Opening The Gate of Forgiveness: Making Love and Redemption Possible

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As we grow up, our egos become more complicated. We grow to resent (both consciously and unconsciously) the judgments we have suffered, and we try to avoid them. Our Inner Judge learns to project our resentment onto others and to denigrate them—whether openly or secretly. 

Opening The Gate of Forgiveness: Making Love and Redemption Possible-Video

An open gate in a stone wall, opening up to a beautiful nature scene.

As we grow up, our egos become more complicated. We grow to resent (both consciously and unconsciously) the judgments we have suffered, and we try to avoid them. Our Inner Judge learns to project our resentment onto others and to denigrate them—whether openly or secretly. 

The Inner Feelings Care System... So You Can Feel More Love

The Inner Feelings Care System... So You Can Feel More Love

When I was growing up, I was basically allowed to express one feeling, and I had to go to my room to do it. When I came out of my room, I was expected to feel “better,” even if I didn’t. The basic message was that feelings were to be barely tolerated and best kept hidden.

The Very Best New Year’s Start

The Very Best New Year’s Start

There are many wishes people make for family and friends at the start of a new year: for health and success, for love and prosperity, for success in their studies or any special endeavour, the list is very long. However, there is one I wish to make for all readers of this...

Give the Gift of Kindness and Move Towards Love and Connection

Give the Gift of Kindness and Move Towards Love and Connection

Kindness shows itself in a lot of ways, such as acts of compassion, helpfulness, empathy, forgiveness, and caring. These gestures ignite feelings of love in both the recipients and ourselves. For maximum effect, kindness must be offered without expecting something in return, except for you...

How and Why You Must Forgive Yourself, Completely

How and Why You Must Forgive Yourself, Completely

Most of us have some corner where we cannot forgive ourselves. Our hearts ache for the choices made or denied, and we bury that ache beneath a blanket of guilt or high-minded justifications.

The Art of Forgiveness and Setting Yourself Free

The Art of Forgiveness and Setting Yourself Free

Forgiveness is not an easy thing for a lot of us. I believe this is because we associate forgiveness with allowing another to "get away with" whatever it is that he or she has done.

The Journey of Forgiveness Must Begin Somewhere, Somehow

The Journey of Forgiveness Must Begin Somewhere, Somehow

I genuinely believe that after some thirty to forty years of deepening our consciousness and attending to our self-improvement, we are now more prepared to address the issue of forgiveness than we have been at any time in modern history.

The Need to Blame and Shame: Discovering Our Inner Enemy

The Need to Blame and Shame: Discovering Our Inner Enemy

In essence, blaming or pointing our finger at someone else is saying that we are totally absolving our Self of having any responsibility in the matter -- whatever it is. At the same time, we are automatically and unwittingly assigning ourselves to the miserable role of "victim."

What's The Point Of Grief?

What's The Point Of Grief?

Grieving is an experience almost everyone will go through at some point in their life. And is something we often have no control over.

A Choice Lies Before Us: Choosing Hatred or Wisdom?

A Choice Lies Before Us: Choosing Hatred or Wisdom?

A combination of despair, fear, and betrayal will cause someone to lash out against real and imagined enemies, causing more of the same in others. It is a vicious cycle indeed. A cycle of hatred unleashed can wreak destruction for generations to come.

Befriending Problems: Making Friends With What Is

Befriending Problems: Making Friends With What Is

The wisdom of non-attachment is most applicable when dealing with life’s problems: whether small irritants or major life losses. The secret is to befriend our problems and create new relationships with them.

An Unqualified Apology: "I Am Truly Sorry for Causing You Pain"

"I Am Truly Sorry for Causing You Pain"

Forgiveness is radical. Both forgiving and asking for forgiveness go against deeply ingrained psychological and political truths. We fight against it. We reject its premises. We think we want to be -- or at least, want to appear to be -- blameless at all times. By forgiving another...

How To Move Beyond Forgiveness and Towards Acceptance

Moving Beyond Forgiveness and Towards Acceptance

When I began my journey of self-discovery in my twenties I ran across the concept of forgiveness and, with a great deal of anger and judgment, promptly rejected the idea. Now I believe forgiveness is one of the most important steps we can take toward achieving self-acceptance, peace of mind, and happiness...

Learning to Love Yourself: Harnessing Your Own Resources

Learning to Love Yourself: Harnessing Your Own Resources
Our need for love and compassion stems from our desire to be connected with others, to feel good about ourselves, and to receive and give appreciation. We all want to feel valued, understood, and respected—to be heard, seen, and believed.

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