Believe In Your Dreams and Believe In Yourself

Believe In Your Dreams and Believe In Yourself

If I told you that there was just one thing you could do that would give you everything you want, would you do it? Well, all you have to do is believe! All that matters is that you can see what you want and believe in it with all your heart and soul. Few people believe that strongly and still fewer work hard enough for their beliefs to reach fruition. How much do you believe?

Getting to Yes and the Energy of Aliveness

Getting to Yes and the Energy of Aliveness

When we do not acknowledge our feelings, we may reactively eat for comfort. Not facing tensions in a relationship can lead to fear of arguments or anger at disagreements. Seeking escape from the discomforts of life may trap us in patterns of...

The 10 Commandments of Being Kind to Yourself

How to Love Yourself: The 10 Commandments of Loving Yourself

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved...

How To Cut Through Negative Self-Talk

How to Talk to Yourself

When we become aware of our story lines -- the things we tell ourselves to keep from moving forward -- we can use affirmations to make our mental chatter more fluid.

The Dilemma of The Freedom to Choose

The Dilemma of The Freedom to Choose

Across the globe, the freedom to choose what will define our lives is vastly different. We who have many options open to us often suffer from stress, because this freedom brings with it a responsibility of being a good judge of what fits us best.

How The Arts Promotes Mental Health

How The Arts Promotes Mental Health

During self-isolation due to coronavirus, many are turningto the arts. Perhaps they seek a creative outlet or opportunity for expression

Are You A World Citizen? Putting Things in Perspective

Are You A World Citizen? Putting Things in Perspective

A world where a tiny virus weighing a microgram can upset the world economy in a few weeks is either inhabited by a very, very clever virus…or then is really inhabited by an extremely strange group of people... So now that the tsunami is upon us, we need to ask: OK, what now? Have we started learning the lesson?

Eleven Laws to Set You Free

Eleven Laws to Set You Free

If we want to grow inwardly we must find new ways to learn about ourselves. These higher discoveries call for higher learning. Think of each of the following eleven laws as individual magic strands of a flying carpet. Make it your aim to weave them together in your mind. Then watch how these lessons combine to effortlessly lift you to...

How To Be Happy

Decide to be happy!

What do you think of when you think of Florida, Hawaii or California? Sunshine. It doesn't mean they are without storms, rainy days or even catastrophic events like earthquakes and hurricanes, but in general, those places are sunny and warm. A happy individual is similar.

How To Maintain A Slower Pace Of Life After Lockdown

How To Maintain A Slower Pace Of Life After Lockdown

Before lockdown, our lives were defined by speed. Rushing around, living life at rocket pace was the norm. Keeping up with work responsibilities, social obligations and the latest tech or fashion trends was a neverending feat.

Experiencing Moral Injury In The Face of Violence, Indifference, and Confusion

Experiencing Moral Injury In The Face of Violence, Indifference, and Confusion

Moral injury is a wound to the soul. It happens when you participate in or witness things that transgress your deepest beliefs about right and wrong. It is extreme trauma that mani­fests as grief, sorrow, shame, guilt, or any combination of those things. It shows up as negative thoughts, self-hatred, hatred of others, feelings of regret...

Are You Being Sabotaged By Self-Doubt?

About Self-Doubt: Whether You Think You Can or Think You Can't...

Self-doubters tend to dismiss compliments and embrace criticisms. They focus — even highlight — their weaknesses, ensuring that others see their shortcomings as clearly as they do. Eleanor Roosevelt's clever one-liner "No one can make you feel inadequate without your permission" says it all.

How Can I Experience Things That Aren't Real?

How Can I Experience Things That Aren't Real?

When I see red, it’s the most religious experience. Seeing red just results from photons of a certain frequency hitting the retina of my eye, which cascades electrical and biochemical pulses through my brain, in the same way a PC runs.

Matters Of The Mind: We Use Our Mind In Many Ways

Matters Of The Mind: We Use Our Mind In Many Ways

We use our mind in many ways. We use it when we don't even think about it; it simply takes over and provides us with the support we need for survival. We forget that it's there working and we overlook it as the best tool we have for self-improvement.

Letting Go and Flying Freely

Bashing Down Barriers and Flying Freely

Sometimes when things don't go the way I want, rather than letting things go their own way, I start pushing and shoving and trying to make things happen. Can you relate to this one? We start insisting on things going our way...

What's It All About?

What's It All About?

Have we not all asked ourselves this question at one point or another? "What's it all about?"  Since to every question there is an answer, I asked my inner Self to provide an answer. The answer I heard was "It's all about you!" Well...

Aspiring to Beauty: Is Beauty In the Eye of the Beholder?

Aspiring to Beauty: Is Beauty In the Eye of the Beholder?

Is beauty truly in the eye of the beholder? Can we call whatever we see beautiful, depending on our perspective? Beauty, Sensuality, Sexuality, Charisma. I have long questioned these notions. What are these things? Are they culturally defined? Dependent on the fashion...

The Road Ahead: How You Can Stretch Time

The Road Ahead: How You Can Stretch Time

On one hand, we need to keep pace with new developments and stay on top of our careers. On the other hand, we need to meet the demands of our personal life. Result? We are on overload.

The Coronation: Forging A New, More Compassionate Normal

The Coronation: Forging A New, More Compassionate Normal

For years, normality has been stretched nearly to its breaking point, a rope pulled tighter and tighter, waiting for a nip of the black swan’s beak to snap it in two. Now that the rope has snapped, do we tie its ends back together, or shall we undo its dangling braids still further, to see what we might weave from them?

Changing Perceptions and Cleaning Out the Mind's Cubbyholes

Changing Perceptions and Cleaning Out the Mind's Cubbyholes

Let's imagine our minds as being filled with rows of cubbyholes. Each cubbyhole represents a particular relationship in our lives. Some of these cubbyholes contain largely benevolent thoughts. Others are filled with grievances and other dark thoughts. As I begin to think of those people, I may find a significant amount of resentment or anger stored away...

Even One Is Enough... What Would Love Do?

Even One Is Enough... What Would Love Do?

We live in a world of extremes. Extreme wealth, extreme poverty. Extreme hedonism and joy, and extreme fear and pain. Extreme religious devotion, and extreme hatred. And as with everything, the microcosm and the macrocosm are reflections of each other. In each one of us there resides these extremes, or at least a presence of these realities -- though maybe not in the extreme.

After All... Tomorrow Is Another Day!

After All... Tomorrow Is Another Day!

One of my favorite lines in the movie "Gone With The Wind" is when Scarlett says "Tomorrow is another day". This line has given me hope many times when the skies of my life were bleak and I couldn't see around the corner of whatever challenge was facing me at the time…

It's Time to Give Up, But Never Give Up

It's Time to Give Up, But Never Give Up

I recently gave the keynote address at a local graduation ceremony. I arrived early to hang out with the 72 students and asked a few of them, "What would you like to hear from me?" I ended up quoting a bright young woman I'll call Lucinda, who paused in deep thought for about thirty seconds before answering.

Complicated, Complex, Or Both—Critical Distinctions in a New World

Complicated, Complex, Or Both—Critical Distinctions in a New World

In the mid-1960s, Bob Dylan’s song, “The Times They Are A-Changin,” became an anti-establishment anthem for frustrated young people.Fifty-plus years later, the times are no longer “a-changin;” the times have changed—radically. In fact, rapid, continuous, unpredictable change is the “new normal.”

Dare To Be True To Yourself: Heed the Call and Dare to Live

Freedom of Being: Heed the Call and Dare to Live

Viktor E. Frankl, in his book, Man's Search for Meaning, recounts his experiences in a concentration camp during World War II. He maintains that though he remained a prisoner, his inner self would always be free. He always had the freedom to think whatever he wanted to think; a freedom no one could take from him.

Emotions 'R Us: As We Think, So Shall We Feel

Emotions 'R Us: As We Think, So Shall We Feel

We can't be feeling what we are feeling unless we are "thinking" it. First we have to think and then we feel, so whatever we are feeling is a result of our thinking. If we are feeling fear, then we are having a fearful thought...

Searching For Answers and Establishing New Foundations

Searching For Answers and Establishing New Foundations

We are in truth limitless, magnificent universal beings. Right here and now, we embody all the forces of the universe. There is no difference between our energy and the energy of the universe; they are one and the same.

How To Build Family Resilience Amid The Future Unknowns

How To Build Family Resilience Amid The Future Unknowns

Although there are early signs of tentative re-openings for trial-and-error life after quarantine, we cannot — and arguably should not — downplay the ongoing challenges and uncertainties for our children.

Question Reality: Whose REALITY Is It Anyway?

Whose REALITY Is It Anyway?

"The weekend is over and tomorrow it's back to reality!" "You've lost touch with reality!" What exactly is reality and whose reality are we talking about? I saw a bumper sticker not too long ago that said "Question reality". I agree. I think reality should be questioned and challenged and maybe even done away with...

Repressing or Expressing Emotions? There's Another Choice!

Accepting, Honoring, & Channeling Your Emotions

We have learned to repress our emotions, or to blatantly "dump" them on others. Often, our strong emotions make us lash out and blame others for our feelings. There is an alternative, that not only heals you but empowers you.

I Am More Than My Body: Stepping Out of The “Real World” Illusion

I Am More Than My Body: Stepping Out of The “Real World” Illusion

Pinch yourself, for instance, and your body seems solid. Your senses insist this is the case. It seems to be an essential, irrevocable truth. But the plain facts of science, regardless of what normally seems so patently obvious, prove that your senses are deceiving you.

The Power of Meaning: It Determines Our Reality

The Power of Meaning: It Determines Our Reality

The meaning we give to something determines our reality and life experience. If you see a grizzly bear coming towards you, then the meaning, or interpretation, in that moment will be one of danger, fear and survival. If you see a kitten...

Roadmaps of Living: Are You In A Rut?

Snap Out Of It! Put Your Genie in a Bigger Bottle

Humans are creatures of habit, and sometimes we get stuck in a rut. Sometimes we're overwhelmed. We face a simple daily task and spin into panic or just plain freeze. Neither opens up our hearts or minds to the real challenges or pleasures at hand. We need to snap out of it and get back into living again. But how?

It's All In How You Look At It

It's All In How You Look at It

When Dee and I grew a family of dogs, we decided to feed them meat. That was a big decision for us, since we had never had meat in the house. But we love our “kids,” and we want them to be happy. Why impose our diet on them? So we buy them canned dog food and cook meat for them.

You Might Be The Spark That Changes Our Collective Consciousness

The Power of One: Be the Spark that Makes a Difference

Never has there been a time that our light is more needed than now. Our voices, actions and intentions will inspire and heal so many. No longer can we sit by and just visualize... we must combine our spiritual practices with uplifting words and positive action.

Releasing the Divine Capabilities of Our Species: Creativity Brings Hope

Creativity Brings Hope: Releasing the Divine Capabilities of Our Species

Where does our hope lie? Where shall we ground ourselves for continuing on and changing our ways radically? Creativity can redeem and save our species. I agree with Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés that all women and men are born gifted. All we need to do is release this creativity, get out of its way, as M. C. Richards used to say.

The Medicine We Most Hunger For: Standing Our Ground and Breaking Our Silence

The Medicine We Most Hunger For: Standing Our Ground and Breaking Our Silence

It’s time to sink down into our roots and reconnect with the natural, the primal, and the instinctual. It’s time to untether and reclaim all the aspects of ourselves that have been shamed, hidden, and tamped down so we can ground our full being and powerful medicine into the world.

Birthing a Planetary Reset

Birthing a Planetary Reset

When the pandemic began, I wondered “What good could possibly come of this?” Now some answers are obvious. For one, we are present with our families at a new depth.

How Your Circadian Rhythm May Keep You Sane And Healthy

How Your Circadian Rhythm May Keep You Sane And Healthy

Social distancing and washing hands have become the frontline in the fight against COVID-19, but there is another powerfully protective resource immediately available to all: your circadian rhythm.

Why The Ego Makes It Difficult to Recognize Love

Why Egos Make It Difficult to Recognize Love

It may surprise you to learn that your ego doesn't believe that love really exists, but it's true. Just think! When you allow your ego to direct your search for love, you are actually asking the only thing in the universe that doesn't know what love is, to find it for you.

What Works For Me: Asking Why

What Works For Me: Asking Why

For me, learning often comes from understanding "why". Why things are the way they are, why things happen, why people are the way they are, why I act the way I do, why other people act the way they do. Once I understand the "why" of a situation, I can then understand how I need to respond both now and in the future.

Attaining Liberation: Discovering Who You Really Are

Attaining Liberation: Discovering Who You Really Are

You have no idea how radiant and powerful you really are. The world you live in has buried you and your light in an ornate and viscous web of thoughts, traditions, conditioning and ideologies. It covers the earth like a great blanket of intricate and resolute knots.

Are You Headed in the Right Direction?

Headed in the Right Direction?

Painful experiences are steppingstones to right direction. Rather than considering them curses or crosses to bear, regard them as wake-up calls or course corrections. While you may have gone through a difficult...

The Art of Believing and Holding On To Your Vision

The Art of Believing and Holding On To Our Vision
Oftentimes, in life, we have doubts about the outcome of a situation... whether the doubt has to do with our own capabilities, or someone else's. Yet faith in ourselves is an integral part in succeeding... When we give up believing in ourselves, we give up trying.

Rewriting the Script: From Separation to Symbiosis

Rewriting the Script: From Separation to Symbiosis
The irony of anyone standing firmly resistant to change is that we awaken into a brand new world every day. We call it the universe, and it’s never the same place twice. In our universe, though, the changes happening all around us are either so constant we take them for granted or so slow and imperceptible we fail to notice them.

7 Steps to Get Out of the Quicksand of Procrastination

7 Steps to Get Out of the Quicksand of Procrastination
Almost everyone procrastinates. We usually do it to avoid a task that's unpleasant or daunting. When procrastinating starts to interfere with our quality of life by causing us to feel worried, fearful, lazy, or irresponsible, then it's time to get on with it.

Aversion to Good, Aversion to Evil: The Dangers of Indifference and Cynicism

Aversion to Good, Aversion to Evil: The Dangers of Indifference and Cynicism
Words which contain a reference to good and evil have become degraded, especially those which refer to the good -- not only courage but also effort, patience, love and hope -- are met with cynicism and indifference. Unless we boldly confront cynicism and indifference, we cannot make fundamental and effective responses.

Great and Noble Things: Leaving Our Children A Better World

Great and Noble Things: Leaving Our Children A Better World
We all want to leave our children a better world than the one we found. The greatest legacy you can bestow is joy, which is a choice you can make right now. If you wait until the world changes to let your light shine, your dream will wither and die. Make your joy conditional on nothing outside you and on everything inside you...

The Web of Light: The Field of Sacred Energy and The Power of Thought

The Web of Light: The Field of Sacred Energy and The Power of Thought
We can compare this web of light that permeates the universe to a spider’s web. When a fly becomes entangled in the spider’s web, it sends a vibration along the strands of the web. Similarly, what we think and feel sends along the strands of the web of light vibrational frequencies that can affect people, countries and world situations.

Depression, Anger, and Sadness as Related to Yang Body Types

Depression, Anger, and Sadness as Related to Yang Body Types
We all have a unique path in life that, if traveled, brings out the best in us. Yet no path is ever forged for us, and we may have to bushwhack our way through unchartered wilderness when our navigation equipment fails. Depression is an emotional state that all of the body types are capable of experiencing when they feel stuck...

You Might Already Have Inner Peace and Didn't Notice

Inner Peace: Do You Already Have It and Didn't Notice?
It's frustrating to believe that peace is some distant goal, attainable only by a few fortunate souls blessed with good genes, superior brain chemistry, plenty of money, or a calling as a monk. But peace has not deserted even the crankiest and busiest among us.

Changing...Instantly: It's A Lot Easier Than You Think

Changing...Instantly: It's A Lot Easier Than You Think
Mechanical behaviors are old ways of doing things that once worked, or appeared to have worked, in situations that were stressful or in situations that were actual or perceived as potentially endangering your survival.

From Crappy to Happy in Four Easy Steps

From Crappy to Happy in Four Easy Steps
What am I doing? is the most frequent question I ask as I let go of my most recent job and relationship. The answer always comes back the same: You are being true to yourself. You are living your Truth. This is crazy, I say to myself. No job, no security, saving good-bye to someone who loves me, whom I love.

Striving for the Impossible: The Way To Achieve Your Goal

Striving for the Impossible: The Secrets of High-Performance Leadership
There is no “solution” to this problem. The only way to achieve the goal we are all leveraged toward achieving is to do something nobody has ever done before. Right there, in the middle of the raging ocean, Latitude 35 will have to do the impossible.

How Do You Discover Your Mission In Life?

How You Can Discover Your Mission in Life
What's important is that you challenge yourself in something, it doesn't matter what. Then by making consistent effort, the direction you should take will open up before you naturally. It's important, therefore, to have the courage to ask yourself what you should be doing now, this very moment.

Enough is Enough: How To Find a Graceful Balance in Life

Enough is Enough
Simplicity is not the same thing as destitution, or self-imposed deprivation. It has to do with finding a graceful balance in life where we have enough material possessions to provide for our basic needs, plus some comforts and luxuries that may not be required for basic survival.

Are Autistic Personality Tests Reliable?

Are Autistic Personality Tests Reliable?

Autism has been a subject of ever increasing interest over the last 20 years. It has been the subject of popular TV shows, novels and numerous studies looking at everything from sensory experiences to mental health in autism.

7 SECRETS to a Great Life: A Great Life Doesn't Happen By Accident

7 SECRETS to a Great Life
A great life doesn't happen by accident. A great life is the result of allocating your time, energy, thoughts, and hard work towards what you want your life to be. Stop setting yourself up for stress and failure, and start setting up your life to support success and ease.

Break On Through: Discovering the Road That Leads to Healing

Break On Through: Discovering the Road That Leads to Healing
The two most important men in my life died at early ages due, in part, to their addictions. We are all products of our environment, but I believe the cycle can stop with us. Just as addiction affects the whole family, so does recovery...

Should You Listen To Music When You Work?

Should You Listen To Music When You Work?

Do you like to listen to music when you work? Pose this question at a party, and you’ll probably get some polarizing responses.

Waking Up and Focusing on Something New

Waking Up and Focusing on Something New
Our belief is hugely powerful, especially when it is informed by an expert in authority. This is the placebo effect, which can be seen, for example, when a group of patients participate in a study, unknowingly acting as the control group.

Would You Rather Have A Fish Or Know How To Fish?

Would You Rather Have A Fish Or Know How To Fish?

Imagine the following. You are living a life with enough money and health and time so as to allow an hour or two of careless relaxation, sitting on the sofa at the end of the day in front of a large television, half-heartedly watching a documentary about solar energy with a glass of wine and scrolling through your phone.

Whenever You’re Ready: Your Mindset Shall Set You Free

Whenever You’re Ready: Your Mindset Shall Set You Free
We have been taught that external conditions determine our state of mind; favorable conditions make us well and happy, and unfavorable conditions damage or depress us. Yet it is the other way around: It is our thoughts that create or attract conditions, and our internal choices that make us happy or not.

Nietzsche, Nihilism And Reasons To Be Cheerful

Nietzsche, Nihilism And Reasons To Be Cheerful

German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900) is sometimes dismissed as a malevolent figure, obsessed with the problem of nihilism and the “death of God”.

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