Sometimes in life we come to a point where we want to leave everything behind and run away from society. It feels as though we cannot take one more abusive comment from our boss, another long drive in traffic or another broken night of sleep. We feel as though our cup is so full that the next time someone looks at us the wrong way, we will lose our last ounce of self-control and do something unthinkable, like hurt someone or ourselves.
Many of my friends work too much and do not have the time to unwind on the weekends due to family obligations. I observe how presently more than half of them are at a breaking point because they are dealing with too much stress and this stress is starting to do some major damage to their bodies, minds and spirits.
How do we survive in our modern society and live a stress-free life every day? It is possible because I live in such a way and have been for ten years. After my burn-out at the young age of 24, I realized that I was not cut out for the fast-paced world swirling around me and decided that I had a decision to make: either try to keep up with the hard-working stressed-out folks or go do my own thing at my own pace.
I decided to do my own thing and although my thing was not very lucrative at first, I had very little stress and a lot of time to take care of myself and those I loved. That was more important to me than being rich.
Eliminate the Stresses of Modern Reality
The first thing I did to eliminate the stresses of my modern reality was to opt for a very simple way of life which included a smaller house, a second-hand car, thrift-shop clothing, and buying used books instead of new. If I bought new things all the time, like almost everyone around me, I knew that money would fly out the window faster than I could count my dollars.
With this new plan of action, I spent twice as less money on monthly expenses than my other friends, thus I could work twice as less as them if I wanted to. Brand names or fancy cars were not motivation enough for me to develop stomach ulcers, insomnia, migraines or worse, physical illnesses.
Traveling to Exotic Destinations
After that adjustment, I started to travel to exotic destinations but for much less money than my friends because I would organize my trips on my own and choose Bed & Breakfasts or hostels that were more affordable. I ended up traveling three times more per year than my friends who paid themselves luxurious all-included trips in four-star hotels. One time I rented a home in the Bahamas for a month and it cost me as much money as it would have cost me if I had gone to a four-start hotel in the Bahamas for one week.
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By traveling in less luxury and comfort, I was actually able to discover the local life much more than from a comfortable fancy hotel room. I mingled with the locals, made friends with the fishermen on the docks, and learned about their hardships and realities. I saw life in the Bahamas as it really was and am grateful for having seen this side of the world because it was very different than my city life in Montreal.
Independence and Entrepreneurship
I launched my own private teaching company at 25 years old. I began to teach English conversation from the comfort of my home and although it was not easy for the first few years, I was determined to make my business successful and to learn how to manage my money wisely and efficiently. Ten years later I work about twenty hours per week and have half the day to take care of myself and those I care about.
I have time to exercise, to cook healthy meals, to read spiritual books, watch uplifting films, and see my many friends. Nobody else I know has put in place such a stress-free existence at my age and this makes me proud because it was my biggest dream at a young age. I never wanted to have another burn-out again and today I share my views on removing daily pressures with all those whose paths I cross.
Letting Go of Anxiety About Life's Challenges
After having a fun part-time job in place, twice as less monthly expenses, and affordable vacations to beautiful destinations, I worked on managing my positive thinking and not being anxious about life's challenges. This was one of the hardest changes for me who had grown up with a highly anxious and stressed-out mother. It was normal for me to be anxious about events and to ruminate about things constantly as my mother had not taught me any other way of being.
After my burn-out, I saw that I had an option to delete that program and build myself a new one. The new program was about peacefully surrendering to the events of my life and finding the silver lining in everything that would happen to me. Developing a strong positive attitude took a lot of time and energy but finally, several years later, I achieved this new way of thinking and have been happy ever since.
You Too Can Build Yourself a Stress-Free Life
It is possible to build yourself a stress-free way of life every day but you must have a clear realistic plan of action carefully drawn out, have a lot of imagination and passion, have patience and determination, and not get discouraged when things become challenging. Today I write to you from Cuba, my recent affordable exotic travel destination, and am enjoying a fresh guava and pineapple juice while staring at the calm turquoise blue ocean.
I have no stress this week and when I return, I will continue to manage my money wisely and to live a simple way of life from my humble abode, my second-hand car, my used clothing and used books. I feel immensely free and that feeling has no price in the world.
©2016 by Nora Caron.
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Nora Caron has a Masters degree in English Renaissance literature and speaks four languages. After struggling through the academic system, she realized that her true calling was to help people live from their hearts and explore the world through the eyes of their spirit. Nora has studied with various spiritual teachers and healers since 2003 and she practices Energy Medicine as well as Tai Chi and Qi Gong. In September 2014, her book "Journey to the Heart", received the Living Now Book Award Silver Medal for Best Inspirational Fiction. Visit her website at: www.noracaron.com
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