Why You Should Make a Fool of Yourself at Least Once A Day

Making a Fool of Yourself at Least Once Every DayHow many times have you had a good idea only to keep it to yourself for fear of looking like a crackpot? Well, this fear of appealing foolish is crippling. Worrying what other people think squelches our joy, our fun, and all those good ideas our planet needs.

Why Drinking To Forget Could Make PTSD Worse

Why Drinking To Forget Could Make PTSD WorseDrinking to forget may make the fearful memories associated with post-traumatic stress disorder worse, not better, experiments with mice suggest.

Can We Learn Important Lessons Without Having To Go Through Ordeals?

You Don’t Always Have to Learn the Hard WayHow can we learn the important lessons without having to go through an ordeal? We don’t have to take ourselves to the edge of death, because if we listen to what’s happening and act on it, then we can learn the lesson just as well. After all, there are several ways to learn...

How To Keep Your Angry Social Media Posts In Check

How To Keep Your Angry Social Media Posts In CheckA study that investigated how messages containing different emotions spread across social networks found that “anger is more influential than other emotions like joy, which indicates that angry tweets can spread quickly and broadly in the network”.

What Is Empathy And Why Do We Need It?

What Is Empathy And Why Do We Need It?Empathy is the ability to share and understand the emotions of others. It is a construct of multiple components, each of which is associated with its own brain network.

The Science Of How We Become Entrenched In Our Views

The Science Of How We Become Entrenched In Our ViewsFinally a new year is here after the most politically divisive 12 months in a very long time. In the UK, Brexit shattered dreams and friendships. In the US, the polarisation was already huge, but a bitter election campaign made the divisions even deeper.

7 Ways That Communicating Risk Can Fail

7 Ways That Communicating Risk Can FailMany public conversations we have about science-related issues involve communicating risks: describing them, comparing them and trying to inspire action to avoid or mitigate them.

Why Are Young Women Without Wrinkles Using Botox?

Why Are Young Women Without Wrinkles Using Botox?The battle against wrinkles has lasted for centuries. Long before surgical facelifts, people ingested powders and potions, stretched their faces using thread and tape, and rubbed their skin with Crisco, acid and animal blood to fight the signs of aging.

Imposter Syndrome: If They Really Knew Who I Am...

Imposter Syndrome: If They Really Knew Who I Am...A very common example of the ubiquitous nature of the critic is the phenomenon of “imposter syndrome” — the feeling that you don’t deserve to be where you are in life. It’s estimated that 70 percent of people have imposter syndrome.

Why And When Phobias Are Contagious

Laura Lewis, Claustrophobia IVMost of us have something we say we’re afraid of, whether it be spiders, needles, or something more unusual like zombies.

Why Higher Education Doesn't Mean Higher Levels Of Tolerance

Why Higher Education Doesn't Mean Higher Levels Of ToleranceIt’s often said that a person’s tolerance rises with their education level. So on this basis, the higher a person’s educational attainment is, the more likely they are to accept racial or ethnic minorities.

Why The Color Red Became So Powerful

Why The Color Red Became So PowerfulWho gets to walk on the red carpet? What makes red-letter days so special? Where is the red line that must not be crossed?

Self-Image: “I Can Do It” vs. “I’m No Good at This”

Self-Image: “I Can Do It” vs. “I’m No Good at This”If you’ve only ever seen yourself as unsure and perhaps your self-esteem is not strong, you may be more vulnerable to becoming overwhelmed by fear—stressed by the worry that your pain might devolve into a worst case scenario of unknown proportions.

How To Break Out Of Your Echo Chamber

echo chamber 12 14On average, Americans spend 50 minutes a day on Facebook. That’s a lot of online socializing. It’s also about the same amount of time workers take for their lunch break.

How To Hate Neoliberalism But Love Each Other

How To Hate Neoliberalism But Love Each OtherWorldwide, it has been a rough year for democracy. Citizens in the UK, the United States and Colombia made critical decisions about their nations’ future, and – at least from the perspective of liberal values and social justice – they decided poorly.

Why Overconfident CEOs Are Less Socially Responsible

Why Overconfident CEOs Are Less Socially ResponsibleOverconfident CEOs tend to lead to less corporate social responsibility in a company, our research shows. The more confident the CEO, the less their firm invests in activity that has a positive impact on society.

The Psychology Behind Christmas TV Advertising

The Psychology Behind Christmas TV AdvertisingChristmas is traditionally a time for giving. And for most of us, giving means buying – the perfect excuse for major retailers to conduct an advertising assault that pulls on our heart strings and empties our pockets.

8 Strategies for Confronting Hate That Don’t Involve a Safety Pin

8 Strategies for Confronting Hate That Don’t Involve a Safety PinThere’s no denying it anymore: Hatred is erupting all over the United States, after having long simmered beneath the social surface. In the face of such upheaval, how can you prepare to protect those who are being threatened—to stand up for the worth and dignity of every person, even when it’s uncomfortable or scary?

How To Release and Eliminate Fear & Anxiety

How To Release Fear & Anxiety, article by Jonathan ParkerToday many fears seem woven into the very fabric of our society, such as fear of terrorism, fear of epidemics, fear of a bad economy, fear of commitment, and fear of losing a job, as well as fear of being separated from people we love, fear of loved ones dying, and the all-encompassing fear of the future...

The Critics in Your Head Are Not You -- or Your Partner

The Critics in Your Head Are Not You -- or Your Partner You have a constant stream of thoughts running through your mind, and we use the term “inner critics” to describe the thoughts that criticize you or tell you that you should be ashamed or feel guilty if you do what you want to do.

These Are The Characteristics Of People Most Likely To Cut Corners At Work

These Are The Characteristics Of People Most Likely To Cut Corners At WorkIn a newly published study, we found that employees who “cut corners” tend to be morally compromised, low in conscientiousness, self-focused and impulsive. This in addition to the potential for corner-cutting to increase risks.

Why US Racism Runs Far Deeper Than Trump's White Supremacist Fans

Why US Racism Runs Far Deeper Than Trump's White Supremacist FansDonald Trump’s astonishing rise to the presidency has put racism at the heart of American politics. But it’s important not to overstate America’s progress during the Obama years, nor to ignore the ways in which racism extends far beyond...

How To Replace Old Mind Tapes with New Thoughts

How To Replace Old Mind Tapes with New ThoughtsOf the approximately sixty to seventy thousand thoughts we have each day, most of them are exactly the same as the thoughts we had yesterday. Not incidentally, most of these thoughts seem to be negative or critical, which is why...

There Are Many Unsuspected Heroes Among Us

There Are Many Unsuspected Heroes Among UsIn 1960, I was fourteen years old and my mother was the first civil rights activist that I knew. She did not march the streets. She lived her beliefs. She had Blacks, Muslims, Gays and other minorities over to our house for dinner almost every Sunday.

Gender Outranks Race When Kids Describe Themselves

Gender Outranks Race When Kids Describe ThemselvesKids ages 7 to 12 rate gender as more important to their social identities than race, say researchers. The research also suggests children of color think about race differently than their white peers do.

6 Ways To Avoid A Holiday Financial Hangover

stop overspendingThe shopping frenzy of Black Friday and Cyber Monday are the starting gun for many to the annual ritual of excessive spending over the Christmas period. The average Black Friday consumer is expected to spend £203 ($252 US) on the day this year, double last year’s figure.

Digging in the Dung: Turning Tragedy and Pain into Insights and Wisdom

Digging in the Dung: Turning Tragedy and Pain into Insights and WisdomUnpleasant things happen in life. They happen to everyone. The only difference between a happy person and one who gets depressed is how they respond to disasters. Imagine you have just had a wonderful afternoon and when you return home, you find a huge truckload of dung has been dumped right in front of your door...

Taking the Vulnerable Path to Achieve Authentic Long-term Success

Taking the Vulnerable Path to Achieve Authentic Long-term SuccessWhen we allow our fears to drive our choices, the actions we do not take and the opportunities we allow to pass us by are symbolic of us rejecting the life we genuinely desire. Conversely, when we find the courage to face our fears directly...

Why Friends And Parents Play A Big Part In Making A Criminal

Why Friends And Parents Play A Big Part In Making A CriminalFor most of us, the fear of punishment or social rejection keeps us from behaviour deemed unacceptable and prevents us from committing crimes. But how many would transgress if they knew they could get away with it?

I'm Grateful... But...

I'm Grateful... But...As I reflect on the tradition of Thanksgiving, I am reminded that Thanksgiving needs to take place every day, and every single moment of the day. Maybe that's what mindful meditation is all about... remembering to be grateful and appreciative...

How Confirmation Bias Helps Explain Why Pundits Got The Election Wrong

How Confirmation Bias Helps Explain Why Pundits Got The Election WrongAs post mortems of the 2016 presidential election began to roll in, fingers started pointing to what psychologists call the confirmation bias as one reason many of the polls and pundits were wrong in their predictions of which candidate would end up victorious.

5 Ways to Handle Difficult Emotional Situations

5 Ways to Handle Difficult Emotional SituationsLearning healthy ways—a collection of skills that researchers call resilience—to move through adversity can help us cope better and recover more quickly, or at least start heading in that direction.

Why It Is Useful To Understand The Role Of Genetics In Behavior

Why It Is Useful To Understand The Role Of Genetics In BehaviorScientists have studied twins for many years to understand how genes and environments influence differences among individuals, spanning conditions such as cancer and mental health to characteristics such as intelligence and political beliefs.

Opening Your Heart Wider Than Your Fears

Opening Your Heart Wider Than Your FearsFor years I understood the concepts of loving more and unconditional acceptance. I knew the woman I wanted to be: more loving, more accepting, more compassionate. But in day-to-day living I struggled with keeping my heart open, especially when I felt afraid...

In the Crossfire: Bilingual in Québec

In the Crossfire: Bilingual in Québec Throughout primary school, I became accustomed to being in the crossfire of two opposing camps. When a French friend would insult my English friend, I would raise my hand, step forward, and launch into my own variation of Martin Luther King Jr’s “I have a dream” speech...

Why There Is No Healing Without Grief

Why There Is No Healing Without GriefFor many women, people of color, LGBTQ people, Muslims and immigrants, the victory of Donald Trump seems to have endorsed discrimination against them.

Does It Really Pay To Be Generous?

Does It Really Pay To Be Generous?What do you look for in a partner? Surely that depends on what the partner is for – you’d probably want a business partner to be innovative, a choir buddy to be musical and a romantic partner to be attractive and funny.

Use Your IGS To Move From Fear, Anxiety, Stress, and Reaction

Use Your IGS To Move From Fear, Anxiety, Stress, and ReactionMahatma Gandhi once instructed his devotees to “be the change you wish to see in the world.” His point was: don’t identify the problems of the world and kvetch over the short­comings of humanity. He advocated instead actively embody­ing the higher qualities of being...

To Deal With Election Anger, Try A Little Tenderness and Neuroscience

To Deal With Election Anger Try A Little TendernessThe vitriolic presidential campaign left many of us feeling anger, and the election of Donald J. Trump as President hasn’t erased it. Hearing about or seeing vicious personal attacks, criticism of parents who have lost a child to war, accusations of fraud and talk of sexual assault have affected our psyches, souls and bodies.

Healing our World: One Individual, One Family, One Nation at a Time

Healing our World: One Individual, One Family, One Nation at a TimeWhat we’re being called to do as a species before we either destroy ourselves or most of life on our planet is to meet ourselves fully. We must have the courage to meet our own prejudices and encounter every single place within us that would rather resort to blame than to face the collective human pain body.

The Fortress Complex: How The West Became Obsessed With Home Security

The Fortress Complex: How The West Became Obsessed With Home SecurityThat famous phrase, “an man’s home is his castle”, neatly captures longstanding ideas about what the private home really is: a place which we can control and defend, a private territory where we decide who enters and who doesn’t.

Humane Business: Giving Back Is The Future

Humane Business: Giving Back Is The FutureThe desire to create a more humane business often coincides with the desire to be a force for good in the world. This reflects the higher purpose we feel emerging inside us as a result of greater self-awareness. Such increased self-awareness eventually expands to include the surrounding community and the world as a whole...

Why You Shouldn't Blame Lying On The Brain

Why You Shouldn't Blame Lying On The BrainThe recent finding that telling lies induces changes in the brain has stimulated a number of misrepresentations that may wreak more harm on our understanding than the lies on which they report.

Why We're Obsessed With And Afraid Of Monsters

Why We're Obsessed With And Afraid Of MonstersFear continues to saturate our lives: fear of nuclear destruction, fear of climate change, fear of the subversive, and fear of foreigners.

How To Overcome Exam Anxiety

How To Overcome Exam AnxietyDo you feel like your mind freezes during exams? Do you find yourself thinking “I really can’t do this”? Does your heart race fast or do you find it hard to breathe during exams?

The Real Reason Clowns Scare Us

The Real Reason Clowns Scare UsThis Halloween may be the scariest in a long time. Facing the usual huge crowds of zombies, witches and vampires, deep down, many of us most fear running into one of the “killer clowns” that have been spotted in creepy places across the world over the past few months.

Wherever You Look, Looking is the Key

Wherever You Look, Looking is the KeyThere is a story that has kept popping up in my work over the years. It is one of the tales of Nasruddin, a Sufi amalgam of wise man and fool. He has the peculiar gift of both acting out our basic confusion and at the same time opening us up to our deeper wisdom.

Learning That People Can Develop And Change Boosts Cooperation

Learning That People Can Develop And Change Boosts CooperationA research team of psychologists has found that teaching Jewish-Israeli and Palestinian-Israeli teenagers that groups are generally capable of change—without ever mentioning a specific adversary—can significantly improve their ability to cooperate.

Why We Go Crazy For The Gross Stuff On Halloween

Why We Go Crazy For The Gross Stuff On HalloweenHalloween is a chance to seek out the spooky, as well as the gross and horrifying. We enjoy the emotional rush—free of any actual danger—from both, says Daniel Kelly.

Why Male Chauvinism Appeals To Some Voters More Than Others

Why Male Chauvinism Appeals To Some Voters More Than OthersEven after mounting evidence of Donald Trump’s exploitative and demeaning treatment of women, his standing in the polls still hovers above 40%. On the face of it that’s more than a little shocking – but less surprising is the gender split among his supporters.

Early Fear Of Abandonment May Harm Adult Health

Early Fear Of Abandonment May Harm Adult HealthA new study shows low socioeconomic status and fear of abandonment early in life can lead to poor health in adulthood—regardless of adult socioeconomic status.

Fear is a Thought Monster Ruling the Peanut Gallery in Your Head

Fear is a Thought Monster Ruling the Peanut Gallery in Your HeadHow often in your life have you avoided doing something because of the terrifying story you concocted in your head? Maybe you avoid flying or swimming in the ocean (amazing how the film Jaws forced many of us back on to the beach). We’ve learned to tell ourselves the story of fear so well...

Why People Don't Evacuate Before A Major Storm

Army National Guardsmen help residents evacuate their homes in Fayetteville, North Carolina on Oct. 8. U.S. Army National Guard/Flickr, CC BYAs Hurricane Matthew approached the Atlantic coast earlier this month, more than 2.5 million people were told to evacuate in Florida, Georgia, South Carolina and North Carolina.

Why Narcissists Are More Likely To Break The Rules

Why Narcissists Are More Likely To Break The RulesWhat drives professional sportspeople to break the rules of the game? And what makes them believe, or hope, that they won’t get caught? Or think that their actions will bring glory to them and their team?

What Determines Whether You're A Night Owl Or Early Bird?

What Determines Whether You're A Night Owl Or Early Bird?Sleep is critical for physical and mental health, and our quality of life. While 3% of the population are genetically programmed to function with less than six hours sleep regularly, the rest of us need around 7.5 hours a night. But what determines whether we like to go to bed early or late?

How Do Children Develop A Sense Of Self?

How Do Children Develop A Sense Of Self?From the moment they are born, babies are exposed to information that can teach them about who they are. By touching their own face and body, or by kicking and grabbing things, they start to enjoy the influence of their actions on the world.

Do People With Autism Make More Logical Decisions?

autism 10 17Decisions are based on the way choices are framed. This is because people use emotion when making decisions, leading to some options feeling more desirable than others.

Getting Comfortable in Your Own Skin

Getting Comfortable in Your Own SkinThe best way to move into authenticity with ease is to roll up your sleeves and get comfortable in your own skin. No one even has to be around for this to start, it’s just about you being comfortable with yourself.

How Not To Be A Moral Hypocrite

Quick to point fingers? Gary PerkinA few years ago, I discovered that a friend was cheating on their partner. This immediately blackened my perception of my friend. Then I remembered that I had done something quite similar some years earlier.

Empathy: A Powerful Tool That Can Be Overwhelming & Confusing

Empathy: A Powerful Tool That Can Be Overwhelming & ConfusingWithout knowledge of what’s happening, sensitive individuals may grow up coping in unsatisfying ways. But this doesn’t have to be the case. For someone who is highly empathic, refining and modulating this deep way of knowing involves several keys...

Step Aside and Experience a Miracle in the Making

Step Aside and Experience  a Miracle in the MakingI began the practice of “stepping aside” only after years of step­ping into business that was clearly not my own. I had mistak­enly assumed that helping others make their decisions was an important calling. It showed them I cared. It was my way of remaining important to them. Or so I thought . . .

Slaying The Dragons That Are Within & Without

Slaying The Dragons That Are Within & WithoutSmall but insidious dragons lurk to intercept us on our spiritual journey through the land of ecstasies and voids. One of these is the infamous sheltering dragon.

The Difficulty of Forgiveness: Seeing Through Their Eyes

The Difficulty of Forgiveness: Seeing Through Their EyesMost people will categorically agree that one of the most difficult emotions to express is forgiveness. More lives have been destroyed by bitterness and the inability to forgive than perhaps any other negative emotion. Even the most minuscule issues that we refuse to let go of can poison...

How Monkeys Make Friends And Influence Each Other

How Monkeys Make Friends And Influence Each OtherFor us humans, getting involved in an aggressive conflict can be costly, not only because of the risk of injury and stress, but also because it can damage precious social relationships between friends – and the same goes for monkeys and apes.

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