didn’t quite meet full criteria for major depression. Nonetheless, they were suffering – in a shared state of emotional distress and sense of incompetence.

Be This, Not That! Archetypes As Tools for Transformation

The Power of Archetypes: How to Use Universal Symbols to Understand Your Behavior and Reprogram Your Subconscious by Marie D. JonesTo not have inner harmony and balance is to walk through the world without a sense of being centered, grounded, and at peace. We don’t feel authentic at all, but rather experience a sort of mental “vertigo” that pulls us in one direction, even when we wish to go in another.As we look closer and closer at what archetypes operate in our lives, we often see these imbalances and begin to realize how they have been making things much harder for us.

How To Align With Your Bliss and Your Spirit

How To Align With Your Bliss and Your SpiritChoosing a dream is not enough. In the universe of light and darkness, of yin and yang, you will be asked to choose again, and again, and again. The truth is that you choose in every waking moment, and strangely enough, even when...

Thinking Peace: How We Can Each Contribute To The Creation Of World Peace

Thinking Peace: How We Can Each Contribute To The Creation Of World PeaceIf we study the world’s metaphysical and spiritual teachings, whether they are from the East or the West, we see that one of the basic spiritual tenets or “natural laws” is that all events originate in thought. In other words, it is not possible for an event to take place in the outer world without there first being a thought. Thought is the causative factor.

From Chaos to Order: Planning a New Life with New Habits

From Chaos to Order: Planning a New Life with New HabitsWhen a habit forms, it indicates that the experience has been repeated a lot. When we call addictive behaviors “habits,” we mean the addict is doing drugs and engaging in drug-related activities so much, often to the exclusion of virtually everything else, that they become automatic.

Ayahuasca and The Need to Feel Loved and Accepted

 Ayahuasca and The Need to Feel Loved and AcceptedIn ayahuasca ceremonies, people sometimes view visionary home movies of their childhood while maintaining an outside observer’s perspective. At other times, they relive a childhood event as if it were happening in the ceremonial moment; they regress in age to the time of the scene. Either way, ceremonies often open up deep feelings of wanting to be accepted and loved.

Talking to Your Self: Why It's Good for You!

Talking to Your Self? Why It's Good for YouIt's time to start talking to our Self -- not our small self, but our Higher Self, the wise one, the one with the "higher" perspective on things. At first you may not know what the difference between the small self's voice and the Higher Self's voice. Here's some clues...

Transform Your Life by Exploring and Changing Your Current Story

Transforming Your Life by Exploring and Changing Your Current StoryMany of us look back and wish that we had spent more time doing what we enjoy and less time doing what we felt we had to do. You may have some strong ideas about what you would like to change in your life. However, you may not know how to write a better script for your personal story...

How To Experience More Joy in your Life

Where Are The Paths to Experiencing More Joy in your Life?Allow yourself to feel, hear, know, see, taste, and sense the energy transfer that is happening in this moment. With your free will ask yourself this very important question, “Are you willing to experience more joy in your life?” This seems like the simplest of questions and...

Is Truth Overrated? What The Experts Say

Is Truth Overrated? What The Experts SaySeek the truth and minimize harm. That’s how we instruct young journalists to prepare for the profession. Until recently, factual, objective reporting has been the mantra of modern journalism. But is objectivity a relevant concept in the era of fake news, filter bubbles and alternative facts?

Writing to Heal from Hardships and Trauma

Writing to Heal from Hardships and Trauma“I wanted to talk with you because I wanted others to know that when you are out there, writing can help. I still struggle with PTSD...with all of it. But I can tell you, when I was out there — in the middle of a war — the writing helped take the unseen monkey off my back.”

The Science Of Being Nice: How Politeness Is Different From Compassion

The Science Of Being Nice: How Politeness Is Different From CompassionThe word “nice” has an unusual history in the English language. Originally a term for “foolish”, its meaning over the centuries has morphed from “wanton” to “reserved” to “fastidious”. These days, it has become...

What Happens To Your Body When You're Stressed

What Happens To Your Body When You're StressedWe all feel stressed from time to time – it’s all part of the emotional ups and downs of life. Stress has many sources, it can come from our environment, from our bodies, or our own thoughts and how we view the world around us. 

Why You Aren’t Happy Right Now

Why You Aren’t Happy Right NowBesides our worry thoughts about the future, there is another type of story we are telling ourselves which gives us a lot of anguish. These are the ‘if only’ stories: ‘If only he’d listen, I’d be happy. If only the sun was shining, I’d be happy. If only I had a little more money in the bank..."

How Do You Know That What You Know Is True?

How Do You Know That What You Know Is True?How do you know if you are thinking rationally? Epistemology is about understanding how we come to know that something is the case, whether it be a matter of fact or a matter of value...

A Limited View of Life: It's Time for a Change in Perception

A Limited View of Life: It's Time for a Change in PerceptionSo many of our problems arise from a fundamental disconnection with our own awareness, our own wisdom, and the natural world. Once we disconnect ourselves from what we know, and what is real, we are free to careen headlong into...

Creating Changes That Last! Can It Be Done?

Creating Changes That Last! Can It Be Done?When we feel stuck or want to change something, it usually comes from the desire to improve or rid ourselves of something we don’t like, or that’s painful. Perhaps you’re inspired to change because...

Learning to Embrace the Experience of Constant Change

Learning to Embrace the Experience of Constant ChangeIt’s not always easy to embrace change. There are times in our lives when we feel sad that change is happening. We want to resist it, even if unbeknownst to us it is bringing future happiness into our life.

How To Identify Our Assumptions Without Judgment

Questioning Our AssumptionsAssumptions are thoughts in the mind that define us and limit us. But the strangest thing about these assumptions is that they are not even there. They are really just groups of thoughts, glued together by our assumption that they are true. And yet they seem to cause so much pain and suffering...

Is One Person's Reality Anything Like Anyone Else's Reality?

Is One Person's Reality Anything Like Anyone Else's Reality?The funny thing about reality is that you can only get so close to it. Our senses compose an interface between our brains and the universe, a reality interface. Everything we experience and everything we are and ever will be are ultimately derived from sensory input.

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