The Whats and Whys of Expectations and Expectation Hangovers

The Whats and Whys of Expectations and Expectation HangoversWe are all consumers of expectations. They are easy to come by — from parents, family, friends, the media — and many are self-created. Expectations are pervasive in our lives, and most of us are conditioned to be driven by them and to attempt to realize them. Our expectations then become our compass...

Three Feet from Gold: Are You Quitting Too Soon?

Three Feet from Gold: Are You Quitting Too Soon?No matter who you are or how skilled you may be in your occupation, there will be times when the going is hard, and unpleasant circumstances will overtake you. Now, if you yield easily to these obstacles you may as well write yourself off as far as becoming a great success is concerned.

Failing Can Be A Positive Element -- If You Let It

Failing Can Be A Positive Element -- If You Let ItFailure can be a positive element in one’s eventual success. This principle has been proven throughout history among some of the greatest entrepreneurs. The great Henry Ford wasn’t a stranger to failure. Before founding Ford Motor Company, Ford’s earlier business endeavors all failed and left him broke.

Life Purpose Questionnaire: Do You Feel Stuck Where You Are?

Life Purpose Questionnaire: Do You Feel Stuck Where You Are?I’ve found that many people have no idea what they want to do with their life. They either feel overwhelmed with possibilities and don’t know where to start, or they feel like there is nothing specific that is calling to them. Either way, they are stuck where they are.

Balancing Life's Choices: How to Be Happy With Your Job

Balancing Lifes Choices: How to Be Happy With Your Job?Important consideration has been given to money earned, retirement benefits, chances of advancement, etc. Considering that most of us spend half of our waking hours working at a job, it might serve to pay  attention to one's level of job satisfaction. In other words, do you enjoy your work?

Suffering from Inability to Ask for Help?

Inability to Ask for Help: Rooted in Imagined Unworthiness & Fear of Losing Independence

Inability to ask is usually rooted in your own imagined unworthiness, fear of losing independence, and specter of being dependent on others. My own discomfort and hesitancy about asking disturbed my comfort zone and led me to soul-searching the truth that we are...

How to Get Santa to Deliver the Most Valuable Present of All

How to Get Santa to Deliver the Most Valuable Present of All

Santa Claus is not a person, but he is a principle, a dynamic, a universal idea that goes far beyond a person. Santa Claus represents a benevolent universe that knows our needs and can and will deliver our good to us. Santa is a cultural form — a local permission slip through which we allow ourselves to receive the blessings...

What To Know About Disclosing Depression, Bipolar Disorder, or PTSD at Work

What To Know About Disclosing Depression, Bipolar Disorder, or PTSD at Work

Deciding to disclose information about a non-obvious disability at work is complicated and potentially risky, no matter what you do for a living. For people with a mental health issue, like bipolar disorder or PTSD where stereotypes and bias are prevalent, the risk can be even greater.

To College Or Not To College, That Is The Question

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I get lots of mail about whether college is worth the cost. The answer is unequivocally yes, but with one big qualification. I’ll come to the qualification in a moment but first the financial case for why it’s worth going to college.

Compassion Fatigue Is The Cost Some Workers Pay For Caring For Others

Compassion Fatigue Is The Cost Some Workers Pay For Caring For Others

Health and social workers often choose their profession because they want to help people. But seeing trauma and suffering on a regular basis can have a deep impact on these workers. “Compassion fatigue” is a response to the stress of caring for people at times of crisis and is often referred to as the cost of caring.

How A Company Fired the Bosses, Went To A 4-Day Work Week and Thrived

How A Company Fired the Bosses, Went To A Four Day Work Week, And Thrived

If someone said your organization could eliminate email and meetings, fire the bosses, go to a four day work week, and thrive, what would you think? Where’s the punchline, right? Well, there is no punchline. Many companies are taking such steps.

How To Change a To-Do List to a Could-Do List

Going from a To-Do List to a Could-Do List

The nice thing about making a list is that I get the to-do chatter out of my head and onto a piece of paper. But there’s no way to prioritize. There’s no indication of how important anything is, how much time each task might take, and the order in which I ought to attack the list.

Life As A Boot Camp: Creating Meaningful Life

Life As A Boot Camp: Creating Meaningful Life

As life gets busier and more complex, we all crave something larger and more meaningful than just checking off another item on our to-do lists. Traditionally we’ve looked to religion and spirituality for a sense of life purpose, but in our secular age...

The Ebb and Flow of Life: The Tide Always Comes Back In

The Tide Always Comes Back In

by Alan Cohen. A coaching client told me about a friend of hers who was freaking out because “the economy is never going to recover.” I suggested to her that her friend was suffering not from economic distress, but simple nearsightedness. Of course the economy is...

Karma May Play A Role in Careers But It Won’t Break Glass Ceilings

Karma May Have A Role To Play In Career Progression, But It Won’t Break Glass Ceilings

For those who might have missed it, this was Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella’s advice to women uncomfortable with the thought of requesting: "It’s not really about asking for the raise but [about] knowing and having faith that the system will actually..."

The Subconscious Has Power When Directed

The Subconscious Has Power When Directed in Faith

Many stories are told of the power of the subconscious when directed in faith. Demonstrations often come at the eleventh hour because man then lets go, that is, stops reasoning, and Infinite Intelligence has a chance to work.

Are You Wasting Energy on Goals That Suck?

Wasting Energy on Goals That SuckClever ingenious creatures that we are, we can attain anything we set our mind to. Before you set your mind to anything, however, make sure it is something you want. Many people in our culture are clamoring for fame and fortune...

The Road To Failure Is Paved With Good Intentions: Turn Them Into Action

The Road To Failure Is Paved With Good Intentions: Turning Them Into ActionTake a moment to think of a task you wish to accomplish in the next three months. It should be something specific like clearing out your backyard, or completing an online course, so that you could judge, definitively, if and when it has been completed.

Vanity and Pride vs. Prosperity and Being of Service to Others

Vanity & Pride vs. Prosperity & Serving Others

by James Dillehay. Vanity means pride or self-worship, which is different from self-love. In the effervescence of gaining achievement, it is easy to become enamored with oneself. Feeling good about yourself is healthy. When self-love turns to self-worship...

What Did I Want to Be When I Grew Up?

What Did I Want to Be When I Grew Up?

Do you remember being asked what you wanted to be when you grew up? This was often a question my teachers directed to the class at the beginning of a new school year. It was also considered a good opener by other adults who really didn’t know us all that well. What did I want to be?

The Connecting Link to Success: The Subconscious Mind

The Connecting Link to Success: The Subconscious Mind

You cannot entirely control your subconscious mind, but you can voluntarily hand over to it any plan, desire, or purpose which you wish transformed into concrete form. The possibilities of creative effort connected with the subconscious mind are stu­pendous and imponderable. They inspire one with awe...

Monkeys Who Gamble Believe In Winning Streaks

Gambling Monkeys Believe In Winning Streaks

Humans tend to detect winning and losing streaks in situations that are actually random. The first study of this phenomenon in non-human primates finds that monkeys share this “hot hand bias.” Scientists disagree about whether this unfounded belief is a cultural artifact picked up in childhood or a predisposition deeply ingrained in...

Insufficient Sleep: The Smoking Gun of the Modern Age

Insufficient Sleep: The Smoking Gun of the Modern Age

Innumerable studies have documented the ill effects of insufficient sleep, defined as getting less sleep than we need to be our best. Beyond the tiredness, fogginess, and grumpiness we commonly note the next day, less-than-optimum sleep impairs focus, judgment, problem solving, and memory.

How to Become a Lawyer Without Going to Law School

How to Become a Lawyer Without Going to Law School

Here’s a fun fact: Abraham Lincoln didn’t go to law school. He independently studied the law, registered with the Sangamon County Court in Illinois and passed an oral examination by a panel of attorneys. He was then given his license to practice law.

Are Recent College Graduates Finding Good Jobs?

Are Recent College Graduates Finding Good Jobs?

In the lingering aftermath of the Great Recession, recent college graduates are having a tough time of it. As state aid for education has fallen, student loans have risen, leading to crippling levels of debt that has climbed to more than $29,000. Limited options after graduation in a tight job market only make this situation difficult.

Radically Redefining Success: Being Better Than Yourself

Radically Redefining Success: Being Better Than Yourself

by Phil Cousineau. According to H. A. Harris, the ancient Olympic Games were an integrated preparation for a life of quality. "Players fifty years ago wanted to win just as much as players today," writes legendary basketball coach John Wooden. "In classical times, the courageous struggle for a noble cause was considered success in itself."

Standing on the Shoulders of Giants

Standing on the Shoulders of Giants

Every belief system gives way to a greater one. Even science, which seems “solid,” is constantly casting aside old notions in favor of new ones. This does not make the system, the people who represent it, or related experiences wrong. It just makes them outdated. For you, at least.

Walking the Walk: From Invincibility to the Blister of Clarity

Walking the Walk: From Invincibility to the Blister of Clarity

Eugina was using her time on the Camino to contemplate her next move in life. It made me wonder how my life would have been different had I undertaken this challenge in my twenties. Would this spiritual refreshment have allowed me to confront my alcohol demons at an earlier point in life? Would I have taken the same career path?

Being True to Your Passion or Feeling Burnt Out?

Are You Burnt Out?

by Alan H. Cohen. People who have found their true calling report that they are having so much fun, they feel like they should be paying people to let them do it. Their gifts go far beyond the obvious service they perform; they are teaching (by example) authentic self-expression...

How to Overcome Fear and Attain Success One Step at a Time

How to Overcome Fear and Attain Success One Step at a Time

General George S. Patton said, “Success is how high you bounce after you’ve hit bottom.” An important key for recovery from fear and worry is to practice, practice, practice, with patience and perseverance. The point is to get going and to set small, realistic goals. Small successes are wonderful stepping stones...

A Critical Gift: The Arrows of Criticism

A Critical Gift: The Arrow of Criticism

One of the ways to recognize your talent and passion is to consider what other people have criticized you for. I had heard, “What you thought was wrong with you may be what’s right with you,” but the idea of using criticism as a compass to greatness...

Living from Love or Living from Fear?

Living from Love or Living from Fear?

by William R. Yoder Ph.D., D.C.  Any approach that makes peace and happiness dependent on a particular outcome or circumstances is implicitly saying that you are not enough just as you are — that to experience a truly happy and successful life, you must "achieve" and "earn" and "attain" and "acquire" (fame, power, wealth, accomplishments, etc.). 

The Game of Life: Living In The Winner's Circle

The Game of Life: Living In The Winner's Circle

An extremely important concept that few realize or believe is that anybody can be a winner, although not everybody is. It is a fact that winning in the overall "game" of life does not require that you...

When It's Impossible to Make a Choice...

When It's Impossible to Make a Choice...

Maggie struggled between two options: either commit to her professional life or commit to her personal life. The stress of it all often made her want to just give up and quit everything. She thought choosing between them was the only way to save her sanity...

Building Strength and Success from Adversity

Building Strength and Success from Adversity

Herman Hesse once wrote that wisdom, when spoken aloud, always sounds a little bit foolish. Perhaps that's because when we hear something that makes sense to us, we think we already know it. But often we don't. At least not in a way that matters...

Don't Worry! Stop Being Such a Perfectionist!

Don't Worry! Stop Being Such a Perfectionist!

A way of preventing worry is to stop being such a perfectionist. You don't have to do everything flawlessly. It's mainly in the mind that you worry about doing everything just right. I've learned to replace perfectionism with permission to be human...

The Corporate Ladder vs. The Lattice Culture

The Corporate Ladder vs. The Lattice Culture

To succeed in a career you have to climb up the well-defined rungs of a "corporate ladder": up, up, up, until — nope, just up. The corporate ladder is a wonderfully clear visual — it's also the epitome of inflexibility...

Do You Need Others to Validate You?

Do You Need Others to Validate You? by Alan Cohen

Do you need any person, object, or ideology to give you a sense of self-worth? Does your experience of validation come from others, or yourself? If you know your worth, you do not need other people to affirm it. If you do not recognize your worth, all the...

The Science of Getting What You Want

The Science of Getting What You Want

Success is attaining your goals in all aspects of your life, not just in your finances or career. "Follow out these principles of action and you cannot fail to get what you want; for the universe is so constructed that all things must work together for your good."

Learning Outside the Academy (and Outside the Box)

Learning Outside the Academy (and Outside the Box)

Too many people think you need permission to learn something or that difficult things have to be learned in school. However, the prevalence of this attitude is much lower among entrepreneurs than practically any other group. Hopefully by explaining alternative strategies for learning I can help...

How to Reduce Anxiety Ahead of Time

How to Reduce & Combat Anxiety by Eric Maisel

A great deal of the anxiety we experience is anticipatory. Carefully preparing for situations that provoke anxiety in you is the key to reducing this kind of anxiety. If public speaking makes you anxious and you’re about to give interviews, preparing answers beforehand will help...

Excuses for Not Setting Goals

Excuses for Not Setting Goals

by Dawn Groves. Some lucky folks have only one aspiration weighing on their minds, making it easy to choose a goal. Others can't seem to focus on anything specific. In either case, there are many ways to get around it...

Desire: The Starting Point of All Achievement

Desire: The Starting Point of All Achievement

Edwin C. Barnes’ desire was not a hope! It was not a wish! It was a keen, pulsating desire, which transcended everything else. It was definite. It had been Barnes’ dominating desire for a long time. In the beginning, it may have...

Reasons for Failure: Fatal Alibis That Prevent Success

Reasons for Failure: Fatal Alibis That Prevent Success

People who do not succeed have one distinguishing trait in common. They know all the reasons for failure, and have what they believe to be airtight alibis to explain away their own lack of achievement. As you read the list, examine...

Been Downsized? Fired? Limit The Stress of Job Loss

Been Downsized? Fired? Need to Find a Job?-job loss

Whether or not your own job is in jeopardy in the near future, at some point in your career, you may become a victim of downsizing (if you haven’t already). Being laid off is one of the most traumatic events we can experience. Getting fired is the eighth most stressful life experience, behind the...

A Kid Teaching Kids How To Make Apps

Thomas Suarez and his apps

There are apps for many things these days, and one assumes that apps are created by computer programmers whose job it is to do this. But some apps are being created by a 12 year old boy and his apps club.

Maximize Your Business Success

Business Success

In this time of high unemployment, many people will turn to starting their own small business. Statistics show that 8 out of 10 new businesses fail within the first three years. However, following these basic principles will give you a better chance of success...

Don't Say A Word!

Don't Say A Word!

When we decide to go on a diet, or quit smoking, etc. we tell our friends. We think that this will help us attain our goals more easily. After all, we told our friends and family, so we try harder to succeed... Well, new research shows that the opposite is true! You're better off not saying a word! Read this article to find out more.

Are You a Winner? Are You Ready & Willing to Win?

Are You a Winner? Are You Ready & Willing to Win?

by Marie T. Russell. Every year, I watch the Academy Awards. As I think back upon those evenings, I realize that much of the Academy Awards can be a reflection on our own attitude towards winning and losing, and also to our attitude about success -- whether we are talking about success in our careers, relationships, health and fitness program...

How to Develop Spiritual Balance

Q: In your tape series "Loving Relationships" you explain how females have a natural spiritual balance. You also mention that when women figure that out and stop trying to compete with male energies, they will begin to know their power. Do you have any thoughts...

Enhance Your Career With Self-Discovery of Higher Consciousness

Higher Consciousness Throgh Self-Discovery

by Stuart Wilde. Our life's journey of self-discovery is not a straight line rising from one level of consciousness to another. Instead, it is a series of steep climbs and flat plateaus that take place within our spiritual perception and psychology. The plane of day-to-day existence that...

Bridging The Values Generation Gap

Bridging The Values Generation Gap

by Rebecca Barnett. Our parents teach us right from wrong, though sometimes our grandparents or an exceptional teacher makes an impact. These values become integrated in all you do and carry into all parts of your life. Today, work has become the main connector in our search for values...

A Case for Courage

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by Rebecca Barnett. James Bregman, 1964 Olympian, says, "The real courage is what you do on a daily basis, how you conduct yourself to the standards you have set. That will lead to doing the right thing. The more times you do the next right thing, the more ingrained proper conduct becomes. It starts with little things..."

Visionary Mustard Seed

I was asked to write a short article in which I both explain how I came to be a publisher of spiritual, self-help, and natural health books and disclose my publishing mission. The story itself is quite fascinating. Behind the chronological storyline is the unseen thread of spiritual intent which was the invisible weaver...

The Power Of Passion

Why Geniuses Have Genius: The Power of Passion
What geniuses do is straightforward enough — they recognize their gifts, and then they fully and completely embrace their craft. These people have achieved success because they surrendered fully and completely to their passion. Their first and utmost priority in their life is their work, and they give themselves to it without question.

Difficult Behavior in the Workplace

Difficult Behavior in the Workplace

by Kathleen Hawkins. In the process of living, people may feel frustrated, angry, depressed, or other emotions that we might consider difficult. This behavior can thwart or complicate our best intentions at work. How can you keep a positive perspective when less-than-professional behavior bogs down business? Here are 12 ideas...

How I Found My Own Life Path

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For many dissatisfaction with career or current employment is leading them to search for a new path or direction. John Benson shares his experience and insights on this process. Though no doubt a lifelong process, my journey toward a metaphysical perspective began to accelerate in late 1988, in response to my employment situation...

Business, God, and Magic

I made a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God, as I understand God. That's it, in a nutshell -- at least for me: Just keep turning it over to God, asking to do God's will. That's the one simple solution. Whenever you have a problem, turn it over to God...

Competing for Life

Competition has become so much a part of how we work, live, and love that it is difficult to consider a life not based upon it. We are so immersed in our toxic competition to be successful that those who are not driven by this obsession are seen as 'out of it,' not fully engaged in the game of life, or even cowardly.

Attaining Right Livelihood

Attaining Right Livelihood

by Rick Lewis. The straight-up and simple standard for right livelihood is that we find work that does not harm others and, ideally, which serves others with maximum benefit. If the work we engage gives us some degree of satisfaction and serves in general as a point of connection and opportunity for cooperation...

Values in the Workplace

Values in the Workplace

by Lenedra J. Carroll. An understanding of values is essential in business operation: not as a semantic discussion about the difference between a value and a principle or a quality, but rather as discussion about what we value. What do we value and how are those values operating in our families, our work, or our communities?

A Seven Step Strategy to Acquiring Your Goals

A Seven Step Strategy to Acquiring Your Goals

Unlike dreams, which tend to gloss over important details, or omit them altogether, goals leave no room for confusion about that which is desired. Express your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors.

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year! by Marie T. Russell

It is good to have a fresh start on January 1st... this gives us the needed motivation to release our previous beliefs and behaviors. Although the difference between Dec. 31st and January 1st is only one day, our psyche measures it as a major milestone in our existence...

Earth Money

Earth Money

by Judy Gins. Many of us who walk on this earth have obsessed about money and materialism in such a way that too much negativity and unpleasantness have been the result. We have forgotten that the earth is our temple, our home and our gift, and when we abuse it in this way, we miss the magical and transformational powers of it. Often we want to donate and give back to the earth but...

Banking On Micro-Credit

Banking On Micro-Credit

by Gail E. Neumann. Sometimes a new way of thinking is required to effectively address old problems which have seemed hopeless, unsolvable. In the Bible it says the poor will always be with us. Maybe... but there's no excuse for the depths of poverty experienced in the world today. It is unconscionable that the poorest in developing countries were actually better off...

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