The Path to Smart Change Requires Patience and Persistence

The Path to Smart Change Requires Patience and PersistenceI have been playing for around twelve years now, and I still take lessons. The best lessons I have are the ones in which I leave feeling like I don’t really know anything about playing at all. Dur­ing those lessons, my teacher has identified yet another weakness in my playing. I have to learn new skills to overcome those weak­nesses to get better.

Deviant Behavior: Why It Takes Guts To Go Against The Crowd

against the crowd 3 15“Deviant individuals can exist in almost every society, even in the most strict and ruthless ones such as Nazi Germany. These deviant group members serve as an opposition to the opinions of the majority and can also differ from the majority in their emotional experience.”

How Music Helps Resolve Our Deepest Inner Conflicts

music resolves conflictsBillions of people enjoy music; many feel that they can’t live without it. Why? It’s a question that has puzzled scientists and philosophers for centuries. 2,400 years ago Aristotle wondered, “Why does music, being just sounds, remind us of the states of our soul?”

Creating a New Dream of Life Guided by the Truth of Our Emotions

Creating a New Dream of Life Guided by the Truth of Our EmotionsIn order to change any of the beliefs that are holding you back from creating the life you want, it’s important to understand how they were formed and what got you to this point. For many years behavioral scientists have studied human infants to determine what their experience is and how they develop.

How to Get Out of a Coma & Be the Director of Your Life

How to Get Out of a Coma & Be the Director of Your Own LifeIn the Book of Genesis we are told that “a deep sleep fell over Adam,” but nowhere in the Bible does it say that he woke up. We are all Adam, still immersed in the dream of limitation. We have become sleepwalkers, trudging through our days wondering who we are and why we are here.

New Year's Resolutions: Symbolic Gestures, Magical Thinking

New Year's Resolutions: Symbolic Gestures, Magical Thinking“I will definitely give up smoking – that’s my New Year’s resolution,” she stated emphatically as she thumped her fist on the table to underline her determination. “All very well”, I thought, as I sat opposite her in my medical consulting room in October.

It Only Takes a Few Seconds to Be Kind

It Only Takes a Few Seconds to be Kind

In 1993, Conari Press published a book called Random Acts of Kindness. This book started a movement of people looking for ways to be kind to complete strangers. It was not at all unusual to see a bumper sticker on the car in front of you that read, “Practice Random Acts of Kindness.”

You Are Patient! Accessing Your Patience When You Need It Most

You Are Patient! Accessing Your Patience When You Need It Most

I have tremendous patience with people. I can get occasionally frustrated, annoyed, or even angry, but ultimately my patience kicks back in. I simply re­fuse to give up on a living being. You too have enormous patience for some­thing and the more you study what fosters your patience, the more you will...

Habits Are Learned: How to Choose Them Wisely

Habits Are Learned: How to Choose Them WiselyEverything we do is a habit, in one form or another --  how we think, how we talk, how we react to criticism, which type of snack we instinctively reach for. Even when faced with a circumstance for the first time, we respond to it from habit...

Stories Worth Telling

Stories Worth Telling by Alan Cohen

The end of this year might be a good time to decide which stories you want to leave behind and which you would like to take into the new year and amplify.  Some stories are worth telling and others are not worth telling. Some stories empower us and others disempower us...

Have You Heard of Club "Shouldsville": The Hottest Club in Town

Have You Heard of Club "Shouldsville": The Hottest Club in TownTo become a VIP member of Club Shouldsville, you must constantly suffer from the belief that one "should" and "should not" say and do certain things in relationships. And since reality almost never lives up to most people's expectations and ideas about how...

Choosing to Live Joy: Unconditional Love Is the Key

Choosing to Live Joy: Unconditional Love Is the KeyI encourage you to realize that the most powerful thing you can do in every moment is to choose joy. Make the shift into joy your greatest priority. When you choose joy, your joy is a flint that creates a spark that ignites the fire of unconditional love that subsequently...

Stop Repressing Your Emotions: Get Those Emotions in Motion

Stop Repressing Your Emotions: Get Those Emotions in Motion

Many of us have been holding back and storing unfelt emotions. What's the purpose? Unfortunately, the reason behind suppressed emotions is self-defeating. Holding back from "feeling your feelings" is usually how we try to protect ourselves from being hurt. However...

Zucchini, Weeds, and the Mind

Zucchini, Weeds, and the Mind by Marie T. Russell

by Marie T. Russell.

This year for the first time, I have planted zucchini in my garden. At first I thought people had  exaggerated... But now I have discovered something. You may check your garden in the afternoon and see some small...

Commitment: A Four-Letter Word?

Commitment: A Four-Letter Word?Sometimes it seems that commitment is a four-letter word. It is a word that oftentimes brings up insecurity, doubt, and fear. What is the underlying fear to our committing ourselves to an action, project, or relationship? Is it...

Being In A Mood!

 

Being In A Bad Mood!

It crept up unexpectedly, little by little, until it was a full blown "mood". My ego tells me "It all started after the conversation with that person who was angry... it's all their fault." "Wait a minute," my Higher Self interjects. "You chose to adopt that anger and carry it with you. No one forced you or 'made you' angry."

Is It Good or Bad? And Are We Qualified to Judge?

Is It Good or Bad? Are We Qualified to Judge?

Judgment plays a big part in our lives, so much that we are not even aware most of the time that we are judging. If you didn't think that something was bad, it wouldn't upset you. If you didn't think that something was good, you wouldn't feel any loss when it was absent...

The Faith Factor

Have you ever noticed that when you are impatient, frazzled, and upset, things go worse, and when you are relaxed, patient, and trusting, things go better. Thinking and acting with faith changes the results you get. When you find yourself in a situation in which you seem to have no control, point your thoughts toward peace, and the universe responds.

Do You Need Approval and Validation?

Do You Need Approval and Validation?I once worked for a rather abusive woman who constantly berated, belittled and badgered her employees -- me included. If any of us sought to stand up for ourselves, we were chastised and told in no uncertain terms that we were insecure whiners who should appreciate we had a job in the first place.

Guilt versus Compassion

Guilt versus Compassion by Sylvia Browneby Sylvia Browne. There was one passage [in the Dead Sea Scrolls] that struck me as reflecting our philosophy so much: "An edict went out amongst the Essenes [later the Gnostics] that stated, 'Stop holding on. Quit having the stubbornness of guilt.'" It really struck me how tenacious guilt is. Guilt is a killer -- no doubt about it.

Avoiding Manipulation: Why and How

Avoiding Manipulation: Why and How by Jerry Minchinton

by Jerry Minchinton. We can define manipulation as "getting people to do what you want without giving them something they value in return". How does manipulation work? When someone says to you, "If you don't help me clean my house I'm going to be mad at you," that person is attempting to manipulate you. He is not offering you anything...

Abiding in Compassion Without Measure for All

Abiding in Compassion Without Measure for All Sentient Beings

by Khenchen Thrangu Rinpoche. Generally speaking, all religions consider compassion to be important. Moreover, it is not just the religions of the world that consider compassion to be important. Ordinary, worldly people think so too. Generally, everyone feels compassion, but the compassion is flawed.

Secrets and Lies: A Barrier to Authenticity

Secrets and Lies: A Barrier to AuthenticityA good way to let go of unconscious beliefs and to see yourself more honestly is to examine the secrets you keep from others. Consider this: the fact that you have secrets is the same thing as affirming, "If people really knew me, they wouldn't accept me".

Saying No to Guilt and Being True to Yourself

No More GuiltGuilt does what is necessary to maintain its power. Guilt gives you importance in a variety of ways. Say you have a friend who has a life full of challenges. You know she feels better after talking to you, even though you feel drained. Yet you feel you must continue these conversations. After all...

Are You Addicted to Gossip?

Are You Addicted to Gossip?The world's favorite pastime is not football, soccer, or baseball but gossip. People love to gossip about one another. The next time you are at the check out line in your grocery store notice all the papers and magazines that thrive on gossip...

Attitudes Transformed: Reversing Our Attitudes Towards Ourselves and Others

Attitudes TransformedWithout reversing our present attitudes towards ourselves and others, we cannot attain enlightenment. We might think, "Well, so what?" But at the same time we don't want to remain in our present condition, experiencing unhappiness and suffering. By considering all these points carefully, we will realize that making this switch in our attitudes is possible.

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