Anger as a Tool for Growth, not for Destruction

Anger as a Tool for Growth, not for Destruction

Everyone gets angry. Some people show it openly and others don't. In relationship, anger can be either healthy or unhealthy. How you process it is what determines whether it becomes a tool for growth or a source of pain and destruction.

How To Deal With Anger and Let It Go

How To Let Go Of Anger

One feeling in particular merits a special note: anger. If this feeling is a problem for you, you're not alone. It seems that modern life is full of poor expressions of anger.

Notice Your Anger: It Is A Path to Awareness

Notice Your Anger: It Is A Path to Awareness

If we could see our angry emotional reactions clearly, it would become obvious that they deplete us and narrow our life. Yet, in spite of the fact that we hurt ourselves and others with our anger, we hold on to this restricting emotion with a puzzling tenacity.

Why It Is OK To Vent, Sometimes

Why It Is OK To Vent, Sometimes

The COVID-19 pandemic is different from many crises in that it has affected all of us regardless of politics, economics, religion, age or nationality.

How and Why To Become More Tolerant and Patient

Changing Our Attitude: Becoming More Tolerant & Patient
First of all, most of us have views and opinions about everything and everyone. Because of this tendency to judge, we are continually deciding whether we approve of or like each experience as it occurs. Wherever we go and whatever we do, our internal "critic" is saying, "I don't like this," or "I don't approve of that."

Anger Obscures Your Mind and Leads You to Danger

Following Anger & Desire Brings No Satisfaction
There is no mental peace when you do not control your mind but instead follow anger. There is peace, however, when you apply the meditations and teachings of the graduated path to enlightenment in your daily life and control your mind by practicing patience, loving kindness, and compassion.

Finally Dissipating the Rage: Lessons I Learned

Finally Dissipating the Rage: Lessons I Learned
Prior to about the age of nine and a half, I don't recall being a rage-filled kid. In fact, I remember being quite sensitive and frightened for the most part, with a general anxiety about living in the world. However, something occurred when I was nine and a half that set up a pattern for future behavior...

How To Let Go of Anger and Hatred and Create Loving-Friendliness

How To Let Go of Anger and Hatred and Create Loving-Friendliness
We can replace angry or hostile thoughts with thoughts of loving-friendliness. Loving-friendliness radiates to the whole world the wish that all beings enjoy a comfortable life with harmony, mutual appreciation, and appropriate abundance. Though we all have the seed of loving-friendliness within us, we must make the effort to cultivate it.

How To Transform Negative Events Into Loving-Kindness and Acceptance

How To Transform Negative Events and Negative People Into A Positive Spiritual Response
We have the strongest karmic connections with family members; therefore, we have a great responsibility for developing our relationships with them. If we cannot develop loving-kindness towards our family, why even talk about other being. Zen Buddhism teaches that everything we do, provided it is done with total awareness, is spiritual activity.

5 Effective Ways to Deal with Your Frustrations

5 Effective Ways to Deal with Your Frustrations
What transforms an irksome situation or event into frustration? It's our expectations, our "shoulds" that cause aggravation. Your wife should have an awareness about her eating habits. Drivers should be considerate of other drivers' needs. Your son should learn how to develop tidy habits.

How To Remove "The Anger Response" From Your Life

Removing Anger From Your Life
A commitment to an anger-free life involves signing up for a new journey. Deciding to actually enjoy this journey will make it much more pleasant. Learn to think of life as a process. If you focus only on goals, you are not going to be happy until you have achieved them.

How To Respond to Criticism Without Being Defensive

How To Respond to Criticism Without Being Defensive
In an actual war, to be attacked means to have our survival threatened. Thus, we might chose between surrender, withdrawal, or counterattack. When we feel attacked (criticized or judged) by others in conversation, we often move into that same...

Just Say NO to Negativity!

Just Say NO to NegativityWhen we don't express our anger constructively, we go negative with our judgments and feel mad because the world isn't living up to our expectations. Over the years, this becomes the lens through which we view the world. Instead of dealing with our emotions...



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