What Evolution Tells Us About Our Need For Personal Space

What Evolution Tells Us About Our Need For Personal Space

Humans are intensely social creatures. We all need company and social contact. But for many of us, being at home for long periods with a small group of people – even those we love best – can become frustrating.

3 Ways People Are Reacting To Coronavirus Emergency

3 Ways People Are Reacting To Coronavirus Emergency

There remains near-universal backing for the coronavirus lockdown among the UK public. In our study, nine out of ten people support the measures, including seven out of ten who strongly support them.

5 Reasons To Feel Optimistic About Coronavirus

5 Reasons To Feel Optimistic About Coronavirus

Much of the media coverage of COVID-19 is focused on bad things happening. It is very easy to accuse people of bungling when you have 20-20 hindsight and it makes good headlines, but is it right?

Can't Sleep And Feeling Anxious?

Can't Sleep And Feeling Anxious About Coronavirus?

This is a confusing and, frankly, scary time for a lot of us. There’s so much contradictory information, and the “right” thing to do yesterday is now the “wrong” thing to do today.

A Choice Lies Before Us: Choosing Hatred or Wisdom?

A Choice Lies Before Us: Choosing Hatred or Wisdom?

A combination of despair, fear, and betrayal will cause someone to lash out against real and imagined enemies, causing more of the same in others. It is a vicious cycle indeed. A cycle of hatred unleashed can wreak destruction for generations to come.

Why Do You Believe What You Do?

Why Do You Believe What You Do?

Many of the beliefs that play a fundamental role in our worldview are largely the result of the communities in which we’ve been immersed. 

The Neuroscience Of Loneliness And How Technology Is Helping Us

Large numbers of people around the globe have been forced into solitude due to the coronavirus pandemic. However, social distancing is utterly at odds with our drive for social connection, the cornerstone of human evolution.

Creating A New Worldview and Culture: Women Are The Future

Creating A New Worldview and Culture: Women Are The Future

The Dalai Lama caused quite a stir at the 2009 Peace Summit in Vancouver. He said that “the world would be saved by Western women.” His statement received a range of responses, but many women found it empowering, and it catalyzed women-focused initiatives.

Who Is The Real You: Have You Left Behind Your True Self For Your Professional Role?

IDENTITY: Who Am I?

What does it mean to be a banker, lawyer, doctor, educator, not-for-profit leader, or any other professional? For many people, it is a debilitat­ing experience of separating our genuinely loving, warm, compassionate selves from the hard, ruthless, determined-to-win persona that is demand­ed in our workplace.

Why Wear Face Masks In Public? Here's What The Research Shows

Why Wear Face Masks In Public? Here's What The Research Shows

With the coronavirus pandemic quickly spreading, U.S. health officials have changed their advice on face masks and now recommend people wear cloth masks in public areas where social distancing can be difficult, such as grocery stores.

Courage Needed: New Beginnings Can Be Scary

Courage Needed: New Beginnings Can Be Scary

There are so many ways that we can apply courage in our lives. Courage to speak one's opinion, to stand up for what is right, to face tough issues head on, to pick oneself up after an injustice, and to not necessarily do as everyone else does. Courage to be true to oneself.

Befriending Problems: Making Friends With What Is

Befriending Problems: Making Friends With What Is

The wisdom of non-attachment is most applicable when dealing with life’s problems: whether small irritants or major life losses. The secret is to befriend our problems and create new relationships with them.

Here Are Some Ways To Cope With The Anxiety

Here Are Some Ways To Cope With The Anxiety

One of our patients was recently talking about her anxiety around the coronavirus epidemic. This woman’s stress was understandable. She had survived a serious infection with swine flu, but only with a prolonged stay in intensive care.

An Unqualified Apology: "I Am Truly Sorry for Causing You Pain"

"I Am Truly Sorry for Causing You Pain"

Forgiveness is radical. Both forgiving and asking for forgiveness go against deeply ingrained psychological and political truths. We fight against it. We reject its premises. We think we want to be -- or at least, want to appear to be -- blameless at all times. By forgiving another...

How To Move Beyond Forgiveness and Towards Acceptance

Moving Beyond Forgiveness and Towards Acceptance

When I began my journey of self-discovery in my twenties I ran across the concept of forgiveness and, with a great deal of anger and judgment, promptly rejected the idea. Now I believe forgiveness is one of the most important steps we can take toward achieving self-acceptance, peace of mind, and happiness...

How Much Of Life Will We Forego To Stay Safe?

How Much Of Life Will We Forego To Stay Safe?
Over my lifetime I’ve seen society place more and more emphasis on safety, security, and risk reduction. It has especially impacted childhood: as a young boy it was normal for us to roam a mile from home unsupervised – behavior that would earn parents a visit from Child Protective Services today.

Why It Is OK To Vent, Sometimes

Why It Is OK To Vent, Sometimes

The COVID-19 pandemic is different from many crises in that it has affected all of us regardless of politics, economics, religion, age or nationality.

Attention Please! Love Needed!

Attention Please! Love Needed!
People who are starved for love go out and try to get attention! Now some people may do that by becoming prominent in a constructive way by being in theater, media, or the top in their field. Others choose another route.

Why Some People Believe Coronavirus Hoaxes

Why Some People Believe Coronavirus hoaxes

As the world continues to deal with the life-altering effects of the novel coronavirus, a small but not-insignificant number of individuals have been expressing their fears about COVID-19 through the language of government conspiracies and wild alternative health cures.

Why People Need Rituals, Especially In Times Of Uncertainty

Why People Need Rituals, Especially In Times Of Uncertainty

Responding to the coronavirus pandemic, most American universities have suspended all campus activities. Like millions of people all around the world, the lives of students all over the U.S. has changed overnight.

How Quiet Kindness Can Bolster Well-Being

How Quiet Kindness Can Bolster Well-being

As a researcher at the University of British Columbia, a great deal of my time is spent asking children, adolescents and even university students what it means to be kind and how they demonstrate kindness.

Don’t Allow Covid19 to Infect Your Mind

Don’t Allow Covid19 to Infect Your Mind
As sports arenas, streets and neighborhood gyms lie quiet and abandoned, we find ourselves without a frame of reference to cope with these apocalyptic changes to our once predictable lives. Does this mean that anxiety, stress, depression and panic are now inescapable parts of life? 

What's Really Going On and What Do We Do About It?

What's Really Going On and What Do We Do About It?
So, who knows exactly what's going on right now? I've reviewed videos, read blogs and articles and books, accessed a variety of news sources, mainstream and sidestream, watched YouTube videos of doctors and economists, listened to informed and anxious friends, and I'm no closer to knowing for sure than before.

How To Make Accurate Decisions When Things Are Moving Fast

How To Make Accurate Decisions When Things Are Moving Fast
Thinking under extreme time pressure is not optimal, but it is inevita­ble that we will find ourselves in this situation at times. It is always best not to rush and get seduced by mental short­cuts. Use all the time available to you in making a decision.

Why We Knock On Wood For Luck

Why We Knock On Wood For LuckEver said something like, “I’ve never gotten a speeding ticket” – and then quickly, for luck, rapped your knuckles on a wooden table or doorframe?

Healing Trauma Gently with Calm Presence, Kindness, and Love

Healing Trauma: Proceeding Gently with Calm Pres­ence, Kindness, and Love
Our individual reactions to life events are complex and unpredictable. Some people come out of very difficult life experiences with more resiliency and capacity. Trauma is not in the event but in the nervous system of the person experienc­ing the event. 

Do You Need Approval and Validation?

Do You Need Approval and Validation?
I once worked for a rather abusive woman who constantly berated, belittled and badgered her employees -- me included. If any of us sought to stand up for ourselves, we were chastised and told in no uncertain terms that we were insecure whiners who should appreciate we had a job in the first place.

How To Actually Stop Touching Your Face

How To Actually Stop Touching Your Face

Health care professionals keep say to avoid touching your face as protection from COVID-19, but it’s a lot easier said than done.

Why People Take Offense

Why People Take Offence

Most of us have felt offended at a remark made by a close friend or a random comment on our social media.

Understanding Our Coronavirus Fear?

Understanding Our Coronavirus Fear?

With a new infectious disease outbreak on our doorstep, we might ask ourselves: are we reacting to the coronavirus in a way that is proportional to the threat?

How Behaviour Can Help Control The Spread Of COVID-19

How Behaviour Can Help Control The Spread Of COVID-19

Amid the carnage of the First World War, a flu epidemic took hold in the front-line trenches and subsequently spread around the world, infecting one-quarter of the world’s total population and ultimately killing more people than the war itself.

What To Do If You Find Something Morally Sickening

What To Do If You Find Something Morally Sickening

If I were to say that I’m thinking about having sex with my stepbrother, I guess you’d tell me to think again: sex with a sibling or even a stepsibling is just plain wrong – it’s not a morally acceptable action.

Digging in the Dung: Turning Tragedy and Pain into Insights and Wisdom

Digging in the Dung: Turning Tragedy and Pain into Insights and Wisdom
Unpleasant things happen in life. They happen to everyone. The only difference between a happy person and one who gets depressed is how they respond to disasters. Imagine you have just had a wonderful afternoon and when you return home, you find a huge truckload of dung has been dumped right in front of your door...

What We Don’t Understand About Young People’s Motivations

What We Don't Understand About Young People's Motivations

Young people are demanding change. In the last few days, young Indigenous activists and their supporters blocked parliamentarians in Victoria, B.C., from accessing the provincial legislature and led waves of protest across the country. 

How and Why To Become More Tolerant and Patient

Changing Our Attitude: Becoming More Tolerant & Patient
First of all, most of us have views and opinions about everything and everyone. Because of this tendency to judge, we are continually deciding whether we approve of or like each experience as it occurs. Wherever we go and whatever we do, our internal "critic" is saying, "I don't like this," or "I don't approve of that."

The Truth Can Be Scary: Admitting When You’re Wrong

Admitting When You’re Wrong: The Truth Can Be Scary
How am I going to break them the news? This is not going to be easy. I will admit that I was wrong, but I decide to put it off until I get there, hoping that once they see our brave faces, some of the sting will be gone. I will bring it up after dinner but before...

Even Very Young Children Can Become Prejudiced

Even Very Young Children Can Become Prejudiced

Racism has negative consequences for children’s health. It harms the kids who experience it personally and those who witness it, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics, an organization that represents 67,000 doctors who treat children.

Why Do People Believe Con Artists?

Why People Believe Con Artists?

What is real can seem pretty arbitrary. It’s easy to be fooled by misinformation disguised as news and deepfake videos showing people doing things they never did or said.

Fear Is Our Enemy; Chaos Is Our Friend

Fear Is Our Enemy; Chaos Is Our Friend
All the ancient calendars and prophecies of diverse ancient traditions are pointing to these days as the time of a great awakening and a time of a great shift. Humanity is being challenged to make a choice: the choice between the path of love, community, and peace, over the path of...

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