Why Realism Is The Key To Wellbeing

Why Realism Is The Key To Wellbeing

Life coaches and motivational speakers often treat positive thinking as the key to happiness. Self-help books tend to promote a similar message, with Norman Vincent Peale’s bestseller The Power of Positive Thinking claiming

The Magic of Appreciation: Thank You for...

The Magic of Appreciation: Thank You for...

A few years ago, I discovered with wonder a new form of magic: expressing appreciation to others for something they had done. And modern life offers us a thousand different opportunities to manifest that magic.

When We’ll All Get There

When We’ll All Get There

Many of us spend a great deal of our life rushing to get places. In the process we do clumsy things, get embroiled in impatience and irritation, and sometimes cause accidents. In our haste to get somewhere, we miss being somewhere, and never seem to get anywhere.

There's A Reason Siri, Alexa And AI Are Imagined As Female

There's A Reason Siri, Alexa And AI Are Imagined As Female

Virtual assistants are increasingly popular and present in our everyday lives: literally with Alexa, Cortana, Holly, and Siri, and fictionally in films Samantha (Her), Joi (Blade Runner 2049) and Marvel’s AIs, FRIDAY (Avengers: Infinity War), and Karen (Spider-Man: Homecoming).

Being Vulnerable: Being Willing to Give and Receive Love

Being Vulnerable: Stepping Out From Behind Our Walls

Living behind a glass wall can be lonely. You can see the others out there, yet you somehow remain separated from them. Your wall may be called "I'm not good enough" or "No one understands me or loves me". These glass walls have a way of magnifying the negative. Yet whatever you see through the wall is only the...

Safe Passage through the Current State of Affairs with The Three Emotional Bridges

Safe Passage through the Current State of Affairs with The Three Emotional Bridges

This month I'm going to talk about the emotional bridges and what we can do to safely cross the river. I usually discuss the three bridges as they pertain to communication. However, it occurred to me this morning that I needed to expand out my vision of the Attitude Reconstruction Three Bridges to meet the emotionally fraught times we are all experiencing...

How To Deal With Anger and Let It Go

How To Let Go Of Anger

One feeling in particular merits a special note: anger. If this feeling is a problem for you, you're not alone. It seems that modern life is full of poor expressions of anger.

Is Isolation Just A Feeling?

Is Isolation Just A Feeling?

I am feeling isolated. Is this a state, or an emotion? Rather than getting into the semantics of language, I will ask another question: what does isolation feel like?

Finding Hope In The Darkness: Coping Strategies for Depression

Finding Hope In The Darkness

Hope is an optimistic attitude based on expectations of positive outcomes in one’s life or the world at large. A person who has a high level of hope has healthier hab­its, sleeps better, exercises more, eats healthier, gets sick less often, and is more likely to have less depression and to sur­vive a life-threatening illness.

How Our Brains Can Be Manipulated To Tribalism

How Our Brains Can Be Manipulated To Tribalism

Tribalism has become a signature of America within and without since the election of President Trump. The nation has parted ways with international allies, left the rest of the world in their effort to fight the climate change, and most recently the pandemic, by leaving the World Health Organization.

Blessings of an Imperfect Life: Seize the Moment

Blessings of an Imperfect Life: Seize the Moment

We have all suffered, and will suffer, our own falls. The fall from youthful ideals, the waning of physical strength, the failure of a cherished hope, the loss of our near and dear, the fall into injury or sickness, and late or soon, the fall to our certain ends. We have no choice but to fall, and little say as to the time or the means.

Change Your Frequency and Stay Tuned to Inner Peace

Change Your Frequency and Stay Tuned to Inner Peace

Many of us are tempted to change jobs, houses, or spouses, and sometimes that works. Yet it’s not unusual that when you get to your new situation you find it to be simply a repeat of the old one. In many cases you didn’t need to change the situation. You just needed to change the point from which you were looking at it.

How To Beat Coronavirus Anxiety When Going Back To Work

How To Beat Coronavirus Anxiety When Going Back To Work

At the beginning of the coronavirus pandemic, people’s anxiety levels shot up. Daily reports were coming in about the number of new deaths, there was global chaos and people had to be persuaded to stay inside.

Notice Your Anger: It Is A Path to Awareness

Notice Your Anger: It Is A Path to Awareness

If we could see our angry emotional reactions clearly, it would become obvious that they deplete us and narrow our life. Yet, in spite of the fact that we hurt ourselves and others with our anger, we hold on to this restricting emotion with a puzzling tenacity.

When Conflict Arises, We Always Have A Choice

When Conflict Arises, We Always Have A Choice

We cannot escape our subconscious mind, but we can use life as a treasure map to unlock the secrets hidden within the dark corners of the psyche. These secrets direct the course of our lives, and like tyrants hiding behind smoke and mirrors they chart a course for their own benefit...

How To Create A Less Resistant Relationship With Life

How To Create A Less Resistant Relationship With Life

What’s important to appreciate about resistance is that it is often not intentional but the result of what’s going on in the more subtle, hidden parts of your unconscious mind. Most people I meet are usually aware of the surface-level results of resistance, but they live unaware of the underlying reasons as to why they resist and end up feeling the way they do.

The Journey of Forgiveness Must Begin Somewhere, Somehow

The Journey of Forgiveness Must Begin Somewhere, Somehow

I genuinely believe that after some thirty to forty years of deepening our consciousness and attending to our self-improvement, we are now more prepared to address the issue of forgiveness than we have been at any time in modern history.

The 7 Traits Of Conspiratorial Thinking

The 7 Traits Of Conspiratorial Thinking

The conspiracy theory video “Plandemic” recently went viral. Despite being taken down by YouTube and Facebook, it continues to get uploaded and viewed millions of times.

The Attitude of the Observer: Reflecting on the Undercurrent

The Attitude of the Observer: Reflecting on the Undercurrent

In all likelihood we want to have happy thoughts and for the mind to be calm and peaceful. We don’t want to have unhappy thoughts and we don’t want the mind to be distracted, agitated or bored. However, we are constantly judging, evaluating and assessing...

The Perils Of Perfectionism During Lockdown

The Perils Of Perfectionism During Lockdown

Trying to find ways to make the most of time in lockdown has motivated many people to learn new skills, polish up old ones, and tackle old to-do lists.

The Need to Blame and Shame: Discovering Our Inner Enemy

The Need to Blame and Shame: Discovering Our Inner Enemy

In essence, blaming or pointing our finger at someone else is saying that we are totally absolving our Self of having any responsibility in the matter -- whatever it is. At the same time, we are automatically and unwittingly assigning ourselves to the miserable role of "victim."

What's The Point Of Grief?

What's The Point Of Grief?

Grieving is an experience almost everyone will go through at some point in their life. And is something we often have no control over.

Perception Is Everything: Are You Seeing Things As They Really Are?

Perception Is Everything: Are You Seeing Things As They Really Are?

The news acts as our eyes and our ears, with its reporters scouring the land to bring back stories – stories we rely on to help us make sense of the world we live in. But the stories they most often bring back focus on war, corruption, scandal, murder, famine and natural disasters. This creates a perception of the world that does not necessarily reflect reality.

What Evolution Tells Us About Our Need For Personal Space

What Evolution Tells Us About Our Need For Personal Space

Humans are intensely social creatures. We all need company and social contact. But for many of us, being at home for long periods with a small group of people – even those we love best – can become frustrating.

3 Ways People Are Reacting To Coronavirus Emergency

3 Ways People Are Reacting To Coronavirus Emergency

There remains near-universal backing for the coronavirus lockdown among the UK public. In our study, nine out of ten people support the measures, including seven out of ten who strongly support them.

5 Reasons To Feel Optimistic About Coronavirus

5 Reasons To Feel Optimistic About Coronavirus

Much of the media coverage of COVID-19 is focused on bad things happening. It is very easy to accuse people of bungling when you have 20-20 hindsight and it makes good headlines, but is it right?

Can't Sleep And Feeling Anxious?

Can't Sleep And Feeling Anxious About Coronavirus?

This is a confusing and, frankly, scary time for a lot of us. There’s so much contradictory information, and the “right” thing to do yesterday is now the “wrong” thing to do today.

A Choice Lies Before Us: Choosing Hatred or Wisdom?

A Choice Lies Before Us: Choosing Hatred or Wisdom?

A combination of despair, fear, and betrayal will cause someone to lash out against real and imagined enemies, causing more of the same in others. It is a vicious cycle indeed. A cycle of hatred unleashed can wreak destruction for generations to come.

Why Do You Believe What You Do?

Why Do You Believe What You Do?

Many of the beliefs that play a fundamental role in our worldview are largely the result of the communities in which we’ve been immersed. 

The Neuroscience Of Loneliness And How Technology Is Helping Us

Large numbers of people around the globe have been forced into solitude due to the coronavirus pandemic. However, social distancing is utterly at odds with our drive for social connection, the cornerstone of human evolution.

Creating A New Worldview and Culture: Women Are The Future

Creating A New Worldview and Culture: Women Are The Future

The Dalai Lama caused quite a stir at the 2009 Peace Summit in Vancouver. He said that “the world would be saved by Western women.” His statement received a range of responses, but many women found it empowering, and it catalyzed women-focused initiatives.

Who Is The Real You: Have You Left Behind Your True Self For Your Professional Role?

IDENTITY: Who Am I?

What does it mean to be a banker, lawyer, doctor, educator, not-for-profit leader, or any other professional? For many people, it is a debilitat­ing experience of separating our genuinely loving, warm, compassionate selves from the hard, ruthless, determined-to-win persona that is demand­ed in our workplace.

Why Wear Face Masks In Public? Here's What The Research Shows

Why Wear Face Masks In Public? Here's What The Research Shows

With the coronavirus pandemic quickly spreading, U.S. health officials have changed their advice on face masks and now recommend people wear cloth masks in public areas where social distancing can be difficult, such as grocery stores.

Courage Needed: New Beginnings Can Be Scary

Courage Needed: New Beginnings Can Be Scary

There are so many ways that we can apply courage in our lives. Courage to speak one's opinion, to stand up for what is right, to face tough issues head on, to pick oneself up after an injustice, and to not necessarily do as everyone else does. Courage to be true to oneself.

Befriending Problems: Making Friends With What Is

Befriending Problems: Making Friends With What Is

The wisdom of non-attachment is most applicable when dealing with life’s problems: whether small irritants or major life losses. The secret is to befriend our problems and create new relationships with them.

Here Are Some Ways To Cope With The Anxiety

Here Are Some Ways To Cope With The Anxiety

One of our patients was recently talking about her anxiety around the coronavirus epidemic. This woman’s stress was understandable. She had survived a serious infection with swine flu, but only with a prolonged stay in intensive care.

An Unqualified Apology: "I Am Truly Sorry for Causing You Pain"

"I Am Truly Sorry for Causing You Pain"

Forgiveness is radical. Both forgiving and asking for forgiveness go against deeply ingrained psychological and political truths. We fight against it. We reject its premises. We think we want to be -- or at least, want to appear to be -- blameless at all times. By forgiving another...

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