Five Ways Rudeness Can Actually Be A Positive Experience

Five Ways Rudeness Can Actually Be A Positive Experience
From swearing to insults, most of us have experienced rudeness in some form or another at work, out in public or online. Much of the research examining rudeness has focused on its negative effects and with good reason – there are plenty of them.

Navigating Transitions, Hurts, and Losses

Navigating Transitions, Hurts, and Losses
Have you experienced some turbulence in these last months? It seems like these recent times have presented many folks with personal unexpected life-altering struggles. Our own trials and tribulations, in addition to the surreal political situation and what's happening throughout the world is taking a toll on our emotional, physical, psychological, and mental well-being.

The Forgotten Benefits Of A Bad Memory

The Forgotten Benefits Of A Bad Memory
Memory is the essence of our psychological functioning, essential for every move we make – getting dressed, having breakfast, driving to work, doing a crossword, making a cup of tea.

Shopping Addiction Is A Real Disorder

Shopping Addiction Is A Real Disorder
UK-based healthcare group the Priory is well-known for treating gambling, sex, drug, alcohol and computing addictions – especially of the rich and famous. 

The Neuroscience Of Motivation and How To Improve It

The Neuroscience Of Motivation And How To Improve It
Motivation can be a hard thing to come by. Whether at home, at school or at work, most of us have been in a situation where we know exactly what to do but lack the mental power to do it.

Does Extra Testosterone Reduce Your Empathy?

Does Extra Testosterone Reduce Your Empathy?
Cognitive empathy is the ability to recognise what another person is thinking or feeling, and one way it can be assessed in the lab is by using the “reading the mind in the eyes test” – or “eyes test”, for short. 

Saying No to Guilt: You Are Not Responsible for Others

No More Guilt
Ego does what is necessary to maintain its power. Guilt is one of the more blatant sub -personalities of ego. It performs two primary functions for ego: importance and responsibility. Both make you feel needed as described below....

How To Become A Great Impostor

How To Become A Great Impostor

Unlike other icons who have appeared on the front of Life magazine, Ferdinand Waldo Demara was not famed as an astronaut, actor, hero or politician.

Creating A Sacred Environment For Sleep

Creating A Sacred Environment For Sleep
The mastery of sleep is to know what sleeping conditions you need and recognize the sacredness of those conditions. If you are protesting that you do not have time to recognize the sacredness of sleep right now, that’s okay. See and know that. Acknowledge that right now you may be prioritizing busyness over sacredness, 

Why Do People Cheat?

Why Do People Cheat?
When we hear that a poor person scammed others out of money, we may attribute this behavior to their poverty, rationalizing that the person violated ethics and the law because they needed the money.

From Longing for Peace to Becoming Peace and Being Peace

From Longing for Peace to Becoming Peace and Being Peace
There is no more urgent question than this: How can I make peace real? How are we to meet violence with nonviolence, to meet war with peace, to meet fear with love, to meet hatred with compassion? How are we to dismantle the attitude of militarism and install the attitude of peace, within our own minds and within the very structure of society?

Cleaning the Mind with Regular and Disciplined Practice

Cleaning the Mind with Regular and Disciplined Practice
The biggest problem with a mistake that's not forgiven is that it becomes a piece of garbage cluttering up your mind. The longer you dwell on the mistake, the more it magnifies and distracts you. Our minds become a giant toxic dumpsite. It results in perpetual unhappiness.

Bike Sharing Isn't Just For Rich Hipsters

Bike Sharing Isn't Just For Rich Hipsters
Bike and scooter sharing is booming in cities all around the world. In the United States, the number of trips through either bike or scooter sharing — modes of transportation called “micromobility” — more than doubled over one year, from 35 million trips in 2017 to 84 million in 2018.

Focus On Who You Can Be, Not What You Can Do

Focus On Who You Can Be, Not What You Can Do
One innovative way to face hard truths is through imagery. Rumi’s words from the opening quote echo across the centuries and present evocative symbols. “Mount the stallion of love and do not fear the path…” Consider the imagery of this verse and zero in on two significant elements: the stallion and you.

What Happens In The Brain When We Give Up?

What Happens In The Brain When We Give Up?
Inside the brain, a group of cells known as nociceptin neurons get very active before mice give up on reaching hard-to-get rewards, researchers report.

It Is Essential Now To Expand Our Awareness and Elevate Our Attitude

It Is Essential Now To Expand Our Awareness and Elevate Our Attitude
Society desperately needs the tempering and respectful energy of feminine strength. The Chi­nese proverb “When sleeping women wake, mountains move” is being affirmed by societal shifts throughout the world. We are awake and deeply aware that our strength, wisdom, and compassion are needed.

How Financial Incentives Work To Help Smokers Quit

How Financial Incentives Work To Help Smokers Quit

Smoking kills one in two regular smokers, but quitting at any point in life leads to big improvements in health, increased life expectancy and savings in healthcare costs.

Stressed At Work? How To Beat Common Traps In The Rat Race

Stressed At Work? How To Beat Common Traps In The Rat Race
Over the past two years, I’ve started working with people on applying what I know in the human world of work. And what I see in most of the workplaces I visit – everywhere from corporate office towers to government departments and blue-collar work sites – is strikingly similar to the behaviour of addicted lab rats.

How Toxic People Wage Emotional Warfare On Others

Expect emotional warfare where there are high-conflict people. High-conflict people dominate by sowing division, at all levels of society — from school boards to state governments.

How Social Narratives Stop Us From Being Happy

Many of us are trying to fit into existing roles that aren't specially crafted for us, and, as a result, we don't fit perfectly in them. This causes us a lot of stress and anxiety.

Why Everyone Should Know Their Attachment Style

Why Everyone Should Know Their Attachment Style
If you’ve suffered from anxiety, depression or relationship problems, a psychological theory called “attachment theory” can help you get to the root cause of your difficulties and give you a greater understanding of what’s going on.

Look Within and Ask: "How Does This Also Apply To Me?"

Look Within and Ask: "How Does This Also Apply To Me?"Have you ever found yourself wanting to 'fix' people? You know... when you can clearly see everything that's wrong with them and want to reorganize them and their life? It seems so easy for us to look at someone else and see everything that they need to do to improve themselves. It seems so easy to 'fix' someone else...

Brain Scans Offer Clues To Extremist Violence

Brain Scans Offer Clues To Extremist Violence

To gain insight into the psychology of radicalization and terrorist violence, researchers scanned the brains of men who support a terrorist organization associated with Al Qaeda.

Passive Violence Fuels The Fire Of Physical Violence

Our Passive Violence Fuels The Fire Of Physical ViolenceThe best way to understand Gandhi's philosophy of nonviolence is to first understand the extent of the violence we practice, consciously or unconsciously, every day of our lives -- name-calling, teasing, insulting, disrespectful behavior. These are passive forms of violence.

Childhood Trauma And Its Lasting Effects

Childhood Trauma And Its Lasting Effects

With the awakening in society of the importance of mental health, combined with advances in neuroscience and psychiatry, much needed attention to trauma and childhood trauma is slowly forming.

Becoming Authentically Yourself by Seeing and Transforming Your Patterns

Becoming Authentically Yourself by Seeing and Transforming Your PatternsBy the time we are adults, we have so much writing on our walls and we have so many old wounds from unresolved experiences that many of our responses are automatically negative. They perpetuate events that are not the best outcome and instead, they serve only to reinforce our initial learning from a time long ago.

Why Hope is Trustworthy

Why Hope is TrustworthyYou don’t have to create adverse circumstances to find a reason to do what you wish to do or avoid what you do not wish to do. Just be honest. If you have a difficult decision before you, ask yourself, “What am I hoping will happen?” In the answer is your guide to your likely best path.

The Perils and "Benefits" of Manipulation: Why and How to Avoid It

The Perils and "Benefits" of Manipulation: Why and How to Avoid ItWe can define manipulation as "getting people to do what you want without giving them something they value in return". How does manipulation work? When someone says to you, "If you don't help me clean my house I'm going to be mad at you," that person is attempting to manipulate you. He is not offering you anything...

How High-Conflict Personalities Capture High Office

High-conflict personalities possesses 4 qualities that may encourage them to become politicians. - Overly emotional communication suits high-conflict personalities and drives the media to cover them.

For Some People, Anxiety And Phobias Are Taken To Extremes

For Some People, Anxiety And Phobias Are Taken To Extremes

Anxiety is a common experience. It is entirely normal to feel anxious in certain circumstances or when imagining possible misfortunes. However, for some people it gets out of hand and severely affects their lives; and a useful, normal emotion becomes pathological.

What Is A Visionary Activist? Can You Be One?

What Is A Visionary Activist? How Can You Be One?A visionary activist understands that their every thought, feeling, word, and action generates a ripple effect throughout the field of consciousness, unlimited by space and time. He/she is committed to focusing their energy towards positive change in world. They are obsessed with achieving one impossible goal, from the inside out.

The Faith Factor: Practice Trust and Somehow It Will Work Out

The Faith Factor: Somehow It Will Work Out by Alan CohenHave you ever noticed that when you are impatient, frazzled, and upset, things go worse, and when you are relaxed, patient, and trusting, things go better. Thinking and acting with faith changes the results you get. When you find yourself in a situation in which you seem to have no control, point your thoughts toward peace, and the universe responds.

You Have The Key to the Happiness You So Deeply Desire

Nobody Owes Me A ThingHow many of you have felt stress, anger, resentment, and a range of other emotions when you felt that somebody had not given you what you thought they should have given you. Some of us have a deep-seated belief that...

How Sleep Loss Leads To Contagious Loneliness

How Sleep Loss Leads To Contagious Loneliness

Sleep-deprived people feel lonelier and less inclined to engage with others, avoiding close contact in much the same way as people with social anxiety, according to a new study.

Do You Have A Self-Actualized Personality?

Do You Have A Self-Actualised Personality?
Abraham Maslow was the 20th-century American psychologist best-known for explaining motivation through his hierarchy of needs, which he represented in a pyramid.

How To Distinguish A Psychopath From A Shy-Chopath

How To Distinguish A Psychopath From A Shy-Chopath
Their grisly deeds and commanding presence attract our attention – look no further than Ted Bundy, the subject of a recent Netflix documentary, and cult leaders like Charles Manson.

The New Roots of Human Suffering and Pain

The New Roots of Human Suffering and Pain
In recent decades researchers have made great strides in understanding physical pain. It now seems that we experience much of the physical pain we do because our brains calculate that this sensation is important to our overall security and survival. Pain protects us from potential damage, or motivates us to attend to and repair damage already done.

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
In the fairy tale Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, every day the Wicked Queen would ask "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest one of all?" As long as the mirror said that she was the most beautiful of all women, all was well in her world.

The Writing On Our Wall: The Subconscious Mind Is Running The Show

The Writing On Our Wall: The Subconscious Mind Is Running The Show
With our subconscious mind running the show 95% of the time, our fate is actually under the control of our recorded programs or habits we may not even know about or that are not of our own choos­ing. The “writing on our wall” is again a term I use to describe the downloaded information and programming that is recorded on the subconscious mind.

How To Nudge People Towards Changing Behavior

How To Nudge People Towards Changing Behavior

Earlier this week an impressive cast of academics, policy experts and business leaders gathered in Sydney at the inaugural Behavioural Exchange meeting to talk about “nudgeEarlier this week an impressive cast of academic

Secrets and Lies: A Barrier to Authenticity and Peace of Mind

Secrets and Lies: A Barrier to Authenticity
A good way to let go of unconscious beliefs and to see yourself more honestly is to examine the secrets you keep from others. Consider this: the fact that you have secrets is the same thing as affirming, "If people really knew me, they wouldn't accept me".

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