The Whats and Whys of Expectations and Expectation Hangovers

The Whats and Whys of Expectations and Expectation HangoversWe are all consumers of expectations. They are easy to come by — from parents, family, friends, the media — and many are self-created. Expectations are pervasive in our lives, and most of us are conditioned to be driven by them and to attempt to realize them. Our expectations then become our compass...

How To Change a To-Do List to a Could-Do List

Going from a To-Do List to a Could-Do List

The nice thing about making a list is that I get the to-do chatter out of my head and onto a piece of paper. But there’s no way to prioritize. There’s no indication of how important anything is, how much time each task might take, and the order in which I ought to attack the list.

The Dreams Your Soul Longs to Manifest

Let Life Give You the Dreams Your Soul Longs to ManifestI know that it may be tempting sometimes to give up when Life just seems to be too tough, but the moment we give up, our inner life-energy starts to drain away and it then becomes even harder to move through Life’s challenging times. Instead we have to...

How Do I Know If I Am On My Life Path?

How Do I Know If I Am On My Life Path?One of our most important lessons involves learning to express our best self amid the reality of our daily life. Our knowledge of how we as individuals fulfill our life purpose is not an intellectual understanding; it is a heartfelt, intuitive experience coupled with a desire to share and contribute.

What Did I Want to Be When I Grew Up?

What Did I Want to Be When I Grew Up?

Do you remember being asked what you wanted to be when you grew up? This was often a question my teachers directed to the class at the beginning of a new school year. It was also considered a good opener by other adults who really didn’t know us all that well. What did I want to be?

Monkeys Who Gamble Believe In Winning Streaks

Gambling Monkeys Believe In Winning Streaks

Humans tend to detect winning and losing streaks in situations that are actually random. The first study of this phenomenon in non-human primates finds that monkeys share this “hot hand bias.” Scientists disagree about whether this unfounded belief is a cultural artifact picked up in childhood or a predisposition deeply ingrained in...

Reflections on Hope: There Are Better Days Ahead

Reflections on Hope: There Are Better Days AheadHope, I am grateful to note, has a habit of showing up at my door when I least expect it. Of course, there are also times when hope fails to show up, and I need to send out a search party just when I am least equipped to organize one. But for now, we might begin our reflections on hope by considering...

Are Recent College Graduates Finding Good Jobs?

Are Recent College Graduates Finding Good Jobs?

In the lingering aftermath of the Great Recession, recent college graduates are having a tough time of it. As state aid for education has fallen, student loans have risen, leading to crippling levels of debt that has climbed to more than $29,000. Limited options after graduation in a tight job market only make this situation difficult.

Living Your Best: Shifting From Desires to Dreams

Living Your Best: Shifting From Desires to DreamsA desire is anything we have wanted to do, have, or be. The distinction between desires and dreams has become as blurred as the difference between believing and knowing, looking and seeing, and hearing and listening. In the case of desires and dreams, they are actually worlds apart...

Standing on the Shoulders of Giants

Standing on the Shoulders of Giants

Every belief system gives way to a greater one. Even science, which seems “solid,” is constantly casting aside old notions in favor of new ones. This does not make the system, the people who represent it, or related experiences wrong. It just makes them outdated. For you, at least.

The Connecting Link to Success: The Subconscious Mind

The Connecting Link to Success: The Subconscious Mind

You cannot entirely control your subconscious mind, but you can voluntarily hand over to it any plan, desire, or purpose which you wish transformed into concrete form. The possibilities of creative effort connected with the subconscious mind are stu­pendous and imponderable. They inspire one with awe...

Twigs and Shout: Let Success Be Your Theme

Twigs and Shout: Letting Success Be Your Theme

As you and I enter the new year, we find ourselves on a journey over a vast uncharted sea. Will we ever reach the prosperity, rewarding relationships, health, clarity, and inner peace we have been promised? Can I have a job that fulfills my soul and provides me with a substantial income? Can I meet someone who...

How Is Fear Sabotaging Your Life?

How Is Fear Sabotaging Your Life?Fear runs our show from behind, driving us to choices we regret, opportunities we miss, often to the point of grief for what was or what could have been. But the truth is that fear is not a reality, it is a “what-if”. Fear causes the paralysis of our...

Persistence, Persistence, Persistence

Persistence, Persistence, PersistenceWhat separates people who ultimately succeed from those who fail is simply a larger number of tries and a willingness to keep failing. People succeed because they have an increased tolerance for failure, paradoxically suffering even more failures than people who don't succeed...

How to Overcome Fear and Attain Success One Step at a Time

How to Overcome Fear and Attain Success One Step at a Time

General George S. Patton said, “Success is how high you bounce after you’ve hit bottom.” An important key for recovery from fear and worry is to practice, practice, practice, with patience and perseverance. The point is to get going and to set small, realistic goals. Small successes are wonderful stepping stones...

When You've Lost Your Job: Involuntary Termination

When You've Lost Your Job: Involuntary Termination

If you are laid off or fired, don't do anything at first. Give yourself time to just be. You don't need to immediately start sending out resumes. What you need to do is to take a moment to breathe. Feel your feelings of anger and frustration, but don't fall into the victim mode. View this turn of events as an opportunity to take stock of your life.

When It's Impossible to Make a Choice...

When It's Impossible to Make a Choice...

Maggie struggled between two options: either commit to her professional life or commit to her personal life. The stress of it all often made her want to just give up and quit everything. She thought choosing between them was the only way to save her sanity...

The Science of Getting What You Want

The Science of Getting What You Want

Success is attaining your goals in all aspects of your life, not just in your finances or career. "Follow out these principles of action and you cannot fail to get what you want; for the universe is so constructed that all things must work together for your good."

Learning Outside the Academy (and Outside the Box)

Learning Outside the Academy (and Outside the Box)

Too many people think you need permission to learn something or that difficult things have to be learned in school. However, the prevalence of this attitude is much lower among entrepreneurs than practically any other group. Hopefully by explaining alternative strategies for learning I can help...

Do You Need Others to Validate You?

Do You Need Others to Validate You? by Alan Cohen

Do you need any person, object, or ideology to give you a sense of self-worth? Does your experience of validation come from others, or yourself? If you know your worth, you do not need other people to affirm it. If you do not recognize your worth, all the...

How to Reduce Anxiety Ahead of Time

How to Reduce & Combat Anxiety by Eric Maisel

A great deal of the anxiety we experience is anticipatory. Carefully preparing for situations that provoke anxiety in you is the key to reducing this kind of anxiety. If public speaking makes you anxious and you’re about to give interviews, preparing answers beforehand will help...

Suffering from Inability to Ask for Help?

Inability to Ask for Help: Rooted in Imagined Unworthiness & Fear of Losing Independence

Inability to ask is usually rooted in your own imagined unworthiness, fear of losing independence, and specter of being dependent on others. My own discomfort and hesitancy about asking disturbed my comfort zone and led me to soul-searching the truth that we are...

Been Downsized? Fired? Limit The Stress of Job Loss

Been Downsized? Fired? Need to Find a Job?-job loss

Whether or not your own job is in jeopardy in the near future, at some point in your career, you may become a victim of downsizing (if you haven’t already). Being laid off is one of the most traumatic events we can experience. Getting fired is the eighth most stressful life experience, behind the...

Don't Say A Word!

Don't Say A Word!

When we decide to go on a diet, or quit smoking, etc. we tell our friends. We think that this will help us attain our goals more easily. After all, we told our friends and family, so we try harder to succeed... Well, new research shows that the opposite is true! You're better off not saying a word! Read this article to find out more.

Missed Opportunities: Refusing the Flow

Missed Opportunities: Refusing the FlowHow many of us have dreams, or things we've always wanted to do, but never have? What is it that stops us even when the Universe keeps sending us reminders and pointers? "...a man who had just retired at 70 had been an engineer, and he’d always wanted to write poetry, but..."

Earth Money

Earth Money

by Judy Gins. Many of us who walk on this earth have obsessed about money and materialism in such a way that too much negativity and unpleasantness have been the result. We have forgotten that the earth is our temple, our home and our gift, and when we abuse it in this way, we miss the magical and transformational powers of it. Often we want to donate and give back to the earth but...

Become Abundant by Realizing Your Greater Potential

Become Abundant by Realizing Your Greater Potential

by Orin and DaBen. Whether you are consciously aware of it or not, deep inside you are seeking growth and aliveness, wanting to manifest your potential, and be all you can be. Most people think that having money will fill a need, allowing them to experience a feeling, quality, or situation they don't now have.

Banking On Micro-Credit

Banking On Micro-Credit

by Gail E. Neumann. Sometimes a new way of thinking is required to effectively address old problems which have seemed hopeless, unsolvable. In the Bible it says the poor will always be with us. Maybe... but there's no excuse for the depths of poverty experienced in the world today. It is unconscionable that the poorest in developing countries were actually better off...

Being Lost: But Not Lost In Life

Being Lost: But Not Lost In LifeWhat does it mean, exactly, to be "lost"? Perhaps this: we don't know how to get from where we are to where we want to be. I may know where I am physically but be lost because I have no idea what I want to do next in my life...

The Meaning of Monday: The Artificial Walling Off of Time

The Meaning of Monday: The Artificial Walling Off of TimeResearch shows that you are more likely to die from a heart attack or stroke on Monday morning than any other time of the week. Of course, it's not Monday that kills us but the meaning we attach to this artificial walling off of the time of our life. Wolves and robins don't know it's Monday. They don't divide their time into quality and not-quality time...

Extraordinary Reflection: All The Traits You Admire

Extraordinary Reflection: All The Traits You AdmireWhatever you see in other individuals, you have inside yourself. I call this "the reflection principle": If you can recognize it in someone else, it's inside of you. If you think Einstein was a genius, know that you have genius in you, too. You may not have the same form of genius as he did, but your genius is there...

Radically Redefining Success: Being Better Than Yourself

Radically Redefining Success: Being Better Than Yourself

by Phil Cousineau. According to H. A. Harris, the ancient Olympic Games were an integrated preparation for a life of quality. "Players fifty years ago wanted to win just as much as players today," writes legendary basketball coach John Wooden. "In classical times, the courageous struggle for a noble cause was considered success in itself."

Bridging The Values Generation Gap

Bridging The Values Generation Gap

by Rebecca Barnett. Our parents teach us right from wrong, though sometimes our grandparents or an exceptional teacher makes an impact. These values become integrated in all you do and carry into all parts of your life. Today, work has become the main connector in our search for values...

Living from Love or Living from Fear?

Living from Love or Living from Fear?

by William R. Yoder Ph.D., D.C.  Any approach that makes peace and happiness dependent on a particular outcome or circumstances is implicitly saying that you are not enough just as you are — that to experience a truly happy and successful life, you must "achieve" and "earn" and "attain" and "acquire" (fame, power, wealth, accomplishments, etc.). 

A Case for Courage

courage

by Rebecca Barnett. James Bregman, 1964 Olympian, says, "The real courage is what you do on a daily basis, how you conduct yourself to the standards you have set. That will lead to doing the right thing. The more times you do the next right thing, the more ingrained proper conduct becomes. It starts with little things..."

Excuses for Not Setting Goals

Excuses for Not Setting Goals

by Dawn Groves. Some lucky folks have only one aspiration weighing on their minds, making it easy to choose a goal. Others can't seem to focus on anything specific. In either case, there are many ways to get around it...

Stress and Spiritual Goal Setting

Stress and Spiritual Goal Setting

by Dawn Groves. Modern life can be deeply stressful and confusing because of its complexity. Like a maze with too many directions, life fosters anxiety because it is difficult to know which way to go. This chapter can help you navigate...

Self-Help Success

We desire success almost as much as we need to breathe. From the moment we are born we want to do more, get more, be more. Success can be described as the courage to let out the potent dreams and potentialities already in us, simply to give them air. Most people don't do this because it seems dangerous. Yet those who have gone this way do see it simply as the normal path of life.

Visionary Mustard Seed

I was asked to write a short article in which I both explain how I came to be a publisher of spiritual, self-help, and natural health books and disclose my publishing mission. The story itself is quite fascinating. Behind the chronological storyline is the unseen thread of spiritual intent which was the invisible weaver...

The Power Of Passion

What geniuses do is straightforward enough — they recognize their gifts, and then they fully and completely embrace their craft. These people have achieved success because they surrendered fully and completely to their passion. Their first and utmost priority in their life is their work, and they give themselves to it without question.

Attaining Balance in Life

I can, as it were, easily juggle many things at one time without having the juggling itself wear on me. It has only been in the last few decades that I have recognized this for the incredible gift that it is. Indeed, it was only after I began managing other people that I began to...

Big Visions for Small Businesses

Big Visions for Small Businesses

by Jamie S. Walters. Unlike many companies that seem to have a significant gap between espoused principles and actual decisions and effects, big-vision small-business owners may opt to avoid quantitative growth, turn away a profitable account, or forego entry into a hot new market if it means casting aside the core values upon which their business is based.

Attaining Right Livelihood

Attaining Right Livelihood

by Rick Lewis. The straight-up and simple standard for right livelihood is that we find work that does not harm others and, ideally, which serves others with maximum benefit. If the work we engage gives us some degree of satisfaction and serves in general as a point of connection and opportunity for cooperation...

Values in the Workplace

Values in the Workplace

by Lenedra J. Carroll. An understanding of values is essential in business operation: not as a semantic discussion about the difference between a value and a principle or a quality, but rather as discussion about what we value. What do we value and how are those values operating in our families, our work, or our communities?

Dreams Happen

Dreams Happen

by Lynn A. Robinson. One of the biggest challenges facing many of my clients is that they talk themselves out of their hopes and dreams before they even begin. They do this because they can't figure out how to get to where they want to go. I'd like to propose a radical alternative. Don't try to figure out how to reach your goal; let the Universe help you.

A Simple Plan for Success

I'm a true fan of self-help books. I keep a stack of five or six of them by my bed and read them before going to sleep at night. Following is my distillation of some of these ideas, but with an intuitive spin on them...

Inner World Outer World

Are there two worlds? There is a physical plane, which we live in everyday. And there is the inner world, which is a different one altogether...the world of feeling, prayer, and spirit where things happen that are unexplained. This is the world of emotions and hunches and intuition, the world that makes coincidence happen.

How I Found My Own Life Path

Career Management, life path,career choice, life change

For many dissatisfaction with career or current employment is leading them to search for a new path or direction. John Benson shares his experience and insights on this process. Though no doubt a lifelong process, my journey toward a metaphysical perspective began to accelerate in late 1988, in response to my employment situation...

Business, God, and Magic

I made a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God, as I understand God. That's it, in a nutshell -- at least for me: Just keep turning it over to God, asking to do God's will. That's the one simple solution. Whenever you have a problem, turn it over to God...

Competing for Life

Competition has become so much a part of how we work, live, and love that it is difficult to consider a life not based upon it. We are so immersed in our toxic competition to be successful that those who are not driven by this obsession are seen as 'out of it,' not fully engaged in the game of life, or even cowardly.

Fulfilling Your Desires

by Norman Monath. Before you can get what you want, you have to know what you want. This sounds simple, but it really isn't. To know what you want takes a great deal of self-analysis and effort. Often, after striving for a lifetime to get certain things, people find that what they have gotten isn't what they really wanted after all.

The Disconnected Self

finding your own north star

by Martha Beck, Ph.D. I base all my counseling on the premise that each of us has these two sides: the essential self and the social self. The essential self contains several sophisticated compasses that continuously point toward your North Star. The social self is the set of skills that actually carry you toward this goal.

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