Myths Debunked About Only Children

Myths About Only Children Debunked
Only children get a bad rap. They are often perceived as selfish, spoiled, anxious, socially inept and lonely. And my profession, psychology, may be partly to blame for these negative stereotypes.

What Is A Psychopath? Could You Be One?

What Is A Psychopath?
Millions recently flocked to the cinema to watch Joker, the origin story of Batman’s notorious nemesis. Many have commented that the film is a portrait of a textbook psychopath.

The Most Important Thing: Watching What We Say To Ourselves

Being Impeccable with Our Word and The Stories We Tell Ourselves
A few years ago, I was privileged to hear a speech by Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements. He stressed repeatedly that the most important thing for us to watch in regard to our conversation is not so much what we say to others, but what we say to ourselves...

The Proper Plate and The Right Attitude

The Proper Plate and The Right Attitude
When I heard this story, I stopped in my tracks. What a powerful model for compassion in action! I pray that I might be so sensitive to support others in their sense of well-being and transform potentially painful situations with a stroke of kindness.

How Deep Sleep Can Ease Your Anxious Brain

How Deep Sleep Can Ease Your Anxious Brain
While a full night of deep sleep stabilizes emotions, a sleepless one can trigger up to a 30% rise in anxiety levels, a new study shows.

Horoscope Current Week: November 11 to 17, 2019

Horoscope Current Week: November 11 to 17, 2019
This weekly astrological journal is based on planetary influences, and offers perspectives and insights to assist you in making the best use of current energies. This column is not intended as prediction. Your own experience will be more specifically defined by transits to your personal chart.

Leaving the Path of Least Resistance and Creating a Path to Happiness

Leaving the Path of Least Resistance and Creating a Path to Happiness
Habit patterns provide a structure that enables us to easily perform routine things. The danger is we often continue with the habit pattern because we are used to it, even when it is no longer effective and satisfying. The idea of taking a new path is to be awake to our patterns and create new...

Adulting: “Responsible Adulthood” and the Power of Shedding the Shoulds

Adulting: “Responsible Adulthood” and the Power of Shedding the Shoulds
Even though many of us had the illusion that reaching adulthood would mean we had achieved a sort of award-worthy final destination where we could live forevermore from a place of certainty and peace, knowing what to do and what to wear in every circumstance, this was probably not the case. 

Beginning To See Within: The Ways of the World

Beginning To See Within: The Ways of the World
He had not recognized that this had been the case all along with everyone he had met or known. Each person had a connection to each other through their God force, and Manuka was symbolizing that for him right before his eyes. Why haven’t I seen that before? Now it’s so clear that it’s as if I had always known it.

You Too Can Choose to Become a Wise Elder

Choosing to Become a Wise Elder
When people lived in small communities and villages, they often felt a sense of connection to the past. There was incredible strength to be derived from living in a world where one didn't feel alone. There was power in knowing that, in addition to...

How To Do What It Takes To Live Your Dreams Fully at 100%

How To Live Your Dreams Fully at 100%
There are three forces that motivate people. The first two are avoiding pain and seeking pleasure; these are fueled by desperation. The third, inspiration, transcends the others. When you're inspired, you embrace both pain and pleasure in the pursuit of your purpose.

Why Having Sex On The Mind Makes People Lie

Why Having Sex On The Mind Makes People Lie
With sex on their minds, people are more likely to change their attitudes and engage in deceptive self-presentation, research on sexual priming finds.

Ten Steps to Become Confident in Yourself and Bring Your Dreams To Fruition

Ten Steps to Become Confident in Yourself and Bring Your Dreams To Fruition
One of the main things that stops people from bringing their dreams to fruition is a lack of confidence. When you are confident, you know you will handle whatever comes up in the best way you can and move on. Regardless of what happens, you will still be whole and complete unto yourself.

Be One with the Earth

Be One with the Earth
Whenever you have the opportunity, lie down on the earth -- in a meadow, in the forest, on the bank of the river... Just lie down on the earth and feel one with it. That will give you much energy, fresh energy.

Horoscope Previous Week: November 4 to 10, 2019

Horoscope Week: November 4 to 10, 2019
This weekly astrological journal is based on planetary influences, and offers perspectives and insights to assist you in making the best use of current energies. This column is not intended as prediction. Your own experience will be more specifically defined by transits to your personal chart.

Seeking A More Meaningful and Purposeful Life

Seeking A More Meaningful and Purposeful Life
Leading a life filled with meaning and purpose can greatly con­tribute to your level of happiness. Meaning and purpose in life are foundational to our existence. Like the other existential concerns about death, responsibility, and isolation, they can have far ranging implications for how we conduct our lives.

The Loss of Ignorance: Helping Our World Waken From Its Slumber

The Loss of Ignorance: Helping Our World Waken From Its Slumber
And suddenly the two realities—my regular life and my life with Apollo and the staggering forces I’d worked with in the circle—collided with a shock that sent me reeling as I fully grasped the profane shallowness of my previous modern existence. And with the realization came a sudden overwhelming sense of loss.

Charity Begins at Home: Be Nice To Yourself and Be Authentic

Charity Begins at Home: Be Nice To Yourself and Be Authentic
'Charity begins at home' is not a bromide. It is a direction. It means start with being nice to yourself, your authentic self, then try being nice to everyone else. When we place ourselves too low in the pecking order, we feel henpecked and...

How Do You Talk To Your Kids About Divorce?

How Do You Talk To Your Kids About Divorce?
Here's a stunner: 64 percent of all marriages that began in 1990 ended in divorce by the turn of the millennium.  70 percent of those failed marriages produced at least one child. Roughly half of all children born in this country over the past 15 years have ended up being children of divorce.

The Age of Aquarius: Instinct, Intuition, and Unity Consciousness

The Age of Aquarius: Instinct, Intuition, and Unity Consciousness
While the energy of each age is associated with a major evolutionary and cultural advancement, the nature of that advancement is dictated by the age. Whereby the Age of Pisces typified the development of religions, the Age of Aquarius will bring enlightenment, personal freedom, and unity consciousness.

Choices and Non Interference: Practicing Patience and Respect

Choices and Non Interference: Practicing Patience and Respect
The highest form of respect for another person is respecting his or her natural right to be self-determining. This means not interfering with another person's ability to choose. Every experience holds a valuable lesson. Noninterference means caring in a respectful way. And it is the way of 'right relationship.'

Experiencing Tantra: Spiritual Oneness Is Always Accompanied By Deep Love

Experiencing Tantra: Spiritual Oneness Is Always Accompanied By Deep Love
Tantra is well regarded within the yoga tradition as the fastest path to enlightenment. Eastern legend holds that an average human soul takes 100,000 lifetimes to achieve enlightenment, but that with tantra, any person truly committed to this path can gain enlightenment in as little as one lifetime. I soon discovered why this is true.

To Boldly Go or To Play It Safe

To Boldly Go or To Play It Safe
Two different people live in your mind: One is an engineer calculating odds and risks according to known science. The other is the voice of passion, intention, and spirit, prone to take leaps of faith beyond known science. Both are important.

How Psychology Predicts Where Your Relationship Is Headed

How Psychology Predicts Where Your Relationship Is Headed
Is he or she the one? You know… the one to introduce to my parents, the one to move in with, the one to start a family with, the one to marry? At some point in every dating relationship, you ask yourself some version of these questions.

Love Makes Life Worthwhile

Love Makes Life Worthwhile
Imagine a life without love. Sadly, so many people feel a despairing lack of love, even some who are successful and surrounded by friends. Over 50% of Americans report they have no one they can confide in. 25% live alone. An epidemic of loneliness is sweeping the world, spiking suicide rates.

Change the World... One Action at a Time

Change the World... One Action at a Time
We are each like miniature transmitters, putting out into the air whatever we're about at the moment.  For example, prayer has been demonstrated in double-blind, scientifically-controlled experiments run at Harvard University to speed healing, even when...

How To Develop Mindfulness: Do Tasks As Though For The First Time

Developing Mindfulness: Doing Tasks As Though For The First Time
So often we do not have our minds on what we are doing -- our bodies are doing one thing and our minds are on a totally different tack, which creates disharmony. In order to turn off our “automatic pilot”, we need to develop more awareness of what we are doing...

Do You Really Need to Meditate?

Do You Really Need to Meditate?
You do not come into earth to meditate. You come into earth to think, feel, act, and do. Thus, the primary impulse from your soul is not to meditate, but to love, to create harmony and goodness, and to heal. Now, the forces of God will love you no matter what you do, whether you meditate or not, whether you...

Why It Helps To Become Conscious of Your Feelings

Why It Helps To Become Conscious of Your Feelings
The minute you awaken in the morning, access your first feeling and your first thought. That first feeling or thought of the day commonly sets the stage and the tone for the rest of the day. So, if that first feeling/thought is not to your liking, the choice is yours. Right then and there is the best time to change it with feelings/thoughts that ARE of your liking.

Horoscope Week: October 28 to November 3, 2019

Horoscope Week: October 28 to November 3, 2019
This weekly astrological journal is based on planetary influences, and offers perspectives and insights to assist you in making the best use of current energies. This column is not intended as prediction. Your own experience will be more specifically defined by transits to your personal chart.

A New Paradigm Shift Is Underway Today in Physics and Consciousness

10 27 a new paradigm shift is underway today
There is a widely discussed “paradigm shift” underway today. It brings a two-fold revolution—actually parallel strands of a ­radical “evolution.” First and most basically, an evolution in our understanding of the fundamental nature of the world.

When Should My Child Start Speaking?

When Should My Child Start Speaking?
Children develop at varying rates in all sorts of ways, from when they take their first steps to when they understand that their own perspective might be different to someone else’s.

Live An Extraordinary Life By Being True to Yourself

Living An Extraordinary Life By Being True to Yourself
You cannot avoid truth. It is better to face it, it is better to accept it, it is better to live it. Right now, when you say something, your body says something else; when your tongue says something, your eyes go on saying something else simultaneously.

Leverage Your Strengths and Find Meaning in Struggles

Leveraging Your Strengths and Finding Meaning in Struggles
Being on constant alert for danger has, at least from an evolutionary standpoint, helped us survive as a species. An unintended consequence is that it also has pushed us to have a negativity bias. Most people must make an effort to think positively instead of negatively.

To Reincarnate or Not to Reincarnate: Dogs, Humans and Consciousness

To Reincarnate or Not to Reincarnate: Dogs, Humans and Consciousness
I had believed in reincarnation as a child. It was almost a knowing, as I recall. I once had a sense of a place and culture where I’d been many centuries ago, though no recollection of past lives. I just recall a frisson of recognition as I was reading a history book and came across a passage about Chichén Itzá, the pre-Columbian city built by the Mayans...

Five Ways Rudeness Can Actually Be A Positive Experience

Five Ways Rudeness Can Actually Be A Positive Experience
From swearing to insults, most of us have experienced rudeness in some form or another at work, out in public or online. Much of the research examining rudeness has focused on its negative effects and with good reason – there are plenty of them.

When Outer Child Feels Unloved, Learn To Be There for Yourself

When Outer Child Feels Unloved, Learn To Be There for Yourself
Couples often trade responsibility for their Inner Children. They project their disowned feelings on each other and riddle the relationship with unrealistic expectations and displaced anger. When you unwittingly hand your deepest longings over to your partner, you abandon your Inner Child all over again.

Energy Cannot Be Destroyed; It Can Only Be Transformed

Energy Cannot Be Destroyed; It Can Only Be Transformed
Much as we might like to, at the energy level, we can’t get rid of something we don’t like—a thought, a feeling, a belief, a circumstance, or a situation. The good news, however, is that we can transform it.

What Is Sex Really For? It's More Than The Obvious Reasons

What Is Sex Really For?
Few topics arouse as much interest and controversy as sex. This is hardly surprising. The biological continuance of the species hinges on it – if human beings stopped having sex, there would soon be no more human beings.

How Mister Rogers' Faith Shaped His Idea Of Children's Television

How Mister Rogers' Faith Shaped His Idea Of Children's Television
The beloved children’s television icon Fred Rogers – who is played by actor Tom Hanks in the upcoming film “A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood” – entered the world of children’s programming during an era of massive political and cultural upheaval.

No One Is An Island: We Are Companions, Not Competitors

No One Is An Island: We Are Companions, Not Competitors
Margaret Wheatley talks about how, in the midst of chaos, our greatest challenge is to believe in our own goodness; how we are all afraid of change; how, when fear augers in, leaders must demonstrate patience, forgiveness and compassion; how we must approach chaos with humility rather than blame and negation...

Why Some Psychic Tests Are Not Very Good

Why Some Psychic Tests Are Not Very Good
Asking people to answer a question quickly and without thinking doesn’t get honest responses, especially if the quick response isn’t the most socially desirable, research finds.

How I Learned To Make Distraction Work For Me

How I Learned To Make Distraction Work For Me
Even today, 20 years after my childhood diagnosis of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), I am still keenly aware of how my attention wavers, lapses or holds differently from that of most people.

Is Using Cannabis In Front Of Children Harmful?

Is Using Cannabis In Front Of Children Harmful?
Public health agencies are warning parents about using cannabis in the presence of their children. However, parents who use cannabis say that it makes them more empathetic, more patient and more caring towards their young ones

Beyond the Brain: Bringing More "Heart Intelligence" Into Your Life

Beyond the Brain: The Intelligence of the Heart
Most people would rather feel loving and appreciative than resentful and depressed. But often the world around us seems to be spinning out of control. Despite our best intentions, it's hard to maintain our emotional equilibrium when we're confronted every day -- sometimes every hour -- with stressful situations.

Love is the Key to Happiness and It Clarifies the Mind

Love is the Key to Happiness and Clarifies the Mind
An unfeeling heart has even been admired by many, as evidence of a "scientific outlook". The truth is that without love no one can penetrate deeply into the heart of things. For while emotions can cloud the mind, calm pure love clarifies it, and makes possible the subtlest intuitions.

Horoscope Week: October 21 to 27, 2019

Horoscope Week: October 21 to 27, 2019
This weekly astrological journal is based on planetary influences, and offers perspectives and insights to assist you in making the best use of current energies. This column is not intended as prediction. Your own experience will be more specifically defined by transits to your personal chart.

This Moment Is This Moment: It Will Never Be Like This Again

This Moment Is This Moment: It Will Never Be Like This Again
The ancient Greeks spoke of two kinds of time, or two experiences of time: chronos and kairos. Chronos is what we now call clock time, objective time. In music, chronos is met­ronome time. Kairos is timeliness, the opportune moment that surges out from our experience, something that cannot happen at any time but only at this time. Educators call it the teachable moment.

A Love and Compassion Meditation That Even A 3-Year-Old Can Do

Love and Compassion Meditation That Even A 3-Year-Old Can Do
Loving-kindness and compassion are of utmost importance at this time for humanity. Love and compassion for one an­other, regardless of race, ethnicity, religion, and gender, need to take precedence over ideology and our superficial differ­ences. We must come together and cooperate with one an­other in order to survive the global challenges facing us.

Being Vulnerable in Relationship

Allowing Yourself to Be Vulnerable in Relationship
The paradox of vulnerability in relationships, the path to connection, is to allow yourself to be both strong and vulnerable at the same time. When you do, it allows your partner to get to see the real you with your defenses down. This means no hiding. Not from yourself, not from your partner and best of all no hiding from the truth.

Blessing for Global Oneness Day

Blessing for Global Oneness Day
I now feel with such a depth of certainty, of spiritual groundedness that Love is the ultimate reply to all and any problem, be it personal, social or a world issue. And you and I are one with that Love. We are literally welded to Love and nothing will ever be able to change that, even our own doubts and fears.

The Challenge: Feeling Love For Ourselves and For Others

The Challenge: Feeling Love For Ourselves and For Others
Love is the highest vibrational energy and can accomplish almost anything. The more we can keep our hearts open, the greater the love we feel, and the more patience, understanding, and compassion we have for others. 

Unconditional Love Is A Way Of Serving One Another, Humanity and The World

Unconditional Love: A Way Of Serving One Another, Humanity and The World
A time comes in our personal development when we realize that we are not isolated, independent individuals, but rather that we are all interdependent. We then experience genuine care and concern for others, become more aware of the larger whole and feel a deep desire to share our riches, whatever they may be, with others.

Arguing Your Way Back To Positive Self Esteem

The Necessity of Self Esteem for Health and General Attitude Towards Life
There is nothing good or worthwhile about having a low opinion of oneself. However, positive self esteem improves one's health, sociability, and general attitude towards life. Negative self esteem is a habit, a highly addictive habit. Perhaps you can see what an enemy to your well- being this is, and have a greater willingness to defeat it.

Kindness Is A Skill That Can Be Learned: Why Kindness Matters Most

Kindness Is A Skill That Can Be Learned: Why Kindness Matters Most
Instead of being the coolest kid in the room, how about being the kindest? Once a child understands the im­portance of their actions, good deeds, and the joy of helping others, kindness becomes fun and is highly contagious. What’s wonderful about kindness is that it is a skill that can be learned.

Can Meditation Change The World?

Can Meditation Change The World?
The film The Portal follows six individuals who undergo a personal transformation from trauma and struggle to calmness, self-acceptance, and compassion towards others.

Alchemy and Shamanism — Tools of Transformation

Alchemy and Shamanism — Tools of Transformation
When seeing or hearing the word alchemy, one might think of old men in funny hats working at furnaces in ancient chemistry labs seek­ing to turn minerals into gold, create the philosopher’s stone, or find the elixir of life. However, these popular modern stereotypes of the ancient alchemists are but a tiny fragment of alchemy.

How The Language We Use Entrenches Inequalities

How The Language We Use Entrenches Inequalities
We live in a society in which inequality is entrenched and increasing – in this context, words can have real and pernicious effects. This is particularly true of the way we speak about inequality itself.

How To Awaken on Your Path and Dare To Be Yourself

How To Awaken on Your Path and Dare To Be Yourself
As individuals, nations, and a planet, we have forgotten where we have come from, who we are, and where we are going. An honest look at the troubles we have created for ourselves reveals that we have painfully lost sight of the visions that once painted our future...

Fundamentalism Turns 100, A Landmark For The Christian Right

Fundamentalism Turns 100, A Landmark For The Christian Right
These days, the term “fundamentalism” is often associated with a militant form of Islam. But the original fundamentalist movement was actually Christian. And it was born in the United States a century ago this year.

Do Whatever Good You Can with Love, Honor, and Dignity

Doing Good on Your Path with Love, Honor, and Dignity
Go forth on your Path in life with honor and dignity and do whatever good you can. As long as it lasts, life can be full of wonderful memories if you wish. Everyone is unique and changing and all have the right to reach their full potential in all their abilities.