A Course in Life 101: Learning to Lighten Up and De-Stress

A Course in Life 101: Learning to Lighten Up and De-Stress

'Lighten up' is a popular phrase and for good reason. Most of us have a tendency to take ourselves much too seriously. We fret over everything we do as if we're supposed to be perfect in whatever we attempt. So many of us put ourselves down at the slightest imperfection

Surviving External Pressures and Resolving Conflict Positively

Surviving External Pressures and Resolving Conflict Positively

Our belief systems are very real and solid to us and filled with myriad preconceptions about what is "right" and what is "wrong". When something occurs that contradicts our preconceptions, we immediately react defensively. This defensiveness is the seed of conflict...

Visualize Success: Positive Films for Positive Results

Visualize Success: Positive Films for Positive Results

We can not be successful if we always focus on what went wrong. Whatever we focus on, whatever we put most of our attention on, grows and thrives. Harping on our mistakes and misfortunes will only produce more of them.

Remote Work Requires Us To Reconsider How To Evaluate and Pay Employees

Remote Work Requires Us To Reconsider How To Evaluate and Pay Employees

Remote work is about more than just working from home — it means working differently. Because working from home may become much more prevalent even after the COVID-19 pandemic has passed, it’s time to adapt employee evaluation and compensation schemes to address the new reality.

Why Geniuses Have Genius: The Power of Passion

Why Geniuses Have Genius: The Power of Passion

What geniuses do is straightforward enough — they recognize their gifts, and then they fully and completely embrace their craft. These people have achieved success because they surrendered fully and completely to their passion. Their first and utmost priority in their life is their work, and they give themselves to it without question.

Why More Companies Are Hiring Autistic People

Why More Companies Are Hiring Autistic People

Some of my favourite fictional characters include Spock and Seven of Nine from Star Trek, Dr Martin Ellingham from Doc Martin and Shaun Murphy from The Good Doctor. Apart from being brilliant at their jobs, they are all considered to be autistic by the autism community.

Complacency: A One-Way Ticket To Doom

Complacency: A One-Way Ticket To Doom

When creativity dies within a company or career, your eventual end is soon cast in stone. Let’s take a look at a company that has gone out of business and why one of my three distinct flavors of complacency ultimately led to their demise.

3 Keys To Meaningful Work

3 Keys To Meaningful Work

Given we spend, on average, about 90,000 hours at work, most of us want work that’s more than just a source of income. We want work that’s satisfying, significant, valuable. Work, in other words, that is meaningful.

How The Humble Blouse Got Women Out To Work

How The Humble Blouse Got Women Out To Work

As more people are encouraged to head back to the office, they will be swapping their home wear for their work wear. One staple of the working wardrobe has particularly interesting roots

How You Too Can Find Life Balance, Harmony, and Joy

How To Find Life Balance, Harmony, and Joy

As I sit at the computer, reading my email, I am also blow drying my hair, typing with one hand. My back starts to ache from sitting in one position for too long. As I tune into my body, I realize that this is insane... That I am somehow pursuing goals instead of living in joy. That I have lost...

Fulfilling Your Desires: Start By Asking The Right Questions

Fulfilling Your Desires: Asking The Right Questions

Before you can get what you want, you have to know what you want. This sounds simple, but it really isn't. To know what you want takes a great deal of self-analysis and effort. Often, after striving for a lifetime to get certain things, people find that what they have gotten isn't what they really wanted after all.

How To Make Dreams Happen, One Step At A Time

Dreams Happen, One Step At A Time

One of the biggest challenges facing many of my clients is that they talk themselves out of their hopes and dreams before they even begin. They do this because they can't figure out how to get to where they want to go. I'd like to propose a radical alternative. Don't try to figure out how to reach your goal; let the Universe help you.

Be A Love Leader: Love and Fear Cannot Live Under The Same Roof

Be A Love Leader: Love and Fear Cannot Live Under The Same Roof

In transformative leadership, nothing is more vital than the ability to lead with love. Over my years working as an executive in the banking in­dustry, I frequently chose to bring this unusual concept forward with my peers and in my development of future leaders.

Living from Love or Living from Fear?

Living from Love or Living from Fear?

Any approach that makes peace and happiness dependent on a particular outcome or circumstances is implicitly saying that you are not enough just as you are — that to experience a truly happy and successful life, you must "achieve" and "earn" and "attain" and "acquire" (fame, power, wealth, accomplishments, etc.). 

Achieving Your Dreams: Your Goals Get You to Your Dreams

Achieving Your Dreams by Working Your Goals

I was about eight years old when I announced that I was going to play for the Yankees. My parents were receptive to my dream and talked about what it would take to achieve such a difficult goal. They told me hat I could do anything I wanted in life if I worked hard enough and stayed dedicated to it.

A Case for Courage: Ethical Behavior vs. Unethical Business Misconduct

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James Bregman, 1964 Olympian, said, "The real courage is what you do on a daily basis, how you conduct yourself to the standards you have set. That will lead to doing the right thing. The more times you do the next right thing, the more ingrained proper conduct becomes. It starts with little things..."

Pants Or No Pants? Tips For Virtual Job Interviews From Home

Pants Or No Pants? Tips For Virtual Job Interviews From Home

If you have the good fortune of scoring a virtual job interview in the middle of a pandemic, the initial euphoria of potential employment may soon be replaced with anxiety over what to wear – as well as putting your home life on display for a potential employer.

Attaining Right Livelihood: What Effect Does Your Work Have On You?

Attaining Right Livelihood: What Effect Does Your Work Have On You?

The straight-up and simple standard for right livelihood is that we find work that does not harm others and, ideally, which serves others with maximum benefit. If the work we engage gives us some degree of satisfaction and serves in general as a point of connection and opportunity for cooperation...

How to Live in the Inner World and the Outer World

The Two Worlds We Inhabit: Inner World and Outer World

Are there two worlds? Now, I know you think I've lost my mind. I'm too far out there -- He's talking about the existence of two worlds! The two worlds I'm talking about are the outer and inner world. There is a physical plane, which we live in everyday. And there is the inner world, which is a different one altogether.

A Seven Step Strategy to Attaining Your Goals

A Seven Step Strategy to Acquiring Your Goals

Unlike dreams, which tend to gloss over important details, or omit them altogether, goals leave no room for confusion about that which is desired. Express your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors.

Professional Adventurers' Top 3 Tips For Surviving A Crisis

03 27 professional adventurers top 3 tips for surviving a crisis
An adventure can be something you actively prepare for and intentionally seek out, but it can also be an experience that hits you broadside with no prior warning and leaves you scrambling for what to do next. The current COVID-19 crisis falls squarely into the latter category and navigating through it is an adventure in every sense of the word.

Finding A Goal That Is Right For You

Answering The Question
Why should you give all your time and effort to this par­ticular goal? If you don’t know why you’re doing something, if you don’t have a crystal-clear image of the success you’re chas­ing and the reason you’re chasing it, then...

5 Ways to Lead with Love, Not Fear, and Be a Love Leader

5 Ways to Lead with Love, Not Fear, and Be a Love Leader
For many of us, our default state isn't love; it's fear. Picture, for a moment, 7 billion human beings walking around the planet, heads down, eyes averting the gaze of others, hiding behind insecurities and past pain points, hovering under the radar, and just trying to blend in.

Your Identity — The Most Important Paradigm

Your Identity — The Most Important Paradigm
You have an identity. Everyone does. You likely don’t recognize it or would struggle to describe it. But it is there, buried deep within your program. Your iden­tity is the aggregation of dozens (if not hundreds) of beliefs about yourself that you have accumulated over the course of your life.

How Telecommuters Create Positive Change

How Telecommuters Create Positive Change
More Americans are using flexible workplace practices – including telecommuting, co-working and off-peak start times – to add flexibility to their lives and eliminate or improve their commute.

Earth Money: Do You Own Your Money or Does Your Money Own You?

Earth Money
Many of us who walk on this earth have obsessed about money and materialism in such a way that too much negativity and unpleasantness have been the result. We have forgotten that the earth is our temple, our home and our gift, and when we abuse it in this way, we miss the magical and transformational powers of it. Often we want to donate and give back to the earth but...

Bring Your Heart To Work and Make a Difference a Day: The Business of Kindness

Bring Your Heart To Work and Make a Difference a Day: The Business of Kindness
The character each of us brings to our work, volun­teering, or anything we do in life says a lot about us. Whether you work from home, commute to a full-time job, or volunteer, your work, when purposeful, can be a wonderful opportunity to live and give of your best self out loud. And love it.

Contemplation on Success: Stop Trying and Start Doing

Contemplation on Success: Stop Trying and Start Doing
In many of our life's endeavors we say, "Oh well, I tried", and take our failure as "a lesson to be learned". Too often, we conclude that the lesson is, "I better not try that again". Perhaps the real lesson is that we didn't really try. Maybe we only made a halfhearted attempt and life gave us back exactly what we gave to it.

Big Visions for Small Businesses: Pursuing Values and Meeting Challenges

Big Visions for Small Businesses: Pursuing Values and Meeting Challenges
Unlike many companies that seem to have a significant gap between espoused principles and actual decisions and effects, big-vision small-business owners may opt to avoid quantitative growth, turn away a profitable account, or forego entry into a hot new market if it means casting aside the core values upon which their business is based.

Gaining Time: Prioritizing, Multitasking, Planning

Gaining Time: Prioritizing, Multitasking, Planning
Humans invented the measurement of hours fairly early on in our history. Then we added minutes and seconds. We've only recently conceived of the nanosecond. We've forgotten that time is fiction, a simple measuring device we created. We imbue time with significance, judge it as being "quality" or not, and race against it.

What's So Wrong About Lying In A Job Interview

What's So Wrong About Lying In A Job Interview
Getting a new job is tough. I know this not just because of my own research as a professor studying the intersection of business and ethics, but also because of the countless candidates I interviewed for major firms in my previous career.

Beautiful People Don't Always Win In The Workplace

Beautiful People Don't Always Win In The Workplace
Beautiful people tend to have a lot more luck in the work world. Research has shown people deemed attractive get paid more, receive better job evaluations and are generally more employable

A Simple Plan for Success: A Few Things To Do!

A Simple Plan for Success: A Few Things To Do!
I'm a true fan of self-help books. I keep a stack of five or six of them by my bed and read them before going to sleep at night. Following is my distillation of some of these ideas, but with an intuitive spin on them...

Why Are There So Few Women CEOs?

Why Are There So Few Women CEOs?
Women comprise about 47% of the U.S. workforce, yet they make up barely a quarter of all senior executives at large U.S. public companies. Even worse, only about 5% of Standard & Poor’s 500 companies have female CEOs.

Being Lost... But Not Lost In Life

Being Lost: But Not Lost In Life
What does it mean, exactly, to be "lost"? Perhaps this: we don't know how to get from where we are to where we want to be. I may know where I am physically but be lost because I have no idea what I want to do next in my life...

How To Handle Change: When You've Lost Your Job

When You've Lost Your Job
If you are laid off or fired, don't do anything at first. Give yourself time to just be. You don't need to immediately start sending out resumes. What you need to do is to take a moment to breathe. Feel your feelings of anger and frustration, but don't fall into the victim mode. View this turn of events as an opportunity to take stock of your life.

Abandoning Worry Opens A World Of Possibilities

Abandoning Worry Opens A World Of Possibilities
People have an innate capacity for happiness. When we are happy, we are more competent, productive, and creative. Without the internal distractions of anger, depression, frustration, and especially worry, our relationships flourish, stress diminished, new doors opened, and...

Overworked? Why Good Habits, Not Holidays, Are The Answer

Overworked? Why Good Habits, Not Holidays, Are The Answer
Long work hours increase risk of dying from cardiovascular heart disease, risk to family functioning, injury at work, smoking intensity, anxiety, digestive problems, and alcohol abuse. So if we need to work long hours, what can we do to recover?

Life's Sweet Nectar: Commitment Is The Stuff That Character Is Made Of

Life's Sweet Nectar: Commitment Is The Stuff That Character Is Made OfMany of us are confused about the nature of values. Because of this vague understanding of values, it is not surprising to find that even well educated, highly trained, and somewhat wealthy adults often rate themselves moderate to low on the scale of...

When Seeking a New Direction, Do You Have Limited Options or Creative Options?

Finding a New Direction: Limited Options or Creative Options?Many of us have limited thinking patterns regarding how to earn an income or even to assess value. Yet when we feel connected to our inner creative, we naturally access the feminine realm that generates our creative currency. This is the space where dreams are free to range, time or money concerns and other limitations fade...

Finding Joy In Your Work and Living A Fulfilled Life

Finding Joy In Your Work and Living A Fulfilled LifeOur work should be a manifestation of who we are and what we believe. Often when life is stagnating, unfulfilling, or inauthentic we see it in multiple areas of our lives. It shows itself in our finances, our relationships, our spiritual lives, and our work.

How To Fill The Massive Cybersecurity Job Gap

How To Fill The Massive Cybersecurity Job Gap

Cybersecurity incidents are gaining an increasingly high profile. In the past, these incidents may have been perceived primarily as a somewhat distant issue for organisations such as banks to deal with.

How American Mothers Balance Work And Family

Data Show How American Mothers Balance Work And Family

Almost 70% of American mothers with children under 18 work for pay. But motherhood remains disruptive for many women’s work lives.

Why Some Firms Are Getting Rid Of Middle Managers

Why Some Firms Are Getting Rid Of Middle Managers

The trend of “flat” organisations is catching on at some of the world’s biggest companies. It’s easy to see the appeal when you think of a utopia where everyone in an organisation has a say and can act autonomously.

Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep: Preparing Your Subconscious for Sleep

Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep: Preparing Your Subconscious for SleepThe last five minutes of your day before you enter into your sleep state are the most important of your day. In this brief five minutes, you are going to tell your subconscious mind how you feel and what wishes God (the universal one subconscious mind) is to fulfill upon awakening...

Are We Too Busy For Our Own Good?

Are We Too Busy For Our Own Good?Those of us who inhabit the more industrially developed nations of the world seem to believe that doing more will somehow yield us more. When we mistakenly enter into this thought pattern, we come dangerously close to...

Being a Vision Keeper: Using Our Authentic Self To Find Our Life Path

Being a Vision Keeper: Using Our Authentic Self To Find Our Life Path
As we allow our authentic selves to guide us, trusting our inner vision, our way emerges in bits and pieces. We find the path we're meant to walk in the same way that we walk over rocks to cross a stream, one step at a time. We have to put effort, often for many years, into finding...

There Are No Such Things As Problems or Failures

There Are No Such Things As Problems or Failures -- Only Opportunities
Most of us dream of the day when we won't have any more problems, when everything will be resolved, and our lives will be 'complete'. But it is not an accident or coincidence that a particular problem is happening to you at any given point in your life; our difficulties are signposts waiting to be read...

Half Of Employers Say They Are Less Inclined To Recruit Obese Candidates

Half Of Employers Say They Are Less Inclined To Recruit Obese Candidates
Obesity is one of the most pressing and controversial public health challenges. It has the distinction of being a crisis about which most people have an opinion – often based on a simple diagnosis – but for which nobody has found a correspondingly neat solution.

The Components of an Indestructible Mind-Set and a State of Excellence

The Components of an Indestructible Mind-Set and a State of ExcellenceWhilst there are always seemingly external factors beyond our control, we can always take charge of our own mind and control and we think and what we do, which incidentally will also bring the external under control in-line with our core deep-seated beliefs

Twigs and Shout: Let Success Be Your Theme

Twigs and Shout: Let Success Be Your ThemeAs you and I enter the new year, we find ourselves on a journey over a vast uncharted sea. Will we ever reach the prosperity, rewarding relationships, health, clarity, and inner peace we have been promised? Can I have a job that fulfills my soul and provides me with a substantial income? Can I meet someone who...

Women Feel Better When They Work With Other Women

Women Feel Better When They Work With Other Women
The #metoo movement has brought the widespread sexual harassment experienced by women in the workplace to the fore. Women in traditionally male jobs and workplaces are even more likely to experience gender discrimination and sexual harassment.

Extraordinary Reflection: All The Traits You Admire

Extraordinary Reflection: All The Traits You AdmireWhatever you see in other individuals, you have inside yourself. I call this "the reflection principle": If you can recognize it in someone else, it's inside of you. If you think Einstein was a genius, know that you have genius in you, too. You may not have the same form of genius as he did, but your genius is there...

Being Happy at Work: Meaningful Work Matters

Being Happy at WorkMeaningful work matters. At its most basic level, work satisfies our economic imperatives and signals our position in society. Through it, we pay the rent, buy groceries, and prepare for the future. But our work can also express who we are and provide reasons for getting on with life..

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