Don't Give Up On Your Relationship

Don't Give Up On Your Relationship

Can any two people create and maintain a great relationship? You may not think so, because in your search for love, you've only met with failure and disappointment. You may have come to expect that any love relationship you have will end up being quite painful...

You Are Not A Sheep; You Are A Shepherd

You Are Not A Sheep; You Are A Shepherd

When you justify the old— “Well, we have always done it as such, so this must be the way”— you are a follower, you are sheep. And, in fact, the Divine Self as you is not a sheep, but a shepherd.

Rebirth: Love Will Replace Fear

Rebirth: Love Will Replace Fear

The sacred has always been with us. It’s right there outside the window. It’s right there outside the walls we’ve built around ourselves, right there outside the doors of perception made opaque by the human ego.

Children Reveal What They Really Think Of Adults

Children Reveal What They Really Think Of Adults

Every parent knows that sometimes your child says something that stops you in your tracks. Such a moment came for one of us, Emma Maynard, when her son Oscar was approaching his year 6 SATS tests at the end of primary school.

The Empathy of Children: Have We Lost Our Ability To Feel?

The Empathy of Children: Have We Lost Our Ability To Feel?

During the first few months of 2003, I was taught something remarkable by 123 children, from 2 to 13 years of age. There is something remarkable about kids: they experience life in a way that expresses deep and profound wisdom. Their wisdom is born of their own connection to life and to living things.

Reducing the Obesity Stigma: Are We Over Weight Yet?

Reducing the Obesity Stigma: Are We Over Weight Yet?

The 2019 report from Canada’s Chief Public Health Officer Dr. Theresa Tam focused on addressing different forms of stigma. Included in the report was one form of stigma — obesity or weight stigma — that has proven remarkably difficult to overcome. We are hoping to change that.

The Three Requirements of a Human Being

Beloved Friend: The Practice of Gazing at the Beloved

Can a man who longs for a woman to complete him really believe that he needs to do nothing more than lose himself in television sports and drink imported beer while he's waiting for his beloved to appear? If he then walked into a room... would she be attracted to him?

What Groundhog Day And My Time In A Monastery Taught Me About Lockdown

What Groundhog Day And My Time In A Monastery Taught Me About Lockdown

How do we cope with the new normal of staying in our houses for 23 hours a day? One popular solution is to immerse ourselves in stories. Topical films, such as Contagion (2011), have found a new life in the pandemic. But a more prescient film, for lockdown, is the cult classic Groundhog Day (1993), directed by Harold Ramis.

We Have A Choice: We Can Transmute Negativity

We Have A Choice: We Can Transmute Negativity

It is hard for us to fathom the true significance of the unique events taking place on Earth, but they are unprecedented and profound. You and I have each been preparing for thousands of years for this moment.

Follow Your Heart's Desire and Fulfill Your Life's Potential

 

Follow Your Heart's Desire and Fulfill Your Life's Potential

Everyone has dreams. You may dismiss them, wish them into your life or escape into them, but there is always one inside you. Have you ever attempted to make your dream your life's reality? This is life's biggest challenge and one of the greatest opportunities for you to grow as a person.

3 Ways To Promote Social Skills In Homebound Kids

3 Ways To Promote Social Skills In Homebound Kids

With the severity of the COVID-19 pandemic getting worse in most of the country, a growing number of school districts from San Francisco to Atlanta have determined that a return to daily in-person instruction isn’t yet safe or viable. 

Chinese Power Animals and Their Corresponding Sun Signs

Chinese Power Animals and Their Corresponding Sun Signs

It is commonly agreed that the Chinese lunar calendar and its animals coincide generally with the Western astrology Sun signs. In making this correlation from the Sun signs to the animals, I used the meridians and their emotions as they related to the animals on the Time of Day Wheel as the criteria and found that this worked out best.

Consensus Reality: Are We All Sharing The Same Illusion?

Consensus Reality: Are We All Sharing The Same Illusion?

Consensus reality occurs when others agree with our dominant conframes and we all forget that we're only dealing with our habitual interpretations and not reality itself. Even if others share our conframes and agree with our interpretations, that still doesn't make them real. It merely means that we're all sharing the same illusion.

Horoscope Current Week: August 3 - 9, 2020

Astrological Overview: August 3 - 9, 2020

This weekly astrological journal is based on planetary influences, and offers perspectives and insights to assist you in making the best use of current energies. This column is not intended as prediction. Your own experience will be more specifically defined by transits to your personal chart.

Meditation for a Growing Sense of Inner Peace and Serenity

Meditation for a Growing Sense of Inner Peace and Serenity

Our energy level and mental programs are the major contributing factors to how we interpret what's going on in our lives. That's why the most important tool I have to offer to increase self awareness is daily meditation. Meditation keeps our energy up high enough so that we have the clarity...

The Elephant in the Room: You Can Ignore Him But He's Still There

The Elephant in the Room: You Can Ignore Him But He's Still There

Humans often spend an inordinate amount of time and energy avoiding the fact that there is an elephant in the room. This phrase refers to an important topic which everyone is aware of but which isn’t discussed due to the topic being perceived as uncomfortable to talk about.

I Listened, and Learned: Taking The Time to Talk and Listen

I Listened, and Learned: Taking The Time to Talk and Listen

My mother, my great encourager and supporter, listened patiently as I read her the last chapter of this book, and she did what every daughter prays for at such a moment. She cried and then looked at me with an expression of such admiration and pride. As my mother gave me this gift, she asked a question that would give me one more...

The Healing Funeral: A Masterful Reframe on Endings

The Healing Funeral: A Masterful Reframe on Endings

Consider a challenge you may now perceive - a financial struggle, relationship issue, or health problem. If you regard these matters as troubles or you feel smaller than them, that is what they will become. Yet with but a slight shift in perspective, they become opportunities to shine.

Adjusting Your View and Making Peace a Priority

Adjusting Your View and Making Peace a Priority

If you are nervous with a new assignment or situation, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you shouldn’t go through with it. It could be a signal that something important is about to happen. It could be anticipation for a new door opening.

Share Your Secret and Discover Inner Peace

Share Your Secret and Discover Inner Peace

Quietly, to yourself, think of the one thing you most want no one to know about you. Maybe you had an affair, or a nose job; maybe you stole something once, cheated on your income taxes or had an abortion. Sometimes the dirty deed seems absurd. I had a woman confess to me in tears that years ago she had...

Meditation: Contact the Wise Being Within

Meditation: Contact the Wise Being Within

There are many ways we can learn to tap into the wisdom within us. One way is to allow yourself to make contact with an image of a very wise being who is your adviser, your spirit guide, your helper, your counselor, your guardian angel, whatever you want it to be...

Freedom Through Self Awareness: You Are A Blessing

Freedom Through Self Awareness: You Are A Blessing

The fear was so intense that he could feel his heart beating in his throat. Moments before he had been enjoying the company of his two older female cousins (16 and 18 years old). It had become a normal Sunday practice to play with them after escaping from visiting next door with the adults. They were engaged in their weekly naughty behavior of playing poker, sipping wine, and smoking his aunt's non-filtered cigarettes.

How to Maintain Mindfulness with Whatever Feelings Arise

How to Maintain Mindfulness with Whatever Feelings Arise

We need to avoid dwelling on any judgments, decisions, or internal commentary that may arise based upon the feelings we are observing. We must be careful not to identify with the feelings and consider them "ours". The following contemplations support the arising of insight into the nature of feelings and the ways in which we react to those feelings....

Question? Exclamation! The Best Meditation is No Meditation

Question? Exclamation! The Best Meditation is No Meditation

We are aware that we suffer from optical delusions, but we still suffer, nonetheless. We can see that there has been a breakdown somewhere along the way, but by what practical means are we going to heal ourselves?

Why Marriage Isn’t A Ticket To Happiness

Why Marriage Isn’t A Ticket To Happiness

How much do love and marriage play into overall well-being? A new study quantifies the happiness of married, formerly married, and single people at the end of their lives to find out.

Being Yourself Without Fear in Life and Relationships

Being Yourself Without Fear in Life and Relationships

The need fulfillment process within relationship and the possible introduction of intimacy come down to the bare but enormously challenging truth: I can only be intimate with someone when I can be myself without fear. Individual self-respect and confidence -- with no fear of reprisal from the other person -- allow intimacy to begin with the other individual in the relationship.

Horoscope Previous Week: July 27 - August 2, 2020

Horoscope Week: July 27 - August 2, 2020

This weekly astrological journal is based on planetary influences, and offers perspectives and insights to assist you in making the best use of current energies. This column is not intended as prediction. Your own experience will be more specifically defined by transits to your personal chart.

There Are No Limits: Separation Is An Illusion

There Are No Limits: Separation Is An Illusion

In Nature, there is no separation. Everything is connected, and if it is a cooperative and connected universe, then that means that we are each an inextricable part of that interdependence. This leads us to the second principle of Huna: There are no limits...

Are You A Straddler? Discover Your Life’s Mission

Are You A Straddler? Discover Your Life’s Mission

We are in a transition phase. The world is changing at a rate never before witnessed, and this can unsettle people. This transition phase means that all aspects of our lives will change. But not all change is bad, and not all change is going to happen overnight.

The Titanic Offers Timeless Lessons About Survival In Any Situation

The Titanic Offers Timeless Lessons About Survival In Any Situation

We all like to think we are prepared for the unexpected. Yet in my work as an executive coach, I’ve listened to many people describe professional situations where they were caught off guard and discovered that their reactions under pressure surprised them.

Learning the Ancient Ways First-Hand: Living, Loving, and Laughing

The Peacemakers' Message: All For One and One For All

It was three days after I met with her that I realized Grandmother Twylah Hurd Nitsch is a small woman. Her fathomless eyes, her great good humor and the magnitude of the peace that effortlessly flows from her heart convey a physical presence that reaches far beyond her diminutive frame. She is warm beyond measure, mercurial and deeply connected to the Earth...

Memories Are Very Precious

Memories Are Very Precious

During this pandemic, so much has been taken from us. Everyone is missing something important for them. For us, the fact that we cannot do our workshops, work that we have done for the past 45 years and we dearly love, causes hurt to our hearts.

What The Buddha Saw, Felt, and Taught To His Disciples

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What does Buddhism teach? Don't worry, I won't give you a history of Buddhism. There are many dull accounts of this history and a few not-so-dull ones. For now, let's get right to the living center of Buddhism: what the Buddha saw, felt, and taught to his disciples.

Living Life To The Fullest: Why Buddha Is Always Smiling

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Next to the chair where I sit in meditation is my puja table, where I keep various items of spiritual significance to me -- including a stone-carved Buddha. Buddha is sitting in a relaxed, yet contemplative position and there is a big smile on his face.

The Art of Forgiveness and Setting Yourself Free

The Art of Forgiveness and Setting Yourself Free

Forgiveness is not an easy thing for a lot of us. I believe this is because we associate forgiveness with allowing another to "get away with" whatever it is that he or she has done.

Rewriting the Script: I Give Myself Permission...

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How many times have you made a decision to change something in your life and then found yourself slipping off the path you had chosen? Have you found yourself repeating past behavior even though the higher side of your consciousness knew better than to be caught in that same old trap?

Mask-Shaming Won’t Work. Try These 5 Things Instead

Mask-Shaming Won’t Work. Try These 5 Things Instead

As the COVID-19 pandemic rages on, many people have found themselves serving as armchair epidemiologists and pundits, tracking the virus, projecting the future, and browbeating people who refuse to stay home or wear masks.

Why People Are Missing Their Daily Commute

Why People Are Missing Their Daily Commute

The COVID-19 pandemic has sparked a unique experiment in mass homeworking. It’s the first time since before the industrial revolution that most people are working in the same space that they live.

Why The Coronavirus Pandemic Became Florida's Perfect Storm

Why The Coronavirus Pandemic Became Florida's Perfect Storm

Florida is an international crossroads, a magnet for tourists and retirees, and its population is older, sicker and more likely to be exposed to COVID-19 on the job than the country as a whole.

What Is Karma? Where Does It Come From?

What Is Karma? Where Does It Come From?

What is karma? What is its purpose? How do you create it and how do you resolve it? The more you know about karma, the greater your ability to complete it and reduce its control over your life.

Horoscope Week: July 20 - 26, 2020

 Horoscope Current Week: July 20 - 26, 2020

This weekly astrological journal is based on planetary influences, and offers perspectives and insights to assist you in making the best use of current energies. This column is not intended as prediction. Your own experience will be more specifically defined by transits to your personal chart.

Eight Thinking Traps and Biases to Guard Against

Eight Thinking Traps and Biases to Guard Against

Being aware of these common thinking traps allows you to get them under control. Realize that you tend to rely more on these biases when you are more emotional, when in a rush, fatigued, or anytime you lower your mental guard and let your mind run on autopilot.

Choosing Love, Choosing Life!: A Black Moon and Its New Cycles

A Black Moon and Its New Cycles: Choosing Love, Choosing Life!

This black moon – the second of two new moons in the same zodiac sign – arrives at a time of immense change and uncertainty the world over. In Cancer, the sign of true family, it reminds us that we cannot and do not live apart from others, no matter how isolated our existence may at first appear.

Who Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

Who Do You See When You Look In The Mirror?

What do you see when you see your reflection? Do you see only the physical form or can you look deeper and see the beauty that lies just below the surface?

The Sequel's Not Equal: Being a Copy or an Original?

The Sequel's Not Equal: Being a Copy or an Original?

The thing about sequels is that they rarely measure up to the original. Like movies, there are two ways to live a life: hiding out in history, or dancing on the cutting edge. History is safe, but reeks of regularity. The cutting edge seems scary, but it bestows life...

Aura Meditations For A Fresh Start and For Everyday Life

Aura Meditations for Everyday Life

Simply by meditating, people have been able to reduce the amount of stress they feel in their lives, alleviate physical pain, deepen awareness, relax muscle tension, improve mind-body coordination, achieve a sense of peace and joy, see more possibilities, and even reduce biological age.

Cybersex, Erotic Tech And Virtual Intimacy Are On The Rise

Cybersex, Erotic Tech And Virtual Intimacy Are On The Rise

The coronavirus pandemic is affecting sexuality and relationships. The confinement and social distancing measures protecting us are unintentionally exacerbating intimacy-related difficulties and limiting people’s access to partners.

Personality Can Predict Who's A Rule-follower And Who Flouts Guidelines

Personality Can Predict Who's A Rule-follower And Who Flouts Guidelines

As states struggle to get the COVID-19 balance right – between eased restrictions and rising infection rates – it falls to individuals to abide by mask-wearing rules and to maintain six feet of distance between themselves and others when out and about.

How To Discover and Cultivate the Art of True Happiness

Discovering the Art of True Happiness

We can travel a long way and do many different things, but our deepest happiness is not born from accumulating new experiences. It is born from letting go of what is unnecessary, and knowing ourselves to be always at home. True happiness may not be at all far away, but it requires a radical change of view as to where to find it.

5 Activities That Can Protect Your Mental and Physical Health As You Age

5 Activities That Can Protect Your Mental and Physical Health As You Age

No one is immune to developing chronic illnesses such as heart disease, cancer or arthritis as they get older. But research shows social activities, like joining clubs, interest groups or volunteering, are linked to better mental and physical health and a longer lifespan.

Just What Is This Thing We Call Love?

Just What Is This Thing We Call Love?

From songs and poems to novels and movies, romantic love is one of the most enduring subjects for artworks through the ages. But what about the science?

Healing The Split Between Conscious Self and Shadow Self

Facing Your Shadow: Healing The Split Between Conscious Self and Other Part of You

As a child, I was afraid of so many things. I was terrified during my parents' violent arguments. I was afraid of my mother's rage and my father's simmering undercurrents. My childhood was defined by my fears. As I grew up, I suppressed fear and denied its existence. But it shaped my life in hundreds of ways.

What Drives Panic Buying During A Pandemic?

What Drives Panic Buying During The COVID-19 Pandemic

Panic buying has returned to Australia in the wake of its second-biggest city experiencing a spike in COVID-19. The Victorian government has reimposed stay-at-home restrictions on 36 of Melbourne’s 321 suburbs in response.

How The Buddha Became A Christian Saint

How The Buddha Became A Christian Saint

From the 11th century onwards, the Legend of Barlaam and Josaphat enjoyed a popularity in the medieval West attained perhaps by no other legend.

Horoscope Week: July 13 - 19, 2020

 Horoscope Current Week: July 13 - 19, 2020

This weekly astrological journal is based on planetary influences, and offers perspectives and insights to assist you in making the best use of current energies. This column is not intended as prediction. Your own experience will be more specifically defined by transits to your personal chart.

Taking The Next Steps: So Many Possibilities, So Many Choices

Taking The Next Steps: So Many Possibilities, So Many Choices

It can feel like this time we're living in and all the stresses of navigating it are doing the opposite of bringing us closer. The feelings of isolation and separation are real. The divisive tools being used against our greater good are real. There's a lot at stake and there are complex challenges facing us...

Rediscovery – Seeing with Our Hearts

Rediscovery – Seeing with Our Hearts

In acting as a conduit for the universe’s love, human creation ultimately creates love. As author Maxine Greene puts it, “Imagination is what, above all, makes empathy possible. It is what enables us to cross the empty spaces between ourselves and those . . . we have called ‘other’ over the years.”

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