How Gambling Distorts Reality And Hooks Your Brain

How Gambling Distorts Reality And Hooks Your BrainTo call gambling a “game of chance” evokes fun, random luck and a sense of collective engagement. These playful connotations may be part of why almost 80 percent of American adults gamble at some point in their lifetime. When I ask my psychology students why they think people gamble, the most frequent suggestions are for pleasure, money or the thrill.

How Moral Outrage Online Can Backfire Big Time

How Moral Outrage Online Can Backfire Big TimeWhen outcry against offensive behavior on social media goes viral, people may see those challenging the behavior less as noble heroes doing the right thing and more as bullies doling out excessive punishment, according to a new study.

Does Rudeness Have A Legitimate Place In Politics?

Does Rudeness Have A Legitimate Place In Politics?We live in an age of rude politicians. In the US, Donald Trump has periodically monopolised the headlines since 2015 with his rude and obnoxious behaviour, often showcased via Twitter or at international summits, where he has pushed presidents out of his way and left his counterparts visibly exasperated.

Is It Good For You To Be Good?

Is It Good For You To Be Good?There are physical, emotional, mental and even business benefits to being virtuous, kind and acting with integrity.

Healing the Past... In the Present

Healing the Past... In the Present
Has this ever happened to you? Somebody says something to you that immediately triggers negativity within you. You don't have a clue why you are so upset and you wonder just where that feeling came from.

How Our Brains Keep Us From Saving Money

How Our Brains Keep Us From Saving MoneyWhile many factors are at play, we can blame our brains—at least to some degree—for our poor saving habits, according to a new study.

What Gives Firefighters The Nerve To Run Into A Fire?

What Gives Firefighters The Nerve To Run Into A Fire?
A new study suggests that two sets of dynamics initiate and perpetuate the kinds of leaps of faith firefighters and others in high-risk occupations routinely take: supporting and sustaining. The findings convey what goes into a person’s ability to make critical trust-related judgments.

Are You Addicted to Stress?

Are You Addicted to Stress?
Some of us handle stress better than others. Our ability to handle stress without turning to substances is determined not only by our innate constitution but also by the social support we experience early in life.

"I Don't Play Hurt": Growing Beyond The Seeming Rewards For Smallness

"I Don't Play Hurt": Growing Beyond The Seeming Rewards For Smallness
I have been impressed by ordinary people who don't talk much about spiritual matters; they just live it. After hearing and talking about unconditional love for many years, I find it quite refreshing to see it in action with no hype or flourishes. These hidden gurus masquerade as hotel cleaning ladies, shoe shiners, or rental car shuttle bus drivers.

Understanding The Battle For Your Mind

Understanding The Battle For Your MindThe Russian attacks on the 2016 U.S. presidential election and the country’s continuing election-related hacking have happened across all three dimensions of cyberspace – physical, informational and cognitive.

Anger: Love It, Then Leave It

Anger: Love It, Then Leave It
When we do not allow ourselves to experience emotions and suppress them instead, our souls create situations in which we are forced to feel them. That being the case, simply allowing ourselves to have the feeling might allow the energy to move through us and the so-called problem to...

How Social Media Changes Identity, Personality, Memory

How Social Media Changes Identity, Personality, MemoryI wanted to find a place for myself to cast myself in a book and me starring on paper and play with the persona of the movie star, which I think people are interested in and find entertaining. I always did.

Don't Let Stress Get The Upper Hand

Don't Let Stress Get The Upper Hand
We've become so focused on how we'll maneuver to fit it all in that we no longer stop to smell the roses or breathe in the fresh air. Desperately we strive to gain control over the unknown. And we are hard on ourselves when we don't measure up to some internalized standard. Summed up, we're "stressed" out. Does this apply to you or someone you know?

How To Use The Process of Awakening to Avoid Suffering and Illness

How To Use The Process of Awakening to Avoid Suffering and Illness
Difficult experiences cause us to reflect about what is happening and no doubt lead to us making the changes necessary to help us grow—provided we are ready to listen to the underlying message. Otherwise we keep repeating the same old patterns until we finally understand what our experiences are trying to tell us and change our behavior.

How Your Mind, Under Stress, Gets Better At Processing Bad News

How Your Mind, Under Stress, Gets Better At Processing Bad News
Some of the most important decisions you will make in your lifetime will occur while you feel stressed and anxious. From medical decisions to financial and professional ones, we are often required to weigh up information under stressful conditions.

You’ve Got Some Kind Of Symptom: Now What?

You’ve Got Some Kind Of Symptom: Now What?
Okay. You’ve got some kind of symptom. Whether you consider it to be the result of an accident, some organism, or just bad luck, you’ve got something to deal with, something to understand, some action to take.

What Are The Lessons Within The Anger Impulse?

What Are The Lessons Within Your Impulse To Anger?
Anger is more often than not a symptom of profound disappointment. In many cases, it can also represent a feeling of inferiority or an inability to express frustration in an educated or controlled way. Sometimes it’s just an instance of someone being emotionally...

Is Your Personality Making You Sick?

Is Your Personality Making You Sick?
Hippocrates, the father of Western medicine, proposed that there were four distinct personality types. His theory was that a person's personality type determines their vulnerability to mental dysfunction and their susceptibility to illness.

Afraid of Fear? Don't Be! Fear Is Positive and Useful

Afraid of Fear? Don't Be! Fear Is Positive and Useful
If you'll pardon the levity, most of us are afraid of fear. We think it's a bad thing. Because so many of our experiences with fear have been negative, we fail to see fear as positive or useful. It is both. Let me repeat: Fear is positive and useful.

Trusting Love: Living An Ordinary Life In An Extraordinary Way

Trusting Love: Living An Ordinary Life In An Extraordinary Way
Trusting love is a radical severance from one’s preferences, addictions, and obsessions. It is a persevering willingness to enter and re-enter the unknown. It is a commitment to listening to the voice of one’s Soul anew each day.

Overcoming The "Crab Box" Effect In Your Life

Overcoming The "Crab Box" Effect In Your Life
For a long time, I hated being human. I used to hate being stereotyped into any category, even being human, because humanity has done so many bad things since it moved out of 'the gardens.'

Practicing Self-Validation Is An Act Of Compassion

Practicing Self-Validation Is An Act Of Compassion
When you’re experiencing recurring unpleasant feelings or familiar unmet needs and self-defeating thoughts, are you generally kind and gen­tle with yourself? Do you unconditionally accept all of your emotions, sensations, needs, and thoughts? Do you give yourself the empathy, com­passion, warmth, and understanding you’d offer a close friend or family member?

How To Manage The Highs And Lows Of Data Overload

How To Manage The Highs And Lows Of Data OverloadThe daily fluctuations in the stock market can have a serious emotional impact on people watching their stock portfolios, when the less stressful strategy would be to pay attention to long-term trends.

Notice Your Anger: It Is A Path to Awareness

Notice Your Anger: It Is A Path to Awareness
If we could see our angry emotional reactions clearly, it would become obvious that they deplete us and narrow our life. Yet, in spite of the fact that we hurt ourselves and others with our anger, we hold on to this restricting emotion with a puzzling tenacity.

How Perfectionism Can Lead To Depression In Students

How Perfectionism Can Lead To Depression In Students
The pressures of young adulthood coupled with the demands of university leave undergraduates at risk for depressive symptoms. In fact, nearly 30% of undergraduates suffer from depressive symptoms, which is threefold higher than the general population.

How Active Shooter Drills May Reshape How A Generation Of Students Views School

How Active Shooter Drills May Reshape How A Generation Of Students Views School
School shootings and the March for Our Lives rallies held in cities around the world on March 24 2018 rekindled debates over how to keep students safe. “The notion of ‘it can’t happen here’ is no longer a notion,” said Sheriff Tim Cameron of St. Mary’s County, Maryland...

Why Do We Yawn And Why Is It Contagious?

Why Do We Yawn And Why Is It Contagious?
Yawning is generally triggered by several things, including tiredness, fever, stress, drugs, social and other psychological cues. What is the purpose of yawning?

Can A Brain Injury Change Who You Are?

Can A Brain Injury Change Who You Are?
Who we are, and what makes us “us” has been the topic of much debate throughout history. If who we are is attributed to a non-physical substance independent of the brain, then physical damage to this organ should not change a person. But there is an overwhelming amount of neuropsychological evidence to suggest that this is, in fact, not only possible, but relatively common.

Gratitude: Let Me Count the Ways

Gratitude, article written by Marie T. Russell
There are so many things to be grateful for! Birds singing, sunshine, trees and the shade they provide, the love of our friends, the comforts of modern living, etc. etc. Yet, surrounded by this beauty and love, we often rush through our busy-busy day...

Be Kind: Express Your Good And Charitable Heart

Be Kind: Express Your Good And Charitable Heart
I’ve learned that acts of kindness provide me deep contentment. Knowing I helped brighten someone’s day makes my heart feel full long after the event itself has passed. Thoughtfulness is the action that emotionally connects me to the people I know and also to people I may never meet.

Caring with Love Instead of Fear: Working through Worry about Another Person

Caring with Love Instead of Fear: Working through Worry about Another Person
In this world it is very natural to worry about our loved ones. We don’t want them to be hurt or to suffer in any way. Yet what if this worry is somehow hurting instead of helping? For years my mom has struggled with severe migraines. One night I was lying in bed thinking about her and...

The Gifts of Helplessness and Vulnerability

The Gifts of Helplessness and Vulnerability
As it happened, our current litter was born yesterday, Sunday, on the last day of our mentorship retreat! If I could have planned the worst possible time for our Gracie to give birth, it would have been that day! We were expecting her litter starting in the next few days.

How To Get Along With Difficult People

Is It Possible to Get Along With Difficult People?
There was a time in my life when if someone asked, Are you angry with me? I replied, No-o-o-o. Because I didn't like taking issue with a difficult situation involving a difficult person, we both missed an opportunity to grow together through the experience.

The Shocking Truth About Happiness

The Shocking Truth About Happiness
Looking back, I see how much of my life I spent worrying about stuff or being nervous and insecure about stuff or not really enjoying the fullness and richness of my life. I had to admit that to myself. Because it seemed to me – in retrospect...

How To Deal With Life's Risks More Rationally

How To Deal With Life's Risks More Rationally
Risk is everywhere and associated with everything. For example, the Center for Disease Control a decade ago estimated over 20 million people a year ended up in emergency rooms because of bathroom injuries.

The Key to Life and Happiness in Four Words Only!

Allowing is the Key to Life and Happiness
ALLOWING IS THE KEY. That, in a nutshell, is what I learned is the key to life, to creating your own life. Those four seemingly simple words are the basis of the power we can harness in life to use for our benefit. It took me many years to...

How Expressive Faces Predict Who’s Liberal Or Conservative

How Expressive Faces Predict Who’s Liberal Or Conservative
People can, with greater-than-chance accuracy, figure out whether you’re liberal or conservative just by looking at your face, and emotional expressivity seemed to be driving it in our analysis.

How To Triumph Over A Toxic Childhood Trauma

How To Triumph Over A Toxic Childhood TraumaNew research shows that when mothers who have experienced childhood trauma feel supported by the people around them – such as therapists, physicians, friends and neighbours – their risk of pregnancy complications is substantially reduced.

The Golden Key to Lasting Happiness

The Golden Key to Happiness
Several days ago we attended the Cultural Awareness Program at Mt. Madonna School where our grandson is in first grade. His grade of ten adorable students reenacted a Buddhist story from Cambodia. In this story a single mother has three grown sons. She is very concerned that her sons do not help her or anyone else, and care only about money...

Why Suspending Or Expelling Students Often Does More Harm Than Good

Why Suspending Or Expelling Students Often Does More Harm Than Good
Suspension and expulsion is widely used in Australia, the UK and the US to respond to problematic behavior. But evidence shows these tactics aren’t effective in changing a student’s conduct, and carry major long-term risks for their welfare.

Are Bullies Alpha Males Or Sick Puppies?

Are Bullies Alpha Males Or Sick Puppies?

Growing up in a rinky-dink Canadian city, I was tortured a lot. Part of the problem was that I was stunted by an environment filled with second-hand tobacco smoke and devoid of nutritious food.

Getting the Upper Hand Over Impatience

Getting the Upper Hand Over Impatience
Are you thrown off by unforeseen complications? Are you frantic to meet deadlines or goals? Do you hate to wait? Are you a slave to the clock? Well, the price you pay is huge. First and foremost, your hurried pace and unease rob you of...

Going With The Flow Of Unpredictability

Going With The Flow Of Unpredictability
I talk with a lot of people in the course of a week…and I can tell you that people are dealing with a lot right now. There is a huge amount of change, uncertainty, anxiety, fear, transformation, loss, grief, joy, revelation, ecstasy, and hope all happening at once.

Making Room For Unstoppable Inner Peace

Making Room For Unstoppable Inner Peace
I used to get really freaked out by the idea that the more I turned to Love, the more the ego would roar at me and whip me back into place. I am well aware that the ego will pull out any evidence to “prove” to us that we are not of Love. Some have referred to this as an “ego backlash.”

Why You Should Unplug From 24 Hours

Why You Should Unplug From 24 Hours

National Day of Unplugging is soon upon us. For the good of your mental and physical health, unplug your smartphone – not just for one day a year, but routinely.

Lots Of I, Me, My Don’t Make You A Narcissist

Lots Of I, Me, My Don’t Make You A NarcissistRather than narcissism, frequent use of first-person singular pronouns—I, me, and my—may indicate a tendency for emotional distress, new research finds.

Dealing With Fear And Anxiety in Decision Making

Dealing With Fear And Anxiety in Decision Making
Generally we think of fear as something negative to be conquered, however fear isn’t always bad. In the right circumstances and in small doses it looks like caution or pru­dence, and it can play a constructive role in your decision making.

Do Generalizations Serve Us?

Generalizations Don’t Serve Us
The inaccuracy of generalizations lead to much confusion in our attitudes, which then translates into inappropriate actions. I’ve learned to pay very close attention to how people speak and write and have discovered that expressed generalizations are all too common...

Wu-Wei: The Art of Letting Go of Controlling Life

Wu-Wei: The Art of Letting Go of Controlling Life
In the cosmic sphere of energy, wu-wei is the feminine (yin/passive/receptive/earth) principle of the universe. Translated into English from Lao-tzu’s perspective, wu-wei means “non-doing,” “non-action,” or “effortless action.” These translations are literally correct and lead us to the intuitive and ultimate psychological experience of wu-wei.

The Divine Setup: Are You Attached to Your Perception?

The Divine Setup: Are You Attached to Your Perception?
Sometimes our perceptions can get us into trouble. What appears so clearly to be our reality may not be real at all. Or it may be partially correct, but not the whole picture. We humans have a tendency to interpret our partial experiences as the whole truth and ignore other people's partial experiences.

5 Reasons Why Being Kind Makes You Feel Good

5 Reasons Why Being Kind Makes You Feel Good
Everybody can appreciate acts of kindness. But when it comes to explaining why we do them, people often take one of two extreme positions. Some think kindness is something completely selfless that we do out of love and care, while others believe it is just a tool that we cunningly use to become more popular and reap the benefits.

Nita’s Story: Discovering My Power Animal and Finding Forgiveness

Nita’s Story: Discovering Your Power Animal and Finding Forgiveness
The time came when my life was disrupted by soul longing for wholeness, manifesting as serious depression. Through grace, I found my way to a workshop on healing into wholeness. There I met Linda Star Wolf who taught us how to discover our power animal.

How We Decide Who And What We Care About

How We Decide Who And What We Care About

When psychologists talk about a “moral circle” they are referring to how far we extend our moral consideration towards others. That is, whether we care about the well-being of others, and act accordingly.

How Olympians Train Their Brains To Become Mentally Tough

How Olympians Train Their Brains To Become Mentally ToughWe have witnessed some exceptional performances during the Pyeongchang Winter Olympics. For any athlete to deliver a gold medal performance, mental toughness is an essential ingredient. But what exactly is mental toughness — and how does an athlete develop it?

Spiritually Healing The Emotional After-Effects Of Abortion

Spiritually Healing The Emotional After-Effects Of Abortion
Susan, a woman in her fifties, came to one of my workshops and asked to work with the process called Healing Relations with the Unborn. She related the following story of an abortion she had undergone as a young woman, with lingering painful after-effects.

Are You Rebelling Against Yourself?

Are You Rebelling Against Your Own Self?
As children we rebelled against our parents, against authority. Yet now that we are adults and are in charge of our own lives, whom are we rebelling against? The answer is the same: authority. Yet we are often the rebeller and the rebellee at the same time. Strange concept? Possibly, but one that we give...

Finding Balance: Life Is About Balance

Finding Balance: Life Is About Balance
In all areas, I believe balance is key to living a peaceful and successful life. As the saying goes, “All work and no play” makes for a dull life. But what about all creativity and no responsi­bility? Even if that were a possibility, I’d like to argue that this would not make anyone happy.

Blowing Off Steam To Keep Your Life Manageable?

Blowing Off Steam To Keep Your Life Manageable?
Being constrained by a civilization’s laws and regulations, combined with a low tolerance for emotional expression, pro­duces discontents for some if not all of that civilization’s inhab­itants. Underneath our fashionable veneers we are still animals...

How Witnessing Violence Harms Children’s Mental Health

How Witnessing Violence Harms Children’s Mental HealthWhen children learn about news like the deadly school shooting that claimed more than a dozen lives on Feb. 14, 2018 in Broward County, Florida, a logical question for them to ask is: Will the same thing happen to me?

Shedding Light On Fear and Seeing It For What It Really Is

Shedding Light On Fear and Seeing It For What It Really Is
How do you shed light on fear, and see it for what it really is? You question it by asking, “Says who?” Like a boogieman in your mind, you need to stand up to it and let it know who’s in control and the boss of your thoughts. It’s either you or your fear-based thought. It’s important to decide who’s really in charge of your thinking.

Why Saying "I Don't Know" Is A Key To Success

Why Saying "I Don't Know" Is A Key To SuccessIn the earliest stages of our education, it gets drilled into us that certainty is good, and phrases like "I don't know" or "I'm not sure" are lesser ways of thinking.

What Should I Do If My Child Is A Cyberbully?

What Should I Do If My Child Is A Cyberbully?Cyberbullying has become a significant issue for young people learning to navigate a life that is increasingly online. Like bullying that occurs face-to-face, cyberbullying can have serious effects on the physical and mental health of victims.

Dealing with Fear: A Meditation Journey with Sekhmet

Dealing with Fear: A Meditation Journey with Sekhmet
Fear is one of our greatest teachers. From the time we have our first childhood lesson of keeping our hands off the hot stove to our mature ability to recognize danger and get out of the way, fear has earned our respect and has tremendous influence over our behavior. But sometimes fear holds us back...

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