Commitment: How Do We Know What to Commit To?

 

Commitment: How Do We Know What to Commit To?

Sometimes it seems that commitment is a four-letter word. It is a word that oftentimes brings up fear as well as insecurity and doubt. What is the underlying fear to committing ourselves to an action, project, or relationship? Is it...

How We've Created Duality and Separation, and What To Do About It

 How We've Created Duality and Separation... And What To Do About It

Instead of embracing change and uniqueness, we are raised to fear both. Our conditioned ego asks that we expend huge amounts of energy trying to create a false sense of security and stability. It chides us mercilessly if we attempt to break out of the dysfunctional norms that our culture has placed on us.

Mask-Shaming Won’t Work. Try These 5 Things Instead

Mask-Shaming Won’t Work. Try These 5 Things Instead

As the COVID-19 pandemic rages on, many people have found themselves serving as armchair epidemiologists and pundits, tracking the virus, projecting the future, and browbeating people who refuse to stay home or wear masks.

Why People Are Missing Their Daily Commute

Why People Are Missing Their Daily Commute

The COVID-19 pandemic has sparked a unique experiment in mass homeworking. It’s the first time since before the industrial revolution that most people are working in the same space that they live.

Why The Coronavirus Pandemic Became Florida's Perfect Storm

Why The Coronavirus Pandemic Became Florida's Perfect Storm

Florida is an international crossroads, a magnet for tourists and retirees, and its population is older, sicker and more likely to be exposed to COVID-19 on the job than the country as a whole.

Personality Can Predict Who's A Rule-follower And Who Flouts Guidelines

Personality Can Predict Who's A Rule-follower And Who Flouts Guidelines

As states struggle to get the COVID-19 balance right – between eased restrictions and rising infection rates – it falls to individuals to abide by mask-wearing rules and to maintain six feet of distance between themselves and others when out and about.

Being Vulnerable: Being Willing to Give and Receive Love

Being Vulnerable: Stepping Out From Behind Our Walls

Living behind a glass wall can be lonely. You can see the others out there, yet you somehow remain separated from them. Your wall may be called "I'm not good enough" or "No one understands me or loves me". These glass walls have a way of magnifying the negative. Yet whatever you see through the wall is only the...

How Our Brains Can Be Manipulated To Tribalism

How Our Brains Can Be Manipulated To Tribalism

Tribalism has become a signature of America within and without since the election of President Trump. The nation has parted ways with international allies, left the rest of the world in their effort to fight the climate change, and most recently the pandemic, by leaving the World Health Organization.

How To Create A Less Resistant Relationship With Life

How To Create A Less Resistant Relationship With Life

What’s important to appreciate about resistance is that it is often not intentional but the result of what’s going on in the more subtle, hidden parts of your unconscious mind. Most people I meet are usually aware of the surface-level results of resistance, but they live unaware of the underlying reasons as to why they resist and end up feeling the way they do.

What Evolution Tells Us About Our Need For Personal Space

What Evolution Tells Us About Our Need For Personal Space

Humans are intensely social creatures. We all need company and social contact. But for many of us, being at home for long periods with a small group of people – even those we love best – can become frustrating.

3 Ways People Are Reacting To Coronavirus Emergency

3 Ways People Are Reacting To Coronavirus Emergency

There remains near-universal backing for the coronavirus lockdown among the UK public. In our study, nine out of ten people support the measures, including seven out of ten who strongly support them.

Can't Sleep And Feeling Anxious?

Can't Sleep And Feeling Anxious About Coronavirus?

This is a confusing and, frankly, scary time for a lot of us. There’s so much contradictory information, and the “right” thing to do yesterday is now the “wrong” thing to do today.

Creating A New Worldview and Culture: Women Are The Future

Creating A New Worldview and Culture: Women Are The Future

The Dalai Lama caused quite a stir at the 2009 Peace Summit in Vancouver. He said that “the world would be saved by Western women.” His statement received a range of responses, but many women found it empowering, and it catalyzed women-focused initiatives.

Why Wear Face Masks In Public? Here's What The Research Shows

Why Wear Face Masks In Public? Here's What The Research Shows

With the coronavirus pandemic quickly spreading, U.S. health officials have changed their advice on face masks and now recommend people wear cloth masks in public areas where social distancing can be difficult, such as grocery stores.

Attention Please! Love Needed!

Attention Please! Love Needed!
People who are starved for love go out and try to get attention! Now some people may do that by becoming prominent in a constructive way by being in theater, media, or the top in their field. Others choose another route.

Why People Need Rituals, Especially In Times Of Uncertainty

Why People Need Rituals, Especially In Times Of Uncertainty

Responding to the coronavirus pandemic, most American universities have suspended all campus activities. Like millions of people all around the world, the lives of students all over the U.S. has changed overnight.

What's Really Going On and What Do We Do About It?

What's Really Going On and What Do We Do About It?
So, who knows exactly what's going on right now? I've reviewed videos, read blogs and articles and books, accessed a variety of news sources, mainstream and sidestream, watched YouTube videos of doctors and economists, listened to informed and anxious friends, and I'm no closer to knowing for sure than before.

How To Make Accurate Decisions When Things Are Moving Fast

How To Make Accurate Decisions When Things Are Moving Fast
Thinking under extreme time pressure is not optimal, but it is inevita­ble that we will find ourselves in this situation at times. It is always best not to rush and get seduced by mental short­cuts. Use all the time available to you in making a decision.

Do You Need Approval and Validation?

Do You Need Approval and Validation?
I once worked for a rather abusive woman who constantly berated, belittled and badgered her employees -- me included. If any of us sought to stand up for ourselves, we were chastised and told in no uncertain terms that we were insecure whiners who should appreciate we had a job in the first place.

How To Actually Stop Touching Your Face

How To Actually Stop Touching Your Face

Health care professionals keep say to avoid touching your face as protection from COVID-19, but it’s a lot easier said than done.

How Behaviour Can Help Control The Spread Of COVID-19

How Behaviour Can Help Control The Spread Of COVID-19

Amid the carnage of the First World War, a flu epidemic took hold in the front-line trenches and subsequently spread around the world, infecting one-quarter of the world’s total population and ultimately killing more people than the war itself.

Digging in the Dung: Turning Tragedy and Pain into Insights and Wisdom

Digging in the Dung: Turning Tragedy and Pain into Insights and Wisdom
Unpleasant things happen in life. They happen to everyone. The only difference between a happy person and one who gets depressed is how they respond to disasters. Imagine you have just had a wonderful afternoon and when you return home, you find a huge truckload of dung has been dumped right in front of your door...

What We Don’t Understand About Young People’s Motivations

What We Don't Understand About Young People's Motivations

Young people are demanding change. In the last few days, young Indigenous activists and their supporters blocked parliamentarians in Victoria, B.C., from accessing the provincial legislature and led waves of protest across the country. 

Even Very Young Children Can Become Prejudiced

Even Very Young Children Can Become Prejudiced

Racism has negative consequences for children’s health. It harms the kids who experience it personally and those who witness it, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics, an organization that represents 67,000 doctors who treat children.

What Does Gambling Responsibly Actually Mean?

What Does Gamble Responsibly Actually Mean?
Advertisements for gambling and online betting tell us to “gamble responsibly”. But what does this mean in reality? And how can you gamble responsibly online when another bet is just a click or swipe away?

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