Mending The World: Coming Together To Overcome The Darkness

Mending The World: Coming Together To Overcome The DarknessThe future, with all its upheavals, may seem cha­otic and threatening, but it is also in our hands. We create the future—each one of us—in how we live our lives and with the choices we make. With hope and inspiration as a catalyst, we can act to help mend, restore, and transform our world.

Fear Makes a Much Better Friend Than Enemy

Fear Makes a Much Better Friend Than EnemyI want you to throw away your preconceived notions of fear, along with any particular opinions of anxiety and its causes. In doing so, in opening your mind and your spirit to what might be an entirely new way of thinking and of being, you will embark upon the most challenging, illuminating, and richly satisfying journey of your life.

The Problem of Opposites and The Fear of Fear

The Problem of Opposites and The Fear of FearLove and fear or like and dislike, a pair of opposites, are mutually essential components of the faculty of feeling, for who does not fear neither loves nor feels. But note the term original fear. Man’s difficulty is that his fear is seldom original; it is once or many times removed from originality, being not just simple fear but the fear of being afraid.

Time for a Reality Check: What Are The Reasons We Resist Change?

Have You Developed A Resistance to Change?As long as we choose to see certain events as the measuring stick for our lives, we have no real chance of changing. As long as we view it this way, we will be trapped by our perceptions of the past, and our lives will endlessly repeat the same types of things over and over again until...

How To Build Self-Esteem by Loving Yourself

How To Build Self-Esteem by Loving Yourself

You'll never have good self-esteem if you have negative thoughts about yourself. Self-esteem is merely feeling good about yourself, and when you do so, you develop confidence. Confidence then builds self-esteem -- each step feeds upon the other...

Life Is Best When You Manifest

Life Is Best When You ManifestThe ability to manifest your vision for ultimate health and happiness is one of the most overlooked tools in creating permanent change. Most of us stopped using our imaginations a long time ago and have become ignorant to the power that lies within us, the power to shape our reality.

The Danger of Believing Your Negative Thoughts

The Danger of Believing Your Negative ThoughtsJust because some inner voice in your head tells you that you are unworthy, unlovable, a loser, or whatever mean “sandbox name” it wants to call you, it doesn’t mean that it’s a fact or even based in reality. You have the power to challenge and change a negative thought always, as harsh or brutal as it may be.

The Power of One: Be the Spark that Makes a Difference

The Power of One: Be the Spark that Makes a Difference

Never has there been a time that our light is more needed than now. Our voices, actions and intentions will inspire and heal so many. No longer can we sit by and just visualize... we must combine our spiritual practices with uplifting words and positive action.

Set Yourself Free By Letting Go Of Your Past

How To Let Go Of Your Past and Set Yourself FreeMany people say they cannot enjoy today because of something that happened in the past. By holding on to the past, no matter what it was or how awful it was, we are only hurting ourselves by refusing to live in this moment to the fullest...

Wheels Within Wheels: Ultimate Truth or Ever-Evolving Truth?

Wheels Within Wheels: Ultimate Truth or Ever-Evolving Truth?We stand at the precipice of a remarkable adventure—the adventure of human evolution. We may have been here before but never in recorded history and never exactly like this. By simply being alive during these potent times, we have become the chosen ones to steward an entirely new way of being.

There IS a Reason for Living

There IS a Reason for LivingWe keep compulsively trying to control everything all around us to protect our fragile biological bodies…too often without the slightest sense of awareness that there exists within us a vast, subjective realm of eternal wisdom, filled with boundless creative capacity, that longs to...

Is Opening Your Heart Simplistic, Naïve, And Disconnected From Reality?

Is Opening Your Heart Simplistic, Naïve, And Disconnected From Reality?To just say, “You have to open your heart!” can be perceived by many people as overly simplistic, naïve, and disconnected from reality. It can be interpreted as a feel-good-warm-and-fuzzy approach that has no substance. And it can give the impression that you are in denial of the magnitude of what is happening.

Not According To Plan? What To Do When Plans and Expectations Fail

According To Plan? Not!When is the last time your life worked out the way you planned and expected it to? And if by chance a segment of it did happen to go as planned, did you feel how you expected you would? And if you did feel how you expected to, did it last forever?

Why We Need To Stop and Smell the Flowers

Why You Need To Stop and Smell the FlowersOne hears a lot about nurturing... nurturing one's self, nurturing loved ones, children, etc. I have been advised many times in my life to pay more attention to myself, and to nurture myself. Not feeling  too clear at one time about what that meant (since I had never learned how to nurture myself), I asked...

Creating The Life You Want, One Image At A Time

Creating The Life You Want, One Picture At A TimeWould you like to experience your personal best? To feel confident, secure, competent, poised and self-assured? Would you perhaps like to work at a fulfilling job? Would you like to control your own future? Most of us would answer a resounding "Yes!" to at least some of the above questions.

Reverse The Aging Process And Regenerate Your Body By ReprogrammingYour Brain

Methods Of Reprograming Your BrainThe physical body is a biological robot. This biological robot is under the control of the Computer Brain. There is absolutely nothing that is outside of our actions and our thoughts that is outside the relationship between the biological computer and your body. Your body does everything your brain commands it to do.

Collaborative Problem Solvers Are Made Not Born

Collaborative Problem Solvers Are Made Not Born

Challenges are a fact of life. Whether it’s a high-tech company figuring out how to shrink its carbon footprint, or a local community trying to identify new revenue sources, people are continually dealing with problems

Want To Become A Better Person?

Want To Become A Better Person?

Travelling offers new experiences and can open people’s minds. It allows you to get out of your daily groove – of work, commuting, housework and cooking – to think about the things that really matter and enjoy some quality time in a different place.

The Best That Can Happen

The Best That Can HappenWhen I ask clients who face a difficult situation, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” they usually have a well-prepared list of possible dark outcomes. When I ask, “What’s the best thing that could happen?” they usually take a while to think of an answer. They are so practiced in pessimism that optimism hasn’t crossed their mind.

Why Time Seems To Go By More Quickly As We Get Older

Why Time Seems To Go By More Quickly As We Get Older

When we were children, the summer holidays seemed to last forever, and the wait between Christmases felt like an eternity. So why is that when we get older, the time just seems to zip by, with weeks, months and entire seasons disappearing from a blurred calendar at dizzying speed?

Embracing Uncertainty on The Long and Winding Road to Happiness

The Long and Winding Road to HappinessTwo dormant chemicals in the same container can co-exist uneventfully, then when a third property is added, this third chemical acts as a catalyst for creating a reaction when shaken or stirred. So it goes with self-improvement...

Reaching for the Joy is a Powerful Antidote to Fear and Anxiety

Reaching for the Joy is a Powerful Antidote to Fear and AnxietyA powerful antidote to the fear and anxiety sometimes stirred up by a health condition is joy. And sometimes joy can feel in short supply when dealing with health challenges. If we want joy, we have to actively reach for it. We’ll explore some ways to do that.

The Art of Believing and Holding On To Our Vision

The Art of Believing and Holding On To Our VisionOftentimes, in our life, we have doubts about the outcome of a situation... whether the doubt has to do with our own capabilities, or someone else's. Yet faith in ourselves is an integral part in succeeding... When we give up believing in ourselves, we give up trying.

Daring To Take Action and Stepping Into The Unknown

Daring To Take Action and Stepping Into The UnknownRealistic hope enables us to believe that we can cope with what lies ahead and gives us the courage to step into the unknown. Without being prepared to take a risk, we don’t make new discoveries about ourselves or what it means to be a human being, nor can we find the fulfillment and happiness we long for.

Is This The Way It’s Supposed To Be?

Is This The Way It’s Supposed To Be?This is the career I expected to have. This is the way I expected my nation to progress. This is the friend I expected you to be. This is how a book proposal or business plan should look. This is how a pop song or a concerto should sound. This is the way it’s supposed to be…

The Age of Separation: The Story of the People

04 27 the age of separation the story of the peopleMy childhood perceptions were part of a narrative I call the Story of the People, in which humanity was destined to create a perfect world through science, reason, and technology: to conquer nature, transcend our animal origins, and engineer a rational society.

Is Your Life Being Run by "Should"?

Is Your Life Run by "Should"?
The bummer about 'shoulds' is that when we are dominated by them, we are also dominated by the fear of being rejected or abandoned in some way, because that's the core emotional fear that activates many of them. These ongoing fears leave many of us drained and exhausted...

Being Your Own Therapist: From Self-Talk to Self-Healing

Being Your Own Therapist: From Self-Talk to Self-HealingThe results can often be dramatic when people start to love themselves, give up pretending, and really learn how to relax. Two processes can happen spontaneously even when you are not having professional treatment: catharsis and abreaction. It can be a little alarming, but you will feel better as a result of it.

Dare To Make Eye Contact With Others

Dare To Make Eye Contact With OthersDare to make eye contact with another. As the adage says, "The eyes are the window to the soul." Making eye contact is one of the most basic ways to share our inner light with another. Daring to communicate with someone in this simple way is...

How Your Smartphone Can Encourage Active Living

How Your Smartphone Can Encourage Active Living

Physical inactivity is the fourth leading risk factor for death globally and has reached the status of a global pandemic — a definition that is usually associated with infectious diseases like influenza.

An Easy Way To Change How You Feel

An Easy Way To Change How You Feel

Smiling really can make you feel happier, report researchers. The paper looked at nearly 50 years of data testing whether posing facial expressions can lead people to feel the emotions related to those expressions.

How To Create A New Story Based On Respect

Creating a New Story Based On RespectThe yearning that so many of us feel for a “return to the earth” can be seen as acknowledgment that something is lacking in our daily lives, and the fact that crucial elements of life are missing from mainstream culture.

Taking Inner Inventory: Who Do I Pretend To Be? What Do I Need?

Taking Inner Inventory: Who Do I Pretend To Be? What Do I Need?Ask yourself, "Who do I pretend to be?" Sometimes we become so immersed in who we think we are -- or who others imagine us to be -- that we begin to identify with the mask that we wear as we weave our way through the world.If we come to believe that we are our mask, then...

The Bubble: A Superhero Shield With Special Powers

The Bubble: A Superhero Shield With Special PowersPerhaps you’re feeling a little chaotic in your mind — or worrying about everything and losing sight of what is important and what isn’t. Hands up then, everyone! It is a very likely state for a lot of us as we can often feel that a lot of demands are put on us.

Pursuing Happiness for Tomorrow? Find Joy in Today

Pursuing Happiness for Tomorrow? Find Joy in TodayDuring my own transformation, I came face-to-face with all my needs, wants, patterns and beliefs and I learned to see them all, to dissect them, to untangle their root causes, and to weed my garden of life. It was during this time that I also experienced the difference between Joy and Happiness.

Conflicting Desires: Can You Have Whatever You Want?

Conflicting Desires: Can You Have Whatever You Want?If you have contradictory desire streams -- desires for two opposing things at the same time -- it becomes much more difficult for Nature to fulfill your desires. For example, you might think that you desire an ideal relationship, but if part of your brain is thinking, "Hah, you don't deserve that. It's never worked before.."

Become A Master Reframer – Seeing Negative Stuff Differently

Become A Master Reframer – Seeing Negative Stuff DifferentlyYou can turn negative situations on their head. This isn’t to say that bad or negative things don’t happen; rather that, if it does, you can look at what you can do about it by viewing things differently and looking for alternative meanings.

What Your Attention Is Upon, You Become

What Your Attention Is Upon, You BecomeWhen our three children were living with us, we had a family dinner each night. As we were eating, we always asked, “Tell us something good that happened to you today.” We all took turns telling something good that had happened. We wanted our children to focus first on the good in life.

How Is Your Sense of Personal Power Limited?

Is Your Sense of Personal Power Limited?Personal Power comes from within, from a strong and healthy sense of self. Your personal power includes several components: your self-esteem, how good you feel about yourself; your independence, how well you can decide on your own what is right for you to do; and your initiative...

Taming the Tiger: How to Safely Deal with Difficult Emotions

How to Cope with Difficult EmotionsEmotions cause trouble or create feelings of discomfort, but now is the time to find ways to work with emotions constructively, especially those that cause the most trouble. Many people cope with working with difficult emotions or emotional patterns by repressing them. 

How the World Works—Three Basic Energy Principles

How the World Works—Three Basic Energy PrinciplesEverything is energy. Energy in its pure form is neutral. It’s not good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative. What gives energy a particular quality is how we engage with it and how we use it.

Do Humans Have A Need For Meaning and Life Purpose?

Existential Maturity and Our Human Need For Meaning and Life PurposeThere is no one meaning of life but rather a multitude of subjective life meanings, and there is no one purpose to life but rather a multitude of subjective life purposes. Each person must sort out her life purposes and life meanings, and proceed to make value-based meaning...

Helpful Keys To Help You Discover, Enjoy And Hold On To Happiness

Helpful Keys to Help You Discover, Enjoy & Hold On to HappinessDoes happiness arise by attaining a certain status, or by finding the love of your life? If you chase happiness in the things of this world, you will become disillusioned. No matter how much stuff you acquire, how much you are admired...

Freedom of Being: Heed the Call and Dare to Live

Freedom of Being: Heed the Call and Dare to LiveViktor E. Frankl, in his book, Man's Search for Meaning, recounts his experiences in a concentration camp during World War II. He maintains that though he remained a prisoner, his inner self would always be free. He always had the freedom to think whatever he wanted to think; a freedom no one could take from him.

Act with Kindness, Considering Everyone and Everything

Act with Kindness, Considering Everyone and EverythingKindness towards people means being considerate, friendly and generous. The opposite to kindness is intentionally causing harm. The Process rewards us for deeds of kindness, and corrects us for deeds of harm. There are always consequences for our actions.

Coming Out of the Cocoon: It's Time to Face Reality & Help Others

Coming Out of the Cocoon: It's Time to Face Reality & Help OthersShambhala training is based on developing gentleness and genuineness so that we can help ourselves and develop tenderness in our hearts. We no longer wrap ourselves in the sleeping bag of our cocoon. We feel responsible for ourselves, and we feel good taking responsibility.

How Failure Helps Build Kids' Resilience

How Failure Helps Build Kids' ResilienceBubble-wrapping children doesn’t work. They need to experience mild adversity, to know how to overcome it when they inevitably face it in life.

Do Not Give Up What You Want Most for What You Want Right Now

Do Not Give Up What You Want Most for What You Want Right NowThe most powerful influence on the human mind is our core beliefs about our identity, who we think we are. If you have a core belief that you are lazy or that the world is out to get you, no matter how much you try to be more productive or to feel safer in this world, you will sabotage your efforts to align with your core belief.

Why A Belief In Meritocracy Is False And Morally Wrong

Why A Belief In Meritocracy Is False And Morally Wrong
Meritocracy has become a leading social ideal. Politicians across the ideological spectrum continually return to the theme that the rewards of life – money, power, jobs, university admission – should be distributed according to skill and effort.

Trapped in Therapy? The Problem with Psychiatry and Psychotherapy

Trapped in Therapy? The Problem with Psychiatry and Psychotherapy
In the first year of training, which was mainly inpatient psychiatry, learning to treat patients, attending daily lectures, and having individual supervision, we also had a weekly group therapy session for all the trainees. This included residents from all the years of training, so it was a pretty big group, run by two psychiatrists.

When You Have A Critical Moment of Emotional Stress

When You Have A Critical Moment of Emotional Stress
Have any of you noticed that sometimes when you try to create something, certain obstacles will come up which question exactly what you're trying to create? I've wondered if this is some kind of test, you know, to see how bad I really want the creation.

About Self-Doubt: Whether You Think You Can or Think You Can't...

About Self-Doubt: Whether You Think You Can or Think You Can't...
Self-doubters tend to dismiss compliments and embrace criticisms. They focus — even highlight — their weaknesses, ensuring that others see their shortcomings as clearly as they do. Eleanor Roosevelt's clever one-liner "No one can make you feel inadequate without your permission" says it all.

Choosing to be Happy, Right Here, Right Now

Choosing to be Happy, Right Here, Right Now
Someone once said to me they didn't feel that being happy was a choice. They felt that no one decides to have a bad day. That everyone starts the day choosing to be happy, but that things happened along the way that were out of their control. While I agree that things do happen that are out of our control...

How Language Has Become A Tool For Social Exclusion

How Language Has Become A Tool For Social Exclusion
The soundtrack of our lives and the visual landscapes of our cities are multilingual. Languages, in their plurality, enrich our experience of the world and our creative potential.

How Nap Time For Teens Might Benefit Their Brains

How Nap Time For Teens Might Benefit Their Brains
Which is better for a teen who can’t get the recommended amount of rest: just 6.5 hours of sleep at night, or 5 hours at night plus a nap in the afternoon?

The Biggest Spiritual Challenge

The Biggest Spiritual Challenge
I always found spirituality, the disciplines of meditation and silence, very simple. My challenge was between activity and stillness. I always got off on the adrenaline trip of being active. That's why I've traveled around so much.

How Social Media Fantasies Can Demolish Your Confidence

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Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are loaded with pictures of people going to exotic places, looking like they are about to be on the cover of Vogue, and otherwise living a fairy-tale existence.

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