Fulfilling Your Desires: Start By Asking The Right Questions

Fulfilling Your Desires: Asking The Right Questions

Before you can get what you want, you have to know what you want. This sounds simple, but it really isn't. To know what you want takes a great deal of self-analysis and effort. Often, after striving for a lifetime to get certain things, people find that what they have gotten isn't what they really wanted after all.

How To Make Dreams Happen, One Step At A Time

Dreams Happen, One Step At A Time

One of the biggest challenges facing many of my clients is that they talk themselves out of their hopes and dreams before they even begin. They do this because they can't figure out how to get to where they want to go. I'd like to propose a radical alternative. Don't try to figure out how to reach your goal; let the Universe help you.

Be A Love Leader: Love and Fear Cannot Live Under The Same Roof

Be A Love Leader: Love and Fear Cannot Live Under The Same Roof

In transformative leadership, nothing is more vital than the ability to lead with love. Over my years working as an executive in the banking in­dustry, I frequently chose to bring this unusual concept forward with my peers and in my development of future leaders.

Living from Love or Living from Fear?

Living from Love or Living from Fear?

Any approach that makes peace and happiness dependent on a particular outcome or circumstances is implicitly saying that you are not enough just as you are — that to experience a truly happy and successful life, you must "achieve" and "earn" and "attain" and "acquire" (fame, power, wealth, accomplishments, etc.). 

Achieving Your Dreams: Your Goals Get You to Your Dreams

Achieving Your Dreams by Working Your Goals

I was about eight years old when I announced that I was going to play for the Yankees. My parents were receptive to my dream and talked about what it would take to achieve such a difficult goal. They told me hat I could do anything I wanted in life if I worked hard enough and stayed dedicated to it.

Expecting the Best: Living by Faith Instead of Fear

Expecting the Best: Living by Faith Instead of Fear

Sometimes, intensity of desire can actually turn away things that are good for you because it suggests faith only in yourself and not in the higher power that has created you. Even burning ambitions and desires are most easily realized by allowing them to be realized — a case of "set and forget."

A Case for Courage: Ethical Behavior vs. Unethical Business Misconduct

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James Bregman, 1964 Olympian, said, "The real courage is what you do on a daily basis, how you conduct yourself to the standards you have set. That will lead to doing the right thing. The more times you do the next right thing, the more ingrained proper conduct becomes. It starts with little things..."

Pants Or No Pants? Tips For Virtual Job Interviews From Home

Pants Or No Pants? Tips For Virtual Job Interviews From Home

If you have the good fortune of scoring a virtual job interview in the middle of a pandemic, the initial euphoria of potential employment may soon be replaced with anxiety over what to wear – as well as putting your home life on display for a potential employer.

Attaining Right Livelihood: What Effect Does Your Work Have On You?

Attaining Right Livelihood: What Effect Does Your Work Have On You?

The straight-up and simple standard for right livelihood is that we find work that does not harm others and, ideally, which serves others with maximum benefit. If the work we engage gives us some degree of satisfaction and serves in general as a point of connection and opportunity for cooperation...

How We Can And Must Change How We Work

How We Can And Must Change How We Work

The coronavirus pandemic has exposed the deep-seated problems of how and why we all work. It has shown how many of us perform jobs that are not essential. 

How to Live in the Inner World and the Outer World

The Two Worlds We Inhabit: Inner World and Outer World

Are there two worlds? Now, I know you think I've lost my mind. I'm too far out there -- He's talking about the existence of two worlds! The two worlds I'm talking about are the outer and inner world. There is a physical plane, which we live in everyday. And there is the inner world, which is a different one altogether.

A Seven Step Strategy to Attaining Your Goals

A Seven Step Strategy to Acquiring Your Goals

Unlike dreams, which tend to gloss over important details, or omit them altogether, goals leave no room for confusion about that which is desired. Express your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors.

Professional Adventurers' Top 3 Tips For Surviving A Crisis

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An adventure can be something you actively prepare for and intentionally seek out, but it can also be an experience that hits you broadside with no prior warning and leaves you scrambling for what to do next. The current COVID-19 crisis falls squarely into the latter category and navigating through it is an adventure in every sense of the word.

Finding A Goal That Is Right For You

Answering The Question
Why should you give all your time and effort to this par­ticular goal? If you don’t know why you’re doing something, if you don’t have a crystal-clear image of the success you’re chas­ing and the reason you’re chasing it, then...

5 Ways to Lead with Love, Not Fear, and Be a Love Leader

5 Ways to Lead with Love, Not Fear, and Be a Love Leader
For many of us, our default state isn't love; it's fear. Picture, for a moment, 7 billion human beings walking around the planet, heads down, eyes averting the gaze of others, hiding behind insecurities and past pain points, hovering under the radar, and just trying to blend in.

A Look Behind The Co-Working World Revolution

A Look Behind The Co-Working World Revolution

Co-working spaces have been growing in all the world’s major cities for 15 years. But what makes them so popular? Why and when did they appear? Who are their members?

Your Identity — The Most Important Paradigm

Your Identity — The Most Important Paradigm
You have an identity. Everyone does. You likely don’t recognize it or would struggle to describe it. But it is there, buried deep within your program. Your iden­tity is the aggregation of dozens (if not hundreds) of beliefs about yourself that you have accumulated over the course of your life.

How Telecommuters Create Positive Change

How Telecommuters Create Positive Change
More Americans are using flexible workplace practices – including telecommuting, co-working and off-peak start times – to add flexibility to their lives and eliminate or improve their commute.

Earth Money: Do You Own Your Money or Does Your Money Own You?

Earth Money
Many of us who walk on this earth have obsessed about money and materialism in such a way that too much negativity and unpleasantness have been the result. We have forgotten that the earth is our temple, our home and our gift, and when we abuse it in this way, we miss the magical and transformational powers of it. Often we want to donate and give back to the earth but...

Bring Your Heart To Work and Make a Difference a Day: The Business of Kindness

Bring Your Heart To Work and Make a Difference a Day: The Business of Kindness
The character each of us brings to our work, volun­teering, or anything we do in life says a lot about us. Whether you work from home, commute to a full-time job, or volunteer, your work, when purposeful, can be a wonderful opportunity to live and give of your best self out loud. And love it.

Contemplation on Success: Stop Trying and Start Doing

Contemplation on Success: Stop Trying and Start Doing
In many of our life's endeavors we say, "Oh well, I tried", and take our failure as "a lesson to be learned". Too often, we conclude that the lesson is, "I better not try that again". Perhaps the real lesson is that we didn't really try. Maybe we only made a halfhearted attempt and life gave us back exactly what we gave to it.

Big Visions for Small Businesses: Pursuing Values and Meeting Challenges

Big Visions for Small Businesses: Pursuing Values and Meeting Challenges
Unlike many companies that seem to have a significant gap between espoused principles and actual decisions and effects, big-vision small-business owners may opt to avoid quantitative growth, turn away a profitable account, or forego entry into a hot new market if it means casting aside the core values upon which their business is based.

Gaining Time: Prioritizing, Multitasking, Planning

Gaining Time: Prioritizing, Multitasking, Planning
Humans invented the measurement of hours fairly early on in our history. Then we added minutes and seconds. We've only recently conceived of the nanosecond. We've forgotten that time is fiction, a simple measuring device we created. We imbue time with significance, judge it as being "quality" or not, and race against it.

Must A Seeker Choose Between A Nice Car and “Awareness”?

Must A Seeker Choose Between A Nice Car and “Awareness”?
There is a conflict in early twenty-first century New Thought. Some seekers want a New Thought that emphasizes personal attainment and ambition. Others believe that New Thought’s focus should be on social justice—they view the think-and-grow-rich approach as narrow, unspiritual, or outdated.

Do Our Possessions Actually Possess Us Instead Of We Possessing Them?

Do Our Possessions Actually Possess Us Instead Of We Possessing Them?
Humans have a particularly strong and, at times, irrational obsession with possessions. Every year, car owners are killed or seriously injured in their attempts to stop the theft of their vehicles – a choice that few would make in the cold light of day.

What's So Wrong About Lying In A Job Interview

What's So Wrong About Lying In A Job Interview
Getting a new job is tough. I know this not just because of my own research as a professor studying the intersection of business and ethics, but also because of the countless candidates I interviewed for major firms in my previous career.

The Power of Passion: Why Geniuses Have Genius

Why Geniuses Have Genius: The Power of Passion
What geniuses do is straightforward enough — they recognize their gifts, and then they fully and completely embrace their craft. These people have achieved success because they surrendered fully and completely to their passion. Their first and utmost priority in their life is their work, and they give themselves to it without question.

Beautiful People Don't Always Win In The Workplace

Beautiful People Don't Always Win In The Workplace
Beautiful people tend to have a lot more luck in the work world. Research has shown people deemed attractive get paid more, receive better job evaluations and are generally more employable

A Simple Plan for Success: A Few Things To Do!

A Simple Plan for Success: A Few Things To Do!
I'm a true fan of self-help books. I keep a stack of five or six of them by my bed and read them before going to sleep at night. Following is my distillation of some of these ideas, but with an intuitive spin on them...

Why Are There So Few Women CEOs?

Why Are There So Few Women CEOs?
Women comprise about 47% of the U.S. workforce, yet they make up barely a quarter of all senior executives at large U.S. public companies. Even worse, only about 5% of Standard & Poor’s 500 companies have female CEOs.

Being Lost... But Not Lost In Life

Being Lost: But Not Lost In Life
What does it mean, exactly, to be "lost"? Perhaps this: we don't know how to get from where we are to where we want to be. I may know where I am physically but be lost because I have no idea what I want to do next in my life...

How To Handle Change: When You've Lost Your Job

When You've Lost Your Job
If you are laid off or fired, don't do anything at first. Give yourself time to just be. You don't need to immediately start sending out resumes. What you need to do is to take a moment to breathe. Feel your feelings of anger and frustration, but don't fall into the victim mode. View this turn of events as an opportunity to take stock of your life.

How The Gig Economy Gives A Mental Health Boost To Workers

How The Gig Economy Gives A Mental Health Boost To Workers
The general picture of gig economy work and mental wellbeing is not a pretty one. Around the world, Uber drivers face wage and security worries. Deliveroo workers have too much competition. Airbnb owners face legal problems in Paris and other cities.

Abandoning Worry Opens A World Of Possibilities

Abandoning Worry Opens A World Of Possibilities
People have an innate capacity for happiness. When we are happy, we are more competent, productive, and creative. Without the internal distractions of anger, depression, frustration, and especially worry, our relationships flourish, stress diminished, new doors opened, and...

Overworked? Why Good Habits, Not Holidays, Are The Answer

Overworked? Why Good Habits, Not Holidays, Are The Answer
Long work hours increase risk of dying from cardiovascular heart disease, risk to family functioning, injury at work, smoking intensity, anxiety, digestive problems, and alcohol abuse. So if we need to work long hours, what can we do to recover?

Humanity and The Money Game... Where Do We Go From Here?

Humanity and The Money Game... Where Do We Go From Here?
At this stage of the money game we’re operating under an “every man for himself” style of play. We’re taught that the end justifies the means, that it’s a dog-eat-dog reality, that might makes right and it’s a winner-take-all kind of world. We’re taught that winners never quit and quitters never win, and that only the strongest and fittest among us survive.

Life's Sweet Nectar: Commitment Is The Stuff That Character Is Made Of

Life's Sweet Nectar: Commitment Is The Stuff That Character Is Made OfMany of us are confused about the nature of values. Because of this vague understanding of values, it is not surprising to find that even well educated, highly trained, and somewhat wealthy adults often rate themselves moderate to low on the scale of...

Why We Have Such A Love-Hate Relationship With Work

Why We Have Such A Love-hate Relationship With Work

Shock, horror, a new study shows the British public don’t like their jobs. Using smart phones researchers mapped the happiness of people in real time, while they went about their daily lives.

When Seeking a New Direction, Do You Have Limited Options or Creative Options?

Finding a New Direction: Limited Options or Creative Options?Many of us have limited thinking patterns regarding how to earn an income or even to assess value. Yet when we feel connected to our inner creative, we naturally access the feminine realm that generates our creative currency. This is the space where dreams are free to range, time or money concerns and other limitations fade...

We Need A Lot More Male Nurses

We Need Lots More Male NursesWe’re running a stand to press the case for more men in nursing, a profession where women outnumber men by a staggering nine to one – both in Scotland and around the world.

Why Some Firms Are Getting Rid Of Middle Managers

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The trend of “flat” organisations is catching on at some of the world’s biggest companies. It’s easy to see the appeal when you think of a utopia where everyone in an organisation has a say and can act autonomously.

Finding Joy In Your Work and Living A Fulfilled Life

Finding Joy In Your Work and Living A Fulfilled LifeOur work should be a manifestation of who we are and what we believe. Often when life is stagnating, unfulfilling, or inauthentic we see it in multiple areas of our lives. It shows itself in our finances, our relationships, our spiritual lives, and our work.

How To Fill The Massive Cybersecurity Job Gap

How To Fill The Massive Cybersecurity Job Gap

Cybersecurity incidents are gaining an increasingly high profile. In the past, these incidents may have been perceived primarily as a somewhat distant issue for organisations such as banks to deal with.

How American Mothers Balance Work And Family

Data Show How American Mothers Balance Work And Family

Almost 70% of American mothers with children under 18 work for pay. But motherhood remains disruptive for many women’s work lives.

Why Some Firms Are Getting Rid Of Middle Managers

Why Some Firms Are Getting Rid Of Middle Managers

The trend of “flat” organisations is catching on at some of the world’s biggest companies. It’s easy to see the appeal when you think of a utopia where everyone in an organisation has a say and can act autonomously.

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