Pema Chödrön - Fear and Fearlessness

Pema Chödrön describes a liberating way to become intimate with our fears, instead of trying to get rid of or cast them out.

For Some People, Anxiety And Phobias Are Taken To Extremes

For Some People, Anxiety And Phobias Are Taken To Extremes

Anxiety is a common experience. It is entirely normal to feel anxious in certain circumstances or when imagining possible misfortunes. However, for some people it gets out of hand and severely affects their lives; and a useful, normal emotion becomes pathological.

Choosing Wisely During Your Day...

Choosing Wisely During Your Day...Choice is perhaps our most vital freedom. We sometimes start sentences with “Given a choice . . .” In reality, almost every waking moment offers myriad choices. Many are small and inconsequential, whereas others are life changing.

Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

Getting Comfortable with Being UncomfortableIt’s time to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. “What?” you might exclaim. “I don’t want to be uncomfortable. Isn’t the whole point of this journey to find a way to be peaceful and stress-free all the time? Isn’t being comfortable the whole point?” Yes and no.

An Infinitely Friendly Universe: The Invisible Divine Order Behind Everything

An Infinitely Friendly Universe: The Invisible Divine Order Behind EverythingI bless the amazing divine order in nature, from the tiniest molecule to the rolling of the galaxies in our stupendous universe. I bless the divine order in my life and that of my neighbor, even when to  the  human  sense of  things  this  order is  all  but apparent …

What Is A Visionary Activist? Can You Be One?

What Is A Visionary Activist? How Can You Be One?A visionary activist understands that their every thought, feeling, word, and action generates a ripple effect throughout the field of consciousness, unlimited by space and time. He/she is committed to focusing their energy towards positive change in world. They are obsessed with achieving one impossible goal, from the inside out.

How Challenging Masculine Stereotypes Is Good For Men

How Challenging Masculine Stereotypes Is Good For Men

A man sits in a doctor’s office after months of his wife’s increasingly desperate pleas for him to seek professional help for his constant coughing. In the end, she was the one who booked his appointment and even drove him there.

The Past and the Future Are The Roadblocks To Our Inner Freedom

Taming The Roadblocks To Our Inner FreedomThe great paradox of our human existence is that while we yearn for and strive after freedom, in whatever way each of us may seek to define that word, we find that we are no closer to that elusive element than were our ancestors.

Is Suicide Contagious?

Is Suicide Contagious?Over the past two weeks, two students who survived the school shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida have died by suicide, amplifying the tragedy that community has experienced.

The Faith Factor: Practice Trust and Somehow It Will Work Out

The Faith Factor: Somehow It Will Work Out by Alan CohenHave you ever noticed that when you are impatient, frazzled, and upset, things go worse, and when you are relaxed, patient, and trusting, things go better. Thinking and acting with faith changes the results you get. When you find yourself in a situation in which you seem to have no control, point your thoughts toward peace, and the universe responds.

How Compassion Can Triumph Over Toxic Childhood Trauma

How Compassion Can Triumph Over Toxic Childhood Trauma

In a piece on the television show 60 Minutes, Oprah Winfrey discussed childhood trauma — shining a public spotlight on the lasting effects of abuse and adversity in childhood. Oprah herself is a survivor of childhood abuse.

What Works For Me: Love Is All There Is

What Works For Me: Love Is All There IsYears ago, I knew someone who used to say "Love is all there is". This was his "mantra" and he repeated it often to whoever was willing to listen. At the time, I was in my twenties and his statement would aggravate me to no end. After all, how could he say that "love s all there is" when there were wars, famine, murders, crimes of all kinds, etc. etc.

You Have The Key to the Happiness You So Deeply Desire

Nobody Owes Me A ThingHow many of you have felt stress, anger, resentment, and a range of other emotions when you felt that somebody had not given you what you thought they should have given you. Some of us have a deep-seated belief that...

What Are Panic Attacks And What's Happening When We Have Them?

What Are Panic Attacks And What's Happening When We Have Them?
What would you think was happening to you if out of nowhere your heart started to race, you were drenched in sweat, you found yourself trembling uncontrollably, short of breath, with chest pain and feeling nauseated, dizzy and lightheaded as though you might faint?

Make Gratitude Great: The Daily Journal

Make Gratitude Great: The Daily Journal
No matter how stressful the day might be with six children running around, my mother's always exhibited an optimistic outlook on life. Her spirit lives in me. Her attitude of gratitude is also ingrained within her namesake, my oldest daughter, Sara Malka, who taught me a valuable tool for living an inspired life.

Gratitude Is A Powerful Way to Pray

Gratitude Is A Powerful Way to Pray
One of the most powerful ways to pray is to practice gratitude. Practicing gratitude as a form of prayer is very easy and is immediately rewarding. All you need to do is acknowledge and thank the Universe for all your blessings, whether they are...

How Sleep Loss Leads To Contagious Loneliness

How Sleep Loss Leads To Contagious Loneliness

Sleep-deprived people feel lonelier and less inclined to engage with others, avoiding close contact in much the same way as people with social anxiety, according to a new study.

Freedom from the Wounds of the Inner Child

A Wake For Your Inner Child
Our spiritual evolution depends heavily upon our recovery from our worst addiction -- our addiction to the victim archetype, which traps us in the past and saps our life energy.

Choosing to Feel Safe and Choosing to Love

Choosing to Feel Safe and Choosing to Love
We have found the primary reason most of us do not make the choice to love more freely and fully is that we feel unsafe and insecure in some way about people, relationships, love or even life itself. We fear whatever might happen if we open ourself to giving and receiving love more readily.

Do You Have A Self-Actualized Personality?

Do You Have A Self-Actualised Personality?
Abraham Maslow was the 20th-century American psychologist best-known for explaining motivation through his hierarchy of needs, which he represented in a pyramid.

How To Distinguish A Psychopath From A Shy-Chopath

How To Distinguish A Psychopath From A Shy-Chopath
Their grisly deeds and commanding presence attract our attention – look no further than Ted Bundy, the subject of a recent Netflix documentary, and cult leaders like Charles Manson.

Blast Off To Freedom by Making a Conscious Choice Away from Anger

Blast Off To Freedom: Making a Conscious Choice Away from Anger
I was aware for a long time of the miracles that resulted from practicing forgiveness and love before I tested this practice in my daily life. It was easier to talk about the philosophy of changing my perception than to actually live it, especially when...

The New Roots of Human Suffering and Pain

The New Roots of Human Suffering and Pain
In recent decades researchers have made great strides in understanding physical pain. It now seems that we experience much of the physical pain we do because our brains calculate that this sensation is important to our overall security and survival. Pain protects us from potential damage, or motivates us to attend to and repair damage already done.

Fear is the Liar -- Only Love Speaks Truth

Fear is the Liar -- Only Love Speaks Truth
A survey of top Hollywood movie studio CEO’s asked, “What do you fear most?” The most common answer was, “I am afraid that people will find out I don’t really know what I am doing.” Meanwhile these execs were turning out fabulous movies, earning many millions of dollars for their studios.

Any Fool Can Start a Fight

Any Fool Can Start a Fight
Nobody wants trouble. When confronted with a problem, keep this in mind -- that the people who initiate the conflict most likely don't want to be in that situation either. Find out the real cause of the disturbance and you may avoid...

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
In the fairy tale Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, every day the Wicked Queen would ask "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest one of all?" As long as the mirror said that she was the most beautiful of all women, all was well in her world.

How To Eliminate Blame In Your Life

How To Eliminate Blame In Your Life
Because blame can appear as every­thing from an arched eyebrow or a cynical sigh to a shouted accu­sation, identifying blame is not a simple task. And taking steps to eliminate it takes sustained effort. Here's how to deal with blame...

Non-Acceptance Is A Choice We've Learned

Non-Acceptance Is A Choice We've Learned
"I like you, do you like me?"
Isn't that how children approach one another, with total openness and acceptance? They have this pure, inno­cent way of expressing themselves, and have a completely disarming attitude like, "Hey, I want you to be my friend."

The Writing On Our Wall: The Subconscious Mind Is Running The Show

The Writing On Our Wall: The Subconscious Mind Is Running The Show
With our subconscious mind running the show 95% of the time, our fate is actually under the control of our recorded programs or habits we may not even know about or that are not of our own choos­ing. The “writing on our wall” is again a term I use to describe the downloaded information and programming that is recorded on the subconscious mind.

Four Ways To Easily Decrease Fear And Increase Peace

About Experiencing Peace Rather Than Fear
Peace is one of human's six emotions. It's the opposite of fear. When we're experiencing peace, our attention is in the present, we're relaxed, content, and our mind is still. Often it's thought that we need to meditate in order to feel peace, but it's not true. We simply have to pacify our fear and peace will naturally arise.

5 Ways To Help Parents Cope With The Trauma Of Stillbirth

5 Ways To Help Parents Cope With The Trauma Of Stillbirth
There are at least 2.6 million stillbirths a year across the world. More than 2,000 families each year suffer the loss of a stillborn baby in Australia, equating to six stillborn babies every day.

Giving Your Gift and Your Blessing: What Is Your Gift to the Earth?

Giving Your Gift: What Is Your Gift to the Earth?
Every creative venture has its moments when it would be easy to say, This is too much, it's hopeless. The person with will and determination says, This is challenging, and I will find a way to make it work. The first person is saying, I give up; the second, I will make it happen.

How To Nudge People Towards Changing Behavior

How To Nudge People Towards Changing Behavior

Earlier this week an impressive cast of academics, policy experts and business leaders gathered in Sydney at the inaugural Behavioural Exchange meeting to talk about “nudgeEarlier this week an impressive cast of academic

Secrets and Lies: A Barrier to Authenticity and Peace of Mind

Secrets and Lies: A Barrier to Authenticity
A good way to let go of unconscious beliefs and to see yourself more honestly is to examine the secrets you keep from others. Consider this: the fact that you have secrets is the same thing as affirming, "If people really knew me, they wouldn't accept me".

How To Get Out of the Blame Game

How To Get Out of the Blame Game
Most of us think of blame as the melodramatic pointing of a long, crooked finger towards one who has done scandalous wrong. Yet we're actually into blame just about every waking moment of our days. From weather, to rude drivers, to toothpaste caps, we blame from sunup 'til sundown and never think a thing about it.

Why It's Wrong To Label Students "At-Risk"

Why It's Wrong To Label Students At-risk

Of all the terms used to describe students who don’t perform well in traditional educational settings, few are used as frequently– or as casually – as the term “at-risk.”

The Gift of Self: Contributing To -- and Serving -- The Wider Collective

The Gift of Self: Contributing To -- and Serving -- The Wider Collective
In indigenous gift-sharing and kinship societies, individuals do not “win” at the expense of society but rather consider society’s win as theirs. Futurist Riane Eisler referred to this as “linking rather than ranking,” typical of the partnership paradigm, and the antithesis to the dominator paradigm. “Empowerment of self and others” characterizes the partnership model.

Why Being Clever And Wicked Is A Form Of Creativity

Why Being Clever And Wicked Is A Form Of Creativity

Suppose you forgot it was your partner’s birthday, but you know that they would appreciate the smallest of gestures, say a bouquet. It’s late at night and no florists are open.

4 Steps To Get Kids Into The Flow Of Learning

4 Steps To Get Kids Into The Flow Of Learning

New research outlines a four-step plan to develop students’ connection to their learning environment and achieve an ideal state for learning: “flow.”

Why Do We Complain and What Is An Alternative?

Why Do We Complain and What Is An Alternative?
We don't always see what we're doing as complaining; in fact, we often think we're simply telling the truth about the world. What constitutes complaining? One dictionary defines it as, 'An expression of pain, dissatisfaction, or resentment.' I would add that it's a statement of...

Why The Media Loves The White Racist Story

Why The Media Loves The White Racist Story
Racism isn’t new and will not go away. What is new is the interest in pointing it out and calling out its perpetrators through both mainstream and social media.

The Pain of Rejection Brings a Gift

The Pain of Rejection Brings a Gift
Rejection can hurt. Perhaps a person can be rejected by a friend, partner, boss, sibling, parent, co-worker, someone you work out with at the gym, or even your grown child. Scientists are discovering that the hurt of rejection can be actually recorded within your body.

What Makes You A Morning Or Night Person?

What Makes You A Morning Or Night Person?
Do you prefer to rise early with the lark or stay up late with the owl? Your preference turns out to be partly decided by your genes.

What Impact Does Epigenetics Have On Our Psychology?

What Impact Does Epigenetics Have On Our Psychology?
In the battle of nature versus nurture, nurture has a new recruit: epigenetics - brought in from molecular biology to give scientific heft to the argument that genes are not destiny.

Discovering Resiliency Through Fear, Imagination, and Creativity

Discovering Resiliency Through Fear, Imagination, and Creativity
In both my teaching and collaborative experience, I have often found that the most "fearful" and "neurotic" people are actually those with the best imaginations. They have simply channeled their imaginations down the routes of their cultural conditioning. The News at Five is never the good news, and so when they play the possible movie of their future they routinely screen the one with danger and dire outcomes.

What Makes You A Man Or A Woman?

What Makes You A Man Or A Woman?
There are many cultural and social factors involved in making a baby into a man or a woman. But biologically speaking, sex starts when you’re just a tiny group of cells in your mother’s uterus.

How Moving To A New House Changes You

How Moving To A New House Changes You
Many people move in the summer months, but not everyone realizes that moving starts a process of identity transformation that never really stops.

A Few Basic Principles to Change Bad Habits to Good Ones

Changing Bad Habits to Good OnesWhen we learn a new skill and continue to practice it, our brain cells establish connections that solidify that new activity in our muscle memory and in our body. That’s how later on we can do that activity repeatedly without paying attention to it. The flipside of this is that to unlearn a habit that’s become ingrained in us we have to demolish that network of connections

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