Everything Is Connected and Forms "The Process"

Everything Is Connected and Forms
Everything is connected to form The Process. You can prove this for yourself with some simple examples. I’m assuming you’re dressed right now as you read this book. Look at the clothes you’re wearing. How did they get there? Probably because you dressed yourself earlier in the day. Getting dressed was a process.

The Neuroscience of Motivation and How to Improve It

The Neuroscience of Motivation and How to Improve It
Motivation can be a hard thing to come by. Whether at home, at school or at work, most of us have been in a situation where we know exactly what to do but lack the mental power to do it.

How I Learned To Stop Trying To Fit In

How I Learned To Stop Trying To Fit In
My name is Eloise and I am many things at once: I am a graduate student at the University of Oxford; I am a tutor, a rower, a feminist, a granddaughter, a daughter, a sister, a stepsister, a friend. I am also autistic.

Depressed? Creating A Healthy Lifestyle Can Help

Depressed? Creating A Healthy Lifestyle Can Help
Depression and anxiety are diseases, and like most dis­eases, your lifestyle can affect them. Both your body and your brain require proper care and fuel, which is what a healthy lifestyle provides. Think about it: If you had heart disease, would you eat hamburgers and fries and expect to get better?

These Beliefs About Learning Are Holding You Back

These Beliefs About Learning Are Holding You Back
If you think you just don’t have the brain for certain skills, you’re deceiving yourself, a new book argues. This belief undermines your ability to learn—whether it’s math, basketball, or playing the clarinet.

Taking Responsibility for Yourself: Love As A Conscious Choice Motivated from Within

Taking Responsibility for Yourself: Love As A Conscious Choice Motivated from Within
If you have accepted the idea that you are totally responsible for everything that happens in your life, and also for everything that happens in your body, and therefore for everything that happens in your consciousness, you must also have accepted the idea that no one else is responsible for you, or for the things that have happened in your life.

What Is Cognitive Behaviour Therapy?

What Is Cognitive Behaviour Therapy?
If you or someone you care about experience an emotional problem it won’t be long before you hear that cognitive behaviour therapy, or CBT, is probably the treatment of choice.

Living Impeccably: This Present Moment Is Our Gift To The Universal Self

Living Impeccably: This Present Moment Is Our Gift To The Universal Self
The consciousness we develop in ourselves in each lifetime extends beyond the physical body. It exists prior to being born and after we die. Therefore, our obligation is to live the truth encoded in us to the best of our ability, and our contribution is to evolve our individual consciousness in a way that uplifts humanity’s collective consciousness.

How Life Ordeals Can be Used as Chrysalis Crises

How Life Ordeals Can be Used as Chrysalis Crises
For as long as I can remember I’ve been told there are two things we can count on in this world: that everything changes, and that there always will be a certain amount of suffering in life. I’ve found that the changes are not always evident, nor the suffering constant, but both are typically present at times of crisis.

Renewal Is Possible: True Forgiveness Is A Clean Slate

Renewal Is Possible: True Forgiveness Is A Clean Slate
A Course in Miracles tells us that at any moment we are capable of starting over; we can create a new beginning by selectively forgetting what we don't wish to carry into now. We are not bound by our past, unless we choose to lug old baggage with us.

To Be Happy, The Approval Of Others Is Not Needed

To Be Happy, The Approval Of Others Is Not Needed
To be sincere with oneself means not to let his happiness depend on the approval of others. In the context of the quest for bliss, opinions simply do not matter. The only important thing is how to deepen that bliss...

Woman Overboard: The Depths of Depression

Woman Overboard: The Depths of Depression
It is estimated that 8 to 15 percent of all women are faced with depression at one time or another as they go through menopause. Close to nine million women nationwide are plagued with depression at some point in their lives. Even though depression is affected by hormonal changes and genetic factors, it is not dictated by them.

“Shoulds” Get In The Way Of Free Will

“Shoulds” Get In The Way Of Free Will
I can see where my ancient bruises have taught me survival. I learned so much more than resilience and strength. Being battered by life events offered me opportunities to find a state of surrender that opened my ultimate will not just for having well-being but also for learning it.

Resolving the Sorrow, Suffering and Trauma by Stepping into Love

Resolving the Sorrow, Suffering and Trauma by Stepping into Love
We are aware of so much suffering in the world: wars, terrorists, mass shootings, displaced refugees, American police killing innocents, and people being hurt or killed in so many ways. You may have suffered trauma yourself. It is healing to have a way to work internally with this sorrow in concert with the ways we are called on to work in the world.

Answering the Soul's Call and Discovering a Higher Purpose in Daily Life

Answering the Soul's Call and Discovering a Higher Purpose in Daily Life
The quiet isolation of growing up in an alcoholic home accustomed me to silence, sent me into nature for my solace and companionship. I do not believe we grow only through difficulties, but the soul uses the means necessary to move us out of stasis. As I have grown in my ability to hear the soul...

Changing The Gender Stereotypes In Music

Changing The Gender Stereotypes In Music
In 2019, surely we are past the days in music class where boys are shunted to drums and trombone while girls are pushed toward flute and choir? Not necessarily so.

Is There A Magic Formula? Meditation, Mindfulness, and Essential Oils

Is There A Magic Formula? Meditation, Mindfulness, and Essential Oils
At my age, I am aware that there is no magic formula, and that life is a journey. We each travel on our own path, which may sometimes be easy and sometimes difficult to tread. However, there are positive and negative ways of coping with the stresses and joys of everyday life.

Why Beer Has A Sexism Problem

Why Beer Has A Sexism Problem
When CAMRA, the UK real ale campaign group, decided to ban beers with sexist names and labels from the Great British Beer Festival this summer

Are You Willing to Change? It's Easy, Really!

Are You Willing to Change? It's Easy, Really!
If you want change in your life, then you are the one who must do the changing. When you change, then all the other people in your world will change in relation to you. Are you willing to change? All you have to do is change some thoughts and release some beliefs. Sound simple? It is. However, it's not always easy...

The Art of Letting Go Is Active, Not Passive

The Art of Letting Go
Endings may not be so easy, but they are not optional in this life. There comes a time when a certain activity must be let go. Or a time when a relationship truly needs to end or, at least, change form. The art is knowing when this time comes, and paying close attention to your true inner feelings

Expressing your Emotions through Art

Express your Emotions through Art
Emotions are invisible. We can't see them directly with our normal vision. Rather, we feel them in our bodies. As for detecting other people's emotions, you know by the signs. Even when no words are spoken, you often know what's going on inside another person.

The Great Liberation: Becoming What You Are

The Great Liberation: Becoming What You Are
Those who search for happiness do not find it because they do not understand that the object of their search is the seeker. We say that they are happy who have “found themselves” for the secret of happiness lies in the ancient saying, “Become what you are.”

Can People Actually Multitask?

Can People Actually Multitask?
Many of us believe we can do two things at once. We try it every day even though our limitations are obvious.

Just What Is The Point Of Education?

Just What Is The Point Of Education?
For much of human history, education has served an important purpose, ensuring we have the tools to survive. People need jobs to eat and to have jobs, they need to learn how to work.

Create A New Story for Yourself: Become The Hero of Your Own Life

Being Willing To Create A New Story for Yourself
Feeling ourselves a victim is never a good choice to make when confronted with difficult circumstances. Self-pity, complaining, and pessimism do not serve us well, but take us in a downward spiral increasing our unhappiness and making the situation worse. It’s far better to choose to be hopeful that we can get through this...

Seeing Through New Eyes: Twelve Keys to a New Life

Seeing Through New Eyes: Twelve Keys to a New Life
When you have begun seeing through new eyes, it might still appear to others that nothing about you has changed. However, you know inside yourself that everything has changed. A Zen proverb says: Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water; after...

Tap Into Your Own Magic: Where You Look Is Where You Go

Tap Into Your Own Magic: Where You Look Is Where You Go
At the end of the day we’re all looking for magic. This includes the ability to affect change, sometimes miraculous change, in our lives at will. Energy wants to move and flow, and once you start to listen to it and tune in, it will take you on amazing journeys.

The Greatest Piece of Art You Will Ever Make Is Your Own Life

The Greatest Piece of Art You Will Ever Make: Your Own Life
Often the spirits only whisper and we confuse their voices with the wind, but if we do not pay attention, they may well unleash a hurricane in our lives. They certainly did with me and with many of my students because we were slow responding – but we lived to tell the tale and it was a tale of rebirth and miracles.

Creating Your Ripple Effect: Myths and Truths about Social Promise

Creating Your Ripple Effect: Myths and Truths about Social Promise
When many people think about making a social impact, they do not think that this change can extend to themselves and their life’s work. On the one hand, it feels exciting and worthwhile to take on a worthy cause, and on the other, it can feel too time consuming and overwhelming.

Where To Start Reclaiming Our Birthright? Viewing Life As A Vision Quest

Where To Start Reclaiming Our Birthright: Viewing Life As A Vision Quest
If any nationality is followed to its roots, there will be an Earth-based society with its own form of shamanic healing. Shamanism is a spiritual-healing practice (not to be confused with religion) at the foundation of all indigenous, Earth-based, societies. In short, shamanism mends where the laws of nature have been broken. The spiritual illness of “soul loss” is a universal shamanic concept.

The Four Starting Points to a Healed Life

Four Starting Points to a Healed Life
There comes a point when you must decide if you want a life that is fear-driven or one founded on love and hope. Establishing this premise is tantamount to bringing your healing to the next level. Remember, each gain will be incremental. You'll catch the negative voices faster; you'll dismiss them more quickly...

Emotional Suppression Causes Serious Damage to Bodies, Minds, and Spirits

Emotional Suppression Causes Serious Damage to Bodies, Minds, and Spirits
Emotional suppression sometimes serves a useful, even essential purpose. When suffering a severe traumatic injury, for example. Yet while emotional suppression may sometimes serve a useful purpose, inhibiting the free flow of emotional energies over the course of a lifetime causes serious...

The Hypersane Are Among Us, If Only We Are Prepared To Look

The Hypersane Are Among Us, If Only We Are Prepared To Look
Hypersanity’ is not a common or accepted term. But neither did I make it up. I first came across the concept while training in psychiatry, in The Politics of Experience and the Bird of Paradise (1967) by R D Laing.

A World Beyond Labels: Love Without Labels

A World Beyond Labels: Love Without Labels
When one of my coaching clients complained to her doctor that she was depressed, he diagnosed her as having a personality disorder and referred her to a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist told her she did not at all have a personality disorder; she was just depressed. She talked through her feelings and walked out of the session feeling liberated from the burden of a label.

Never Give Up on Your Dreams: My Leo Buscaglia Miracle

Never Give Up on Your Dreams: My Leo Buscaglia Miracle
Have you ever had a dream that you wanted so deeply, but it just did not seem to be coming forth for you? I would like to give you the possibility that, right as you are reading this article, details are being put into place to allow your dream to come true. It is just about believing, trusting, and keeping your vision.

Entertaining Infinite Possibility for a Brighter Future

Entertaining Infinite Possibility for a Brighter Future
Ever since I can remember, I’ve believed that magic is real. Even as an adult, after completing school and becoming steeped in “reality”—as defined by the mundane world—my supernatural sense of the “extraordinary” has amplified rather than diminished. This sense of the magical has to do with an intuitive feeling that all of creation is alive—that there is an indwelling of consciousness existing in everything we see around us. Perhaps even more substantial, however...

Life Practice: Becoming Embodied

Life Practice: Becoming Embodied
I have a small note above my desk that is titled: “Non-Negotiable Necessities.” These are the things in my life that I truly can’t live without. They comprise the foundation of my self-care that, if neglected, sets me off balance and makes me much less effective in all that I do.

Shifting to Heart Intelligence: We Start With Just Three Questions

Shifting to Heart Intelligence: We Start With Just Three Questions
When we are in the throes of a “breaking open,” it can be hard to know where we are and what is happening. When the ground beneath our feet is shifting and everything around us seems to be changing, we may even feel like we no longer recognize the world around us. So a first step is to find some clarity about where we are now and “what wants to happen” next.

How Can External Change Lead to Internal Change?

How Can External Change Lead to Internal Change?By the time my patients pick up the phone to make an appointment with me -- or to call any healer, for that matter -- two very important steps have occurred first. First, they have decided that something is awry in their life, something is not as they want it to be; and second, they have decided to do something about it. They are at a gateway...

The More Work-Life Balance We Have, The More We Want

The More Work-life Balance We Have The More We Want
Workers in countries where shorter working hours are the norm are more likely to complain of poor work-life balance, according to our research recently published in the journal Social Forces.

Take a Few Minutes to Build Your Positive Future

Just a Few Minutes to Build Your Positive Future
When you visualize the past or the future, to the brain and nervous system it’s as if you are directly there, experiencing it. It prompts a physiological response. So we do a positive visualization into the future — a futurization — to prepare the body and mind for the future.

Are Humans Designed To Be Happy?

Are Humans Designed To Be Happy?
Chasing the happiness dream is a very American concept, exported to the rest of the world through popular culture. Indeed, “the pursuit of happiness” is one of the US’s “unalienable rights”.

How To Build Your Confidence -- And Spark It In Others

"Confidence is the necessary spark before everything that follows," says educator and activist Brittany Packnett. In an inspiring talk, she shares three ways to crack the code of confidence

How to Slow Down, Savor the Moment, and Be Happy

How to Slow Down, Savor the Moment, and Be HappyI know that pure bliss is simple. It is free. And wherever you are, however busy, you can always find a few moments of bliss. How is your day going? Or is it going, going, gone -- just like that, in the blink of an eye? Is the roller coaster of your life running so fast you're afraid to jump off?

The Real Midlife Crisis Confronting Many Americans

The Real Midlife Crisis Confronting Many Americans

The way my mom imagined it, midlife was going to be great: counting down days until retirement, spending winters in Florida and checking off destinations on her bucket list.

The Meaning of Life: Evolving Into Love

The Meaning of Life: Evolving Into Love
We each enter life with desires, goals, and challenges to overcome, and we choose birth conditions that will best help us meet these objectives. Arriving with dreams from the past that are seeking fulfillment, we find meaning as we are able to satisfy these karmic imperatives from the past, through relationship, work, artistic endeavor, etc.

Separation Is An Illusion: We’re All in This Together

Separation Is An Illusion: We’re All in This Together
Our brain creates a perceptual illusion of separation, which we tend to believe most of the time. We see ourselves as separate individuals, and we carve up reality into dualities: this and that, self and other, us and them. This misperception feeds a sense of disconnection. We can look out across a sea of people in a busy city street or at a party and feel alone, isolated, as if we existed separately from others and even from life.

The End of Days? or the Beginning of the Next Cycle?

The End of Days? or the Beginning of the Next Cycle?
We are coming into a time when the old method of taking the events of the past, superimposing them on the present, and making a rerun out of the future is failing. While this pattern is familiar and comfortable, it is also increasingly dysfunctional, as it ignores life’s cyclic nature. Although it is not always evident, life actually operates as a spiral.

Are You Waiting for Someone or Something?

Are You Waiting for Someone or Something?
The pattern I have seen repeated both in myself and in others around me is the sleeping beauty/frog prince complex. It consists of waiting for something or someone to deliver us from whatever situation we have gotten ourselves into.

Wonder Woman and The Ancient Fantasy of Hot Lady Warriors

Wonder Woman and The Ancient Fantasy Of Hot Lady WarriorsWhen the film Wonder Woman was released, it joined the blockbuster ranks of other comic book-inspired film franchises, including Batman, Superman, Spiderman, and X-Men. But that’s not just because it features a sword-wielding Gal Gadot in knee-high boots and a metal bodice.

Puppy Pregnancy Syndrome: The Witch Doctor’s Secret

Puppy Pregnancy Syndrome: The Witch Doctor’s SecretThe dynamic behind Puppy Pregnancy Syndrome illustrates what A Course in Miracles describes as “magic,” the belief that material things outside of us can hurt us or heal us. The Course takes a firm stand that our pain and healing are more a function of our thoughts than physical causes.

Can Background Noise Be Boosting Your Performance?

Can Background Noise Be Boosting Your Performance?

Like to work in a noisy environment while your colleague prefers silence? It could be your brain is simply less “noisy” so this extra, external noise improves your cognitive functioning.

How Do We Know What Is Right For Us?

How Do We Know What Is Right For Us?A question that often arises is "How do we know what is right for us?" How do we find our 'proper' place in life, whether we are talking about employment, living location, vacation spot, etc? It seems that whatever the question, the solution is always the same...

Finding Your People and Building Your Community

Finding Your People and Building Your Community
Living our beliefs and working whole will reveal who we truly are to the world. It will naturally attract the people that should be in our community. Yet, one of the hardest parts of building community is finding the space to let new people into our lives and letting others leave or play a diminished role.

Your Stone Age Brain Is Eating You Alive

Your Stone Age Brain Is Eating You Alive
Unlike the Paleolithic woman, the 21st-century human has a higher brain designed for transcendence. Newer areas of her brain, when awakened, can fill her with gratitude and awe and wonder at this marvelous world. However, her new brain is rarely if ever awake because the unconscious lower brain that is trying to unconsciously protect her from falsely perceived danger in her world, is eating her alive!

Empower A Girl, Transform A Community

Kakenya Ntaiya turned her dream of getting an education into a movement to empower vulnerable girls and bring an end to harmful traditional practices in Kenya. Meet two students at the Kakenya Center for Excellence, a school where girls can live and study safely...

The Power of Women: Healing The World With Feminine Energy

The Power of Women: Healing The World With Feminine Energy
The world will come into balance through the leadership of women. It will come back into balance the more the feminine energies are allowed to be, with­out censorship or limitation. This will also occur as men come to fully understand the divine feminine and reclaim this power for themselves.

Happiness, Laughter, and Riches... Is There A Connection?

Happiness, Laughter and Riches... Is There A Connection?People commented on our laughs and even suggested we record them. When people were around either one of us, they just had to laugh. We researched laughter, presented talks at health shows, went to humor workshops and conferences. We were inspired by Dr. Madan Kataria, who founded the laughter clubs in India.

Honesty and Courage Are Everyday Virtues That Help You Keep Your Heart Open


Honesty and Courage: Everyday Virtues That Help You Keep Your Heart OpenYou might think of courage and honesty as lofty ideals, almost impossible to attain. What happens if, instead, you regard them as everyday virtues that will help you keep your heart open? To keep your heart open, you must be honest about everything, even your simplest experiences.

The Ego’s Conflicting Inner Dialogue -- If You Can’t Lose It, Use It!

The Ego’s Conflicting Inner Dialogue: If You Can’t Lose It, Use It!
The good news about having duality in our perspective is that, at the very least, we have options. We have retained our gift of choice. When we don’t recognize both elements of our perception, it is a safe bet that fear has placed its veil over our heart. When this happens it becomes very hard to differentiate between what is our truth and what is our fear.

The Fascinating Process of Changing Core Beliefs

The Fascinating Process of Changing Core BeliefsWe know the universe is vast, beyond our abilities to conceive. We can see how abundant nature is. Yet many of us believe that resources are scarce, and there isn't enough to go around. This belief, like all others, is not true in itself, but becomes...

The Burden: Feeling Responsible For Everyone

The Burden: Feeling Responsible For EveryoneOur society is riddled with a myriad of dysfunctional behaviors and addictions, ways in which we attempt to deaden not only our own pain but the pain of others. And for some highly sensitive humans, appropriate boundaries around what belongs to them and what does not will become muddled.

Want To Be Healthy And Happy?

Want To Be Healthy And Happy?

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Assuming and Accepting the Full Responsibility of One’s Life

Assuming and Accepting the Full Responsibility of One’s Life“Victimitis” – feeling a victim of some situation or person or any other claim – is one of the most widespread syndromes of our societies. Many people live their whole lives feeling victims of one thing or another – hence never become truly adult

Step Up and Step Out: Taking Personal Responsibility

Step Up and Step Out: Taking Personal ResponsibilityWhen we stand up and lovingly assert ourselves, we feel joy. We feel virtuous and good because we are following our inner wisdom. However, if  we have unexpressed sadness this leads to us feeling small and unimportant, and consequently acting passive. When we feel reticent to speak up and act, it is a sign that we are compensating...

What Is Your Future? The Amazing Power of Denial

What Is Your Future? The Amazing Power of DenialPolarized, compartmentalized reality has us viewing ourselves as separate, not subject to the same laws, and forever alone. This leaves us vulnerable to a consumer-driven society. Anything that promises to relieve the illusion of unbearable aloneness and self-denial becomes extremely desirable, so much so that many of us will gladly mortgage our future for the promise of a moment's relief. This is the pain and suffering we have come to accept as reality.

Finally... Being Free from the Fear-Based Ego

And Finally... Being Free from the Fear-based EgoI know what it’s like to live my life on that runaway train. One day I’m nervous about a deadline. Then I meet the deadline, everyone’s happy with my work, and I’m immediately anxious about money . . . or a conversation I need to have . . . or a hundred other things that are waiting in the wings to keep me in a constant state of anxiety.

Mending The World: Coming Together To Overcome The Darkness

Mending The World: Coming Together To Overcome The DarknessThe future, with all its upheavals, may seem cha­otic and threatening, but it is also in our hands. We create the future—each one of us—in how we live our lives and with the choices we make. With hope and inspiration as a catalyst, we can act to help mend, restore, and transform our world.

Fear Makes a Much Better Friend Than Enemy

Fear Makes a Much Better Friend Than EnemyI want you to throw away your preconceived notions of fear, along with any particular opinions of anxiety and its causes. In doing so, in opening your mind and your spirit to what might be an entirely new way of thinking and of being, you will embark upon the most challenging, illuminating, and richly satisfying journey of your life.

The Problem of Opposites and The Fear of Fear

The Problem of Opposites and The Fear of FearLove and fear or like and dislike, a pair of opposites, are mutually essential components of the faculty of feeling, for who does not fear neither loves nor feels. But note the term original fear. Man’s difficulty is that his fear is seldom original; it is once or many times removed from originality, being not just simple fear but the fear of being afraid.

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