Do Generalizations Serve Us?

Generalizations Don’t Serve Us

For over forty years my spiritual teachers have been remarkable individuals residing in the spiritual realms. Through my clairvoyance and clairaudience I have been able to see and converse with these extraordinary beings. When they first started to teach me, every time I spoke in a generalization I was corrected, until I started to become self-observing and self-correcting. It was emphasized that the inaccuracy of generalizations lead to much confusion in our attitudes, which then translates into inappropriate actions.

Since the early days of my training, I’ve learned to pay very close attention to how people speak and write and have discovered that expressed generalizations are all too common. Whether they involve attitudes about a whole group of people, believing that gentleness is always best, or that if we are loving to others they will be loving to us.

Bend Like A Willow and Be Steady Like An Oak

My guides say, “Be like a zephyr, be like a hurricane, bend like a willow and steady like an oak,” Fitting thoughts, words, and actions are always situational. My guides also say, “Only spiritual principles are consistent, everything else must vary.” You can’t have too much compassion or too much clarity, but you can have too much action or too much patience. I’ve been taught that when we get stuck in the repetition of an action or attitude that is not based in spiritual principles we create internal blocks and external conflict.

I’ve noticed that it’s not so unusual for people who have a significant personal experience to conclude that the same recipe of attitudes and actions is equally beneficial for others. But not necessarily. An example is the huge number of books written about the correct diet we humans should eat.

Why should there be one best diet? When we live in different climates, have different body types, diverse genetic backgrounds, and varying degrees of health. Physically we are not identical. So why should we have an identical diet?

I love muscle testing to determine the diet that is right for me and others. I have muscle tested large numbers of people for foods to determine what is best. One person will have muscle weakness from wheat, while another person will be strengthened.

Broad Sweeping Generalizations in our Culture

Broad sweeping generalizations often find there way into our cultural philosophy of life. Such as, it is best to be rich and famous or winning competitions will prove our value. However, our deepest desires and our deepest concerns are not necessarily the same. I have worked with thousands of people through the years and have observed remarkable individuality even at the deepest levels of our identity.

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Why is this an important topic to write about? The simple mistake of projecting our experiential conclusions on others is a key problem in not understanding each other, causing a pattern of discomfort with diversity and looking for camaraderie by searching for sameness, rather than understanding that all humans are variations on a theme.

I remember once being told that I could not understand another through my own experience, but needed to learn to project my consciousness into them to learn about their perspective, like the concept of walking in another’s shoes. Image a world where it is understood that difference in people is the norm and does not need to be threatening. We don’t need to eat the same, talk the same, create the same, and look the same.

My guides advise paying close attention to what is “universal” and what is “unique”. Universally we all have value and purpose. We are all on the earth to learn to actualize our deepest nature and to contribute our creativity to the wheel of life.

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The Infinite View: A Guidebook for Life on Earth by Ellen Tadd.The Infinite View offers tools and insights needed to help readers transform their understanding of themselves and the world around them. People often lean towards either trusting their gut or relying on their analytical mind, but Ellen urges readers to consider a new approach that allows both emotions and the intellect to be guided by wisdom. Through describing how the Spirit, soul, and personality are integrated, she guides readers in deepening and expanding their perceptions to discover practical solutions to everyday challenges.

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Ellen TaddEllen Tadd is an internationally known clairvoyant counselor who has been teaching and counseling for more than forty years. Her work has been supported by the Edgar Cayce Foundation, the Marion Institute, Deepak Chopra, Child Spirit Institute, the Institute of Noetic Sciences, and the Boston Center for Adult Education, among others. Her work has been covered in Newsweek, and Ellen has lectured across the country at colleges, universities, hospitals, and community groups. Her first book, Death and Letting Go, appeared on the Boston Globe bestseller list.

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